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Amya:
^^^^ people that know me say i overreact. By starting this thread, I'm beginning to  believe it to be true. By not asking him all this i guess i was trying to avoid a scenario like this,

       Me:       Hey, i saw your update on FB. What do you mean by that?

       Dude:   Well, ermm, i've been meaning to you tell you this. I'm in love with someone else, an er, ermm, we can't continue with this anymore,

I can understand it esp when you have some emotional attachment now. But I think it is time you let him know your feelings about him. Let him know that even though you were friends with benefit before, you have falling in love with him and would want to take it further.

If he does not feel the same, then he does not feel the same.
Confront him and lick your wounds now or leak it later. Both ways, it will suck but it is better now than later.

Amya:
^^^^ well, he didn't act suspiciously or anything, The only thing that he did that was a bit strange was, He was used to showing me pranks and funny stuff he tweets and post on FB. He didn't this time. I was actually hoping it was one of his usual pranks, but by not showing me to get get a laugh from me, then maybe it was serious.

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I think he is you friend you should ask him face to face
So you were not sure that it was not a prank? You should not have posted it here until you were sure.
Nne I metaro ya cha cha.

You said you have not been together in your usual way since then which is not normal. hmmmm

Amya:
^^^^^ been seeing him everyday. we spent some time yesterday and the day before (not in that way) still couldn't ask him to his face.

Really? And what was his reaction? Did he behave like he was referring to you? Did he behave differently from what you are used to?

Did he explain why he did not pick your call or reply your text?

You have just asked him now since 3 days ago? He has not even contacted you since then?

And people are here talking rubbish like you were crying hoax

Good now you have removed your email. This is better.

Thank God for Imo people
Thank God for INEC.

Thank God for JEGA
Thank God for GEJ.

Where is sahara reporters source and his ' GEJ and INEC are colluding to rig Ohakim in.
Ohakim did not even win any of the rerun LGAs.

macjive01:
On the become more assertive:
She wud complain that he is becoming controlling. Her friends wud start making noise that he is acting like a cave man and very African.
Early in their marriage she complain a lot about the controlling issue, he promised not be like that again so he shdnt want to stir any bee hive and possibly bring a crash of their flimsily hanging marriage.

On the culinary activities:
The man told me a very annoying tale, he said it never so to b that way ooh, that suddenly he noticed his wife's used lunch plate left unwashed in the sink when he comes home at night. He cools washes it while probably hosting with d wife who might b preparing dinner. Then she graduated into expecting him to wash up their both supper dishes. After sometime she stopped washing the pots herself. Currently when he comes back from home he finds the last night used pots, the dishes, her breakfast dishes, lunch plates and garri turner, and her supper plate - that's the day she managed to cook supper.

He said it has now become his duty such that she even now wakes him up from sleep- when he doses off after his supper, and reminds him not to forget to wash the dishes before he hoes to bed ooh!.

He said he hates it, he finds it very belittling when he try's not to do the dishes she wud complain and complain that he is not helping AT ALL at home, that he shdnt forget she is taking care of the kids. The next minute the MIL is on the phone cajoling him to assist his wife nah, does he not know it tiring looking after kids. ( what kind of tiredness cud that b abeg?)

Which marriage was he referring to? The marriage is gone.

It is possible the father in-law is dead or the MIL is separated or possible the woman is a divorce.

I wish I could speak to man as a neutral man. I would talk sense into him.

The man de fall my hand no be small.

He is suffering from pride and has no self confidence.

Jeez!

I said that that MIL is a MIL from hell. I knew it. 

@Mcjive01
Tell this guy to see me. I am serious

@Amya,

So you did not listen to my advice. Thank God you have removed your picture.
Anybody can access your fb page with that you email address because that's the email in your fb.

Anyway that's your decision.

BTW have you settled with the stupid guy?

[quote author=pres-elect link=topic=413608.msg8272829#msg8272829 date=1304720957]onye chotara otele ga akwu anyi N50.00
onye chotara fromUK ga agwu fine N200.00( otu akpa ego)[/quote]iseeeeee

[quote author=godobi (m) link=topic=655187.msg8272084#msg8272084 date=1304711101]Which pleople snatched the ballot boxes? I cannot wait any longer to read or hear the result. I also heard that there are loads of military presence in Imo so that will make rigging a bit difficult.[/quote]A hungry military man who can sell arms to MEND can easily be compromised.

Another advice

Put off the wedding until your child is 2 years. but you are not getting younger.

Just call it quits sha!

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=661549.msg8271064#msg8271064 date=1304699866]^^ True! In this case, b1tch is broke!  [/quote]You can go ahead with that, I just wanted let you know there is a probability she is not.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=661549.msg8271021#msg8271021 date=1304699579]Mr. 1,2,3 why do you say she ain't broke---?[/quote]No I said probably. I did not rule that out but she may as well be a grabber.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=661549.msg8270989#msg8270989 date=1304699187]First of all, it's not a Nigerian way!!!!!!!

It's a broke-a$$, village girl, needy and greedy, covetous way!!!

Tell her I said that! [/quote]Probably not a broke a$$ but a greedy girl.

Again, the guy should know he has no future with the girl whatsoever. She has many other people she milks

Bia ndi Igbo leee

Kedunu ebe Toshman, the crown prince of umumkpi, anu a na-agba egeb O na-acho condom no?

N5,000,000 maka onye ga-achota ya


Ndi igbo kedu maka romeo, N500 maka onye ga-achota ya

Ikomi- N50 maaka onye ga-achota ya

Presido -N5 maka onye ga-achota ya

Udo dikwara gi

Ese

This is my opinion do not marry him

This guy does not have a mind of his own. He is still attached to his mothers apron string. He probably asks for his mothers permission before he makes love to you. He is lazy and does not want to work hard.  A 33 year old man who thinks N20k from her woman is a solid base in Nigeria is yet to grow up and living a ba kwome life style. he has no shame nor pride. He believes in luck and lottery. He does not know how to manage money. His kind of person will squander the lottery money before you say Jack Robinson even if he wins itI am not sure he loves you.

It is bad enough that he is cheating and what is worse is that he does not have a plan for his future.

If you do not marry him, your child still has a father except you think he is the last option for you have to get married.

Ese run!

HourGlass1:
What is wrong with this guy na, "cool down lying down" what is the meaning of that? Anyways, i wont take a cab cos i wont, as far as am concerned its an exercise cos it was uphill. Pls just log to say hi, modath.

Nothing is wrong with me, ask my GP!
Yea I didn't expect you to take a cab either. Was just poking fun on 10 mins cool down walking 

HourGlass1:
Nice to know the house is active with serious minded folks. And thank God for victory over enablers, lol. Anyways, i decided to take a new turn today: 5 mins run/1 mins walk for 30 mins, 3 mins warm up, 10 mins cool down walk, 7 mins stretch. So welcome me back to the 5k club, i ll soon get there. Took 2 slices of wholewheat bread and 1 mango. @babs, yeah its the push ups o, am trying to change from modified style to the normal style. 123, before i open my eyes, stand up and run. Modath how far?

Abeg no open eyes before
BTW well done on some good exercise

10 mins cool down walk you would've called a cab

Todays log

340 bicycle crunches
300 seated oblique twists
300 plank rows
100 push ups

10 mins cool down lying down

jennykadry:
@ Macjive

1. When things aren't working out as planned, you change gear and go the opposite way. This woman's weakest point is attention,AND yes every woman likes attention but she sure is one hell of a lover of attention. She knows walking around unclothed would get to her hubby and also judging from the fact that she's starved him for months. SHE IS A SHOW QUEEN, A DRAMA QUEEN AND IS ENJOYING EVERY SINGLE BIT OF IT.

My advise will be to sit her down and not beg her to say something but let her realize that things are going to change that particular day whether she talks or not so it will do her some good to just talk and let it out because he is not going to be her audience anymore.


2. If she refuses to talk PLS TELL HIM TO MAKE ME THE HAPPIEST WOMAN ON EARTH BY IGNORING HER: That action of his is going to add some more years to my already long life. One thing is certain, she might not love this man anymore BUT the fact that she still does all this hanky panky game with him shows that she could still ''cares about what he thinks and prolly what he does'' if she didn't care she would have stopped being more seductive ages ago Ignoring such a woman who obviously has gotten away wit alot of things in  life and has gotten used to being called a ''WINNER'' will definitely hurt her , she might not admit it but it will definitely sink in deep in her heart that she is losing her touch of feminity on her hubby.

One thing is certain here. I can say I am 90% sure that this woman knows the kind of man she married and knows that he is a principled and disciplined man that wouldn't wanna cheat on her and that is why she is taking him for a ride.

Pls tell him to stop being soft and act as if he lives in the same house with an ant he cannot see except he uses a microscope , that is to say: Ignore her and make himself happy instead. This might be too harsh but if I was in the guy's situation , I will stop sharing the same bed with this woman. The marital bond is broken already wetin remain again . He needs to stop seeing her as his God, he needs to stop making her feel important, HE NEEDS TO BE GADDAMIT SELFISH


3. Her family? that one na family stay away from them. Those peeps haven't got his back. They want material things. They are in it for the money and goodies. They are hot cups of tea that needs to be dropped on the floor ASAP.

Above all please he should stop spending on her. She is not worth a kobo that man earns right now. To me she is just one thrash that should be left outside for council people to come dispose off

I thought this was someone's thesis initially so I didn't bother reading it. I summoned courage to read it now and what can I say, it is spot on.

I am not sure that man in the first post will have the balls to do that. The fact that MIL did not chastise the daughter speaks volume and would have made any man to wonder what is going on. An average Africa woman will warn her daughter against starving the hussy but this one? mbanunununu, ajo muo aba ekwensu anya ma o bulu Chiwetalu Agu

Can i ask if the MIL is mamaG (Patience Ozokwor) or her relative?

cool!