Women matter no be here oo!

meehn! Omotola own dey sweet me die

Nnemuka:
girls of nowadays sef, so desperate.
your mum must not complain before any one in her right senses will do the needful....
If it were to be your personal house no wahala but coming to disturb an old women with loud moaning and "baby am cuming" is not allowed.

lol...the bolded got me cracking

Sleekbaby:
Ur mum is right, ur fiancee is not supposed to sleep in d same room with u in ur father's house unless in ur house and at d same time ur gal is right. She can come n go bcoz from the look of things it seems she can't resist ur presence so y toture d gal. U can visit her if there is need 4 intimacy but if not allow her to visit n go as usual. Peace.

spot on

I was recently transferred from PH to Imo State, being my hometown, by my company. I stay in my family house for now, pending my readiness to find a house outside. My fiancee, having being known and accepted by my mother and siblings, usually comes from school to spend the weekend with us.
Albinitio, she usually sleep in another room, as an instruction from my mum, since we have not yet gotten married. At some point, out of my fiancee's desperation and eagerness, things changed and before i could know it, she has started sleeping with me in my room, which my Mum earlier ignored and the trend continues.
One evening, My mum called and sat me down, cautioned me seriously never to allow such act to happen again, as long as she's still alive and under the same roof with me.
Two days later, i passed the information to my fiancee and pleaded with her to see reasons with me on the the development. surprisingly she kicked against it totally and threatened never to visit my house again, that even if she is to come, she will come and go back that same day. And she has been maintaining that declaration till date,and i kept mute about it.
Prior to toady, we agreed to spend the weekend together, but should be in her school. Today, some kind of thoughts flashed through my mind which made me to start asking myself how foolish i have been by dancing to this girl's tune. I had to call her on phone and threatened never to visit her in her school this weekend, instead, she should be the one to visit. she flared up and started saying that she dare not come if she's not sleeping with me in my room, that she is fine even if i decide not to come again.
And my Mum has already started noticing her scarcity in the house, probably suspecting that her absence could be as a result of her earlier warning.
My people, please judge me, my mum and equally my fiancee. Am i truly exhibiting the mumy's-boy attitude as she called me, or am i right in supporting my mum?

I was recently transferred to Imo State, being my hometown, by my company. I stay in my family house for now, pending my readiness to find a house outside. My fiancee, having being known and accepted by my mother and siblings, usually comes from school to spend the weekend with us.
Albinitio, she usually sleep in another room, as an instruction from my mum, since we have not yet gotten married. At some point, out of my fiancee's desperation and eagerness, things changed and before i could know it, she has started sleeping with me in my room, which my Mum earlier ignored and the trend continues.
One evening, My mum called and sat me down, cautioned me seriously never to allow such act to happen again, as long as she's still alive and under the same roof with me.
Two days later, i passed the information to my fiancee and pleaded with her to see reasons with me on the the development. surprisingly she kicked against it totally and threatened never to visit my house again, that even if she is to come, she will come and go back that same day. And she has been maintaining that declaration till date,and i kept mute about it.
Prior to toady, we agreed to spend the weekend together, but should be in her school. Today, some kind of thoughts flashed through my mind which made me to start asking myself how foolish i have been by dancing to this girl's tune. I had to call her on phone and threatened never to visit her in her school this weekend, instead, she should be the one to visit. she flared up and started saying that she dare not come if she's not sleeping with me in my room, that she is fine even if i decide not to come again.
And my Mum has already started noticing her scarcity in the house, probably suspecting that her absence could be as a result of her earlier warning.
My people, please judge me, my mum and equally my fiancee. Am i truly exhibiting the mumy's-boy attitude as she called me, or am i right in supporting my mum?

Why are even struggling to live when we know that we are living to die someday.

lol...I recalled of doing this. there was this our neighbor's child that was extremely stubborn, though of the same age with me. He always snatches my tire from me, and whenever he does, i would cry and cry, while he would run away with it. This always made me to cry whenever i see him approaching towards me, even when he had not yet seized my tire. And the worst part of it is he was stronger than me and i feared him so much

hazyfm1:


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ARE YOU GAY?

Typo error bro...thanks for the observation

hazyfm1:


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ARE YOU GAY?

Typo error bro

I had similar experience with my Ex. Her name is Vivian, whom i loved so much. Things were rosy for me when i met him. A time came when I had some challenging issues in my work place, hence prompting my resignation. Not even up to month of the incident, when Vivian started acting funny, next thing she told me is never to disturb her life again. Oh, it was like my whole world had crashed. After some months, came back to life and moved on.
Six months later, i got a call for interview in one of the prestigious banks, and fortunately for me, i made it, a good position and a mouth watery salary. She got the info about me from my Cousin, lo and behold Vivian traced me to my office and was pleading and crying for forgiveness.
I pretended to have accepted her back. I used that opportunity to nack her abuna like crazy. After some weeks when i think i'm satisfied with her abuna. I gave her the shock of her life never to visit nor call my line EVER AGAIN in her whole life.
It was my Cousin who told me that Vivian has been crying since the day i told her off. Definitely i don't bloody care because she did same to me without minding my emotional feelings and i returned same to her. That serves them (women) right.

Xiadnat:
.......this story happens all too often. It only seems it's rather exception to rule for the opposite to transpire.

Truth is, moral of story is: if you want to help someone, do it selflessly wanting nothing in return. Nothing is guaranteed in this life.

Op, someone better will come along. I don't think you were ever meant to be with this individual. Just dust off, shake it off and look forward to the person meant for you. Better that you realize this now, than many more years wasted with her.

I think that if she truly played you for money, then she will in turn reap what she has sown with you in one way or another.

You know people slip up at some point, I think you got blinded by your emotions, and you failed to see the subtle signs that she was using you.


I wish you well. The best is still ahead. It is well.

If you have not encountered heart break before, especially from a woman you truly love, you will know its quite suicidal.
@ op, Its only God you need to run to now, to amend your heart. Its well with you.

Rubbish making frontpage this days.

Some Nollywood actresses using juju to hook a man since the days of Samson and Delilah.

*Yawns* Abeg make Una leave women matter for Mathias. There matter knows no end.

raydatluvs:
Personally, I think the op shud add certain figure estimates to his posts, cud help understanding. Like aw much does he intend to spend, how much is left, wat is ur income stream cos it might be dat u just are not liquid now and , wat does the lady think about dis, how old is she cos I sense it m8ght have to do with pressures frm her etc

Then I don't tink its okay to put a rigid benchmark to life, let ur benchmark be flexible to ur circumstances, one of the attributes of having a good home. So if because u have reached ur 'benchmark' u wana rush den I feel u shud rethink. So I tink i wud need more info buh with the given, i tink u shud relax a lil more.

Wed within ur means, marry with all ur means...

@raydatluvs, you might be right to some point, but i think disclosing the information of my earning, how much i have invested, how much i have at hand, and the amount am looking out for etc, as you requested above might not really provide the solution that i seek. My main concern here is if i'm to postpone this event, what kind of face will i use to inform some of my friends and colleagues that the event has been postponed. Because of what? insufficient fund...kai, it really sounds weird.
A contract i carried out lately with the 99% assurance of yielding some reasonable amount of money, which i wanted to use to complement, was unfortunately shifted to be awarded by January next year.
As for my fiancee, she is 24 years old and actually not the one mounting pressure on me here. She is such a wonderful lady i have been with for some good number of yrs now.

ronald4lif:
Borrowing to fund a wedding is not a good idea and you should dismiss such thoughts without delay.

The wedding plans should be executed within your budget and don't secure soft loan for whatever reason. There's no perfect wedding and no matter the resources deployed it won't satisfy the guests and what's the essence of pleasing people to have an outstanding wedding when you have greater challenges to face after the nuptials?

I don't know why people pay so much focus on weddings and not on how to financially sustain the union after all the show off. Once you secure a loan it's going to have a toll on your finances as you'd struggle to clear it off while the home suffers for it.

Don't go beyond your budget and means to please people, it's not worth it. Anyone who turn up and food or drinks or souvenirs didn't reach them should return to their houses and eat. If their reason for showing up was to gulp food and drinks like hungry lions then they had better not turn up.

The bolded got me cracking

Gracious10:
Men and their pride.
You know u don't have the funds, why embark on a wedding that will clean up ur account?

Whats wrong in inviting 20-30 people for your wedding? Must it be elaborate? What's important is that u got wedded.

This is the reason why people impose financial bondage on themselves. You should show ur inlaws how ur pocket is from day one. If they are considerate, they wont expect much from you.
Moreover the lady is still in school, if you are the one footing her education, you should please take it easy with funds because money is vital in marriage.

Do what you can do, if that woman is for you, she will definitely understand and work with you.

Thanks for your inspiring advise.

aflyingbird:
u started distributing iv cards for a wedding u don't even hv the money to fund. do pple not think anymore? . ur wedding can be put on hold. u'r still young. if u get married at 31, 32, u will not die. ur fiancee sef is just in 3rd yr at uni, so who is chasing both of u to put urself in debt and get married when u can't pay for it? take ur time and wait till u hv the money.

You are right in what you said. What actually caused this financial breach was as a result of a particular business deal i executed which i thought would have brought some reasonable amount of money to me to complement, but quite unfortunate, the deal was extended to early January next year. My other challenge also is the wedding card that has already been distributed to some friends and families. What will i tell them?

sinestro24:
you printed invitation cards before you inquired about wedding cost.

now you want to borrow money to wed,

dude with due respect sha, you seem like an unorganised and confused person.

thank you. At least you contributed.

ify84:
I also gave myself a benchmark not to reach 31 before I Marry... And I am Married at 30+ ...i took a very soft loan... Repayment date at my own time, d person won't ask me about it... I requested for support as well from friends, which I got.

Today, I am married, my wife is in school, I have no particular job, just on the street hustling... But we are very ok by enjoying wat we have... At least, I am very ok... Not to talk of u wit a job... Responsible people marry to remain responsible... While settling their 'mortgage' from their decent earnings.
Note ' be sure ur wife is ready to manage with u pending wen u will fully arrive...

Go ahead, get Dat soft loan... If it's not soft, consider another place to get it, don't reschedule.

thanks so much...your comment is inspiring.

I am a working class guy (middle class to be precise). I am currently working towards my wedding arrangement which i proposed to be in some months ahead. My fiancee is still schooling (3rd yr) in one of the Nigerian Universities.
I must sincerely tell you that after putting down some estimates with an event planner, it resulted that the cash i have at hand is not enough to foot the whole bills. It was at this point that the idea of going for a borrow automatically came to my mind, though my other thought is kicking against it.
Mind you, my woman is not pregnant, as to say i'm rushing things, but why i'm actually thinking of embarking for a small loan is 1.because an invitation card has already been printed and partly distributed to friends and families. 2.Part of my life decisions is never to marry late,30 yrs of age, which i'm currently in is my benchmark.
Now, my ever-hungered answer(s) to my question is this-should i reschedule the wedding date until i am fully ready financially or proceed with the soft loan in other maintain the proposed date. Your sincere advise will go a long way in putting me on the right track.

I am a working class guy (middle class to be precise). I am currently working towards my wedding arrangement which i proposed to be in some months ahead. My fiancee is still schooling (3rd yr) in one of the Nigerian Universities.
I must sincerely tell you that after putting down some estimates with an event planner, it resulted that the cash i have at hand is not enough to foot the whole bills. It was at this point that the idea of going for a borrow automatically came to my mind, though my other thought is kicking against it.
Mind you, my woman is not pregnant, as to say i'm rushing things, but why i'm actually thinking of embarking for a small loan is 1.because an invitation card has already been printed and partly distributed to friends and families. 2.Part of my life decisions is never to marry late,30 yrs of age, which i'm currently in is my benchmark.
Now, my ever-hungered answer(s) to my question is this-should i reschedule the wedding date until i am fully ready financially or proceed with the soft loan in other maintain the proposed date. Your sincere advise will go a long way in putting me on the right track.

Something must kill a man

something must kill a man

Shameless governor

To copy this tune, press 1!!

How many are these Boko Boys that they hardly finish upon some reasonable number of them that have so far been killed as claimed. My main concern is when i will hear that Shekau, the BH leader has been killed.

FestacGirl:
Hmmm, might be true
but am not like that

U LOOK BEAUTIFUL