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A 20-year-old explained to a curious reporter this week that she was born with an unusual genetic defect: She’s a cat
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Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/02/catastrophe-20-year-old-woman-is-living.html

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She wondered why Nigerian actors scream loudly on screen.
‘’Why your actors always scream loudly? She queried, adding ‘’Your films lack sequence. That’s why Nigerian films can be more than one and half hour,
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Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/what-we-hate-about-nigerian-movies-by.html

She wondered why Nigerian actors scream loudly on screen.
‘’Why your actors always scream loudly? She queried, adding ‘’Your films lack sequence. That’s why Nigerian films can be more than one and half hour. I find that very odd.
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Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/what-we-hate-about-nigerian-movies-by.html

ALL Progressives Con­gress (APC) has ex­pressed reservations over the transfer of Enugu fi­ery Catholic priest, and Director of Adoration Ministry Rev. Fr. Ejike Mbaka, saying there is more to it than matches the routine transfer of priests.
Reacting to Mbaka’s farewell speech where he said he was going to suf­fer as a result of the trans­fer, the party said it was wrong to punish the fear­less priest for his prophe­cies, which has proved to be from God.
“Our people need more liberation clergy, espe­cially ones endowed with healing powers like Mba­ka. The liberation clergy were instrumental in re­turning Latin American countries back to democ­racy in the ’70s and ’80s. They pulled down Pino­chet in Chile and toppled dictators across the globe. We should harvest and culture them instead of hounding them.”
In a statement signed by the APC South-East Cau­cus spokesman, Mr. Osita Okechukwu, the party also added that, “whereas we accept that the transfer of priests is a routine ex­ercise of the great Catho­lic Church; however, we do not wholly accept a situation where the church allows external forces to influence trans­fers as the Mbaka’s case suggests. Otherwise, fu­ture liberation clergy who speak truth to power will be hamstrung to the detri­ment of the society.”
Last month, Mbaka was transferred out of Christ The King Parish in Enugu to a new duty post at Our Lady Parish, Umuchigbo, Njinike, also within the state.
Mbaka, who said his posting was a witch-hunt, told members of the con­gregation: “I know we are going to suffer between now and a few months to come. I am going to suffer and suffer. I know that. I’m going to suffer because I have no place to put my head. I am going to suffer because I have no place to keep the Ado­ration Ministry’s assets. The Adoration Ministry is passing through suffer­ing right now and even though I’ve accepted that is the will of God. Is the will of God through suf­fering? It is a mega suf­fering. The quantum of the assets of the Adora­tion Ministry is the only thing I am bothered about for now.”Rev Mbaka gen­erated controversies when he was reported to have prophesied that former president Goodluck Jona­than would lose the 2015 presidential elections.
A few weeks before his transfer, he paid a cour­tesy call to President Mu­hammadu Buhari, who commended him for his courage and support for his administration.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/rev-father-mbaka-apc-faults-transfer.html

Small Penis And Premature Ejaculation Made Me Remain Sexless For 4 Years...”

But you won't believe how these simple solutions have not only helped me, but have also put smiles on my friends face.
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Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/how-to-make-your-manhood-bigger-longer.html

Small Penis And Premature Ejaculation Made Me Remain Sexless For 4 Years...”

But you won't believe how these simple solutions have not only helped me, but have also put smiles on my friends face.
(My true life story)
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Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/how-to-make-your-manhood-bigger-longer.html

SINCE Ruth Eze came into the movie industry a few years ago, her profile has always been on the rise, and today she’s one of the actresses to reckon with.
However, reacting to the rise of homosexuals in Nollywood, the University of Benin graduate and Imo State-born role interpreter said that she would never be pushed to be a part of such immoralities.
But when pushed further, Eze confessed that her burning, lustful passion for sultry actress, Genevieve Nnaji, could make her have a re-think.
Hear her: “Only Genevieve Nnaji can make me throw caution to the wind and become a lesbian, but fortunately she is not. I am obsessed with Genevieve. She makes me wet! If she tells me to become her partner today, I’ll apologise to God and jump at the offer.
“Anyway, I’m not a lesbian but I am not against them. If they believe they can stand the consequences (of their actions), then they can do whatever they like with their bodies. I have good boobs that both men and women admire and can’t seem to take their eyes off me. My fellow ladies always harass me, to get intimate with them, but I haven’t tried such.”
Ruth Eze is a talented actress cum scriptwriter, whose mum did not initially approve of her coming into Nollywood until she assured her that she would not disappoint their family.
She has written and also starred in over a dozen hit movies including Girls Crip, Emo­tional Mistake, Desperate Hawkers and Pregnant Hawkers among others. However, Ezeh believes her best is yet to come.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/ive-crush-on-genevieve-ruth-nollywood.html

Report reaching abagram, come this morning has it that a young man is his 20's was brutally murdered in aba by the deadly BAKASSI people. our reporter who visited the scene was shocked as the lifeless body og the man lay in pull of his own blood crowds of people were also sited at the scene asking questions to ascertain what led to gruesome murder of the helpless guy.

Mr victor who said that the boy from omuma was called by the so called bakassi but refuse to answer, the so called bakassi member shot the man to death, as the boy been rush to Holy wounds hospitals 169 faulks road beside power line, where he finally gave up. the boy now at he mortuary.

people has taken over the Area of Aba, when the boys of Aba rush to the BAKASSI headquarter shouting No more BAKASSI in Aba

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/breaking-news-boy-killed-in-aba-by.html

REGGAE Blue singer, Harrysong was unveiled on Wednesday, as the new Gala ambassador.
The unveiling took place at UAC Foods head office in Lagos.
Harrysong, one of the musicians under the 5 Star Music group, would be the new face of the brand while other two musicians under the record label Kcee and Skiibii are also expected to promote the brand.
Speaking at the unveiling of the brand.
BRIEFING: General Manager, Marketing, UAC Foods Limited, Mrs. Joan Ihekwaba, 5-Star Music Group Stars, Mr. Harrison Okiri (Harysong) and Mr. Kingsley Okonkwo (KCEE) during media briefing for the unveiling of the new Gala Brand Ambassador at the UAC Foods Limited head office in Lagos.
Speaking at the unveiling of the brand ambassadors and signing of the deal, the General Manager-Marketing, UAC Foods Limited, Mrs. Joan Ihekwaba explained that the signing of the new brand ambassador is another way through which the company intends to engender a more robust brand affinity with the target consumers and to further reaffirm the leadership positioning of Gala in the category.
Mrs. Ihekwaba affirmed that for over 50 years, the brand ‘Gala’ has come to occupy a special place in the hearts of the Nigerian people, by supporting them on their journey to success. ”At this time we feel it is important for the brand to identify with an ambassador, from the Nigerian Music industry, that represents the values of the Gala brand. “
Responding, the new Gala brand ambassador, Harrysong revealed that he was excited to be the face of Gala brand. He then pledged to ensure that the brand derives maximum value for the investment by promoting the brand among the target audience and his fans through his music and his huge social media network.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/harrysong-becomes-gala-ambassador.html

When someone you love hurts you...please don't give up because he left your life for a better person to come in for a good change.
My name is Opara Evelyn a citizen of a beautiful country Nigeria, from ihiagwa owerri wast in imo state, student of very polytechnic nekede owerri,
The luckiest people are those who fall in love more than once in a lifetime. Each love that we endure differs from the one before it — but to be able to feel one love just as strongly and as vastly as your first love is a truly special thing.
I have only been in love once. I’m still young, so I know that more likely than not, I will be one of the lucky ones who gets the chance to fall in love again.
Still, my feeble optimism hasn’t been enough to get me over my first love; to this day, I still spend more of my time dwelling on my dating past than I do living in my dating present, as much as I try my best not to do so.
The breakup was too shell shocking. When my first love reached its eventual expiration date, I wasn’t ready for it to be over.
It was like someone had shut out the lights and closed the door behind him, leaving me trapped, screaming in the dark.
I used to have a strong sense of self. But then, the person I loved most in the world broke my heart. And all of a sudden, just like that, I forgot who I was. Question i have for the man that broke my heart, and i need Answers. i know where you are you are seeing this, it hurt..
1. What, if anything, could I have done differently?
2. If you could go back in time, would you have fought for us any harder?
3. If we had met at a different time, would things have turned out the same?
4. Did you love me with a guarded heart?
5. Will you love someone else the way you loved me?
6. If you love someone differently, will you fail at it just the same?
7. Have you ever moved on completely from what we had?
8. Have you overcome the things you used to fear the most?
9. Do I cross your mind from time to time?
10. What did you learn from our mistakes?
11. Should we try again in the future?
12. Why did it have to end this way?
13. Did you grow bored, or did you just want more?
14. Was it me, or was it you?
15. Will we still be friends?
16. Did being with me make you a better man?
17. Were you ready for a relationship in the moment you promised me one?
18. Will you ever be ready for a relationship?
19.
20.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/questions-i-have-for-man-who-broke-my.html

When someone you love hurts you...please don't give up because he left your life for a better person to come in for a good change.
My name is Opara Evelyn a citizen of a beautiful country Nigeria, from ihiagwa owerri wast in imo state, student of very polytechnic nekede owerri,
The luckiest people are those who fall in love more than once in a lifetime. Each love that we endure differs from the one before it — but to be able to feel one love just as strongly and as vastly as your first love is a truly special thing.
I have only been in love once. I’m still young, so I know that more likely than not, I will be one of the lucky ones who gets the chance to fall in love again.
Still, my feeble optimism hasn’t been enough to get me over my first love; to this day, I still spend more of my time dwelling on my dating past than I do living in my dating present, as much as I try my best not to do so.
The breakup was too shell shocking. When my first love reached its eventual expiration date, I wasn’t ready for it to be over.
It was like someone had shut out the lights and closed the door behind him, leaving me trapped, screaming in the dark.
I used to have a strong sense of self. But then, the person I loved most in the world broke my heart. And all of a sudden, just like that, I forgot who I was. Question i have for the man that broke my heart, and i need Answers. i know where you are you are seeing this, it hurt..
1. What, if anything, could I have done differently?
2. If you could go back in time, would you have fought for us any harder?
3. If we had met at a different time, would things have turned out the same?
4. Did you love me with a guarded heart?
5. Will you love someone else the way you loved me?
6. If you love someone differently, will you fail at it just the same?
7. Have you ever moved on completely from what we had?
8. Have you overcome the things you used to fear the most?
9. Do I cross your mind from time to time?
10. What did you learn from our mistakes?
11. Should we try again in the future?
12. Why did it have to end this way?
13. Did you grow bored, or did you just want more?
14. Was it me, or was it you?
15. Will we still be friends?
16. Did being with me make you a better man?
17. Were you ready for a relationship in the moment you promised me one?
18. Will you ever be ready for a relationship?
19.
20.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/questions-i-have-for-man-who-broke-my.html

Couples who use contraception are more likely to have sex frequently, a new study has suggested.
US researchers found that women in marriages and other unions who used protection were three times more likely to have regular sex than similar women who did not.
The team at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health said that the results are down to the fact that contraception separates sexual pleasure from the responsibilities of pregnancy.
Researchers conducted the study by analyzing data from sexual health questionnaires filled out by over 210,000 sexually active women since 2005. The women were all of childbearing age, were married or in cohabiting relationships, and lived in one of 47 different countries.
The questions covered topics including whether the woman had sex during the previous four weeks and if they were using contraception.
Of the women who reported using contraception, 90 per cent said they had had sex in the past four weeks, compared with 72 per cent who were not.
The data also showed that women aged between 20 and 29-years-old, those who were more educated, and those who wanted to have children in the next two years were more likely to have had sex in the previous four weeks.
"We want women to have better, healthier, safer sex lives by separating sex from pregnancy and childbearing. Contraception does that," said study leader Suzanne Bell, MPH, a doctoral student at the Bloomberg School.
"Knowing how often women have sex - and what role contraception plays in that - can give us a better understanding of how meeting our family planning goals of improving access and meeting demand might impact people's lives beyond decreasing lifetime fertility."
However, Bell stressed that while sex and contraception are linked this does not mean that improved access to contraception leads to more frequent sex.
She explained that women have many reasons for not using the method above a lack of access, including health concerns about hormone-based contraception and misconceptions about the medication causing other diseases.
Women also reported not using contraception because they were having infrequent sex.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/couples-cho-use-contraception-have-sex.html

I once dated a coworker.

Quick backstory: We didn't meet on the job — we were dating for almost four years before we started working together (which, by the way, wasn't planned … long story). But for about 11 months, we sat three cubes apart from one another and kept our relationship under wraps.

That's right: Nobody knew we were a couple.

"Nobody knew?!" "Wasn't it hard to hide?" "Isn't that illegal?"

Those are questions I'm frequently asked when I tell people the story of my office romance.

My answer to all three: "Nope — because we followed the rules."

The truth is, office romances are tricky and generally not recommended. But they happen all the time, and when they do, there are three possible outcomes: The relationship turns sour and your reputation and career take a beating; it ends, but you're both mature and cordial and don't let the breakup affect your work; or things work out.

A survey by CareerBuilder last year revealed that nearly 40% of employees admitted to having a romantic relationship with a coworker, and almost one-third of office relationships result in marriage. (Remember that coworker I dated? We got married in October.)

It's up to you to figure out whether pursuing an office relationship is worth the possible consequences, good and bad. If you decide it is, there are a few "rules" you'll want to follow to ensure things don't go awry:
My situation was unique because we were already a couple before we started working together — but generally that isn't the case, and Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of "Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job," suggests you try being friends inside and outside the office before you make any moves.

People sometimes act differently at work than they do in their personal life. Before you risk hurting your reputation at work, find out if this person is someone you'd want to spend weekends with.

2. Know the formal policy.

Check the company handbook to find out if there are any policies related to interoffice relationships.

Even if there are no explicit policies against it, find out how upper management feels about office romances. If they're common and happen in your workplace all the time, great. If not, maybe that's something to consider.

3. Keep things quiet early on.

No need to send a blast email with "the news" of you and your cube-mate's new relationship. People either don't care, will think it's obnoxious or inappropriate, or will get jealous.

"Be discreet about the news," Taylor suggests. Once you have a sense that this might have a future, talk to your partner and decide how and when you want to disclose your relationships to your colleagues.

If the rumor mill goes into high gear, that might be the right time. If nobody seems to notice, there's no reason to share.

4. Get on the same page.

You and your new partner need to agree on some ground rules and come up with a plan for how you will keep it professional and stay within written or unwritten rules. "What will be your plan 'B' if the heat is on from a supervisor, from gossip, or if things go awry?" Taylor asks.

5. Stay professional at all times.

"You may have the burden of overcompensating with professionalism and keeping an artificial distance, which can be an awkward strain," says Taylor. "Better to overcompensate than to constantly test the limits of workplace etiquette while hoping for the best."

6. Be sensitive and respectful to others.

Focus on work and do your job — especially if you want to mitigate gossip.

"No one wants to hear about how deeply you're in love with each other or where you went last weekend or the fight you had in the car this morning," she explains. "Save it for your family or friends outside work."

Talking about the relationship can be distracting or make colleagues feel uncomfortable, so don't do it.

7. Keep love quarrels out of the work fray.
Again — nobody wants or needs to know about what's happening with your love life.

"It's hard enough today to concentrate with open office spaces, a plethora of technology devices, frantic deadlines, multiple bosses, and so on," says Taylor. "Add to that two lovers fighting over doing dishes in the next cube and you have one unhappy coworker, who you may catch sauntering to HR."

Also, it's entirely unprofessional to complain about your personal relationships at work, whether you're dating a colleague or not.

8. Don't let disagreements affect your work.

This may be one of the hardest rules to follow.

What happens at home or in your personal life (no matter who you're dating) almost always affects your attitude, which affects your work — it's just a fact of life.

But try your hardest not to let your disagreements with your partner affect the decisions you make or how your treat others at work.

9. Remain ethical.

The same way you shouldn't let disagreements with your partner affect the decisions you make or how your treat others at work — you can't let your adoration for them drive your decisions, either.

It's unfair and unethical to give your significant other's work more attention and to make decisions that ultimately benefit them. So while it may be tempting, stop yourself before you get yourself into trouble.

10. Remain focused on your work.
"Spend your time as if you are not dating this person," advises Taylor. Don't get caught up in long conversations, two-hour lunches, IMing, or emailing with your partner when you should be working on projects or preparing for meetings.

11. Know the potential legal pitfalls.

"Employees are generally encouraged to report incidents of sexual harassment or events that create a hostile work environment," says Taylor. "Since the sensitivities of the workforce are varied and subjective, there's always a

risk of offending someone. One complaint to HR for PDA, showing preferential treatment, or using words of endearment in public will at the very least trigger an investigation."

12. Go easy on flirtatious texts and emails.
"Be careful what you text or email to each other, not just because Steve in accounting might fall off his chair when he mistakenly receives it — but also because it could ultimately be used as evidence in a legal case in termination or sexual harassment," she warns.

13. Consider what you'd want to do if things do work out.

As a relationship becomes more serious, oftentimes one person will decide to leave the employer completely, because the more involved you are, the greater likelihood of the relationship interfering with your job. "That's why so many companies have policies against nepotism, which applies to married couples and relatives," says Taylor. This is something to think about early on and to keep in mind as you move forward in the relationship.

"The bottom line is, you need to tread carefully," she adds. "If, however, love happens to strike at work, don't make a concerted effort to fight it at any cost. Just know the risks."

Your decision not only affects you, but other person, both your careers, and those around you. "A word to the wise: If you take the leap, go into it with your eyes wide open," Taylor concludes.
After working together for almost a year, Tyler, my husband, left the company we worked at together for another job.
Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/13-rules-for-dating-co-worker.html

I once dated a coworker.

Quick backstory: We didn't meet on the job — we were dating for almost four years before we started working together (which, by the way, wasn't planned … long story). But for about 11 months, we sat three cubes apart from one another and kept our relationship under wraps.

That's right: Nobody knew we were a couple.

"Nobody knew?!" "Wasn't it hard to hide?" "Isn't that illegal?"

Those are questions I'm frequently asked when I tell people the story of my office romance.

My answer to all three: "Nope — because we followed the rules."

The truth is, office romances are tricky and generally not recommended. But they happen all the time, and when they do, there are three possible outcomes: The relationship turns sour and your reputation and career take a beating; it ends, but you're both mature and cordial and don't let the breakup affect your work; or things work out.

A survey by CareerBuilder last year revealed that nearly 40% of employees admitted to having a romantic relationship with a coworker, and almost one-third of office relationships result in marriage. (Remember that coworker I dated? We got married in October.)

It's up to you to figure out whether pursuing an office relationship is worth the possible consequences, good and bad. If you decide it is, there are a few "rules" you'll want to follow to ensure things don't go awry:
My situation was unique because we were already a couple before we started working together — but generally that isn't the case, and Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of "Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job," suggests you try being friends inside and outside the office before you make any moves.

People sometimes act differently at work than they do in their personal life. Before you risk hurting your reputation at work, find out if this person is someone you'd want to spend weekends with.

2. Know the formal policy.

Check the company handbook to find out if there are any policies related to interoffice relationships.

Even if there are no explicit policies against it, find out how upper management feels about office romances. If they're common and happen in your workplace all the time, great. If not, maybe that's something to consider.

3. Keep things quiet early on.

No need to send a blast email with "the news" of you and your cube-mate's new relationship. People either don't care, will think it's obnoxious or inappropriate, or will get jealous.

"Be discreet about the news," Taylor suggests. Once you have a sense that this might have a future, talk to your partner and decide how and when you want to disclose your relationships to your colleagues.

If the rumor mill goes into high gear, that might be the right time. If nobody seems to notice, there's no reason to share.

4. Get on the same page.

You and your new partner need to agree on some ground rules and come up with a plan for how you will keep it professional and stay within written or unwritten rules. "What will be your plan 'B' if the heat is on from a supervisor, from gossip, or if things go awry?" Taylor asks.

5. Stay professional at all times.

"You may have the burden of overcompensating with professionalism and keeping an artificial distance, which can be an awkward strain," says Taylor. "Better to overcompensate than to constantly test the limits of workplace etiquette while hoping for the best."

6. Be sensitive and respectful to others.

Focus on work and do your job — especially if you want to mitigate gossip.

"No one wants to hear about how deeply you're in love with each other or where you went last weekend or the fight you had in the car this morning," she explains. "Save it for your family or friends outside work."

Talking about the relationship can be distracting or make colleagues feel uncomfortable, so don't do it.

7. Keep love quarrels out of the work fray.
Again — nobody wants or needs to know about what's happening with your love life.

"It's hard enough today to concentrate with open office spaces, a plethora of technology devices, frantic deadlines, multiple bosses, and so on," says Taylor. "Add to that two lovers fighting over doing dishes in the next cube and you have one unhappy coworker, who you may catch sauntering to HR."

Also, it's entirely unprofessional to complain about your personal relationships at work, whether you're dating a colleague or not.

8. Don't let disagreements affect your work.

This may be one of the hardest rules to follow.

What happens at home or in your personal life (no matter who you're dating) almost always affects your attitude, which affects your work — it's just a fact of life.

But try your hardest not to let your disagreements with your partner affect the decisions you make or how your treat others at work.

9. Remain ethical.

The same way you shouldn't let disagreements with your partner affect the decisions you make or how your treat others at work — you can't let your adoration for them drive your decisions, either.

It's unfair and unethical to give your significant other's work more attention and to make decisions that ultimately benefit them. So while it may be tempting, stop yourself before you get yourself into trouble.

10. Remain focused on your work.
"Spend your time as if you are not dating this person," advises Taylor. Don't get caught up in long conversations, two-hour lunches, IMing, or emailing with your partner when you should be working on projects or preparing for meetings.

11. Know the potential legal pitfalls.

"Employees are generally encouraged to report incidents of sexual harassment or events that create a hostile work environment," says Taylor. "Since the sensitivities of the workforce are varied and subjective, there's always a

risk of offending someone. One complaint to HR for PDA, showing preferential treatment, or using words of endearment in public will at the very least trigger an investigation."

12. Go easy on flirtatious texts and emails.
"Be careful what you text or email to each other, not just because Steve in accounting might fall off his chair when he mistakenly receives it — but also because it could ultimately be used as evidence in a legal case in termination or sexual harassment," she warns.

13. Consider what you'd want to do if things do work out.

As a relationship becomes more serious, oftentimes one person will decide to leave the employer completely, because the more involved you are, the greater likelihood of the relationship interfering with your job. "That's why so many companies have policies against nepotism, which applies to married couples and relatives," says Taylor. This is something to think about early on and to keep in mind as you move forward in the relationship.

"The bottom line is, you need to tread carefully," she adds. "If, however, love happens to strike at work, don't make a concerted effort to fight it at any cost. Just know the risks."

Your decision not only affects you, but other person, both your careers, and those around you. "A word to the wise: If you take the leap, go into it with your eyes wide open," Taylor concludes.
After working together for almost a year, Tyler, my husband, left the company we worked at together for another job.
Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/13-rules-for-dating-co-worker.html

A recent study carried found that the average age people in Britain meet "the one" is 27. But how do you really know when you have met them?
In a quest to find out the formula to a lasting relationship, Quora and Reddit users have taken to the social media sites to answer the age old question.
Best-selling author on Amazon and relationship coach, Jordan Gray said: "I have interviewed numerous couples that have been married for anywhere from 20 to 60 years, and they have all had one common denominator… it was easy."
He suggested that your family and friends may be the best people to measure whether you are with the right person.
"Your closest friends and family members aren’t you, but they have a pretty good idea of who you are.
"In fact, recent research suggests that those closest to you actually know you better than you know yourself.”
Self-defined “former dateless nerd” Marcus Geduld said: “I knew it when ...
"1) I realized she was my best friend, and…
"2) I knew I'd want to stay with her even if she got into a horrible, disfiguring accident and was crippled for life. I simply couldn't imagine life without her.”
Reddit user, Brian1321 said: “When I took stock of my life and realized her not being a part of it made it a whole lot less appealing. We complement each other’s personality, we don't blindly agree with the other one, and we make each other want to be the best versions of ourselves. If that's not a reason to marry someone then I don't know what is.”
However, not everyone was convinced by the idea that everyone has a soul mate:
“A soul mate, put most simply, is a person who brings out the best in you, who makes you the best possible version of yourself, and vice versa. Forget all the stuff you read in trashy romance novels or see in romantic comedies about choruses of angels singing or butterflies in your tummy—that's merely chemical, a reaction to immune system molecules called major histocompatibility complexes... and it can lead you wrong.” Said Franklin Veaux, co-author of More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory.
Many Reddit users shared the stories of how they knew they were with the person they were going to marry.
“I was 30 and a friend introduced me to my future wife. We met at a bar, neutral ground, and started dating after that," Reddit user Jfrizzera said. "13 years later we've got two children, a dog, and a house. Before I met her, I had a long talk with my father about how I was sure I'd never get married because it wasn't for me.”
FireJellyPenguin siad: “I was 20 on my first date with my husband. We'd been friends for about 3 years prior to this and it sort of changed after we jokingly made a Friends-style 'if we're not married by 30, we'll marry each other!' sort of deal. I guess that made us think about what being married to each other would be like, and it was pretty good. We've been married five years now, and we're still like a pair of love-struck teenagers!”
Another Reddit user, Joker961, said: “I was 48. I met wife online when she was one of the few real people to respond to my profile on the Cupid.com dating site. We chatted online for a bit. We hit it off so well that we wanted to meet in person. After seeing her, I knew there would never be another woman for me. We got married about a year later. Still together and still happy. I was only on that website because my best friend met his wife there too. (Also still married and happy.)”

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/how-do-you-know-when-youve-found-one.html

Painful Exit the entire Onyehidelam family of Umuduruori Umuarusilam Umuagwuru in Obi Mbieri autonomous community Mbaitoli local government area in Imo State announce the sudden death of their beloved son, husband, father super apostle peter Onwuzuruike Onyehidelam (DEDE ONE DAY)
On 6th February 2016 12noon till dawn.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/burial-announcement-of-dede-one-day.html

Iwu Aturu

What happen to her on the day she was invited by her friend READ MORE..................

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Several intervening factors, including the alleged deumanization of a Catholic priest, Rev. Fr. Eustace Okorie, added to making Chief Rochas Okorocha achieve his goal of becoming Imo State governor in 2011.

Naturally, the visibly angry Catholics, and they are over 75 percent of the Imo populace, teamed up with other Christian faithful, to give the then incumbent governor, Chief Ikedi Ohakim, a run for his money, during that year’s gubernatorial election.

Ohakim did everything to debunk the news weaved around him about Rev. Fr. Okorie, which had gone viral, but the rumour stuck like a blood thirsty tick. Ohakim eventually lost his second term bid and quietly vacated the Douglas House, Owerri.

The jubilation over Ohakim’s sack from the seat of government was spontaneous, palpable and deafening. People coined and sang all manner of unprintable songs, clapped and danced round the major cities and communities of the state.

Although Ohakim accepted his defeat, after exploiting the legal options open to him, he, however, left his words on marble. He told Sunday Vanguard during an interview that Imo people would not only remember him, but would one day wish that he remained in office to complete the projects he started.

Even former President Olusegun Obasanjo, in his characteristic manner, jabbed Imo people over Ohakim’s fall and the loss of the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP. A lot of people laughed it off and every other thing that followed Ohakim’s prediction and Obasanjo’s joke, is now history.
While the ovation over his electoral victory remained high, Okorocha who, no doubt, has the gift of oratory, took advantage of the claims against his predecessor and started dishing out directives in quick succession. He ordered all ministries, parastatals, agencies and departments to go all out and make money for the payment of their monthly emoluments.

This led to the formation of all manner of task forces Imo. Citizens were harassed, intimidated and fleeced. Public outcry later forced the governor to scrap the task forces.

Okorocha sacked a number of statutory establishments, in his first broadcast to Imo people. These included the State Council of Traditional Rulers, headed at the time by the traditional ruler of Obinugwu, Eze Dr. Cletus Ilomuanya. This royal father promptly took the administration to court and floored the governor.

Okorocha doesn’t obey court decisions and he never forgave lawyers in the Ministry of Justice over the numerous judgments against the state. Today, he has suspended all the Directors in the Ministry of Justice for losing cases in court!

When contacted for comments, one of the lawyers said: “We cannot perform any magic when certain decisions are taken by the governor without minding the legal implications. We are not magicians and you cannot fault the judges for taking the decisions they took. The governor should learn to seek legal advice before acting”.

Sacked

Other legal entities sacked by Okorocha were the State Judicial Service Commission, the State Independent Electoral Commission, elected local government chairmen and councillors.

He equally sacked the operators and staff of the local government development areas, which were carved out through an act of parliament, during the administration of Chief Achike Udenwa.

Another group that came under the sledgehammer of governor were administration when he came on board, was the beneficiaries of Ohakim’s 10,000-job placement. A announcing the youngsters’ summary sack from the state’s civil service, Okorocha told the people that it was a political gimmick masterminded by Ohakim to actualize his gubernatorial ambition. Imo people continued chanting the governor’s refrain on the issue and the unfortunate Imo children lost out.

Currently, no fewer than 3,000 civil servants have been summarily sacked by the government. The government’s press statement to this effect, signed by the Secretary to Imo State Government, Sir Jude Ejioigu, was aired intermittently on the radio and television channels of Imo Broadcasting Corporation, IBC.

The other group of people visited with Okorocha trash bin, were Ohakim’s political appointees. They were entitled to their severance allowance on leaving office but it was not paid. Some of these appointees, including but not limited to Vanguard’s Pini Jason, have since died without getting their entitlements!

Before the Okorocha administration came on board, journalists had freedom to get into the Government House and get any information they wanted from any of it’s functionaries. It is not so today, as they have been told that the information they need can be found outside Douglas House. Journalists now visit Government House strictly on invitation.

Another sore point is the closure of Sub Treasuries during Okocha’s first tenure. By the act, all the workers in these Sub Treasuries became redundant. This fueled the use of contractors for revenue collection. Again, this has subsisted till date.

Many people have been lamenting that public taps in Owerri municipality, and other communities, have remained dry since Okorocha came on board. They have not ceased to wonder why the supply of potable water, which ordinarily should be a social responsibility of government, was transformed into a luxury by the administration.

Then the issue of concessioning of government owned health establishments was moved to the front burner. The governor did not understand why hospitals and clinics were not making enough money to take care of the salaries and allowances of workers. So, the workers had to go and they were summarily off-loaded.

There is no doubt that Okorocha was in a hurry to develop and impress Imo people. He said this much on several occasions when he addressed the journalists. In trying to do this, he did a number of things that were not in consonance with due process.

He proudly told the journalists that since he was the final approving authority, he did not see anything wrong in going ahead to give approval upfront and without passing through the bureaucratic rigmarole associated with government processes.

Construction of what the administration called “City Gates” started at every turn. The gates have remained unrealized till now. Feelers then were and still is that no contract agreement was signed with any of the people undertaking the construction and no money was advanced to them. There has also not been any effort by the administration to dismantle the abandoned pillars dotting the streets of Owerri.

Abandoned roads

As with the gates, so also with the roads. Many of the roads were started and abandoned by the contractors. In some cases, government went all out and paid the total sum without minding the extent of work done or the capabilities of the contracting firms.

Closely associated with the non-adherence to due process, is the non-advertisement of jobs to be executed and non-constitution of either the Ministerial or Executive Tenders Board.

There is also the disturbing aspect of investing in projects that has not created employment or generated revenue for the state, and they are many. What of the demolition of people’s buildings without paying compensation? Some of the victims dragged the state government to court and got judgment in their favour. The judgment debt is staggering and public money would be used in defraying this huge debt. Truth is that the state remains indebted to such people until they are either paid or a higher court declares otherwise. Government is a continuum and it does not matter if Okorocha remains the governor or not.

There are other serious pains experienced by residents but Sunday Vanguard will, at a later date, give a summary of some of the projects executed by the Okorocha administration.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/the-other-side-of-gov-okorocha.html

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. Teaching hospital denies allegations of negligence

FROM DAVID ONWUCHEKWA, NNEWI

Nollywood actor, Charles Okocha is about the luckiest person on earth, and very grateful to James Louis Okoye, an event manager and chief executive of Jalou Events Limited, who twice helped to save his life.

Okocha’s incredible run of good luck began on December 27, when a drunken policeman pumped a fusillade of bullets from an AK47 rifle into his stomach at a traditional wedding ceremony, held in Uruagu, Nnewi, Anambra State. The hail of bullets also hit another person, Sam Belonwu Dim, a Lagos-based businessman, who died on the spot.

Doctors at the Nnamdi Azikiwe University Teaching Hospital (NAUTH), Nnewi, Anambra State performed surgery on him, but the stomach later burst, allegedly because the wrong surgical material was used. But the prompt and cool-headed reaction of Okoye in the hospital once again saved the actor’s life.

The twice lucky actor is now recuperating following the corrective surgery that was still done at NAUTH, though the tertiary hospital debunked the allegation of improper handling of the case.

Okoye, who mobilized other people to save the actor’s life, recounted to Sunday Sun reporter what transpired on the fateful day: “I am not just worried but I’m mad about what happened as we tried to save Okocha’s life. I was at Danduko’s house on December 27, 2015 for the traditional wedding of his daughter. What really happened was that the trigger-happy police officer saw an actor he recognized and in excitement he said, ‘Look at this my guy, let me throw one in air for him (meaning to give him gun salute).’ As some people said, he was drunk and apparently forgot that he had previously set the gun on rapid fire. His intention was to fire one shot into the air. He pulled the trigger, but could not control the gun again because up to eight or nine bullets flew out. The bullets hit two people, Sam Belonwu Dim and Charles Okocha. But I didn’t see the other guy (Sam) and there was a noise at the other end.

“When I rushed out of Danduko’s compound, I saw Charles Okocha lying helplessly on the ground. People started shouting, ‘Hey, ewoo, it is that actor oo.’ Some people even brought out their camera phones and started taking pictures of him without doing anything to save his life. Here was somebody who was dying and needed help. I shouted at them. So many cars that were parked outside blocked the way. My own car was parked at a primary school some metres away from the scene of the incident. Okocha’s intestines were already coming out, but he was strong enough to hold them.”

Okoye immediately got some people to help him carry the actor to the primary school where his car was parked. Continuing the tale, he said: “With two other guys accompanying me, we sped to Nnamdi Azikiwe University Teaching Hospital (NAUTH), Nnewi. But what we experienced was a nightmare. Okocha was crying, ‘Please help me, I don’t want to die, Jesus help me.’

At the hospital, the conduct of the nurses and doctors was so annoying. The other people who helped to bring the actor to the hospital were angry and started shouting at the medical personnel. I told my friends that making trouble or even shouting at them could make our friend Charles to die unattended to. I had to beg the nurses and all that. They were just telling us, go here, go there, sign for this, sign for that. I was obediently doing all that even faster than they expected.

“It was over two hours and thirty minutes before the doctor that was to conduct the surgery came. Then I was told to go and sign approval for transfusion of blood. I told them to check if my blood could match his, and said that I was willing to donate blood to save his life. They said it would take longer time, that they already had blood in their bank. But they said what they had in their blood bank would have to pass through test one, two and three for HIV/AIDS. They said they were waiting to do the last one. For the fact that the case was urgent, they said that if I had no objections, I could sign that I approved for them to use the one they were not very sure of being HIV free. They said they are waiting for the last confirmatory test that the blood was HIV-free.

“At this point I said to myself, between this guy dying now and dying many years later for HIV/AIDS if at all the blood will be HIV positive, that the option is to save his life now. Today HIV positive patients sometimes live longer than those who do not contract it. It can now be controlled. But that will not be the portion of my friend, Charles Okocha. When I went to the person managing the blood bank, she said: “Ahha what can I do for you and she continued eating her food. She expected me to wait for her to finish eating when someone was dying. But when she saw my red eyes, she dropped the food and covered it to attend to me.”

After the issue of blood transfusion was settled, Okoye said that the simple act of moving the patient from the emergency ward to the theatre by the two female porters became another hindrance to the effort to save the actor, as he said that they were very sluggish. His offer of assistance to help push the wheeled stretcher was rebuffed.

His words: “At the end of the day I was just pleading, petting and begging and they were able to move the young man in a stretcher to the theater door. Then an argument ensued between them. Friends and my brother who came along with me wanted to shout but I pleaded with them to calm down so that the matter would not get worse. From what I observed, they don’t really care about people, whether they make it or not. After all, they did not cause the accident and, therefore, not interested in whether the person lives or dies. That is the impression people have about the hospital.”

All through the duration of the surgery that lasted for four hours, Okoye waited anxiously. When it was completed, Okocha was wheeled into the male special ward.

“I don’t want to mention how many people that gave up as I was waiting on the same night as I was at the emergency unit. I don’t want to talk about an accident victim brought in there and was not treated because those who brought him could not pay N500 for him. And I had to pay for him. I am not talking about another accident victim who was brought in that night and what a nurse could only say was, ‘Imagine the kind of alcohol smell that is coming from his mouth, look at what he has done to himself,’ while the guy was bleeding profusely,” Okoye said.

Even after the surgery had been done, it was as if the devil was still determined to harvest the actor. More trouble came his way after he returned to the hospital to have the external stitches removed. What happened immediately after the stitches were removed was shocking, as Okocha further narrated.

His words: “He was just sitting down and all of a sudden we heard a noise like a balloon burst. Behold, everything in Okocha’s stomach came out. You know it was a major operation.

“Nurses rushed over, looked at him and ran away. Anybody who looked at his dangling intestines could not behold the sight. It was a gory sight. But Okocha was courageous enough to hold his intestines from dropping on the ground and he turned his face away from his hands so that he would not faint at the sight of his own intestines coming out.

“After about 25 minutes the so-called surgeon came in again. He went back to start all over and Charles began to go through the pains he had a few days ago. It was an annoying thing. When they came to the ward they said openly that they were supposed to have used nylon three for the stitching but what was available was nylon one and they had to use what they had at least to save his life that day. Why I am angry is that they could have told us to rally round and get the right material and any other thing they needed. Any drug given to a patient at the teaching hospital is paid for before it can be administered.

“Is it not a reasonable step that they should have sent us to get the right stitching material, that is, nylon three, to avoid the bursting? They were bold to tell us why the stomach burst. That is the reason I’m mad. I have never seen a thing like that before. And we heard that the nylon is only sold for N700.00.

“I know that I’m nobody, just a young man who is trying to survive. But I have contacts through my business as an event planner. I have been sending text messages to important people I know, pleading with them to get the federal government to conduct investigation into the way the teaching hospitals operate. This thing must be investigated. People are undergoing bad moments in some of these government-owned hospitals.”

Sunday Sun reporter met with the Chairman, Medical and Advisory Committee, NAUTH, Nnewi, Dr Evaristus Ede Afiadigwe, who stood in for the Chief Medical Director (CMD), Professor Anthony Igwegbe, and he dismissed the claims of Mr Okoye even though he admitted that there was an incident of a burst stomach involving the Nollywood actor, Okocha. He said there was no negligence in the treatment of Okocha. He noted that the bursting of a stomach was a medical experience that could occur any time.

His words: “I heard about the eruption, stomach burst. The doctor wanted to use Nylon 2 Defilon but what was available was Nylon 1. It is not possible that everything you need, the number and quality will be available at every given time. And you know that was on a Sunday. But the Nylon 1 is used and one still gets a perfect result. I don’t know why this should be made an issue. I investigated the incident by myself and discovered that there was no negligence. The Nylon 1 and Nylon 2 are of high quality not even the 3 you are talking about. Life and death are actually in the hands of God. We did everything humanly possible to save Charles Okocha’s life. And this is what one should be grateful for instead of painting the hospital black.

“We do conduct audit on how our doctors and nurses work and we have a disciplinary committee, which handles erring medical personnel. There is no negligence in this matter. Some doctors even use Nylon 1 ordinarily. It is just that the doctor said he wanted to use Nylon 2. Nylon 2 was available in the hospital but it wasn’t available at the time the doctor was doing the surgery. There was a repeat surgery and it was successful,” Afiadigwe said.


He later took the reporter to the theatre where he showed him the Nylon 1 and 2, still arguing that either of them could be used in the absence of the other. He also took him to the male ward to see Okocha whom, he said, would soon be discharged, even though Okocha could not react to questions put him as he was still in pains.

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We've all been there. Staring longingly at your phone, putting it facedown in a vain attempt to stop checking it, mentally going through all the life-and-death scenarios which are definitely likely reasons bae hasn't text you back.
Well we have good news: those days could be behind you if you follow these tips from dating columnist "Dr Nerdlove" and online dating coach Patrick King, as told to LifeHacker:
1. The 'play it cool by waiting two days to reply' gimmick doesn't work

Text the sooner the better.

2. Don't just say 'hi'

It might be harmless but a one word text shows the recipient you haven't put time and effort into talking to them.

3. Send texts with purpose, ie making plans

Too much online rather than in person interaction can leave IRL meetings lacking spark.

4. Don't be pushy

Wait at least a day to send another text if they're not getting back to you.

5. Grammar and spelling are important

Again - paying attention to your language shows you care.

6. Know when to stop
If they're not responding, send something that doesn't necessitate an answer to see if they still want to chat. One unreturned text isn't a big deal, two means they could be busy, but three means you need to move on.
Read a comprehensive list over on Lifehacker

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/how-to-get-someone-you-like-to-text-you.html

According to a family member who spoke yesterday the victim’s mother, Muiynant Mustapha, left her 19-year-old daughter in her shop to attend a party, when the suspect sneaked into the shop, asked the girl to remove her clothes and raped her.
It was learned that the suspect, Adesola Moses, who resides at Osenatuilo Street, Alagbado by AIT Road, reportedly raped the victim in her mother’s shop, that the suspect took advantage of the victim’s mental health and had anal sex with her.
The relative said: “While the act was ongoing, a 10-year-old girl, Tunrayo, daughter of the landlord, who usually plays with the victim, saw them and ran out to alert people. By the time people got to the shop, the suspect had escaped.”
in other to identify the suspect, the elders in the community gathered 12 young men in the area and Tunrayo was able to identify the suspect, who had changed his clothes to avoid recognition.
The case, which was initially reported at Alagbado, is currently being investigated at State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department, SCIID, Panti, Lagos.
police in Lagos State have arrested a 37-year-old man for allegedly raping a mentally-challenged girl (names withheld)

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/37-year-old-man-raped-mentally.html

A minor has been raped to death by yet-to-be-identified rapists in Rivers State.
The incident occurred in Elele town, in Ikwerre Local Government the State.
The victim simply identified a Miracle, was abducted at about 5pm by rapists, while returning from an errand, where she went to by foodstuffs for her mother around Elele roundabout.
After waiting endlessly,the distraught mother was said to have raised the alarm, which attracted the attention of neighbours and sympathisers.
It was gathered that a search party was constituted that night, but could not find her.
However, the lifeless body was later found yesterday within the vicinity of her family house.
Sources said the deceased’s body was found with blood all over her nose, mouth and private part.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/9-year-old-raped-to-death-in-rivers.html

"She was arrested at the police station after she followed the complainant to the station," said Constable Sibusiso Chauke.

The two met at a tavern in Meadowlands, Soweto on Saturday.

"The victim, aged 38, proposed to the suspect and she agreed. They also agreed to go to the victim's place of residence to have sexual intercourse," Chauke said.

On arrival at the house, the woman told the man to unzip his trousers so she can perform MouthAction on him.

"He did so and

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2016/01/woman-held-for-biting-mans-penis.html

Doctors in Barcelona, Spain believe they have found the cure to HIV – the AIDS-causing virus that affects the lives of more than 34 million people worldwide, according to WHO.

By using blood transplants from the umbilical cords of individuals with a genetic resistance to HIV, Spanish medical professionals believe they can treat the virus, having proven the procedure successful with one patient.

A 37-year-old man from Barcelona, who had been infected with the HIV virus in 2009, was cured of the condition after receiving a transplant of blood.

While unfortunately the man later died from cancer just three years later, having developed lymphoma, the Spanish medical team is still hugely encouraged by what it considers to be a breakthrough in the fight against HIV and related conditions, according to the Spanish news source El Mundo.

Doctors in Barcelona initially attempted the technique using the precedent of Timothy Brown, an HIV patient who developed leukemia before receiving experimental treatment in Berlin, the Spanish news site The Local reported.

Brown was given bone marrow from a donor who carried the resistance mutation from HIV. After the cancer treatment, the HIV virus had also disappeared.

According to The Local, the CCR5 Delta 35 mutation affects a protein in white blood cells and provides an estimated one percent of the human population with high resistance to infection from HIV.

Spanish doctors attempted to treat the lymphoma of the so-called “Barcelona patient” with chemotherapy and an auto-transplant of the cells, but were unable to find him a suitable bone marrow.

“We suggested a transplant of blood from an umbilical cord but from someone who had the mutation because we knew from ‘the Berlin patient’ that as well as [ending] the cancer, we could also eradicate HIV,” Rafael Duarte, the director of the Haematopoietic Transplant Programme at the Catalan Oncology Institute in Barcelona, told The Local.

Prior to the transplant, a patient’s blood cells are destroyed with chemotherapy before they are replaced with new cells, incorporating the mutation which means the HIV virus can no longer attach itself to them. For the Barcelona patient, stem cells from another donor were used in order to accelerate the regeneration process.

Eleven days after the transplant, the patient in Barcelona experienced recovery. Three months later, it was found that he was clear of the HIV virus.

Despite the unfortunate death of the patient from cancer, the procedure has led to the development of an ambitious project that is backed by Spain’s National Transplant Organization.

March 2015 will mark the world’s first clinical trials of umbilical cord transplants for HIV patients with blood cancers.

Javier Martinez, a virologist from the research foundation Irsicaixa, stressed that the process is primarily designed to assist HIV patients suffering from cancer, but “this therapy does allow us to speculate about a cure for HIV,” he added.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2015/12/hiv-breakthrough-spain-finds-functional.html

This is thé things we use to see in this Bush oooo please we need your prayers

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2015/12/nigeria-soldiers-seek-for-prayer.html

Police have released CCTV of an armed robber dressed as Father Christmas climbing through a drive-through window at a KFC.
Officers from Derbyshire Police said the man, described as 5ft 10in and stocky, climbed through the window at around 10.30pm on Saturday carrying a knife before demanding cash.
An appeal for information about the theft at the restaurant in Hockley Way, Alfreton, Derbyshire, has been launched.
Derbyshire Police said the man was wearing a red hat, red trousers and a red jacket over a black top and had his face covered.
Anyone with information is asked to call police on 101.

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2015/12/merry-christmas-watch-knife-wielding.html

'He’s been watching mother-and-son pornography and has voyeuristic photos of her on his phone'

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2015/12/my-partners-relationship-with-his.html

Sarah and Promise are very lucky. They are Prophet T.B Joshua’s daughters and doing so well in life. Sarah was called to the Nigerian Bar on Wednesday December 16 and she’s also looking forward to be called to the New York bar in the United States of America soon. Promise is 18 and study­ing Politics and International Relations at London School of Economics in the United King­dom. It’s obvious that they’re both apples of the renowned prophet’s eyes. In the interviews
that follow, both reflected on life as daughters of Prophet T.B Joshua and what this has added to their lot in life. Excerpts:

Congrats, how do you feel being called to the bar today?

Source:http://www.abagram.com/2015/12/its-not-what-people-say-about-my-dad.html