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KingAzubuike:
Na moto be this . no be all those local people wey no go allow us hear word with Benz. Benz na poormans car. Travel abroad nobody gives a damn about it coz you can mention up to a thousand cars before even talking about any product from Mercedes.

..only 2 machine in the world..Benz and others.... take it or leave it girl

DonSageII:
Well, whoever cares to know, the first way to get a lady interested in you is to make her attracted to you.

It's either she's attracted to your witty nature, perfect vocabulary, dress sense, height, facial hairs, eye-contact, automobiles, intellect etc.

Women = Attraction.

Build attraction, and you've solved half of the problem.

I've seen a lady get laid Same day she met the guy.
What got her attracted?
The guy was dark and handsome.

Bravo!

Lordknowz:
A man wasn't born to be Kept.. He was born to rule

Bravo!

Your Life.. you dey advocate all over 200m should park their load to Canada.. Rubbish??

kings59:
Nice resistance.


Sometimes I would just put myself into temptation.

I would just go to a bar that I know ladies would be patrolling, I would just keep looking at them and controlling my mind. I would look at them and keep saying," devil is this all you can do, bring more"


Sometimes I go to a place I would see sexy/naked girls just to know how strong I am in spirit and my resistance accuracy.

I can remember 2016, I and my 5 friends went to a brothel/bar just for drink, we sat on the chair in our space and table, suddenly girls started coming out and started shaking their yash, both full naked and half naked, both the ones that wore transparent cloth/thighs .

Next thing, they all started falling, saying this girl ass is hot and soft, I go like enter dis and dat.

The temptation there was much and it takes a strong heart and spirit to refute the offer.

I was the last guy remaining after all had gone to their various choice.

A fair skinned lady of average height came and told me that all my friends had made their choice, that I should take her, I told her I don't do with prostitutes, she said ok then.

I was glad I didn't fall, it is just good to learn how to resist temptation.


I would advise the op to tell his wife about this, but he should skip the" she kissed me" part.

That way, your wife will trust you more and whenever she comes across what the husband experienced, she will also resist the man.

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casperuk:
I have heard of people stabbed in London, the emergency ambulance couldn’t save them. A lot of people die here even with all the facilities they cannot be save. In everything my brother, na God get power. Woe is he that put his trust in man says the bible.

I have been harassed one night @ about 11-12pm coming back from church in a place called catford. Two black guys wanted to collect my hand bag. They probably felt it was loaded with valuables. What was the most disturbing things wasn’t the guys but the people around the bus stop who saw everything going on and didn’t help me. They were busy minding their business as if they don’t care. If They were waiting for me to be stabbed before they called the police I don’t know.
I just acted like I had a knife with me under my trouser and made a move like I want to bring it out and they fled. Smartness/ street sense saved me that day.
My opinion is that life is more than emergency service, economy etc. Who will die will die, and who will live will live. Death is everywhere. Even your food can kill you.
A lady came here and worked illegally for about 10 years and fighting for papers and hussling hard. She got her papers in the 11th year and had cancer in the 12th year. She died 3 yrs after that. Someone may say if she was in Nigeria she wouldn’t have had a good medical care for the cancer. Well maybe if she had stayed back she wouldn’t have had cancer at all.

Man’s life is insignificant. We place so much thought trying to control our existence. All that doesn’t matter.

For me, What is important is that wherever you are be happy.

So what we all need is not to live abroad but to have money. Money can make a village a paradise.
So if it is to come here and make money it is ok.

Your level of reasoning is high.. Bravo!

MAYOWAAK:
TO ALL MY FRIENDS LEAVING NIGERIA AND THOSE STAYING BEHIND...

More than ever before, I have seen and heard about so many people leaving the country, Nigeria.
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It’s as if a memo was sent across the land advising people to “up and go” and doubt it not, people are doing just that.
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While training a corporate organization some weeks ago, I heard the story of a High Networth Individual who made the decision to exit. His colleagues were shocked. He earns very well. He has an enviable package and he was living “the life” but alas, he had his eyes on other things.
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I know someone who used to be a VERY STRONG ADVOCATE of Nigeria, its potential, rich resources and possibilities who has now relocated to another country.
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I have friends who had great dreams of occupying key positions in the Nigerian government who have long travelled out and others who are making solid plans to do just that.
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Don’t be surprised if some of your most loyal friends call you via WhatsApp sometime soon to let you know that they now live in Australia, South Africa, UK, USA or the new favourite, CANADA.
They’ll be living out Adele’s “Hello from the other side”�
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Before, it was the people who were struggling to survive who were rushing out. Now, even those who are well to do are securing papers and citizenships like teenagers buying JAMB forms. After all, some South American Islands have enticing offers that are accessible to those who have the funds for it.
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You might even be plotting your own exit while reading this�
Who knows?
Migration from any social system is normal but MASS migration is often an indication of DANGER. People migrate when there’s real or perceived danger.
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Many people feel the Nigerian System is DANGEROUS to their lives and destinies.

That’s why both the rich and the poor are desperately seeking a way outta hear.
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This is more than a quest for money, recognition, fame or position. This is about SAFETY&SECURITY.

There are many reasons why people leave places- relationships, businesses, ministries and ventures.

But it’s usually one or more of these 3 reasons:
- When there’s insecurity and the threat of danger.
- When they no longer see their future in it.
- When they see a greater promise of better returns in or from another place.
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No matter how patriotic you are, I don’t think you can deny the fact that you’ve observed at least one of these reasons at some point in your experience or contemplation.

So, what are the implications of these?

Too many to mention in this post.

Should you “jet out” too?
It really depends on you and what you perceive your Maker has called you to do.

I don’t hold the keys to your destiny and I might not be in the best position to make recommendations. However I have a few thoughts that could help:

IF YOU’RE LEAVING NIGERIA,
1. Do it from a place of personal conviction and not just peer or social pressure. What’s good for one may be disastrous for another.

2. Ensure you’re not only riding on passion and frustration. If those are your primary or only drivers, you and your potential will become caged by the relative comfort you’ll have when you get to another country.

3. Seek God’s face to ensure you’re in line with His will. He knows the past, present and future and can tell you exactly what to do, where, when and how. Be sensitive to His instructions. He may give you instructions that aren’t in line with your preferences.

4. Exit Nigeria and enter that country of your dreams legally so that you don’t become trapped in it and you can be free to travel to other places at any time you wish.

5. Be very strategic and intentional with your preparation process. Consult those who have gone ahead and let them give you the details of their own transition experiences so that you don’t get shocked by the realities you May have to handle.

6. Keep your ties and some investments in Nigeria. Things can still turn for the better and it can happen much faster than we even project. Don’t cut your friends and family in Nigeria off. You may need them more than you think and they may need you too.

7. Get wise and trusted advisers and mentors you can reach out to for advice, prayers, perspective and encouragement from time to time.

IF YOU DECIDE TO STAY IN NIGERIA

1. Face this reality: Based on historical facts, trends, raw data, the attitudes of the general populace, the drama surrounding the outcomes of the last election, and the pervasive bureaucratic impediments, there MIGHT not be any LANDSLIDE/WIDESPREAD transformation for another 12 years. This is not pessimism. Do notice my use of MIGHT.
I can’t go into the detailed analysis of my proposition but if you’re a student of social transformation, you’ll understand what I mean.

2. Know what YOU’RE doing.
You can’t afford to “float”, “fantasize” or drift around with false hope.
What are you doing?
What are you working on?
What are building?

Who are you investing in?
Why?
What sectors are you considering?
What’s your end game?

3. Seek God’s face to endure you’re not suffering in the name of solidarity. Are you called to Nigeria or to a space in it? If so, what are the details of that assignment? How long is it? Lifelong or seasonal?

4. Build Microsystems and leverage Macrosystems. You can’t leave your life to the mercies of an ecosystem that’s struggling to support itself. Some aspects of the Nigerian system are functional but most are dysfunctional. How can you create microsystems with the goal of expanding them to benefit others?

5. Invest in people. Pour into people. Build teams. Volunteer for value-adding programs and projects.
Nigeria is made up of people. You don’t change nations. You influence people who then change their nation together.

6. Fix your finances.
Remember that you’re your own “local government” and you need money to do all the things you need to do. Invest in learning how to make your money work in Nigeria. Know the right skills to acquire. Don’t waste time gathering certificates that have nothing to do with the course of your life. One major skill you need is NETWORKING.

7. Pray, fast and get closer to God. You’re living in a system that can rubbish the best of people. Without God’s backing, your best plans may still be endangered.

With these in mind, I hope I’ve offered some helpful insights whichever way you choose, to stay or to leave.

Let me know your thoughts and be sure to SHARE this.

SOURCE: FROM THE FACEBOOK PAGE OF DAMILOLA OLUWATOYINBO

Bravo!

Hmm

Nawao

Biglittlelois:
Yes there is, they look cute when they smile, gentle on bed until you tell them they can relax and be themselves and they are always good looking and intelligent

I gave it to you..u Sabi better things

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tosyne2much:
A woman needs more than a banging body to keep a man.. Unfortunately, the boyfriend may still cheat on her with a lady with moderate body structure

There's no amount of physical beauty and body structure that will ever be as valuable as a beautiful heart and a good attitude

What you tag unfortunate, is actually part of life... forget so called men of God... They lust after so called beautiful structure in secret of their heart..they masturbate...Real guy go above this and enjoy the beautiful structure God create... this may sound odd but it is an abstract truth..

tosyne2much:
A woman needs more than a banging body to keep a man.. Unfortunately, the boyfriend may still cheat on her with a lady with moderate body structure

There's no amount of physical beauty and body structure that will ever be as valuable as a beautiful heart and a good attitude

This simple words of you is an abstract truth... especially in this part of world. To be honest with ourselves.. Boy will be boy.. trust me.. it's men world.. It's real honest men that will appreciate and respect woman of virtue even though he admire so called beautiful structure in town...men are wire to experiment..One of the few facts of life!

taxiappguy:
She tell you wetin dey d package? You know whether the package she talk na her brain and her awesome personality. You just hear package see picture just begin to dey assume.

Hmmmm..clever argument.. u don change am

delugajackson:
It's obvious that sex is the only thing she has to offer. Only a deluded woman would think that her sexy body can be enough to keep a man. Having a banging body is just a plus.

Fact is, men want so many things other than your big ass and breasts. No amount of physical beauty will ever be as valuable as a beautiful heart, a good attitude and a functional brain. You need more than just your physical attributes to keep a man. I would rather die single than share my life and fortune with a beautiful fool. Beauty is dangerous, but intelligence is lethal.

Bravo! Your signature compliment your level of good reason here... I give it to you!

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kollinzgee:
we men are visual creatures we are motivated to date women based on looks .some of us like ass,some like boobs,some like hips,yea thats natures work.most of us put looks first before anything.now this where clueless guys get it wrong .they assume women are attracted to the same thing that attracts men and they always fail.now what are women attracted to .

there are women who like cute guys yes but the sad reality is that they are a minority .90% of women are not looks freak .

above all things women are more attracted to masculine men than any other type of man.what does it mean to be masculine.

being masculine simply means to be an emotionally tough man women are attracted to emotionally tough men because they believe he can handle life challenges easily unlike a weaker man.below are the attribute of a masculine man.

(1) he knows what he wants in life and with women and goes for it without fear or hesitation because he know nothing is,impossible to achieve.

(2)he believes in himself and goes after the women he likes he doesnt second guess himself .if the woman is rude,to him he doesnt take it personal because all women are not compatible with him.

(3)he is social and has good social skills .he knows how to make people feel his presence .women notice that other women like him too and feel lucky to have him.

(4)he may not,be financially stable but doesnt let it diminish his self esteem but he has life goals and pursues them relentlessly.

(5)he feels his worthy of any woman he meets because of his massive self esteem and ladies respect him for it...

these things are not easy to learn .but take some time of your youth to improve your masculinity you will get better with time and practise .women will test your confidence but never yeild easily thank me later...

Good research.. Kudos!

Guest007:
Maybe it's just the language used that I'm finding uncomfortable, I don't think I owe anyone happiness because that's not my job as a human being. I can control the conditions and the environment, be sure not to cause drama etc...

I might give you love and attention but you just need space... I've been bought gifts and told jokes and I just couldn't appreciate it, because I needed to work through my feelings.

Knowing all this why would I expect happiness from others... haven't you been in a crowd and felt lonely, or in the most beautiful surroundings, but you were sad. Other times you're sat down doing absolutely nothing special yet, you feel overwhelming happiness.

People can try to make you happy but it's your choice to be happy.

To buttress your point...True happiness is simply inner attitude.. although exclusively designed for few individuals..Take it or leave it!





Such real happiness is actually a Grace from God to man... having attained special spiritual standard..Now tell me:how many people on this evil, wicked and spiritual indolent world can achieve such standard??

To put it straight:the standard is simple but advance.. it's not far from what Jesus brought:LOVE!
I say to you: Ability to love unselfishly is not far from happy Life... when you give freely and unselfish... Trust me..u attain the God's standard.

Hence, your happiness lie in your hand!

I rest my case!
Note; Giving here is not merely materials giving oo.but rather your natural self...in consideration and respect to your fellow.. you give!

Guest007:
Women's most unhealthy mindset is this prince charming ideology, and we have to stop it! Look for a teacher in a man, a disciplined man... forget this "make me happy" bs, and go figure out your life, you have to deal with the problem rather than reverting to feelings. It's not easy being a woman, and society won't allow us to change and grow but we can't give our powers away and then cry victims!

#GIrlPoWer

If you are not married yet... just maintain this your conviction.. Trust me.. you will attract goodness.. I mean good guy .They were rear though but available!

.... words is cheap though...I hope you maintain your words

LordKO:
It's a "personal psychology of thinking."

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I choose friend only based on good intelligence... being an introvert

LordKO:
A husband's duty is to be altruistic and conscientious - good in general - towards his wife, and any good woman will be happy with such. However, a small-minded woman (just like a small-minded man) can only be happy if she succeeds in subjugating him, which entails him using servility to sustain the relationship. So, happiness is a choice - a husband doesn't automatically owe his wife happiness.

I admire your good reason.. Kudos!

LordKO:
Such pronouncement is inevitable when a sane person is dealing with a typical small-minded person. . . to a small-minded person the world revolves around him/her. She can only be happy when she succeeds in subjugating you, so it's either your dominion, dignity or sanity. But as an unconquerable person, when you've indulged enough of her bullshit after exhausting diplomatic and volitional slavery mechanisms in your arsenal to maintain peace with her, without her being satiable as expected, you let out the blunt statement.

Meanwhile, staying put in the relationship or not will depend on many personal factors. OP if you're the one in this situation, let go of either your possessive or domineering attitude and see how harmony and happiness will automatically locate you and yours.

Truly, he doesn't owe you happiness, but surely he owes you goodness. If he can't offer you goodness, it means he's insane, and a sane person shouldn't be caught putting up with an insane person.

Quick one:is this analysis come from your personal psycology of thinking or culled from a book.. please I need an honest answer.
Thanks

kingkakaone:
People will respect on you the level of respect u give yourself.
The more you value yourself, the more people will value you.

I dated a girl and she would call me that she's going out with a guy or going to study with her friend who is a boy all night. I would reply her that it's ok on all occasions until she told me she was hurt due to my replies. She wanted to make me jealous but it backfired on her that I don't actually have time for that.
She confessed that I am strange. She was doing those things to get me jealous but I didn't have time for that.
She asked me what if she was cheating on me I said I would know and I would end the relationship straight up without stress or second thoughts.

Whenever my mind is telling me to be careful about something, I always take it as a message and I hold it strong plus I believe in spiritual leading too.

These were the exact date words she said; "I love you more because you stand for what you believe and because you know what you want".

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kingkakaone:
July

Cancer!! No wonder similar trait to some extent

kingkakaone:
That's actually my own case; 'I don't Care's.

My neighbor was to celebrate her daughter's one year birthday on 25th but shifted it to 4th of this month. I told her I wasn't going to be around but she thought I would change my personality for her due to my closeness to her family. On the day I wasn't around, I went to spend the weekend with a friend of mine at Peter Odili Road here in PH who's been complaining for months about only him coming to spend weekends at my side.

On Monday my neighbor saw me and was angry but I didn't even look at her face.
She later came and said; "Ogaga I Dy vex for you o", I asked her why and she said her daughter's birthday I wasn't there. I asked her this question; " what would my presence have changed or added to the celebration of a kid"? She got angry and left. I just took the gift I bought for the baby to her and left her to be.

After some days she asked why I don't understand when people are angry with, I told her whoever is angry with me and fails to tell me is his/her cup of tea.

My boss actually prefer me when it comes to handling tough issues to my colleagues because he knows I can handle issues without saying nothing no !matter how tough or under pressure I am in.

Let me tell one thing that shocked my boss one day. He called after I've closed to come back and attend to something in the office and I told him I can't because I'm on another thing now but that I would attend to it when I resume in the morning.
One of my colleague with me said I should have come but I told him that if I do that he will try it next time and increase my closing time from 2pm to 3 or 4pm.

I don't even resume office before my resumption time self. I resume by 9am but if they call me before that time I will tell them to wait till my official time.

If I go earlier than my time they will tell me to start resuming by 8am which is possible in Nigeria here.

My summary is this: I don't give out things or time I cannot afford to people. If I do anything, it is because I know if it backfires it won't be an issue to me.

I got you..you seem to have good level of ego.. Kudos!

tochez24:
you are utterly stupid���

On the contrary..he has good level of natural intelligence...Note:I have a strong conviction in God


Almighty God is not limited to written words...But if you know.. you know..