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Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by PweetyJay(f): 4:02pm On May 04, 2012

Lmao! @Finegurl, U̶̲̥̅̊ go girl!

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by slimyem: 4:13pm On May 04, 2012

Logic Mind:

Just listen to yourselves speak.
There's you calling yourself good when you really meant ugly
There's the other one calling herself slimyam when I'm sure she's more like a fat potato.
There's the op giving money to crying divorced men at bus stops.

And you want me to label you as genuises?!

Please.

buhahahahahahhaha
that's the lamest line i ever read on NL! cheesy

you wish!
Excuse me pass jare!
Hia!

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by LogicMind: 4:21pm On May 04, 2012

slimyem: buhahahahahahhaha
that's the lamest line i ever read on NL!
you wish!
Excuse me pass jare!
Hia!

see genius.
you laff at lame lines?
a beg go do like op find man pay make im date you.
you'll be less frustrated. slimshyte.

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Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by slimyem: 4:30pm On May 04, 2012

Logic Mind:

see genius.
you laff at lame lines?
a beg go do like op find man pay make im date you.
you'll be less frustrated. slimshyte.

you gat some serious problems man and its sad you can't handle it offline!
You are here bantering words with ladies over a slimey d1ck like yourself and you are so proud of that huh?
What a FOOL you are!
Smh!

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by LogicMind: 4:39pm On May 04, 2012

slimyem: you gat some serious problems man and its sad you can't handle it offline!
You are here bantering words with ladies over a slimey d1ck like yourself and you are so proud of that huh?
What a FOOL you are!
Smh!

So you want me to shut up when I see an open display of foolishness by nigerian "ladies" on the internet? You want me to "handle it offline" so as to show how manly I am not to banter words with ladies. Look at the state of your so called real proud nigerian men that do not banter words with ladies. Look at what you have turned them into.

If calling you lot out on your stupiddities make me a fool, so be it. But I won't stop showing your foolishness no matter how it hurts. The world has changed. It is no longer "leave us women alone and treat us like fragile tumblers". You all need to grow up, grow strong and take responsibilities instead of crying all the time: "oh, see what this man did to me, eyaah, see what that man did to her."

So shut up if you can't handle me. FatYam.

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Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by adetunrayo(f): 4:45pm On May 04, 2012

Some men are just devil.Sure u would get over it. Look b4 u leap next time and pray.

cheers........

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by slimyem: 4:50pm On May 04, 2012

Logic Mind:

So you want me to shut up when I see an open display of foolishness by nigerian "ladies" on the internet? You want me to "handle it offline" so as to show how manly I am not to banter words with ladies. Look at the state of your so called real proud nigerian men that do not banter words with ladies. Look at what you have turned them into.

If calling you lot out on your stupiddities make me a fool, so be it. But I won't stop showing your foolishness no matter how it hurts. The world has changed. It is no longer "leave us women alone and treat us like fragile tumblers". You all need to grow up, grow strong and take responsibilities instead of crying all the time: "oh, see what this man did to me, eyaah, see what that man did to her."

So shut up if you can't handle me. FatYam.

stop crying!
If the op had come on here to say she didnt help the guy when he needed money or that he never took care of her needs when she asked or some bullshit thing you NL guys like to capitalise on when you need to put women down,you'll still be crying FOUL!
Talk about double standards!
For once,pls think clearly,process your thoughts sensibly before hitting your keypads when bothering around issues like this!
...and yes,i am FAT!
Does that make you less than a FOOL?
Hell No!
Swallow yourself abeg!
You aint making no sense!

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by LogicMind: 5:00pm On May 04, 2012

slimyem: stop crying!
If the op had come on here to say she didnt help the guy when he needed money or that he never took care of her needs when she asked or some bullshit thing you NL guys like to capitalise on when you need to put women down,you'll still be crying FOUL!
Talk about double standards!
For once,pls think clearly,process your thoughts sensibly before hitting your keypads when bothering around issues like this!
...and yes,i am FAT!
Does that make you less than a FOOL?
Hell No!
Swallow yourself abeg!
You aint making no sense!

You see why i despair on the female brain function.
Who told you that spending money on a man means you should be so foolish as to not know, or try and find out who exactly you are spending your money on? Until it's too late and you come to nl to cry your hearts out to other useless women like you.
If I meet a muguress like that, I too will take her money and run away. WTF!
A real naija woman should always shine her eyes whether she's in love or not. Simple wisdom, not double standards.
Thanks for admiting at last that you are fat and if calling me a fool gives you that rare oorgasm, please type away.

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by dj5naira(m): 11:36pm On May 04, 2012

fresh_dude: Take heart Makky.

How do you breath?

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by dj5naira(m): 12:36am On May 05, 2012

MyFact! In every heart-shaken, mind-provoking, brain-puzzling story, the nickname of the king of brazilian football; Edison Arantes do Nascimento aka Pèlè is often used.

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by dj5naira(m): 12:48am On May 05, 2012

Ill-logic mind vs Slimyem; An advice from an old buddy; End the fight; Stop the wars; Promote peace; Earn Nobel prize laurels; If you both tired to stop, RIP ; )

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by dj5naira(m): 1:03am On May 05, 2012

All humans possess at least an atom survival instinct inside of them to survive even the harshest of times (Heartbreaks Inclusive!)

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by slimyem: 9:44am On May 05, 2012

dj5naira: Ill-logic mind vs Slimyem; An advice from an old buddy; End the fight; Stop the wars; Promote peace; Earn Nobel prize laurels; If you both tired to stop, RIP ; )

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by pato405(m): 12:07pm On May 05, 2012

@OP:

weep no more. move on an learn from your mistakes. welcome all the criticisms and tough words you get from coming on NL to complain. you'll get over it in no time. IMO, you saw this even from the onset but chose to walk into this emotional destruction. the fact he's a divorcee is enough reason to do some investigation on what lead to his divorce, his conduct, his character e.t.c. I'm not trying to 'write off' divorces but just expressing my reservations about single ladies settling for divorces.again, also making a case for the plausibility his wife left him because he's a jer.k. on the other hand, if he's not one, then envisage the possibilities that his ex [or former wife - whatever you decide to call her] may realise her mistakes and start making plea for re-union. in which case, if you resist, she'll draw the battle lines against you. it's a tough case so i'll always advice single ladies to weigh the ramifications before delving into such nuptial ties because it may be a sumptuous recipe for disaster - it's always a red flag.

it has happened , you need to pick up the pieces and move on. don't brood too long over in otherwise depression will set in which may have adverse effects on your health and well-being. some even contemplate suicide. it's ok to vent your spleen and hyperventilate about it, share with 'close' friends and don't lock yourself up too much indoors. socialising outdoors will do you good now because it'll divert your attention, albeit momentarily from this mishap. these things happen. it's not a gender thing.

for those who are quick to scream and paint men black, you need a re-orientation about these issues. women also do so and even worse. I used to know of a family friend, he was so quiet back then when I was in secondary school, he had a fiancée we all knew because he introduced her to my family [being church members and also family friends] he hadn't much though,but was an up-coming struggling guy with first degree and earned a little just from his paltry salary, he paid a girl he luved so much through school. he sponsored the girl all the way from SSCE till she graduated - 6yrs cool

. then came NYSC, you won't believe the shocker! shocked

- the girl sent him text message that she was ending the relationship for no cogent reason. she just no longer felt the guy was good enough for her. after making the poor boy pay her through school and waiting for over 6years because she had extra year. to say the guy was devastated is just an understatement.I had cold shivers and goose pimples all over mi the day I came back from school in one of our long holidays and my sis narrated the young man's ordeal to me. lots of girls are swayed and whisked away faster than whirlwind blows away feather by the material things they see men flaunt - particularly these days. most of them don't give up-coming young men the slightest chance, hope or courage. they want immediate material wealth. she probably met a richer guy and that was just about enough to end her 6 year relationship on phone. not even with a call, an SMS!! angry

. in essence, these things happen. some can't see beyond their nose. others are grossly ungrateful.

take heart dear. time they say - heals wound.

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Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by makky(f): 2:04pm On May 05, 2012

Thanks for ur post @pato405, its indeed one of those things and am much much more better, was just d shock dat made me come here in d first place, ive even looked for a way to delete the thread but probably cos am using a fone ive not seen that button yet. Ppl think i wrote this to be pitied or something and so i think i did a wrong thing to even start it at all but its all good. Ive swallowed it all, criticisms, advices, abuses and rejected those that looked like curses and other things but ive had my esteem renewed again cos the mistake has been made already and am facing it and moving on. I thank everyone that called, mail and sent me sms and friend requests, may u never experience such mean surprise and be loved genuinely cos to me, love is about giving and not expecting, and i will not stop being who i am cos of one bad mistake. Ingrates will always be ingrates even if u give them the world, so its nt about giving back or expecting marriage cos its not a trophy, its respect and appreciation. Thank u all, thank you so very much!

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by dj5naira(m): 3:14pm On May 05, 2012

pato405: - the girl sent him text message that she was ending the relationship for no cogent reason.

What a disrespectful way of ending a 6 years relationship!!

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by johnwell(m): 8:48pm On May 05, 2012

@OP..... this is one of my life policy; "Never Trust the Humility of a Poor Man", I know how you feel, but accept this: the fault is yours. you shoudn't have allow him stay. he was just a time bomb, let him go, xpect your Prince soon.

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by LogicMind: 9:01pm On May 05, 2012

op please come back and entertain us after your next dissappointment.

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by NosaHenry(m): 5:26am On May 06, 2012

You are in your lowest valley right now. But be rest assured you are on your way to the mountain top, time heals

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by Youngpo413: 7:48am On Nov 19, 2014

Godmann:
The guy is a gold digger. He never really wanted you then. He was only interested in your little money and probably the sex you gave him. You should be happy that you left him when it is not too late.

Look, this is not a man's thing. Both men and ladies are guilty of this. Most of us are too selfish to be rational. Just move on with your life. Believe me, you'll be better-off than him. I personally have met two babes like that in my past, who probably thought they dumped me for a better man. You know it is all for financial gains. I had course to thak God for not ending up with both of them. They both would have messed up my life, if I have ended up with them.

The last one I had all the signs in the world to runs from, but I am the type that likes being "stubbornly" in love. It made me feel good. But I never know God was guiding me to the right person.

You might have tried to show love to the guy. He as an evil man who saw the opportunity and benefit from it as opportunist do. He lacked enough brain and conscious to know how to repay kindness. He is inherently evil. But God (nature) had to do its work in saving all honest people, by creating the conditions that made him dump you. This dumping happened for your own good, but your emotions will not let you see it. Would your rather end up with such evil man for life? It is better you have the chance to meet a good man as this event have perfectly created. So be happy that nature is guiding you to your man. Your only concern is to be on a look out for him. Keep praying and you will meet him.

Just keep being yourself and nice. Nature will play out its course. Believe me. Do not mind those that may call you names and claim you were not "sharp". We are in this deep mess today because we are all trying to be sharp. Our sharpness leave all of us in a vicious evil cycle. Remember what I said about nature. What you sow you reap from nature. Don't get involved with evil people; leave evil men to suffer the consequence of their sins. Stay clear and keep your hands clean.

Go out there, be nice, have fun and wait for nature to pay you back with a man that will keep you happy. A man that will show you true love. You have sowed. Keep sowing; your senses will guide you to the right man.

Believe me, I am speaking from deep experiences. I have witnessed some; I have observed many.

Ensure you stay clean. Ask for forgiveness for any past wrong from your God and move on with your life.

very good advice...kudos.
Personally I dont pity ladies when they come here crying cos most of them are reaping what they sowed too,who know if she had dumped someone who truelly loved her in the past?
Karma is real.

Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by ted1741: 10:10pm On Nov 19, 2014

I don't usually give lenghty advice but will in this case. First, go to church and thank God for saving you from this demon boyfriend. Imagine what would have happend if you got married to him and had children. He never loved you and you would have spent energy and time trying too hard to please him and it will not have worked. Consequently, you would never be happy in the long run. You are liberated from eternal bondage although u may not appreciate that now. I dated someone from Babados, thought she was a soulmate, spent time and money, she even got pregnant and we planned marriage, she went home on vacation after graduation, had abortion and got married. Can you beat that. I wanted to die, couldn't focus, lost clients and friends were worried for me. How I snapped out of it stuned me. Sure you invested in this man but every disappoint according to the old maxim is a blessing in disguest. Time heals and you will heal. My advise is this: if you have no stead job to take you out of the house 75% of the time, spend it in church, participate in a lot of church programs, spend time with your most trusted girlfriend and please, whatever you are doing, DO NOT jump into another relationship, it may be just escapism and futile. Stay away from any sort of traqualising substance or attempt to over eat or over indulge in escapist activities like clubing or drinks. You will look back on this one day and ask yourself, "what was I thinking - grieving for a dickhead", that is what he is. If possible channel lots of energy on whatever business you are doing now, it is not only therapuetic, you will be productive sooner than you think. If you need more reasons to smile, create a table one positive, the other negative. List all the positives and negatives accordingly in numerials, you will amased how much negatives you put up with all this while and that should make you go, Oh My God, thank you Jesus. Good luck.

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Re: How Will I Ever Survive This? by eckersley: 2:56am On Nov 22, 2014

ndidibabe:
What a disgusting and shameful story! Who gives a hoot if you kill yourself? I wonder how some ladies subject themselves to this kind of stress. You are probably hurt because the guy has slept with you countless time and dumped you. You were busy sleeping with a jobless divorcee when your mates were planning a good life and keeping their legs closed. What result were you expecting?

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