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Before applying for a position try to establish the salary range. Nothing wrong with asking n saying that u would like to know as u would not like to waste their time or yours if the position pays less then what you expect. Do not ask fr an exact figure...ask for the range. If recruitment is done properly they would already knw what u currently earn (if u r already employed) and they would know that they cannot offer u less...not sure abt nigeria but generally they offer 15 percent more then ur current if they want u n will ensure tht the offer is worth ur while. So if they ask u what u expect u tell them what u currently earn n just say that the offer would have to be worth ur while in order to move. U could also throw the ball back in their court and ask well what r u offering. People looking for jobs forget that an employment contract is between two parties...u have every right to ask them what they r offering...obviously with tact.

Doesn't sound like u can live wit wht she has done. In my opinion even if she thought u were guilty (n even if had been guilty)...if she loved u unconditionally she wld have stil stuck by u n rather guided u along the rite path. This wil haunt u and always leave doubt in ur mind...not healthy. I wldnt take her back...then again it's easy to say tht but once in the situation urself mite b a totally differnt ball game altogether.....more especially cause u love her.

Sad to say that I agree wit most of the men who have posted. Most women r bad drivers n need to learn that a car is meant to be driven!!!! The worst r the ones with sporty fast cars that drive like they have all day to get to their destination. As for automatic cars....I wil drive one when I am 70

"If that person is sure about not wanting to be with you, please, please, don't keep talking to them"... (quote)
The above advise I think is spot on...damn hard though....other than that I don't have a freakin clue how u heal a broken heart...am yet to figure it out.

Mhhmmmm..makes me wonder.
@op....so is there no such thing as an unspoken agreement tht u r together? Does this kind of agreement not exist?

Lol.....nt sure whether he was my bf or what Exactly he was....but I wish him lots of love, happiness n success...

@op...
While I agree that lots of Somalian Women are beautiful you have stripped them of their beauty with being so full of yourself n also by implying n saying that they feel negroids sorry...there is nothing they need to feel sorry abt.
There are lots of African beauties n some definitely more beautiful then Somali women.
U seem to think that u r superior...wake up n grow up! U r giving Somalian women a bad reputation with your ego and self centredness!

Best of luck Nigeria! keeping my fingers crossed.

lrguru: When a woman loves, she thinks its just the two of u that lives on earth, and without u, her life would be meaningless. Even tho she no longer thinks with her brains but with her heart, she feels everythin she does at that moment is right. And when a woman is in love, she will travel all the way just to see ur face

U've hit the nail on the head..I think for most women anyway. You can add that they loose all sense of reality and cannot see the truth even if it stares them right in the face...blinded..thts what we become!

dammytex: I think I know what your age bracket would be. In fact I'm sure you're not our mate.
Great songs tho, sorry great classics....

dammytex: I think I know what your age bracket would be. In fact I'm sure you're not our mate.
Great songs tho, sorry great classics....

[quote author=dammytex]Lol!!! ....and what age bracket is that? Tell me n I wil let u knw if u r right....u most prob r. I however love "classics" and could go even further back to songs that r frm my parents era tht I simply love...n tht wld really make u think I am old and make u way off base wit ur assumption[color

Thumbs up for Nigeria...congrats!

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Movin on....Ghana my choice!

Yipppeeeeee!!!! *dancin* u go SA!!!

SA all the way!!!

Well...maybe I'm suppose to b a male Lol!....I watch all kinds of cartoons...even kids cartoons..the simpsons,samurai jack, asterix,ducktales,tom n jerry,avatar....n the list goes on.I also enjoy animations...hhhmmm...must b somethin wrong with me

1. Forever be mine...remix lil wayne
2. Weak...swv
3.Don't make me over...sybil
4. No one else comes close to you...joe
5.Crave you...flights facilities
6.I look. To you...whitney
7.After the love is gone...earth wind n fire
8.Cabrina...."No idea"
9.Chrstopher cross....arthurs theme
10. Endless love...diana ross n lionel
11.Go on and cry....bloodstone
12.Let's stay together...al greene
13.My girl....O jays
14.One day I'l fly away...randy crawford
15.Still...commmodores
16.Through the fire..chaka khan
17.Truly...lionel
18.Zoom...fat larry's band (my ringtone)
19.Ndihamba nawe...mafikizolo
20. My only....coleske
21. Vulidlela...brenda fassie

Lol! Ur thread brought back a memory. I wldnt have a problem if my bf/spouse called platonic friends sweetie,dear etc...but if he considers me different/special then he shldnt call me that as well....cause then I just become one of his 'dears' .

As a mother you can be really proud of your son...u have raised a very brave youngg man! Lots of people would have done as told just to live. May The Almighty bring your son back to you grant you and your family strength and patience.

I'm surprised at how easy it is to share a traumatic experience on a forum with a whole lot of strangers n yet u won't talk about it to the people closest to u. My most traumatic experience would b finding out at 9weeks pregnant that my baby has a chhromosomal abnormality and that I would either miscarry or my baby wld b stilborn or live only for a few hrs. Then to carry full term knowing this and anticipating the worst, having a C Section and then holding ur baby for 5hrs waiting for the last breathe.

Yes you can love more then once. Each time u love it will be different. The depths of the love u feel wil b different. When u love wholeheartedly there is no control...u can't wave a magic wand and it disappears. U can pretend and put up a front wit others yes, but the feelings can't b coontrolled.....and there is always that "special one" that stands out from the rest....the one u won't forget.

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ferdimako: It's mature!

i think people are now more concerned about getting educated, building their careers and climbing up the ladder.....for me personally it has purely been one circumstance after the other beyond my control

Definitely his mother. Learn to accept that, be happy with it and don't compete with Mama bear n u will go a long way. Truth is no one will do for u what ur mother can. U Can't replace ur mother but u can find another wife. Mama stays....women can come n go....at least that's wht I think.

christygenius: [color=#000099][/color]Men are so complicated, So much like
children, so confusing & so hard to please.
If you try to please them, you are cheap.
If you make love to them wholeheartedly,
you are a LovePeddler.
If you don't, you are playing hard to get. If you listen when they talk, you are daft.

If you don?t, you are too difficult to handle.
If you give in to their Ideas, they call you
loyalist & take you for granted.
If you bring your own ideas, they call you
domineering. If you show them that you love them, you
are too emotional.
If you don?t, they will complain that you
don?t love them.
If you give them attention, you are bugging
them. If you don't, you are with another Man.
If you demand for attention, you are a
nagging woman.
If you don't, you are difficult to understand.
If you dress sexy, you are attracting other
men. If you don?t, you are awkward & local.
If you cook & wash their clothes, you are
desperate.
If you don't, you are not a wife material.
If you to club/party, you are too exposed. If
you don't, you are naive. If you are beautiful, you can't stay with ONE
man.
If you are ugly, you are not up to standard.
If you are Independent, you are chasing
men away.
If you are dependent, you are a liability.
If ure fair in complexion, they'll call u ''Yellow Pawpaw. If ure dark, ure too blackky.
If u huge, ure an Orobo. If ure skinny, ure lepacious/lepashandi.
If you try to satisfy them in bed, you are a sex addict.
If you don't, you are making sex boring.
If you are pregnant, you want to trap them.
If you are not pregnant, It's either you are not a woman or you a witch. If you ask men for money, you are too
demanding.
If you don't, they will take you for a fool or even say you collect from other Men.
What do men really want? How can we ladies ever please them? They can be sooooooooo.......... Annoying, Disturbing & Hurting.

Guys, please try and make things more easier for us and appreciate us for who we are, as well as our little efforts to make u guys happy.

...no one said love was easy. U needd to strike a balance with al the points u mentioned above. This balance won't necessarily be the same for everyone...u would have to get to know your partner In order figure when its too much, when its too little and what works for both of you......this advice coming from a single person Lol!!!!

...bringing back memories. While growin up sunday's always meant a huge lunch which meant rice wit a main meal consisting of meat/fish/chicken n potatoes as well as roast (chicken, leg of lamb n veg. Desert late sunday afternoon . Sunday mornings were spent cooking. For us however rice was generally eaten fr supper practically every day. Nw tht I live on my own I do not do any of tht....I cook what I want when I feel like it...so if I feel for a "sunday" meal in the week...then that is what I have...sundays can even be sandwiches...no set meals...all depends on my mood n what I or kids feel like eating.

Two of my favourites:
"Doh"......Homer Simpson
And
"Lightbulb".....Despicable Me

Pleasure

I'm left handed...I'm nt sure y ur brother is tryin to b ambidextrous bt if it's got to do wit the negative thinkin around left handed people he shldnt b encouraged. There is nothin wrong wit bein left handed. In terms of the use of a specific hand for religious or cultural teachings then if he is young enuf those things can b instilled witout changin the use of your left hand for tasks like writin etc...I use my left hand fr everythin but ws brought up to eat wit my right hand, give things or accept things wit right hand and this hasn't posed any difficulty. He shldnt try n change what he is. Besides....it's been said that left handed people are very intelligent....he should b proud to b left handed!

Thanks fr ur response...decision became so obvious when I read ur response. I've declined n they have actually been really good abt it...even asked me to let them know when I am relocatable.

I've nvr done forums n nt into social netwrkin bt thought tht dis cld b the place to get unbiased opinions.
I've been offered a position tht wld b a promotion n think tht I am goin to turn it down....this wld b the 2nd time I turn down n offer. Problem is if iaccept it wld mean relocation (650km frm home)though it wld b back to where I come frm n where all my family r. I relocated to where I currently am almst 2 years ago n I love the place. Relocatin means goin back to city life. I currently enjoy wht I do, travel a. lot n earn a good salary.I am also able to work frm home, dnt report to anyone here (boss is based at Head office 650km away)which allows me to b flexible n also work n make decisions independently). Promtion wld bring a 15% increase, move 1 level up n shares in co. Wil increase. On personal level my house back home has been let out n tenants have 1 year left of contract so this wld mean stayin wit family n I love my independence n privacy. I wld also have to let out my house I am currently livin in n give up on a personal business opportunity. I also had health issues when I lived in the city which subsided n has been a lot more manageable since I relocated to the coast.I was. Supposed to respond to offer today but meeting got rescheduled fr tomrrow so wld like to get any opinions fast. Am I shootin myself in the foot in terms of my career?