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I have 50 bags of local rice from rice mill

God bless gov wike

It is well

Omojudy:
Like seriously, cheating is bad enough. Wear a condom already! Grouse men, then they will want their wives to give them Mouth Action!

yuk

Call her and advise her nicely

BUTTERMILKSUGAR:
Seems like your spirit wife wants to suck but missed

lol

Only God know what his wife has been going through under that roof

Starthemes:
I need someone to help me in rewriting 30k words of ebook. I'm willing to pay 10k(non-negotiable). Thanks

how do u want it done?

LadySarah:
Bearing in mind that your name sounds muslim,are you sure a second wife isnt loading?

What needs to be said.
1a.When someone says hurtful things to you during a quarell,that is wht they have been thinking about you.
1b. 5x and you always come back.You are a good woman but Its time to change tactic.

2.The house belongs to both of you.If he says leave,dont leave.If he didnt push you or your stuff out,stay.Dont give him room to keep disrespecting you.Go to the fridge,take enough food then back to the sitting room.Make sure you stretch your legs well on the cushion and watch your favorite movie.You can Play a song and sing away .you can also Run around the house with your bby

If your presence irritates him,then he should leave.If he doesnt come back and the house is rented,make sure you stay till the last day of rentage and go back to ur parents,thats if he refuses to renew it.
Thankfully,their home is opened for you.

3.The baby's welfare should be paramount to both of you.so,if he didnt buy it,both of you should endure the crying.Do not initiate any discussion anymore .

4.At this stage,you shouldnt think of another baby.Theres no peace here.Work on yourselves.

5.Pray.Counselling is also neccessary.If he refuses to go then let him be.
6.If it gets physical,Nne,run!!!!!!!!!! .

PLS,Thankfully you work.Stop these arguments.Ignore him when he tries to provoke you.Dont watch warroom .Pls make yourself happy.You owe it to yourself.Dont let any human define your happiness.

op listen to this advice please

TiffanyJ:
My friend's husband used to be like this until she began to insult him back whenever he insults her in public. She said that put a stop to his bullying. Well, what worked for one may not work for another

exactly.

Op. This is bad. This is His true nature. He has two phase. Doing all this to please people is just on all level wrong. I believe in spouse protecting each other. Esp husbands are meant to protect wives. This is one major factor that can shatter a marriage. Lack of trust, bad mouthing, unapologetic and open embarrassment. Still talk to him about it. But if he don't stop, when ever he start embarrassing u or gossiping about u, bluntly tell him that he should stop it. In front of whoever he is doing it. And make sure u are firm and stand ur ground. Do not ignore him. Face them squarely and tell them how he behave when u guys are alone and how he also behave when they are around. Make him feel embarrassed too. When ever he make people disrespect u, u too should disrespect him in dia presence too. Tell his friend to serve himself too. But if he respect u ,do same.

This buhari is very corrupt. He borrow money up and down. No visible progress in his tenure. He is just embezzling money anyhow. It is well with Nigerians. No leader past or present want the good and growth of this country. I wonder when dis nonsense will end

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Cogjumo:
So true. Thank God the narrative is changing. It's no longer what it used to be.

Most men with calabash tummy will want their girlfriends/wives to have flat belly. Why should I marry your calabash tummy with my flat tummy?

And truth be told, I don't think we still have men who doesn't want their wives to work. Or am I living in a different world?

men that don't allow their wives to work are just plain stupid or wicked. This time and age is for two to put head together and take care of the home

Excuzeme:
Giving birth to a girl child is not the problem of the woman.
It is the husband that is donating X-Chromosone, associating with the woman's ALWAYS X-chromosone donation, to give birth to a girl child.

Women - XX
Men - XY
Boy Child - XY
Girl Child - XX

If you want to have a male child, your husband or you should make sure he donates a Y-Chromosone during copulation.
There are SIMPLE scientfic methods to increase the chances of donating an Y-Chromosone, almost to the pint of certainty nowadays so the sex of a baby should never be a source of quarrel in a family.

The Husband is responsible for that choice and he should do the right things.

u r a learned man. But in our society, u will still hear people that are literate putting d blame on the women.

Ok

Ezemarcel:
Nawoo na wetin women d see........

Twale ooo to all women

na so. Then some human being will start complaining if u give birth to girl child

johndan103:
Background
I am 28 years old (will be 29 on the 18th Oct) and I am ready to go the family way. I have a lovely girlfirend lets call her Hauwa, she is 28 too (will be 29 March next year) and is emotionally matured and ready to settle down too, but the problem is my mom.


Statement of Problem
My mom gets irritated when I tell her i am ready to marry. She keeps hoping i dont get married soon saying i am ungrateful for all the care she has shown me. I have a Job and i have promised to do what I should do. But she said i must not marry the person i love. She has rejected every lady I have brought home. In fact she has never approved any relationship I have ever been in. Every lady i date is either a prostitute or a low life according to her.


More Details
She wants to match make for me. She is always talking about her friends daughters, so last year i tried to reason with her and allowed her to send me her choice (this was before my present relationship).
She sent the lady's number and i contacted the lady. Very rude lady who thinks being a medical student is the best thing that has happened since sliced bread. We didnt gel at all cos i feel she's too slow and not my type of woman, she also wasnt digging the match making thingy. The lady eventually told me she is in another relationship and i felt relieved. I told my mom and she said theres another medical student (daughter of another friend) of hers.



My Point of View
I am tired of her trying to match make me with her own opinion of the best choice for me. I love this lady I presently am dating to the moon and I cant see myself leaving a matured, humble and independent woman for another slowpoke i dont even know.

My mom has said if i go ahead I wont have her blessings in the marriage and that i have been jazed. I used to think moms will be happy that their son wants to start a family but mine has made it harder for me. I know parents want the best for their children but this is a tall oder for me.


Hauwa's Point of View
Hauwa is already feeling rejected about the whole saga and has asked me to keep peace with my mom. She says she undestands moms are protective. She handeled it well with maturity. I delibratelty asked her to visit my mom from the begining of the relationship so that they can familiarize with themselves but my mom wont accept her. Hauwa is saying it will be difficult emotionally for us if our relationship and marriage is not accepted.


Mom's Point of View
The first reason my mom gave is that Hauwa is Igala while we are okun (i have introduced my mom to an Okun lady in the past she said our village doesnt marry from Yagba, I also introduced her to another youruba lady she said the lady parents are not together so she wont keep a home).
The second point my mom raised is that the lady is financially independent, makes money and drives a Jeep. (I have asked Hauwa about her financial status and I am convinced runs is not not her way cos she has elaborated on how she affords her lifestyle and its genuine).She also asked for the 4million she loaned me before I talk about marriage which I will. I asked her if she wants cash or a car and she said a benz. My plan is to get her a car before end of the year so i can focus on settling down next year. I am very lonely and tired of bachelor life. I want to settle down and start have kids not sleeping around like a fuckboy.


Family point of view
My family is very educated and well travelled so i dont understand why this issue is coming up. I am already processing visa for tHauwa cos i cant keep breaking my heart by ending relationships at her command just to to make my mom her happy. There is a high possibility i wont like someone she likes. My dad is neutral but he wont want to offend his wife so he might try and reason with her. My sisters have said they will support my chioce but I shouldnt complain if I make the wrong choice even tho my mom will try to convince my siblings not to give me any kind of emotional support.


My Question
What are the repercussions of going ahead with the marriage plans?? Has any man successfully gone against their moms wish and turned out happy??


NB: No one can change my moms mind, not my dad, not pastor, not her sister. on one because she will convince them she is right and tell them I am lying, that she has never rejected anyone except this person.
Please I dont want to give the impression that my mom is a bad person cos she has trained me in the right path and I have never lacked because of her. She is also very supportive and has provided everything and more at all times for all her children.

Please be kind to us cos im sending the link to Hauwa to read matured peoples opinion.

Cheers

op no offence. Ur mum don't want you to have a home. She want u all by herself. She don't care about u getting a family. If u like marry the woman she want, she will still be a thorn in that woman flesh. And because u love and honor her, ur wife will be miserable all thru d marriage. U will not have a peaceful home. What I advice u to do is marry the woman u love and feel u can stay with u in good and bad times. Love and honour ur mum but follow ur heart and watch how u will be happy with ur soul.

It is good to assist people through loans. But most people are not trust worthy. I can loan u but how true is ur word to return? Almost 3 people I have assisted with loan, have not been paying back. One disappeared, though she is my relative. The other two, are struggling to pay. People make it hard for people to assist people.

What kind of being is she?

Wiseandtrue:
Not everyone is a coward!!!

Y'all blaming celebrities for not speaking out, now here is one, look at what you are saying

Is this how we are going to revolt

u r on ur own. Revolt in this volatile environment?

Don Jazzy, bubu no dey forgive o. He fit come for ur head for dis statement

gaetano:
My country people are crazy. Channeling their energy towards the wrong thing.

We've been talking about coming out in numbers to challenge this dictatorship govt. Protest about the increase in VAT, lack of infrastructure! Poor Healthcare, lack of jobs etc.. But no they won't turn up. Na bbnaija and tacha them dey turn up for.

Kai! I seriously need to leave this country fast.

who wan die?

Jesus!!!

Lol

U deserve it. Order on jumia instead. They are very good

Which State please

RIP to him.

afribabe:
I am in no way supporting the DIL. But why is it that when MIL Vs DIL matter arises, people are quick to point out that the MIL suffered on husband before the wife is enjoying him. What about the wife? Some parents suffered somewhere too on her before husband is enjoying her. Husband should stop reminding the wife every single opportunity that MIL suffered on/for them. We already know this. Same way your parent-in-law suffered on your wife/ their daughter. Except you want to say the husband is married to a useless wife with no benefit to him....

Also note that some MILs be waiting with hatred in their heart for the poor girl that will marry their son. They already see her as someone that will/has come to snatch their precious son from them forgetting that their son also snatched someone/something precious from the wife's parents. But because the MIL is his mum, he will/may never find fault in what MIL is up to even when its glaring that mama dey find trouble.

That been said, dear DIL, treat your MIL like your mum. I am sure that no matter what your mum does to offend/anger you, you won't even think of raising your hands against her.

in such situation,Dil should put everything in God's hands. God fight for the innocents.

onowuolivet79:
You are an animal

thunder wey they dance zanku leg work kill u dia. Ur mad