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jimtemi1:
Happy Birthday to one of our best selfish,selfcentre Rapper...i hate it when someone made it from the slum and get up there and think other people struggling are trash

ijustdey:
https://guardian.ng/news/buhari-endorses-plan-to-end-fuel-scarcity/

iwaeda:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/03/breaking-panic-as-abba-kyaris-wife-slumps-in-court/

bewov:
Please guys, I have something bothering me so much, I will really appreciate it if I can get a matured response.

These might be long, but please bare with me

There is this girl have been dating since March 2021. Although, we met in University days and we have been dating since 2017, but because I was graduating and she has 1 more year to spend in the school, I left her and travelled to Lagos to work, because I got a job in a company in Lagos, immediately I graduated. I needed to concentrate on my future so I told her I want to pause the relationship to focus, but I will definitely be back for her, I promised her this. She was a virgin then!

After working in the company for 2years, I also learnt some IT skills online while I was working in the company, and I was earning cool money from it, so I decided to quit the job and focus more on the online business.

My business have been doing well and I have about 2 other virtual assistant helping me out, anyway I was kind of comfortable, so I thought of fulfilling my promise to my girlfriend. I called her one morning, and she was shocked! We chatted a bit and I told her I want us to see urgently, we schedule a date for her to meet me in the hotel, because I was staying in Lekki and he stays around Surulere, I wanted an hotel close to her house, so she can return early.

We met at the hotel and I can see she missed me so much, around 3pm I told her I'm back and I want us to continue dating and I'm ready to settle down, she agreed and we have been dating, all this happened around March 2021. Around April, I travelled out for about 2months, but I was very communicating with her, and when I got back around June, I discovered she had sex with another guy in May. Now, I wouldn't say she did it because of money, because I pay her 20k every month for upkeep, sometimes I just pay her 30k! She is not a wayward girl though, and she is not a type that sleeps around with guys back then in school, but once i came back into her life, I see a different girl entirely, when I came back she wasn't a virgin anymore, it's not my problem anyway, because the truth is I never forgot her during all those years I left her behind.

I didn't tell her I knew she cheated on me, but all I do tell her was that she did something bad to me and I want her to open up to me about it, but my girl kept on denying it, she sworn with her life, that she didn't cheat on me, that night I was shocked. Then, I didn't talk about it again till September, I gave her those months to regret her actions and confess to me, but she never did, also I didn't stop helping her financially, I still pay her monthly for upkeep. I know you will be wondering why I give her money, right? This girl was with me and loyal to me when I had nothing, like nothing at all! She was raised by a single mother and she is struggling a lot, after graduating she decided to go for Hair Stylist training, that is where she is currently. So I just give her money monthly just to stay strong.

So around September I decided to tell her she cheated on me, although it was that once, she begged, cried and told me she was drunk and regretted it, she told me she doesn't want to tell me because she knows I will end the relationship, well to be candid I love her so much, so I decided to forgive her, but since that day, trusting her was very very difficult for me. Although, I do watch her and since then I have never seen anything of such from her.

January 2022, her mother stopped her from coming to my place, she wants me to come see her first before she can allow her daughter to come visit me again. So, I went to see her mom last month and I made my intentions known to her, I told her I will want to marry her daughter and she said she is okay with it, if her daughter is okay with me.

This girl is my type of girl but, she has some behaviours that sincerely I don't think I can deal with.

She has this mindset of "A woman should be equal to a man".

She doesn't respect me, she chats with random guys and if they invite her for outing, she goes with them, even if I tell her not to go! When she visits me, she says I must join her in doing the house chores, she will say "It's either you clean the house and I will wash the plates and cook, or she wash the plates and cook, while I clean the house". And sometimes if she wants to cook for me, she will want me to come to the kitchen with her and do some works, maybe Grind pepper with blender or slice onion, if I dont, she gets annoyed, saying will she be the one to be doing all?

She did something that annoyed me this morning, around 6am today I went to the filling station to get petrol, well she knows I eat early always, maybe 6am or 7am, I would have taken breakfast, but she has never dished me food at that time, I always do it myself whenever she is around. When I got back from the filling station, I still met my girlfriend on the bed pressing her phone, I told her I'm hungry and I will want to eat Spaghetti with tomato sauce, and she replied "Baby, please cook it yourself, you said I'm your queen, pamper me na" Really? What does that have to do with you cooking for your fiance?

Well, I was annoyed, I went to the kitchen and prepared the food myself, the truth is when the food was ready, I only dished my own and ate, she said "What about her? Won't she eat?" I didn't answer her!

Aside from this, sincerely sometimes she talks to me rudely, and one thing she and I knows is that she is very very stubborn and not ready to submit to any man. Sincerely, this attitude is making me scared of settling down with her, I want to propose her this year and do the marriage rights but with all this behaviours I'm thinking the marriage will be hell for me.

When she came over yesterday, I prepared food for her before her arrival, and I served her, all she could say was "What is this? The food taste bad! Is this food or poison?" She never gave a good compliments about the meal, yet she finished the food and went for second round.

Last night before we went to bed, I told her to warm the rice and the stew, she said it won't get spoilt that she will do it in the morning, I asked her if she is sure, she said Yes. And I went to the kitchen before preparing my Spaghetti, I saw the rice is already bad and can't be eaten, I showed it to her and she was like "haaa she doesn't know it will spoil"

Also, the chicken I bought yesterday to cook her the meal, I couldn't use all, I left some in the pot, and I forgot to warm it last night, my girl saw it while washing the plates this morning, and she was like "What is this?" I told her chicken and she said "And you didn't warm it" she left it there in the pot like that without doing anything to revive it. Before I went to the kitchen to do it myself!

She only washed the plates, bath and went to church this morning, she didn't arrange the bed, nor sweep the room littered with all we ate last night. I'm sure of the message she is passing to me... "Have washed the plates, you clean the house".

Please guys, I want to propose her around August and settle down with her in November, but this behaviours are the things turning me off.

Will she changed and act normal when we get married, or this will continue? The guys she chat with, which I told her I don't like it, she replied that "She will never and ever leave them". All these types of attitudes and not showing me respect, do you think she will change after we get married or she will continue?
DONT GIVE WOMAN MONEY,EMPOWER HER WITH A BUSINESS INSTEAD

Please guys, I'm very confused here

lecturer50:
I had a misunderstanding with some motor park agberos and they gang up to beat me up.

Nobody cared to try and save me from them.

After I managed to escape, some people started blaming the agberos for "fighting with me".

I was wondering how people could call that "fighting" when I was not fighting them, but they were the ones who assaulted and beat me up.

Prior to this, a lady went to fight with one boy. She was even the one who was beating the boy while the boy was trying to cover herself from the blows.


Before you know it, many men around joined to beat up the boy. They accused the boy of beating the lady even when it was clear the lady was the one who beat the boy while he was covering himself and trying to escape.


What I observe is that even if it is a female who is assaulting a male, people tend to say it is the male who is the culprit and they'll be supporting the lady.

If a male is being assaulted by another male or males, people would say they are fighting, so that they won't feel the need to save the victim from his tormentors.

All these is done because men don't want to help a fellow man.

dre11:
SOURCE

CoronaVirusPro:
Lagos state Government and touts work hand-in-hand.

Its sad to say the truth, it will continue to happen

When thuggery is interwoven with politics, above tragedy is normal.

What are thugs doing on Nigerian roads. Legalized thugs!

Nemere2020:
https://twitter.com/thecableindex/status/1501121080777486342?t=9SXbsROLxz0u7faCmURS0A&s=19[/quote]HOW WOULD THIS BOOST OUR ECONOMY? PLEASE FEED US WITH STATISTIC ON HOW TO MAKE MORE CASH

Coldie:
This is very wrong though, this should not be the criteria of rewarding people what they did is wrong me personally i hate it when men do all those stup1d waist dance.

Instead of giving people who are intelligent with no sponsors scholarship u are giving people who are dancing rubbish dance on the job scholarship.

If they want to dance they know where to do it, if they can dance as SECURITY men and get rewarded next thing even waiters and waitresses would start dancing too until everything cast

silverkings:
Good day all. One of the new generation banks employed me as a contract staff in marketing department. Digital sales product executive precisely.

Please what do i expect? How demanding is the job?

GreatAxeMan:
https://punchng.com/ogun-couple-remanded-for-murder-sale-of-womans-head/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Twitter#Echobox=1646368232

SPAMBOX7:
They are musical lyrics that motivates and inspires us to keep going in life no matter the condition we find ourselves in.
Mine are "If them tell you say e easy na set up" by 2baba and
"Overthinking no dey solve problem" by Zlatan

Drop yours let's harness from each other's motivation/inspirations

Righteousness2:
What a Pathetic End.
Adultery + Murder + Suicide = Destruction in Hell.

We need to take the Matter of Eternity very Serious.
As long as there is Life , there is a chance to obtain Mercy from GOD.
Once life goes, Mercy Expires..
Heaven and Hell are Real! Behave yourself !

kirajustice:
POLITICSNIGERIA.COM



https://politicsnigeria.com/round-up-six-major-unresolved-crises-that-may-destroy-apcs-chances-in-2023/

L1TTLE:
I've been dating her for over three months now, first day I saw her I didn't like her or anything, I just did some biz with her, had a short Convo and left, so along the line we got familiar and we exchanged contacts, went on a casual date, then she painted herself as a God fearing girl, who don't want anything with guys, then I asked her how come her relationship status isn't single on fb, she said she put that to deter guys, I was wondering what she's doing with me since I'm also a guy then she gave me a shocker, that immediately she saw me she knew God want us to be a thing.

Honestly I'm not a God guy, I'm not religious at all, but I have good morals, I have been single for long so I decided to give it a go and we started dating.

not long after that she came to my place, and one thing led to the other and we had sex, it was a very foolish mistake I made because we agreed not to indulge, at least for like three months, and barely two weeks into the relationship we had sex, then I started noticing changes, first she became possessive, like she always wants to know what I am doing, who I am with, where I am at, and I hate that, I don't like feeling like someone owns me but she would always throw a tantrum when I point that out.

Things started going bad for me, financially I was failing here and there, it was a clusterfvck, bad luck everywhere, but I didn't think she was the cause because like I said, I'm not religious, I just believed it's just trying times they come and go, but it started shortly after the sex, I'm just stating it because it's significant.

Second, she calls herself a goddess, at first I thought it was this self appraisal thing girls do, I discovered it's not self appraisal at all, her birth name is some kind of deity where she's from, at this point I started wondering what I got myself into like she's all over me, I can't breathe, I sat her down and tried to talk to her that maybe we should breakup, she started crying and guilt tripped me into having sex with her, and since then whenever she comes around it's always sex, like I'm tired of it now, I will resist and she'll do things, touch me in places and I'll be aroused in seconds, for someone who claimed she's not into sex, she's a vixen on bed, I feel like I don't even know her anymore, lastly I have terrible nightmares now, and it's always sexual, that wasn't the case before I met her, right now I can't think of a way to free myself from her shackles, I just want to undo everything, make everybody dey him dey.

iwaeda:
https://independent.ng/cost-of-governance-waste-of-public-fund-threat-to-nigerias-development-peter-obi/

TheFinance101:
It’s the first week of the month and your salary has finished. Why? If you can’t comprehensively answer that question then this post is for you.

Your salary or income is what most determines your lifestyle. Being able to manage your money effectively can be the difference in how and when you achieve financial freedom. If you are struggling with managing money, here’s how you can build a money routine that will ensure you meet your financial goals.

1. Track your spending
The first step to managing your salary wisely is to know where every cent is going. Keep an eye on how much you’re spending and for what, especially when it comes to personal expenses.

Make use of tracking apps, spreadsheets or even a book and pen if that’s what works for you, but you should be able to account for every penny of your paycheck.

2. Stick to your budget
Budgeting is the baseline of all financial planning. It helps you stay in control of your money and allows you to keep a track of your expenses.

Plan for every expense carefully; whether it’s the 50-30-20 or 70-20-10 budgeting rule you intend to use, make a budget and stick to it.

3. Pay Off Debts
Another step to managing your salary wisely is to include a provision to pay off existing debt on time. It should be a priority when planning your salary.

Debt can be a heavy burden on your personal finances. You should consider paying them off as soon as possible once you start to generate a steady revenue stream.

4. Invest in what works for you
Besides an emergency fund, you should set aside some of your income towards investing for the future. You can start small while you figure out what option works best for you.

Depending on your age and your financial goals, create an investment plan and build a diversified portfolio to secure your future.

5. Treat yourself wisely
It's important to leave room for some of your wants to stay on track. If you don’t, you’ll be discouraged and eventually give into the pressure to splurge unnecessarily.

Just remember to keep it simple. If you want to buy yourself a gift, it should be budgeted for. Planning for your future doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your happiness in the present.

6. Automate your finances
Putting your money on autopilot is a really great way to successfully stick to your budget and financial goals. You can sign up for automatic debits or set up bill pay with your bank.

Do this for your savings, investments and bill payments to ensure they are paid on time. Make necessary adjustments occasionally to ensure everything is going as planned.

Final Thoughts
The biggest favour you can do yourself is to smartly manage your money once your salary is paid. To live a comfortable life, implement these habits to make it easy for you to manage money.

Traplord09:
2023: I'll Retire All Army Generals Making Money On Fight Against Terrorism, They’re Like Boy Scouts, Sowore Vows



http://saharareporters.com/2022/03/01/2023-ill-retire-all-army-generals-making-money-fight-against-terrorism-they%E2%80%99re-boy-scouts

Righteousness2:
What a Pathetic and Unfortunate way to Depart!
Sexual immorality has Collasped, Destroyed and killed so many Glorious Destinies...

Hear this! No Prayer on Earth can Change the Eternal Destination of a Man/ woman who dies in act Immorality. Don't waste your RIP!

Run from Immorality!
Run From Evil! Run Fro Sin!
Embrace Holiness and Righteousness that comes through JESUS Christ..

OGBEREIJEBU:
Stright to point

I am 36years old. Many years ago after NYSC, I have no Juicy paying Job that can enable me to marry. I was in a relationship with Ugochi from when she was 20 until 28.
Age was not on her side so I being a nobleman advised her to go ahead and marry one wealthy middle-aged man 41, that was asking for her hand in marriage.

The pressure to marry him was too much from her friends and family. I had no juicy Job, could barely eat, pay bills and have a chance to even drink and buy clothing.

I had to make sacrifices for her, so 5 days to her wedding, we agreed in unison to meet for farewell and farewell F@@k.With frustration and Heavy heart I ca..me deep inside her Four times. Gave her money for drugs (White quinine or postinor 2), she rejected it and promised to take care of it herself. I went to her wedding, eat, wished her well and left. Cried all night and moved on.

Her hubby took her to Abuja.

Now I have a good job. I am building my house and I have a car. I am extremely comfortable now.

I got a call earlier this year and it was Ugochi. She was desperate to see me.
she travelled down to Lagos to see me.
I wasn't comfortable so I talked her out of coming to my house. We met at an eatery and she came with one handsome little boy.
I ordered Food for them and then my biggest fear came.
She said her husband found out the baby is not his and sent her packing.
She informed me the baby is mine.

I was shocked and I had to tell her I am squatting with someone, She and xxxxxxxx left for Imo State but before then, I denied and I argued, I went defensive.

The problem I have now is that I am planning my traditional wedding in August 2022 I have a presentable fiancee I love way too much.

Now, I can lie to the world but I can't lie to myself. That Little boy looks like me and has my pointed nose. Facially, it is glaring He is mine but I don't love Ugochi again, I have moved on. I love my fiancee so much.

How can I handle this situation?

SATANICALLY:
http://saharareporters.com/2022/03/01/breaking-sowore-declares-run-nigerian-president-2023

Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.