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Recently came across this. I think it's also approappropriate for this thread.

A THREAD ON JOKES

بِسْــــــــــــــــــمِ ﷲِالرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

All Praise due to Allāh the Lord of the all Worlds

وَذَكِّرْ فَإِنَّ الذِّكْرَىٰ تَنفَعُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ
And remind, for indeed, the reminder benefits the believers." [سورة الذاريات: ٥٥]•

Some people joke too much and it becomes a habit for them. Don’t be like the one who jokes ALL the time. The amount of joking should be like the amount of salt in one’s food, as too much laughing and joking makes the heart hard, distracts one from the remembrance of Allāh and makes you lose respect.

Ibn Qayyim said: "When the heart loose shyness, it will like the disliked and dislike the liked (things to Allāh)." •[الطب النبوي ص ٣٣٧]

Ibn Taymiyyah said: "When people help one another in sin and transgression, they finish by hating each other." •[الفتاوى ١٥/١٢٨]

Rasulullāh (ﷺ) said: “A slave (of Allāh) would utter a word, without paying attention to it, which would result in him going down into the Hellfire further than the distance between the east and the west.” •[مسلم]

So the sister in the Niqaab is NOT A NINJAA and the brother who shortens his pants or lengthens his beard is NOT A NERD!

Allāh says:

وَلَئِنْ سَأَلْتَهُمْ لَيَقُولُنَّ إِنَّمَا كُنَّا نَخُوضُ وَنَلْعَبُ ۚ قُلْ أَبِاللَّهِ وَآيَاتِهِ وَرَسُولِهِ كُنْتُمْ تَسْتَهْزِئُونَ

لَا تَعْتَذِرُوا قَدْ كَفَرْتُمْ بَعْدَ إِيمَانِكُمْ ۚ إِنْ نَعْفُ عَنْ طَائِفَةٍ مِنْكُمْ نُعَذِّبْ طَائِفَةً بِأَنَّهُمْ كَانُوا مُجْرِمِينَ

“If you ask them, they declare: ‘We were only talking idly and joking.’ Say: ‘Was it at Allāh, and His verses and His Messenger that you were mocking? ’Make no excuse; you disbelieved after you had believed” •[Surah al-Tawbah:65-66]

NEVER joke about something that is HARAAM:

Some people, especially the youth living in society tend to take the things that are Harām too lightly and something to joke about. For example, they make jokes about a person being GAY or being ‘high’, having committed zinaa, etc.

Subhaan Allāh! We forget that these are things among the worst in the sight of Allāh and bring on Allāh’s wrath and curse and are certainly NOT things to joke about.

— This is the opposite of the serious nature which is the characteristic of the believers. Joking is a break, a rest from ongoing seriousness and striving; it is a little relaxation for the soul.

A man said to Sufyān ibn ‘Uyaynāh (ﷺ), “Joking is not right, it is to be denounced.” He replied, “Rather it is Sunnah, but only for those who know how to do it and do it at the appropriate time.”

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Do not laugh too much, for laughing too much deadens the heart.”
[صحح-الجامع ٧٣١٢]•

Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez (رحمه الله) said: “Fear joking, for it is folly and generates grudges.”

“It is obligatory upon a person that his speech towards the people is gentle.” •[تفسير ابن القرطبي ١٦/٢]

al-Ḥasan al-Baṣrī رحمه الله said: “Joking too much takes away one's manhood.”
[المجالسة وجواهر العلم ٢\٣٣٣]•

Muhammad Ibn Abd al-Baqi said: “I’ve never even lost an hour of my life with games or jokes.”
[سير أعلام النبلاء ٦٢/٠٢]•

Some of the Salaf رحمهم الله said: “Whoever jokes a lot, his dignity is eaten like the fire eats the wood.”
[أدب الدنيا والدين صفحة ٣١٠]•

Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez said: “Fear joking, for it undermines chivalry and manliness.”

Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqās said: “Set a limit to your jokes, for going to extremes makes you lose respect and incites the foolish against you.”

Some people make fun of a person’s appearance, manner of walking or vehicle. But there is the fear that Allāh may requite the one who makes fun of others because of that.

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Do not express malicious joy towards your brother’s misfortune, for Allaah may have mercy on him and you may be stricken by the thing you made fun of.” •[الترمذي]

Imaam al-Nawawi (رحمه الله) said: “The kind of joking which is forbidden is that which is excessive and persistent, for it leads to too much laughter and hardening of the heart, it distracts from remembrance of Allāh, and it often leads to hurt feelings, generates hatred and causes people to lose respect and dignity. But whoever is safe from such dangers, then that which the Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) used to do is permissible for him.”

Nowadays, although the ummah needs to increase the love between its individual members and to relieve itself of boredom, it has gone too far with regard to relaxation, laughter and jokes. This has become a habit which fills their gatherings and wastes their time, so their lives are wasted and their newspapers are filled with jokes and trivia.

Bilaal ibn Sa’d said: “I saw them [the Sahābah] jokingly pretending to fight over some goods, and laughing with one another, but when night came they were like monks.”

Ibn ‘Umar (ﷺ) was asked, “Did the Companions of the Prophet (ﷺ) laugh?” He said, “Yes, and the faith in their hearts was like mountains.”

So we have to follow the example of such people, Biedhinllāh, who were knights by day and monks (i.e., devoted worshippers) by night.

May Allāh keep us, you and our parents safe on the Day of the Greatest Terror, those to whom the call will go out on that great Day:

ادْخُلُوا الْجَنَّةَ لَا خَوْفٌ عَلَيْكُمْ وَلَا أَنتُمْ تَحْزَنُونَ
“Enter Paradise, no fear shall be on you, nor shall you grieve”
•[al-A’rāf 7:49 – interpretation of the meaning]

May Allāh bless our Prophet Muhammad and all his family and companions.
•[الملك قاصم]

lexiconkabir:
Well all i can say is Alhamdulillaah! Hope you are getting stronger in the sunnah and you now like your beards?

Oh yes. The discussion we had then really strengthened my resolve. And alhamdulillah, the situation has gotten quite better with the family . The acceptance and tolerance from them seems to be growing as each day passes.
Liking the beard now. Some of your tips on maintaining it were helpful. Ori works wonders for me

lexiconkabir:
Wa ant fa jazakAllaah khaira! How are you brother?

I've been good, Alhamdulillah. How about u?

Very nice piece. Jazakallahu khairan.

In as much as the message is rather vague and non-specific, they perhaps could rather be referring to the Crimean–Congo hemorrhagic fever ( CCHF ) also called "CONGO VIRUS". A viral disease spread spread through tick bites and also which humans can be infected.

Umar Ibn Al Khattab said:
“Invite people to Islam even without words.” They asked: “How?” He replied “With your Manners.”

Jazakillahu khairan. Really appreciate you for taking time to make these write-ups. I've definitely found a lot of enlightenment in them

I also applied (Electrical Engineer). Just finished school and will be proceeding for service later this year with batch B.

Mine was probably electric circuit theory. Then Electromagnetic wave and field theory. Both 300L courses.

Jazakillahu khairan

Jazakumullahu khairan. Thanks for the clarification, I've learnt . And I'll wait for her detailed write-up on the other issue.

To be specific, an example is how I've observed the walimah nikkah is celebrated. It definitely involves many of the prohibited acts such as dancing, free mixing mentioned by lexiconkabir.
Another thing quite prevalent especially in the south west is often termed "fidau prayer" for a deceased which often leads to extravagant parties being thrown all in the name of celebrating the dead. Most of these I definitely feel aren't proper.

Asalam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakaruh. I wanted to pose a question to us all. Even though I've been a Muslim all my life, it's only until recently that I started taking extra efforts to learn about the deen properly. It seems like the more I learn, the more I'm taken aback by certain societal practices I had gotten used to all my life. One of them is how celebrations are done by muslims in this part of the world (especially weddings). From the little I know, most of them appear not to be quite proper according to the standards we're meant to follow as muslims (just an observation for now, not a conclusion).My question is simply "what does a celebration truly entail in the Islamic sense". I would appreciate if those knowledgeable about this reply as I'm also seeking to learn here. Masha Allah.

Jazakumullahu khairan

lexiconkabir:
How many of us did sujood ashukur at least once this week??

Asalam alaykum brother. Please, can u enlighten me a bit on how this is done?

lexiconkabir:
Whenever you are asked, just quote the prophet's word "if it were permissible for anyone to kneel for another, i would've ordered wives to do so for their husbands" then say, Allaah says "obey Allaah and the messenger" and that ends it

Alright. It's a very good point to keep in mind. When I think of my recent experiences and struggles, I remember the saying of the prophet (S.A.W) that a time will come when holding on to the deen will be like holding hot coal in the hand. Truly, such times have come right before our eyes. May Allah guide and help us all.

lexiconkabir:
Yeah you really right, yorubas prefer the norms of their culture to that of Allaah's deen, I'm seen as disrespectful whenever i stand to greet people older than me, but i do not care, i am striving to please Allaah and thats it!

Rightfully said

Contact17:
@ AideeSheks

You are doing the right thing. I ask Allah to ease your situation and reward you for your patience. Don't worry about the negative remarks people make. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also said: “The believer is not harmed by a thorn or anything greater, but Allaah will raise him in status thereby, or erase a sin thereby.” Muslim (2572).

I don't know if this will help but I will post it anyways. Try talking to your family members and explain the rulings.

https://www.nairaland.com/3253646/parents-potential-parentsjump

Jazakillahu khairan. I appreciate u for putting the link there. It was really helpful reading it. All these have even strengthened my resolve the further. You and lexiconkabir, may Allah bless and reward u both.

lexiconkabir:
Wa alaykum salaam warahmatAllaah, ofcourse its difficult, even difficult than cutting the trousers(talking from experience), but insha Allaah if you keep going you'll feel good about the beards, just make sure it is neatly kept, as for me i comb and oil whenever i have the chance to, it makes the beards look good, as for your family, with time they'll understand you, shaytan is just trying to make you feel bad, and as for your friends, walk with friends that has the same ideology as yours...


A quick tip, keeping the beards is scientifically recommended for men as it prevents cancer, you can research to confirm, so if thats the case, why will i for any reason shave my beards??

Khayrul kalaam, kalaamullaah, wa khayrul Hadi, Hadi Muhammad! So if you agree that the best of kalaam is that of Allaah and the best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad, then keeping the beards shouldn't be difficult, cuz Muhammad himself asked us to keep it..

Jazakallahu khairan. I'll try to implement some of these tips u've mentioned. They're really helpful. May Allah continue to increase us in faith. I really appreciate this.

lexiconkabir:
Same experience i had when i started growing my beards(almost 7months now) i had so many negative remarks, even within myself i was having whispers from shaytan that i am no more attractive like i used to be, whenever such thoughts come, i will say "Alhamdulillah, less fitna" because i wont have to battle with girls, another thing that kept(and is still keeping) me going is the words of shaykh solih alfawzaan;

"Shaytan tempts the men to shave their beards and women to pluck their eyebrows"

Anyway, this is fp worthy .....salaam alaykum sister Mukina2 do the needful...

Asalam Alaykum brother. I don't comment much here but I've been following on ur pieces. I'm also experiencing this same problem. Convinced myself to start keeping my beards about 4 months back. Honestly, it's been really difficult. Probably the toughest decision I've ever made. Even getting my family and friends to understand and support me in this is proving quite tough. And I also get these whispers from shaytan occasionally. I hope they do not overwhelm me one day. Most times, I just pray to Allah to strengthen my iman.

Quite misleading indeed. Even looking at the table, we're still only generating 3094MW(not MWh) which is roughly half of the maximum we can generate.

Quite misleading indeed. Even looking at the table, we're still only generating 3094MW which is roughly half of the maximum we can generate.

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