How is this man Emeka Offor?
You no sabi Emeka Offor?

I have seen him physically and he doesn't look anything close to this man.

maiiilooo:
I'm just curious, so I decided to throw this question to the house.
Some people are fortunate to be employed or were employed in a job where they had no experience. Maybe as a fresh graduate or probably you lied about having the skills or experience.
So how did you cope during your first days at work ?
Tells your story please, I'm just curious to know.

I had a similar experience.
The rule of fake it until you make it applies most especially when you are abroad because it is hard for companies to verify your claims back in Nigeria.
I was being stack honest and receiving negative feedbacks until I learned the scope and lied softly in my CV.
I claimed the experience I never had in Nigeria and claimed some skills I wasn't proficient in.
Fortunately, I got an invitation and took advantage of the timeframe and prepared myself and confidently passed through the interview stage and got my first profesional job.
My fellow graduates who are still being totally honest are still looking for jobs till now because companies have some things they are looking for which they don't have.

I would advise ou to start now to prepare tirelessly about what you lied for because they will most likely give you some challenging tasks with the hope that you already know the skills needed to do that as you indicated in your CV.

Lade18:


Don't listen to the naysayers on this thread. If you're already in the abroad, then find a way to bring her over. I read in one of your posts that the lady in question is shy and religious. That's a better prospect. Most Nigerian girls already in the West are nothing to write home about TBH. So, if you find one back home that is decent, please go for her

Exactly what we face here. It is extremely hard to see a decent lady here. Either they smoke, club or have a boyfriend.
And marrying a refugee girl or even a white woman for paper is out of the equation (because I am at the verge of securing paper with my professional job so no need marrying for papers)
I find it hard meeting nice single girls here, though the ones I met were in the clubs.
Maybe I will try searching in the churches too

Annahh:
If she wasn't a doctor would you have been interested, I have heard of how abroad men line up in federal hospitals looking for nurses and doctors to marry so that it will be easier for them abroad.

Like I said again, if she isn't a doctor, would you have been interested to marry her?

Lol, you obviously don't know who you are talking with
I won't blame you shaa

DBestDoc:



I’m sorry things happened the way they did but she did nothing bad really.

@Bolded, she was very much single.

She must have learnt through experience that it is very very foolish for an unmarried woman to chase other prospective love interests away because there’s some guy somewhere who ‘ promised’ her marriage. Highy foolish.

If her eggs were all in your basket alone, you’d have dumped her as.s after the discouraging comments you got here the first day you created this thread and she’d have to start all over. But look at it this way, if things didn’t work out between her other man and herself, you’re there already as another solid plan A ‘cause you guys must have started bonding already.

So, there’s nothing wrong in being polite with you and many others, provided she isn’t sleeping with you guys. After all, she’s not God that knows the end of a thing from the beginning.

Your own woman would come, no worries.

In my case, it was 5 guys at once after I received sense.

You really made a lot of sense

advanceDNA:


..Even doctors need millions to go abroad.. NHS doesnt invite them for free....saying he's sending her abroad is just because of the finance involved

You really have time responding to all those ITK locals claiming they know it all.
Apart from that, the rigorous process involved in that NHS route and the success rate compared to going abroad for post-graduate studies which is by far easier once the money is available .
Some people's problem is claiming to know everything still they don't even know their own problems

Lol.
Some people are really very funny I swear.
Let me ask those people one question?

What do I gain lying?
Do you know me personally?
Who gives a Bleep lying to you and what do I fucking get from that?
Why not run a background check on this account before spewing trash?
You think I can just open an account and start the year with lies?

Make una be reasonable for once.
That you lie up and down doesn't mean others lie too.
For the wonderful guys that contributed, I appreciate.
This experience is an eye opener.
Thank God I created this thread otherwise I would have wasted hundreds of thousands of naira on gifts

I was just going through my Facebook around 4am and noticed that someone tagged my so called girlfriend and her husband and congratulated them on their wedding which happened on 7th January.
She wasn't the one that posted, she was tagged to the post.
This is the highest shock of my life this year.
As in, is this happening? or am I dreaming?
How could she be in a serious relationship and still kept on acting along and toying with my emotion?
She was recommended to me last month around 15th December, what is the big deal in telling me that she is not single so that I move on with my life as fast as possible?
She was chatting romantically with me all these while and giving me all the green light and even sending hug and kiss emojis and my head was swelling.
Thank you all for your wonderful responses

Reminderz:

love is blind they say... it makes men act stupid most times... I pray you don't regret this... never cross a bridge for someone that can't cross over a line for you... you don't even know her well yet, abi you think say na I love you so much wey una dey tell each other abi? e go shock you... sponsor your siblings instead or one of your family instead.

even if you marry someone already abroad, you're already at a disadvantage because she can decide to change any time and use their law against you and collect all your properties. the law favours women most there whether they are right or wrong. better use your head. it doesn't end well most times.. make logical decisions or you will cry.

So wetin person go come do again na?
Make person no marry?

ifihearam:


You will regret it I promise you and it will be your loss.
What tribe are you or the girl?
Never accept women from relatives, all girls in naija are opportunists..You will regret it..Never you sponsor any woman.
There are single,marriageable girls where you are, money is not everything..go out, socialize since you doing well, meet new people, interact..its better to marry a Nigerian or a foreigner who has same drive as you than sending a nigeruan girl abroad...she will disgrace you.

Na waoooo, I'm scared with all the comments I get from this thread.
Does it mean that there is no good girl in Nigeria who won't change and abandon one when she goes abroad?

Wickedfacts:


Na saviour complex dey worry you and you sill suffer if you are not smart.

I was once stupid enough to buy a car for an idiot I intended marrying. One day, she told me to stop making noise in her car. 2010 Rav4 I paid for 100%. I collected my car back and dumped her. Her mother begged taya, I didn't listen. I could cut my losses cos I was yet to be married to her and we were both in Naija.

You think your money can buy love? I laugh.
She will agree to marry you, then after she has gotten her papers, she will meet someone else, divorce you and collect your properties. I have a friend who sponsored his fiancee to Canada in October and she dumped him this December. He's running around doing family meetings and I'm just shaking my head cos I warned him.

If you want to marry, look for a lady already abroad. She won't pretend so you can take her abroad for free. She's already there.

I will share these threads with you, please read them carefully. It shows the experience of Igbo men abroad who brought ladies from Naija and married them. These wives are in the medical profession.

https://www.nairaland.com/6318683/abroad-sisters-stop-shaming-us

https://www.nairaland.com/4552939/why-nigerian-husbands-kill-wives#68340154

These are really heart breaking stories

Angelacruz:
It is a like a culture in Igbo land that they will always recommend someone for marriage?

I have a roommate whose her family pressurized her to marry a guy that came back from Abroad..

And she doesn't like the guy sighting that
he is old but the family still insisted.

I think it is cool. I have a friend that married same way, they recommended someone for him and they started communicating and videocalling, from there the man travelled to Nigeria and they wedded and are living in peace as a husband and wife. He has even brought her over and so far no problem.

Wickedfacts:


Others are trying to tell you politely but I will tell you raw:
You are a very stupid and senseless fellow

Better pick a Nigerian where you are and marry. You will marry a young pretender who will enter where you are and start using using ruler to measure where your mother can sit and stand. Shebi na your mama recommend am to you, no worry. You go see.

Hahahaahhaahahhaahhahhhaah

jesmond3945:
did you properly date this babe like she was your gf before you migrated. Because if you are just dating her as abroad guy and she is a medical doctor, I cannot predict the outcome. You know Nigerian girls love abroad guys and can do anything to land one. I will suggest you bring her abroad, please dont rush to marry, [/b]date her first, if she is what you want then wife her. [b]The biggest challenge is sex, you wont be getting it even when you are Hot
You would get it when she feels like.

Thanks so much for your wonderful advice.
I never even see the girl physically, she was recommended to me by a relative.
If I bring her to the abroad without legally marrying her, it is more risky because it means that she can marry someone else and abandon you.
Sponsoring someone to the UK is around 20million naira , I have the money actually but I don't plan to waste it on someone who would abandon me for someone else after investing almost all my lifesavings on her. It could be suicidal.
As for the sex part, it will also be bad because abroad is really very lonely and depriving me of sex is punishment because I have only had sex once since I moved to abroad and currently sexually deprived. Na masturbation I dey use relieve myself here while focusing strictly on myself and on money.
No lovelife, no funlife, strictly hustle and personal development for many years now

SyrusdeHansome:
I hope u won't come back nd cry of betrayal cos i see no reason why a guy dat has the means to travel abroad nd improve his social nd economic status is planning to gamble with the money. It's even better to send our sisters abroad than to send some women we call our wives not to talk of sending a total stranger. Those who gets help on a platter of gold rarely value the help nd i hope ur case will be dfrnt.

I am in abroad already and whoever I get married to must join me too so that we both stay here together as a husband and a wife.
I only want to check my options first before delving deep into it

bukky1994:
Hmm, it's 50/50 anything wey you see, make you take am

Hahahahahahahahaahahahhaahhaha

jogsman01:

Premium tears loading.....


.....50%

How do you mean?

Hey guys, this question goes to the men in this thread who are married to medical doctors, especially those working in the UK or any other western country.
What are your experiences?
Judging from the busy schedule of medical doctors, how do you guys take care of the children?
What are the biggest challanges you face in your marriage?

I am currently dating a medical student and plan to send her abroad immediately after her studies.
I would appreciate hearing from those with the experience or those whose relatives are married to medical doctors and both of them live in any western country.
Thank you.

Wickedfacts:


This simply shows you guys are stupid and short-sighted. When you started this nonsense, we warned you guys about the danger of allowing Kanu and his band if idiots dictate the tempo of the East but you called us slaves and cowards. Now, see who will be locked indoors on election day like dogs.

Keep blaming everyone but yourselves. You will learn the hard way.

A typical Yorubad muslim urchinn believe that every igbo man is an IPOB supporter. What a shame

LegacyB:


You are doing yourself . Hope you will type this nonsense when your family is among the dead .
NB: Those he kills are majorly Igbos. So why this stupidity?

Check my post above. That nuisance you qouted is a Tinubu urchinn and most likely a yorubad muslim.

BATified2023:
God bless u my brother,keep doing d work of Elohim

Even if they arrest u another brutal man will come up, that’s d spirit

Biafra must see d light of d day n anyone who dares come out to vote in the zoo must pay with his life

BATified2023:
if Igbo hate couldn’t stop buhari twice, it won’t stop tinubu

This should tell you guys that Tinubu ulchins pray and endorse this efuluefu called Simon Ekperime.
Na thunder go strike that usseless coward who collected bribe from Tinubu and is hiding in Finland to instigate war in Igboland and jeopardize Mr Peter Obi's chance

Tezzi:
Ask her if she can s*CK Mr Dixkson Wella
Or if she can nak doggy

Huh

Folastar11:



There is a lot you can talk about. Starting from movie music sports entertainment fashion lot more. Just make sure you ask her questions and through that questions you can have much more deep conversion. Remember girls are talk active once they are into someone.

Thanks so much for your suggestion. She is very reserved and studies medicine in a federal university. Medicine students are usually too serious for movies and sports and people talk more on the subjects they know much about.
I will try to find out what she likes and then know how to take it from there, thanks a lot.

Bluezy13:
Akwa okukuo

Fowl egg.

Lol.
Please do you have any clue to my questions?
I am very serious.
Most of the information is filtered for confidential reasons

Hi everyone. I am a young ambitious guy based and working in one of the western countries and recently my mum recommended a girl to me.
The girl is a very shy person just like me, young, very intelligent and God fearing.
She has all the qualities I need as a wife and from the pictures we exchanged, I am falling madly for her already.
The problem now is that in most cases, I don't really know what to type or say to keep the conversation going.
If I chat, she responds almost immediately and I have to initiate another thing to type or say again.
Now my question is simple.
What topic do Nigerian girls really enjoy and find interesting?
How do I keep the conversation going without sounding boring and clueless?
How do I get her to fall in love with me?
I am about 30yrs old, doing well financially and professionally but without any girl in my life.
I am among those that always chase money without giving much attention to girls and relationships.
Only dated once in my life when I was still in school as far back as 2013.
Now, that time has come to give attention to a special girl, but my typing topics and conversational words are limited.
Any suggestions on how to tackle this and keep the conversation lively will be appreciated