Ivynwa: @Poster

If you love this friend of yours whose case you are talking about here better advise her to wise up and know what she is doing with that dude because it is that same fella that will find her disgusting (with two abortions gone) that is if he isn't already feeling so. If she is tripping to be married she should check the other people coming for her to see whether she is compatible with any of them, if the said boyfriend is the one she loves and must marry then she should be taking safety precautions while lovey-doveying with him and quit killing and flushing. She may end up rupturing or tearing one or two things in her womb while doing her "flushing" and that of course will be the end of the "flushing" when she won't ever see a pregnancy much more flush it. I am not wishing her bad-o-o, better advise her.

Dating and choosing a life partner in the Nigeria scene has become a game with the men not wanting to be beaten. If I were a man, I will never marry a woman that has aborted one child much more one that wants me to begin counting "how many times she aborted" on her fingers! Any woman that does not like the sound of that can frown at me and move on. We women are the ones that frown on men wanting to validate fertility before they marry, with all these aborting and flushing women give them reasons to do these. I can't be crazy enough to cling to a boy who is not ready to have a family yet you the woman is foolishly aborting and endangering your life/killing and risking barrenness for him. Women have died while aborting, I don't care what the "Pro-choice" school of thought think about what I just said.

Ladies shine ur eyes,be wise & smart. The game is on, don't be beaten.It's these same men some of ya ladies are loving up & aborting babies for that still turn around to abhor u.
Where my ladies at? Hello! waves wt tips of my fingers
While your heart is fluttering, know whatcha doing.
Peace!!

edakedkay: She's my bestest friend. We've been friends since secondary school and her guy was my classmate in nursery school.
I didn't know until when she introduced us. She's been with him for 10yrs.
She's 28 now and the guy 31. He's your typical tall,dark and handsome guy and oh my he loves her to his marrow. Not into women,hardworking,down to earth and he's got most of the qualities any woman would want from a guy.

My friend on the other hand is equally pretty and tall as well but she's had quite a number of other guys she's slept with.actually,6 of them. Each time the guy forgave her when he found out but he was this close to leaving her after he found out about the last one.

In their final year in school she got pregnant for him but had to flush it out as they were both not ready to take that step. Forgot to say they were mates in university in 2008 she took in again,was ready to keep it but the guy wasn't.not because of finances for he was quite ok then but because he wasn't sure if it was his.

My girlfriend had told him it was his because she took in November of that year while she had stopped all her flings because she almost lost grips on this guy due to all her atrocities. all efforts to convince her guy the pregnancy was his fell on deaf ears. She had to flush it again and I accompanied her.

They tried to patch things up. 4 months after,she left the country to go do her masters in the UK. But before she left the guy confessed to her he'd slept with a girl as he was under so much pressure from his friends to dump her and move on with some other girl. He said it was never the same without my friend.

He loved her too much and thank gracious they were back together again and my friend has never had some other guy in to her since then.she was away for three years and a year before her return,he popped the question which she happily said yes to.plan was for the wedding to hold november last year but as life would have it things took a dive for the guy.

She's been the one supporting him since then while he on the other hand has been hustling seriously. Trying his hands everywhere and even looking for a job.something he never wanted to do because he's this type of guy that believes in creating jobs for others. He was actually doing this.

They are both jobless now and their prospects are good tho. The thing is, all our friends are married except her and one other friend of ours. She's currently so depressed and feels like a looser because she's not married. Her guy's elder sister wanted to sponsor their wedding but the guy completely turned her down that he won't let anybody sponsor his wedding.

My friend completely loves this guy too and won't leave him as she fears she won't find anyone else to love her as this guy does and she leaving him now will paint her a bad person. Meanwhile, she's so very much loved by the guys family even after she told them everything she did wrong and the girls family loves him as well. Apart from my friend's history with men, she's a very good girl-friendly,caring,she listens, generous and I truly believe she's done with her old ways.

She wants a baby but the guy doesn't due to his financial standing and promises that everything will be done my friends way once he lands a job. My friend's is that she wants to them to get married with her guy's sister sponsoring the wedding and then they can continue their hustle from there but her guy's not buying.

Meanwhile,she's got two guys wanting to marry her but turned them down.

Please will you advice her if she were your sister. Remember she's 28yrs.

edakedkay: She's my bestest friend. We've been friends since secondary school and her guy was my classmate in nursery school.
I didn't know until when she introduced us. She's been with him for 10yrs.
She's 28 now and the guy 31. He's your typical tall,dark and handsome guy and oh my he loves her to his marrow. Not into women,hardworking,down to earth and he's got most of the qualities any woman would want from a guy.

My friend on the other hand is equally pretty and tall as well but she's had quite a number of other guys she's slept with.actually,6 of them. Each time the guy forgave her when he found out but he was this close to leaving her after he found out about the last one.

In their final year in school she got pregnant for him but had to flush it out as they were both not ready to take that step. Forgot to say they were mates in university in 2008 she took in again,was ready to keep it but the guy wasn't.not because of finances for he was quite ok then but because he wasn't sure if it was his.

My girlfriend had told him it was his because she took in November of that year while she had stopped all her flings because she almost lost grips on this guy due to all her atrocities. all efforts to convince her guy the pregnancy was his fell on deaf ears. She had to flush it again and I accompanied her.

They tried to patch things up. 4 months after,she left the country to go do her masters in the UK. But before she left the guy confessed to her he'd slept with a girl as he was under so much pressure from his friends to dump her and move on with some other girl. He said it was never the same without my friend.

He loved her too much and thank gracious they were back together again and my friend has never had some other guy in to her since then.she was away for three years and a year before her return,he popped the question which she happily said yes to.plan was for the wedding to hold november last year but as life would have it things took a dive for the guy.

She's been the one supporting him since then while he on the other hand has been hustling seriously. Trying his hands everywhere and even looking for a job.something he never wanted to do because he's this type of guy that believes in creating jobs for others. He was actually doing this.

They are both jobless now and their prospects are good tho. The thing is, all our friends are married except her and one other friend of ours. She's currently so depressed and feels like a looser because she's not married. Her guy's elder sister wanted to sponsor their wedding but the guy completely turned her down that he won't let anybody sponsor his wedding.

My friend completely loves this guy too and won't leave him as she fears she won't find anyone else to love her as this guy does and she leaving him now will paint her a bad person. Meanwhile, she's so very much loved by the guys family even after she told them everything she did wrong and the girls family loves him as well. Apart from my friend's history with men, she's a very good girl-friendly,caring,she listens, generous and I truly believe she's done with her old ways.

She wants a baby but the guy doesn't due to his financial standing and promises that everything will be done my friends way once he lands a job. My friend's is that she wants to them to get married with her guy's sister sponsoring the wedding and then they can continue their hustle from there but her guy's not buying.

Meanwhile,she's got two guys wanting to marry her but turned them down.

Please will you advice her if she were your sister. Remember she's 28yrs.

edakedkay: She's my bestest friend. We've been friends since secondary school and her guy was my classmate in nursery school.
I didn't know until when she introduced us. She's been with him for 10yrs.
She's 28 now and the guy 31. He's your typical tall,dark and handsome guy and oh my he loves her to his marrow. Not into women,hardworking,down to earth and he's got most of the qualities any woman would want from a guy.

My friend on the other hand is equally pretty and tall as well but she's had quite a number of other guys she's slept with.actually,6 of them. Each time the guy forgave her when he found out but he was this close to leaving her after he found out about the last one.

In their final year in school she got pregnant for him but had to flush it out as they were both not ready to take that step. Forgot to say they were mates in university in 2008 she took in again,was ready to keep it but the guy wasn't.not because of finances for he was quite ok then but because he wasn't sure if it was his.

My girlfriend had told him it was his because she took in November of that year while she had stopped all her flings because she almost lost grips on this guy due to all her atrocities. all efforts to convince her guy the pregnancy was his fell on deaf ears. She had to flush it again and I accompanied her.

They tried to patch things up. 4 months after,she left the country to go do her masters in the UK. But before she left the guy confessed to her he'd slept with a girl as he was under so much pressure from his friends to dump her and move on with some other girl. He said it was never the same without my friend.

He loved her too much and thank gracious they were back together again and my friend has never had some other guy in to her since then.she was away for three years and a year before her return,he popped the question which she happily said yes to.plan was for the wedding to hold november last year but as life would have it things took a dive for the guy.

She's been the one supporting him since then while he on the other hand has been hustling seriously. Trying his hands everywhere and even looking for a job.something he never wanted to do because he's this type of guy that believes in creating jobs for others. He was actually doing this.

They are both jobless now and their prospects are good tho. The thing is, all our friends are married except her and one other friend of ours. She's currently so depressed and feels like a looser because she's not married. Her guy's elder sister wanted to sponsor their wedding but the guy completely turned her down that he won't let anybody sponsor his wedding.

My friend completely loves this guy too and won't leave him as she fears she won't find anyone else to love her as this guy does and she leaving him now will paint her a bad person. Meanwhile, she's so very much loved by the guys family even after she told them everything she did wrong and the girls family loves him as well. Apart from my friend's history with men, she's a very good girl-friendly,caring,she listens, generous and I truly believe she's done with her old ways.

She wants a baby but the guy doesn't due to his financial standing and promises that everything will be done my friends way once he lands a job. My friend's is that she wants to them to get married with her guy's sister sponsoring the wedding and then they can continue their hustle from there but her guy's not buying.

Meanwhile,she's got two guys wanting to marry her but turned them down.

Please will you advice her if she were your sister. Remember she's 28yrs.

naijalodge: she is a murderer,who will want to marry a woman that has committed two(2) abortions?,lord have mercy on nigerian women....i think i need 2 stick with my current gurl which i know i disflowerd myself,that should be safer...aitee,time 2 take u serious..

edakedkay:

Donlexino: Plz tell her 2 be patient,bcz the fattest dog eat d fattest bone.

naijalodge: she is a murderer,who will want to marry a woman that has committed two(2) abortions?,lord have mercy on nigerian women....i think i need 2 stick with my current gurl which i know i disflowerd myself,that should be safer...aitee,time 2 take u serious..

edakedkay: gosh! Here's another judgemental ijit. Tell me if you're righteous enough to spite another person. Why are people so judgemental? You all are a true case of "if men were God". Mind you i'm married with a child.

y me: First thing first, just because all her friends r getting married does not warrant her to do the same
there is time for everything and I know at her age she wants nothing more than to start a family
From the man's point of view I do understand him not wanting to take the fiancee's sister help in sponsoring the marriage, what will happen after the marriage? who will pay the rent and other bills that follows as both partners have no job

on the other hand your friend thinks more about getting married that she forgets what marriage is all about
she needs to know marriage is not what you can walk in and out of and does not work alone with love
she even contemplating on going for other suitors she knows little or nothing about screams how desperate she wants a wedding
she should decide if this is the man she wants to spend her life with and find ways to better their future
let her go out there and search for jobs too
and if possible that same money her sister would want to sponsor the wedding with should be given to her to start something reasonable with

ZUBY77: Hahahhhaha, tell her to fling more... There is still much time at 28... Uhm a woman at 28 is actually 35 plus dont forget that a guy will always be a guy. Let me sip my LIFE beer, the NBC bought and revtalised it. Tastes like heineken now. Hahahaha

JECU: From ur story,d guy truly loves her.tell ur friend to cool down n reason with d guy.is nt easy to be married to a family dat loves u like ur hubby to be.d guy is simply protecting his ego for nt accepting his sister to sponsor their wedding.everything is nt all about getting married but happy in ur marriage.not all men will still accept u after many tyms of cheating on him,but dis guy did it.the 2 suitors as u said,will dey take d shit d guy took from her flirting ? She shold ask herslf dis question.since d guy was loaded B4,he still want to make it and he will make soon u never can tell.tell ur friend to wait for this guy,he might make it tmro who knwos n she will live to enjoy her marriage cos d guy will value her for staying with him wen he was going thru had tym.marriage is sweet if u wnt it to be.I am enjoying my marriage,I hope she enjoy her by being patient and marrying a guy who love n adore her so much,is nt easy to come by u knw.d ball is in her court.

waja: . And you Brutus (Edakedkay), did she asked U to tell us. U are her friendly enemy that's why U took her 4 abortion.