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Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by cowgurl: 12:26pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
claremont:Nah, I ain't diging this sh[b]i[/b]t Mr Claremont. The only abnormality I see on here is[b] you believing that one liking some online personality and in turn makin great efforts to build it up offline is totally abnormal, yes I agree it's time consuming but when it's done with somone you connect with, it's worth it[/b]. If the brain does not send processed signals/stimuli to the body, how then can the body react/ act? We relate in the mental realm, it's what happens on here, and thus genuine romance can evolve and NO am not refering to them silly online romance that abounds am talking about the real deal here Mr Claremont. So pls do away with that scientific community crap cos it belongs way back in the 60s,Apologies! |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by emofine2(f): 12:40pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
sauer: I quite agree with your points and I also envision such a modern reality... |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by snubish: 12:53pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
sauer: Typical emofine thread. emphatically seconded! online "relationships" are here to stay and about time too. as long as our communities continue to lose their social cohesion, and tend towards individualism, relationships in cyberspace are bound to increase. some people have an office-home-office routine as soon as they leave school; how are they supposed to meet prospective partners. 21st century life is too fast paced, and going online to socialize is just simply practical. in the past, u went to a get-together, meet a few people, then probably initiate a relationship with someone. nowadays we go to a forum and one thing leads to another. people generally let down their guard when online, so we find that internet discourse is usually more obscene than real life banter. i dare say that due to this absence of pretense, relationships initiated online have the potential to be more fulfilling and meaningful than the other type. as with all things with great promise, online affairs are fraught with significant risk, and much maturity and discretion is required. we humans in spite of having evolved intellectually are still very physical beings, i would not advise anyone to fall in "love" online. however the internet is a welcome place to meet someone, then arrange for a physical meeting and watch how things go from there. it is not a joke for adolescents. the link below from the guardian today may be enlightening. http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/jun/29/love-online-dating-websites-facebook |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by claremont(m): 12:56pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
The real question here is what will happen to these individuals assuming the Internet suddenly switches off for some reason?! Tales abound of people who committed suicides simply because they were dumped by their 'online lover', if this is not the definition of insanity, then how else can we define it?! There is another argument that some people can interact online and then take the 'relationship' offline to assess compatibility; the problem with this is that they would have saved themselves time by meeting these same people offline in the first place, except of course they are trying to tell me that the only person they are compatible with can only be found online! |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by Nobody: 12:58pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
emöfine2:Can this occur at a faster rate online than offline? My reasoning will be that it depends on the people involved and what amount of time they have for each other. Apparently, if they see each other very often offline, perhaps as work colleagues, who says it shouldn't proceed faster offline? At any rate, it's only a measure of how well they connect with each other on that non-physical plane. And I don't think rejection is any easier to handle online or offline. Rejection is rejection, since it has to do with the non-acceptance of the qualities anyone brings forward. It certainly affects any way. This is why most try to avoid rejection by bringing forward very good qualities, while hiding the ones that could prompt rejection. Limited thinking would immediately assume this is a peculiarity of online relationships. But cowgurl did point out, and with good reasons too, that this can happen in offline relationships as well. So, I see no reason to think one is any "safer" or "sensibler" than the other. |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by Nobody: 1:02pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
snubish:good point there! |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by Nobody: 1:07pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
claremont: The real question here is what will happen to these individuals assuming the Internet suddenly switches off for some reason?! Tales abound of people who committed suicides simply because they were dumped by their 'online lover', if this is not the definition of insanity, then how else can we define it?!And to think a claremont would write this! the internet switches off? That can't happen. And if you understood the nature of the internet as a simple interconnection of many computers, you would know that the internet will forever not switch off. Irrespective of what happens, there will always be a huge handful of computers tied together for information exchange. And of course, the array of people one can meet through the vast stretches of interconnected computers is far bigger than that available offline. Maybe this is the very reason why some people look online for relationships. . . . |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by pendo89(f): 1:12pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
@topic But isn’t it interesting that when some people are attracted by a seemingly beautiful personality online they may want to match that with a beautiful portrait? So this sometimes failed expectation may not be through the result of a lie of any character involved but more so a fantasy...True,true. Remedy? Go beyond potraits and insist on talking with the person on video if you both can.See them live as they talk like ur both in a conference room. There's this man I was doing some consultancy work for. Seemed pretty charming and very intelligent.Attributes I personally admire. One day he insited on letting me see him on video.So video I clicked. Nothing silly cz it was official and I still wanted to see him to get this overall picture and background which people never pay attention to. Now as the conversation wore on, he started picking his nose and eating potato chips while licking his fingers .Not once but several times. Nxt he was was scratching his underarms,head etc. I put off video cz I almost puked. When we talked again he was telling of plans to build some million naira house in Abuja and he wanted me there. Now whether he meant it or not I didn't really bother cz all I could visualise was the nose picking and body scratching. I said to myself.Sincerely if I had any feeling towards this fellow,the annoying habits he displayed online were a put off. I wasn't eager to meet him and discuss anything cz the image just stuck with me and it spoke of a careless dirty person. I think it's wise to see the person you are conversing with to avoid building vain fantasies.It's easy to put up a potrait of my sis,friend or cousin and tell u fake stories. |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by cowgurl: 1:21pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
claremont: The real question here is what will happen to these individuals assuming the Internet suddenly switches off for some reason?! Tales abound of people who committed suicides simply because they were dumped by their 'online lover', if this is not the definition of insanity, then how else can we define it?!Forgive me, I find that question of yours hilarious esp the tale suicide part but I do get your drift though. In this case, 'l say it's the addicted online romance seekers who's gat a problem not the said innovation, believing they are into something serious without first getting to meet each other offline is ridiculously insane. There is another argument that some people can interact online and then take the 'relationship' offline to assess compatibility; the problem with this is that they would have saved themselves time by meeting these same people offline in the first place, except of course they are trying to tell me that the only person they are compatible with can only be found online!Now I get you, you see it as a problem Mr Claremont, hence your obvious dislike and anyone who tells you their reason behind online dating is the emboldened should be seriously laughed at. |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by emofine2(f): 1:27pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
pendo89: Aww at least he wasn’t forming naa But then again how do we know for sure that that wasn’t even an act? Or can confirmation be exacted only offline? |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by pendo89(f): 1:28pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
Tales abound of people who committed suicides simply because they were dumped by their 'online lover', if this is not the definition of insanity, then how else can we define it?! I don't think rejection is any easier to handle online or offline. Rejection is rejection, since it has to do with the non-acceptance of the qualities anyone brings forward. It certainly affects any way. This is why most try to avoid rejection by bringing forward very good qualities, while hiding the ones that could prompt rejection. Limited thinking would immediately assume this is a peculiarity of online relationships. |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by pendo89(f): 1:32pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
emöfine2: No it wasnt.Subsequent talks proved me right.In the middle of a serious talk he would burst out laughing like a posessed demon. Nway we still talk general stuff esp if am bored and he is the only one online. |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by emofine2(f): 1:33pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
^^^ sauer: Good point...I was thinking that if there is exposure to a higher concentration of people (via a medium such as the web) then reactions may occur at a faster rate but then I guess since it’s a current trend I guess we are going to be made more aware of these relationships which may make it seem more frequent than what they probably are but then again statistics reflects the opposite... |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by emofine2(f): 1:42pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
Adeniyi A.: chucky234: Back to the topic,I think love is a very serious thing and often hard to identify when in love as people easily mistake infatuation for love. cecegorz: I will say YES to the question. But the issue for me will be, where does it lead to? Some interesting points... |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by emofine2(f): 1:47pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
cowgurl: Hmmm! Interesting comments on here. But we all should be reminded that meeting someone online is quite similar in some ways as meeting someone offline, the only obvious difference is the anonymity that goes with the former and even that as well can also happen offline till one get to know the other in toto. Then again, people offline are also guilty of hiding them flaws or are ' professionals' in acting what they are not just to impress/get their aim targets and still get away with it. The crux; when an online personality[b] who's like you in some ways[/b] reaches out to you to get to know you better, reciprocate the gesture cos he/she may have lots more to offer than what you already see online. Just because many folks see online dating as being silly does not mean it is in totality, it's all in the way one goes about it. Let's be open minded even when finding love cos you know, it wouldn't hurt to enjoy the risks and adventures that goes with meeting an online personality u kinda have a thing for offline. Very true...okay maybe I should have asked instead or in addition...do people "fall in love" faster with a presented illusion? or something perhaps at first intangible? |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by emofine2(f): 1:56pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
snubish: Interesting points....and as regards to the bit in red ...but what if it was purely a platonic relationship and both characters involved were sincere about who they are? Would it thus matter if it their affair never spilt offline? |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by snubish: 11:49pm On Jul 01, 2012 |
o platonic 'll be just fine. most people can be casual friends with just anybody, especially online. it's when things start getting deeper that we start to bring out our checklists; ticking this one, crossing that one. |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by LordReed(m): 6:56am On Jul 02, 2012 |
london2lasgidi: are you in love with an online character? lmao........................ you must be really not good looking to fall in love online lmao... Gosh you so vain about your looks! You are becoming such a freaking narcissist its not funny anymore. Not everything is about you my friend. |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by Fulaman198(m): 7:03am On Jul 02, 2012 |
london2lasgidi: are you in love with an online character? lmao........................ you must be really not good looking to fall in love online lmao... You have issues to pass judgment on a woman you don't even know |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by Jean2(m): 8:16am On Jul 02, 2012 |
Do people fall in love faster online? NO Is it possible to find someone you will love online? YES Can you find a wife/husband to be online? VERY POSSIBLE. Very useful relationships can be established over time e.g. same and opposite gender friends. For whatever reason you interact with people online, do not get carried away. Online meeting may or may not transcend to physical meeting. I have made several friends online; Nigerians home and abroad and foreigners too. 1 Like |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by kingjoe(m): 9:30am On Jul 02, 2012 |
its just human to fall in love online as it is offline.ther are things that trips u in rel world that u observe online and u fall for it .just reading through this write up i have falllen in love with how PENDO 89 REASONS.I LIKE PEOPLE THAT ARE INTELLIGENT.THE WAY SHE ANALYSED HER WRITE UP HAS TRIPED ME.WE COME IN CONTACT WITH LADIES THAT ARE WITH LOW IQ EVERYDAY .SO WHEN U HEAR SOME LIKE PENDO89,U CANT HELP BUT FALL IN LOVE.U WOULD WANT TO BE AROUND HER ALL THE TIME ,U FEEL BEING AROUND HER MAKES U HAPPY HEARING THOSE INTELLIGENT WORDS .U WILL ALSO FEEL HAVING SOMEONE LIKE THAT U WIL MAKE FEWER MISTAKES THAN HAVING AN OLODO AROUND. 1 Like |
Re: Do People Fall In Love Faster Online? by AdeniyiA(m): 6:56am On Jul 06, 2012 |
[quote author=kingjoe]just reading through this write up i have falllen in love with how PENDO 89 REASONS.I LIKE PEOPLE THAT ARE INTELLIGENT.THE WAY SHE ANALYSED HER WRITE UP HAS TRIPED ME.SO WHEN U HEAR SOME LIKE PENDO89,U CANT HELP BUT FALL IN LOVE.U WOULD WANT TO BE AROUND HER ALL THE TIME / its amazing ao some ppl fall in luv wt unséen fig. methink d problem is differentiating btw 'like n love'. until we begin to 'rise in luv' we might continue to fal blindly n gettn hurt |
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