ithink7:
If she plays mind game on you, you too play mind game on her.
If she talk about other guys wooing her, you reply, it’s time for you to find another girlfriend.
Trust me, she will quickly confess how much she love you.

� Correct.. and if you can't handle it leave for your sanity.. there are some women we tend to try and take serious, Leaving will be one of the best thing you can do, not to mess with you self esteem.

notmyrealmonika:
Nonsense... There is no odd or poor mentality in any religion. If it is odd and strange then ask the leaders and followers of such congregation where they are having their revelation from. It is definitely not from God and hence not should be associated with the religion but the leaders of such....

You might be right as well � ...

ahnie:
Too much holiness.

Hmmmm

What is that strange thing you were ever told in religion, which you find odd and non believable?

To me I think there is a poverty mentality mostly in Nigerian christainity, associating holiness , with being poor..

Kindly watch this short video below and what do you think?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rx90R2ocNYA

Honestly allot of women does this , and it seems to mess with the mental health of men, whenever you see a woman mess with your emotions in the name of making you jealous to keep you on your toes , Bro you got to leave bro or call her into check..

Like you love me how can you try to make me feel bad and toil with my emotions, intentionally.

Allot were revealed in this 4 minutes video below, Just watch it..


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v3U1fBQAb50

What is your say about this..

What kind of myopic Christain are you? Jesus did not call you to curse those whom do not believe in him, but call them to repentance, this curse will be upon you as well, for you have also sinned as well and at least broke one law of Jesus Christ in your life either as you haven't been a convert or even now as all are sinners... Unless you delete or edit this post..

Think deep before you talk, your self righteousness piece of shit ...

1st of all , the Bible says the kingdom of God suffereth violence and only the violent can take it by force, this doesn't mean a person should be physically violent and wicked nonono.. but means despite the fact the devil is out there with his evil works even trying to get those whom are righteous into sin with all his power, only the violent in spirit against the forces of darkness and those whom focus hard with the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ to make the kingdom of God despite the noise of this world.. which means taking it by force..

And to correct you Nigeria is not the most rebellious country what do we have to say in countries where they legalize same gender sex, and gave women all the societal power.. Just that the difference is how things can get hard for a person in 9ja we no get correct connection.. so country is not an escuse not to make heaven... There are righteous people whom are saved with God's grace everywhere but might be few . God bless

True love or unconditional love whereby u don't have hope of getting at least help or benefits for the other partner does not exist...

My dear brother, focus more on building your self esteem and confidence of surviving without them.. Alot of women nowadays tend to prey or act too relax when they see a good man whom is loyal and does not cheat or give them any heart race..this makes them act recklessly..


Live for yourself and yourself alone.. be strong emotionally and mentally back. Then you can know if you go for your kids..

martius101:








bro you don't know my story......lemme tell you a little about me.


I started doing Yahoo 2005 and till now...no way forward....I am saying this because I can stay anonymous....I have been to places...I have had obstacles,but still no way forward...chop this and that.

my dear brother do you know there are some things you can't control or do for your self but only God. By giving Jesus Christ a chance..

See when there are addictions, anything addiction has a specific spirit attached to it that makes that behavior to manifest in a person.. each of the demons with their specific symptoms..

See when one have tried all human effort and tried to stop and can't stop can't you see there is a very strong force behind it causing that situation to manipulate, exhaust and to deray the good plans of God in the life of the person..

Only the person that created you , can help you in this matter.. because the person who created you knows the good thing he has prepared for you..

Go to God, run to Jesus, you won't regret.. love you

mrblessed:
It worries me so much that you didn't see where/how you have wronged the family and their reason (s) for being hostile towards you. First, you got their pregnant and this act brings shame to the family. Second, you took her away from the family and didn't see how such act paints in you bad light. The claim that she was being maltreated, locked up is balderdash; a ruse to justify your questionable, ungentleman behaviour.

The major giveaway in your ordeal is the fact that you have successfully convinced yourself that you are the victim, when obviously you are not. When it suits you, you realise that the girl is an adult who has the right to do whatever she wants. But when it doesn't, you cast yourself in a helpless, fragile persona, starts complaining, looking for scapegoats. Now that you are penniless and the family isn't favourably disposed to you due to your attitude when you have "something," you are here looking an underserved sympathy.

Well, since you have increased your tally as a prolific striker that you are, you have to come clean, apologise, and peace with the family. That is the appropriate way to make amend.

I understand my beloved brother but no be all I fit type say here , I get fault or do mistake buh my brother, na cus of their daughter, even sometimes them fit send her come meet me , seh them no go give her food, that she should go meet the person she want marry.. and the girl I trust her die she's ready to go lengths with me , even if it's authority once a lady agree totally with you , authority go leave the case and then tell the parents not to force anything.. me and the girl love each other badly we never date reach a year sef you don deh hurry me for marriage and bride price.. is that how it's done?

But me tufiakwa I no dumb reach make I use authority money never deh na to calm, hustle and get back on feet...

We pray to God through Jesus Christ our Lord

Nazgul:
The parents are being hostile to you because of your current financial status. Since you acknowledged that they do go to church, try involving their pastor to mediate on your behalf so that you can at least have access to your daughter.

On a second thought since you currently haven't gotten on your feet don't you think it's wise to allow them (your wife and daughter) remain with her parents pending when things would settle financially for you? Feeding three mouths it's funny considering the current economic situation and your present situation.

Think about it.

The country is bad enough, and feeding three mouths when you clearly is a budern

thanks alot for this, you are right. I appreciate will work on it

DaddyRochie1642:
Oga when you said and I quote
"I Sold My Tools and Even my Big Phone to Feed Us"


I knew what you meant when you made that Statement.
Have you considered maybe na Karma dey chase you like this

okay? Karma in what Sense? that she told us to run? Or cus I bore responsibility for the child?

And took her for prayer , or cus I took care of the child till she's 6 months now?

2dice01:
all these long epistle
Is because you are financially Handicap


We really love ourselves na scam
if you can't provide money bruh

Go and Hustle

I believe na because I deh down for now.. anyways I get that bro thanks

Kingsasian:
When you had money why didn't you pay her bride price once and for all? Na now your eyes clear? Well in some cultures if you never pay bride price, pikin no be your own o. Na men like you dey find free wife. No need to involve police because you go lose. I blame you sha.

Me no deh find free wife oh.. infact na how me go take deh see my picin me want.. if them want take their daughter make them take her.. and as for bride price I never deh very bouyant that time.. I still deh average.. na their rush rush Dem take rush me deh ask if I go marry her or I just want date her..

If I no love her I no go reach this level.. made lots of sacrifice..

Your sincere veiw or advice will be appreciated.

I happen to meet this Lady 2 years ago who is now a mother to my baby girl , infact we really loved each other and seems inseparable, she comes to my place almost daily but after sometime the girls mother started behaving strange talking bad about me, in their Church, Street and everywhere and also, saying why do I and this Lady talk on phone every time, to the extent she fights with the father as the father supports our relationship, but due to her pressure calling all their family reporting to them that it's the dad whom have given me wife oh, without bride Price..

My Girl is 24 years as of now. Not a small kid.

And at times my lady will come to me explain all and when the mother sees me , she pretends and says nothing. To cut the story short Alot happened to the extent that she frustrated my Girl's dad till he sent her out , while the Girl came to my place and stay for 3 days.

On the 3rd day na so them both. Come oh draw her out beat her blue black , draw her for hand all my neighbors , see disgrace we I take see then..

Then the lady went stay at their place 3 days we did not see each other, on the 3rd day , I had to call my mom to come visit me so we go to their , infact there was a previous occasion I was told to bring my mother so we can plan introduction, I carry my mama reach their family head place, not even the mother who was at home came. And no list nor plans to move forward..

So on that 3rd day, the girl came to meet me and told me that we should go to ikotun side, that is synagogue church side so we can know what's really happening spiritually to pray and to know if we are meant for each other..

I told her can she do this she said we should go, so that night I took of with her there, on getting there we were told we would Lodge and me no to get money, 2k per night, ok we stay there and on the 3rd day money begin deh flow in , later after a month we discovered she Was pregnant.

But the funniest part is, that day she told us to leave for ikotun side , when we calculated the day she conceived, it was exactly that day we left for ikotun side to go pray.. I was surprised and what if I had been separated from her that time. Na so them go take call me later seh she get Belle after staying there place for 3 days not to talk of after a month, which man will believe that one..

During that time that do call us but we did not say where we Lodge or where we were and we stayed in ikotun I was paying for Lodge for 4 months.. now after sometime I got enough money , I rented another house around that place..

And because she's pregnant, we been deh fear seh make her male no talk seh make she remove am, or make them no go withold her , then when she Born make them no allow me see my baby..

We both pack to the new house and when the pregnancy was like 5 months, we both went to the parents house, they were normal everybody play, them even give me her load as I shatter cab take her load.. and we both agreed that when I have the money we will discuss about the bride price and other things.. so we left everyone was happy.

Then around 6 months again we visited them , and as well attended their Church.. no wahala happened..

Now It got to a timei got into finilancial probs things was tight that I had to sell my tools and even my big phone to feed us all till this November..

Now when things got tough, quickly left that house as something fishy is in that house, at times some house no deh favor person destiny..as we rushed then to get it as I was paying for Lodge at ikotun for 4 months, we really loved each other..

we visited their place hoping they would render help like they've been claiming she should come and take something as an in-law to their child.. the next thing the mother that is my Woman's mother took my baby girl run commot for house.. and that time I been deh complain seh chest deh pain me small small.. but who cares??

Na so the papa come In , talk seh that my baby no be me get her oh as I never pay for bride price,and seh them both lyne.. e first shock me , that I will have to leave the girl and the baby behind for them that they want to take care of them, and my girl was like what's the meaning of this, she said we should go to the police I told her no, so I felt bad and left...

To cut all short , Am very broke as of now, and cus of that , my Woman's parent seems to take advantage of this.. and not even let me get my baby out of their place .. or let me ND my woman have free long time together no to talk of 3 of us.. but my woman do bring me things she check me up in my sister's place very well..

What do I do now, if you no get money to talk I'll, it will be hard. And at least I got to spend time well with my child and woman at least but the father and mother no deh gree, to call her on phone sef at times it will be off.. cus her sim is in her mom's phone...

What do you advice I do?? Do I go report to the authority cus of my baby, or I just be patient till I get up back to rent a place and sneak them away?? As for now me no deh think of bride price na rent I deh find for now.. and see where demons deh corner me..