mployer:
Well, in the first instance I wouldn't think of gething married to an ifa worshiping lady if I dont have plans to starting worshiping ifa. There is such thing as faith compatibility in marriage.

If You are not born again and got no hope of gething born again, then don't hang around born again ladies, it won't end well.

Are You a Christian in the first place. Do You believe in God?
Lets Start from there.

Staying away from born again ladies? Believe me I avoid them like the black plague but I guess I didn't see this one coming. Perhaps because she is one of the new generation born again without the usual look and carriage of the older generation. I was looking for a smart lady with sound morals and in her,i found my perfect woman. By the time I realized,i was already hooked.
Don't know what you mean by "am I christian". All I can say is I was born into a christian family and I do go to church when I can but the entire gospel thing doesn't add up in my head. If you may be so kind to look up the meaning of agnosticism, you'll have a fair idea of where I stand and for that reason,i still go to church when I can with the hope that one day,i may be convinced enough to believe.

andromida:

Its an assumption that her parents will ask if you are born again, its also an assumption that they will not give their blessing if you are not instead of dillydallying do the meet already so you both know which way forward. The earlier you meet with her parents the quicker you decide if it is to be or not to be.

I can't disagree with you. I share the same opinion but the young lady wants me to hold on until she can either convert or convince me. Well,a brother can't wait forever.

Amhappy: Well OP dont lie but consider to be a born again too

My sister na to put am under advisement sure pass oo... Hehehehe

mployer: just get born again and save your self the stress of telling lies or loosing ur love


btw, two things are certain; you don't love her that much and she's not born again.

You may be correct in your summation but becoming born again is not as easy as you think given the fact that I don't believe in it. Let's do a little L.A.R.P. Say you want to get married to a girl, you meet her parents and you get asked if you worship and believe in ifa. Will you automatically start worshipping ifa or will you say a simple "no" and damn the consequences? I await your reply. Thanks

andromida: So if you will not be born again, her parents will not give their blessings what next?

Life continues I guess. Don't you agree?

sholasholala: Ask her to pray for you to come in contact with the Holy spirit so you can become born again as well. With God all things are possible.


But God will help US. We the so called born again who are meant to draw people closer to God are making them drift away because of our selfish interests.

Me sef tire oo.. I think I need serious prayers oo. Not sure it'll work though..hehehehe

It happened to me when I was still in school. I did one business which yielded well and so I decided to take this babe out. We went to one isiewu joint. We didn't even sit up to 5 minutes when two of her friends appeared. I never knew she called them. Very well, we all ordered for a motar each and some bottles. Her friends were busy downing bottles after bottles of beer, all I did was look at them and smiled. When we were done, I beckoned on the waiter to give me the bill. When he brought it,i told him it wasn't correct. That I ordered for 2 mortars and 5 bottles of beer. So I paid for that.
Then I did something I still find funny till today. I opened my wallet to show the girls the wad of 1000 naira notes in it and then told them "see money but I no dey pay" . I walked out of the joint, got a cab and left. The girl sent a text abusing me but i no send. Haven't seen her till this day.

hadizadeezy: Do anyting for ur gal,,,if she wants you to steal, plss do cos she's your one and only

Hahahaha... Thanks my sister but I really can't steal for anybody. That doesn't mean I won't do my utmost for her..

peterjero: @Op in every relationship there must be compromise, so standing your ground all the time is plain foolishness (no offence taken). If you love someone as you rightly said you should be ready to shift ground sometimes, these guys who tell you don't lie are they even married to tell you anything. Aren't you even giving your future a thought whether your kids will be born confused (just like you) on what religion to take. #beguided

I was tempted to respond to your post in like manner (with insults) but I then asked myself how would people differentiate the two of us if I did. So I'll rather take the advice and leave the rest. Thanks

BluePearls: Before I say my piece, I wanna ask you a question. What is your religion? You didn't say if you're christian or Muslim or even an atheist.

I'm an agnostic. You can now contribute. Thanks

Ishilove:
How far? Have you resolved your issues with your woman?

Not yet, we are still on the matter. I've told her where I stand. She is unhappy with it. Still trying to convince me though.

lefulefu:
bros, na thunder by fire she go dey do for night ooo.she no go ever let u sleep when she dey cast and bind all those mammy water dem and spirit husbands for night.shey u go fit bear dat one?

Bros I don reason this side of the matter oo. We get understanding for that one. Hahaha

dazz661: Be born again...... what do you really have to lose?

Thanks for the advice but that's not the issue here.

Guy be wise, decide carefully. I know you love her but think carefully about what you are going into. Yes for every pregnancy, there is only 25% chance of having a sickler. Even that 25% chance is higher than you can risk. Having a single child who is ss is no child's play. When you see the child suffer in pains frequently, believe me, this love you are singing now, will be a long lost memory. When you spend money taking him from one hospital to another, you'll ask yourself if it was worth it.
Let's examine the issue of ivf a little. Let's say you can afford it. How many kids are you willing to have that way given the present economic situation? One session,by the way is 650k. Besides, it's not as simple and straightforward as people make it seem. Also, can you in all sincerity say you won't get your wife pregnant even once? Whether intentionally or not.
My brother, having a sickler no be joke oo. Just lost a friend 2 weeks ago. He was 24. The guy was always angry at his parents. Never stopped blaming them for what they put him through. He got tired of the pains and decided that he wanted out. He refused the blood transfusion that would have saved him and died as a result.
All these people advising you to go ahead won't be there oo. Better advise yourself now.

It's funny how people jump into abusing doctors at every given opportunity on this forum. As I recall, we claimed we don't needed them, that they are overrated, pompous, unintelligent,bla,bla,bla. We also claimed that we have nurses and other health workers who can equally do the job. So why are we complaining now? Why are groaning? In fact, we should be happy that other health workers have been given opportunity to show how useless doctors are.
Please be informed that other health workers are at their duty posts. If you have any health related issue, instead of sitting here and whining on how wicked doctors are, just stroll into a nearby hospital and one of the health workers will be glad to sort you out.

2goodbobo: If you stand by what you believe is right and answer "no" when her folks eventually ask you, hope you wont feel bad when you eventually lose her as a result of your response to the question?. #justthinkingoutloud



Is not a good sign to start a marriage when both parties are not in agreement. Their must be compromise if you want your future with her to thrive. The question is, who is ready to sacrifice and compromise?








BROS YOU SEF WHY YOU NO BELIEVE IN GOD NA? ;DU DEY MISS O

Hahahaha....you are correct bro but we all can't share the same believes na

barcanista: The bold is so true. When Doctors went on their infamous strike in Lagos, Nurses showed us that the doctors are overrated. This strike is even a welcome development for other health professionals to work in peace and Nurses display their talents once again.
When NMA are tired they will come back to their senses

I love this.... Then what is all the furore about? Everybody keeps saying the doctors are overrated, the know nothing,bla,bla. If this is true, then we all should be happy that they are going on strike. At least there are other more intelligent hospital staff to take care of our illnesses. Let's just ignore them and get on with our lives and see how it goes.hehehehe

Come on guys.... Kindly help a brother out please.

Yomieluv: Don't lie,tell them you aren't,but not ruling out the possibility of been one...religion can be a sensitive issue in marriage.

Makes sense.....thanks

ERTHAENIGMA:
don't lie

Okay....

Ishilove:
Not only is it not smart, it is also not the right thing to do. Wish you the best.

Thanks ma'am

Ishilove: Op, I wouldn't advice you to go into something as serious as marriage on a framework of lies. What if you say yes, and when finally you both get married, you don't live the lifestyle of the born again you claimed to be? Her family will know you lied to them and that is the beginning of unnecessary drama that is very unhealthy for the peace and well being of your marriage.

My advice to you is stand your ground and for God's sakes do not lie. Let your yea be your yea and your nay be your nay. It will save you a whole lot headache later on. If they don't accept it, well then, so be it. It is better to go into the marriage with a clear conscience than start something you are not sure of finishing. And your born-again girlfriend should know that lying is the same thing as committing murder. She needs to re-examine her faith and beliefs.

You just said my mind... I mean building a marriage based on a lie? It doesn't seem very smart to me.. Thanks a lot.

I created this thread the day nairaland crashed. Didn't get much inputs before that happened. Now I'm recreating the thread again to get your honest opinions. Thanks in anticipation.
I've been dating this great lady for some time now and we love each other dearly. We intend to take it to the next level but there is this snag. She is born-again but I really don't care about religion. Don't get me wrong,i know the difference between right and wrong, and to the best of my ability,i do try hard to do what I consider right.
We both know that once I approach her parents, one of the questions they will ask will be "are you born-again?". My answer will be a simple " no". She knows this and has been trying hard to get me to say yes but I don't see myself doing that. She says if I love her as i claim,i should answer the question in the affirmative but what would that make me? I know there is more than 80% chance of not receiving her parents' blessings if I say the truth and I really don't want to lose her.
Right now, my answer still remains "no". Now my dear friends, what do you think? Do I lie or stand by what I believe in?(I'll rather do the latter).

Don't know when suarez will grow up. This is quite unbecoming of a professional like him. He got what he deserved.

This is a clear case of "who them catch na him be thief". My brother if you had a way of finding out how many abortions every girl you know has had, you would be shocked. What i'm saying in essence is simple, most girls have had at least a single abortion before marriage but if you don't come across the info one way or the other, you won't know. So yes I can marry such a girl if everything in her is fully functional, womb and all.
My question now is this, what is the concern here? Is it the number of abortions or the fact that they were all due to the same guy?
By the way, I keep wondering what some folks think contraceptives are for. Na wa...

Bia emeka, nyem picture dia let me put for hia. 200 naira credit go do me call chichi this night...

Sad indeed... I totally love this guy (no homo). May his soul rest in peace.

bloggernaija: Widow or no widow.
The instructions/rules/ law was simple enough.
Why can't Nigerians obey simple instructions?
Why do we behave like animal?

From overloaded lorries,
To drunk unlicensed driver,
To roadside traders encroaching on the highway ,
Siren blaring bigman aka stupid politicians.

The next minute ,they will start complaining about bad government disregarding the fact that the government is mirroring our own personal bad behaviour.

Poverty is not an excuse.
Neither should the law develop eyes because she is a WIDOW.

The government is doing the job it was elected to do and our
Uncivilised people are talking about MERCY .
Yes ,the language was bad
But he had to personally set an example.

MY TAKE IS THAT NIGERIANS ARE SO ISED TO LAWLESSNES THAT IT HAS BECOME THE BEW NORMAL.

NOW FOR THOSE WHO ARE IGNORANT OF THE ADMINISTRATION OF THE WESTERN REGION AND THE MIDWEST,
WIDOW OR NO WIDOW,
THIS WOMAN HAVE BEEN CHARGED TO COURT ,HEAVILY FINED AND HER GOODS SIEZED .
WHEN DID IT BECOME A CRIME TO ENFORCE THE LAW?

Finally,a sensible nigerian... Your head dey there jare

macof:

Evolution is very logical and reasonable, it's because u are dumb and cannot think outside the Bible, heck u can't even think inside the Bible.

It takes more than 8000 years for a specie to completely evolve to another level.

Humans of today aren't humans of 4000 years ago, we've changed a lot

The earth's cosmology is gradually changing as well as the eco system. Evolution is the most logical of reasoning.

GBAM!!!

NnamdiN: Not funny

No be person fault na..check yourself well

rhozay96: God hammer dem

I tell you

I got this from a friend's facebook wall...quite funny

Since ASUU strike started,i haven't seen girls dp in hotels and classy cars of 2013 model; even PH loading, abuja on point,U.S shopping, benin on my mind,UK things,UK on my mind, dubai/S.A shopping, paris is the best place for your shopping, calabar was fun...lol... Everybody dey house due to ASUU strike. Abeg ASUU continue jare. Girls una never see anything ooo. Snap picture for your papa house na make we know who be who, or you snap inside your papa flat tortoise car/volvo 1980 model or mercedes benz 1982 model...lol... No money for brazilian hair. Girls dey do washing and setting, saying, leave am, na my choice. No more sharwama, ice cream, pizza from paparazees. Na buns and fish now, akara and bread, saying leave am,i want to watch my weight and slim down. Una never see anything...xmas don reach ooo...una go barb punk and carry olden days (our great-grandma afro hair) this time!!! LWKMD..choi.