₦airaland Forum

Squillaci:
Who earns more between you two?

Vega100:
Take that guy serious, he loves you.

Sixfeetbelle:
The money for the gifts didn't come for the boyfriend. Read to comprehend sometimes.

Amb1045:
see why he refused to give you the money. you told him about your plans when you saw money with him. first table the business plan, explain to him how he's going to benefit from it even when me and know you're not giving him anything then give him time when you wan to materialize the plan like months depending on the amount . make it look like a loan, that you're going to pay back

TGMISKY:
You just ended up bringing you guy here to be insulted

stonemasonn:
The guy is not stingy, stop talking ill of a hard working brother. He's simply not convinced enough to give her the money or he has other plans in his scale of preference.

Dande55:
Don't mind all these bitter frustrated broke men.
If you know what's right, pursue it. I think your bf is very stingy. He needs to change

Amb1045:
we have frustrated mad boys on nairaland. lol she only needed advice not bashing. you should explain to him why you need money from him. involve him in your income too

nwachukwu9:
I can say emphatically that there is nothing you have done. if you have even done anything at all, it is insignificant compared to what he has done. You can deceive other's but not me. They truth here is that the guy in question genuinely loves you, but you don't love the guy genuinely. If something happens to this guy and he becomes very poor, I tell you the truth you would be the first person to leave him, especially when another rich dude is promising you marriage. You are only in this relationship because it is more beneficial to you. Mark my words I am not lying. If God can open the eyes of men to see the real nature of the woman the want to marry, many ladies would be single, but our men of today are blinded by big bumbom and breast.

fatymore:
What's the big deal in helping her establish her business?

Nairaland guys are just smh.

hashtagged:
Work your own money lazy bitch, instead of chucking head in money thats not your own. Na una dey insult men abi, work the money na begger

uruba23:
Do you plan repaying the money, he made you his next of kin that is a very difficult decision to make especially when you're not married,I wanted to, still plan to, but quite difficult ,except of course he deliberately planted that for you to see.Anyway if you want to stay on your right do get married.It is not like he doesn't have nieces or nephews he can make next of kins

Samakus:
My God!! Is there a good, compassionate, girl out there at all again?

Dalil8:
Question for you;

1. What have you ever done for him financially? Bcuz you earn the same way he does too.

2. Have you ever included him in your own budget?

If you've not, then you don't deserve to spent on. You're lucky he even gives you money for pedicure and used you as his next of kin, you should thank him for that.

bigpicture001:
I am a very very hard working person with lots of creative ideas, but all those ended as nothing without being able to finance it......

I was stu k with life, just moving back na d forth till my gf surfaced and changed the narrative by courageously financing those ideas... And we are now both better for it!

If he doesn't have wat it is ur asking, it's a different story.. But if he does and doesn't want to help, yes it's his right, but that doesn't show love, trust, partnership and 2gedaness.

He has his life to live though, he mustn't see things the way I see them...

Once again I say tank you GF if your reading this. Am so proud of you

bigpicture001:
Yes it's true that the guy has a plan to grow himself financially....

But totally turning down a very nice partners financial request for just once is total selfishness.... If it were the other way round.. Guyz here would have jumped at OP shouting non-supportive gf...

Why do we even date..? Sex..?

If he doesn't think your good enough to be genuinely assisted then I fear the marriage he plans for both of you.. Cuz he will still b selfish!

mmadu4:
Another gold digger and leech .I wonder when men will wake up . Imagine using her as a next of Kin and they are not even married yet . This must be baba hand work .cos no guy with him clear eyes will do such. may God us men .

drnoel:
Best u arrange urself. He is not mandated to invest in u if he hasn't married u. Start ur business on ur own and let him see how well u are doing then allow him decide if he should invest or not.
His using ur name as next of kin is also not right unless he hopes to secure it future if anything happens to him. That for me is a big step to take before saying "I do". Be careful u don't make a wrong step by seeking much more than he is ready to give then loose out all together

ImaIma1:
But you said he foots your bills and even used you as his NOK. So why are you contradicting yourself?

skondo09:
u said u re not greedy, but wat u said here says it all. for the little spending he does, do u even reciprocate by buying him gifts once awhile, or do u think men don't deserve such..
the problem I av with average nigerian ladies is that they think men are their cross carrier and the only thing they can give back is their hairy smelly p*ssy, since u re working, spend for him and see if he won't do more than what he is doing for u..if he eventually finds a gal dt knows how to appreciate him, sooner or later u re a gunner..then u will come back NL saying men are wicked

Kobicove:
The fact that the guy was foolish enough to use you as his next-of-kin despite not been married to you yet means he wants you in his life.

The major issue here is that it appears you're a very greedy person!

He is not your father and does not owe you any obligation yet!

Ningen:
You don't spend on him yourself.
So why should he spend on you??

Don't be an entitled leech.
It's his money. And you should be okay how he decides to spend it. You are not married to him.

chatinent:
Are you really expecting readers to use rude words on you or should I mind my business?

flyingpig:
so what have you learnt? let's be sure

donbachi:
"next of kin"...the baba wey do am for u,do am well.

flyingpig:
so if anything happen to am now you don claim all em wealth , carry go marry another man
He no get brother or sister or mother? This is akin to making your girlfriend your next of kin. Well his decision. Explain to him the importance of why you need that money, may be he needs real convincing of the utmost importance of that venture.

In the end, my father will always advise and say, nke gi bu nke gi, nke anyi bu nke anyi.

Meaning "what is yours is yours, what is ours is ours". Stop having entitled mentality for what you didn't labour with him ( if he refuses to give ). Stop having entitled mentality for what is not yours. I'm sure he had plans for the money when he was labouring for it.

booscy:
HushAunty

Greed won’t let you enjoy your money and comot eye from another person money.

You still Dey find him own on top your own.

Next of kin wey him use you do na mistake because as your eye Dey red so you fit kpai d Broda sef claim him sweat

You’re Greedy Greedier Greediest

JOACHINpedro:
Op I hope this is a joke

flyingpig:
That man is very foolish for using you as next of kin when he hasn't wedded you.

Knocknock:
I no be bro o
Typo error bro