J12:

Depends on your age. From my deductions it seems you're under 27, what the politicians will want from you is your waist. That's why you are advised to start an NGO first.

Yes am still under 25 and the NGO thing is not a bad idea. I will start working on that now, I just felt been directly involve in politics will make me have direct impact in the life of many ordinary Nigerians with the money meant for them. Cos with the NGO I will still have to go back to the same politicians to source for fund and I will only be able to reach just a minimal number of people but I think it won't be a bad idea to start from there now, with all these black juju and opening of leg comments.

maclatunji: Errrr... don't start by joining a political party. Start with your neighbourhood, what do people there need or require for a better standard of living? Can you use your skills to help to see that your community's needs are met? Can you communicate effectively with those in power to get things done? I think this is a safe way to start. In the process of doing this, you will learn more about human nature, how political power operates and how people use it.

I think the essence of politics in its pristine form is to acquire power to be able to touch people's lives positively- start with that and I guess you will find out if it is for you or not.

By the way, I am not a big fan of politics but understand that you need politicians to get the country going.

Thank you for the advice, I think I will consider your advice and @slygy that talked about starting an NGO.

@others so what you are saying is that all female politicians sleep their way to the top?

Why I want to join politics

At a point in my life I had to stay with my grand parent when my mum wanted to go back to school. She had me at a pretty young age when she was still in the university therefore the reason to go back to school. My school was in front of a slum and as a 7 year old child I used to feel something different seeing that sight but would never understand why or what. I never shared this with anyone and just felt helpless.

I always had goose bumps seeing slums and needy people. My mum was the last born and 12th born of her parents these means I have loads of Uncles and Auntie's and the only thing they knew how to the best is buy me loads and loads of clothes and shoes, I had more than I could wear then, As I grew up I saw some girls within my age group leaving in that slum wearing rags and dirty attires, I always wonder why they had nothing to wear when I had more than necessary at home, I started to hide one or two clothes in my school bag everyday, dashing it out to the girls after school hours. Nobody notice my clothes were missing or something, I just made sure I don't touch the one's mum bought for me, this is the place from where the seed of giving back to the society was
planted deep in my heart.

My grandfather was into politics then, he was like a mini-godfather of politicians back then in the village. I was exposed to a little background of Nigeria politics through him. I started voting at the age of 8, all my grandfather and his gang of politicians needed was our thumb prints( I and my numerous cousins) anytime I complained that am not an adult yet, 'he replied and asked who told me I have to be an adult to vote' different people vying for the same seat brought money to our house at ungodly hours and my grandfather will collect from all of them. I used to think he was a 419 but he kept telling me that's how politics is played. Growing up with all these memories have always promised my self never to go into politics.

But few months back I stepped back and thought why poverty is still prevalent in our country and that too at such a large scale. Why can’t we challenge illiteracy and throw it out? And many other such questions came to my mind. I came up with many answers such as corruption, ineffective policies, corrupt politicians, government, lack of awareness about our rights) among people etc. What struck me the most was politicians and government. Because it is the place from where policies are drafted and politicians are the people who have to execute them. A politician is elected by the people and hence he/she should be held accountable for their sufferings. I think that a person who has seen
ground realities and can connect to the masses, their needs, can better help in framing policies and work for the upliftment of the under privileged.

And now my beliefs is that there is a need to change our policies and have them strengthened. And I feel that this can be done only by active involvement of youth in politics. We are a very young nation and youth of our nation have immense potential, we have the potential to. change our nation and give it a new shape. We can make Nigeria a healthy, educated and a safe place to live in. I dream of a Nigeria which is free from poverty, hunger, illiteracy, corruption; a Nigeria with no urban and rural divide; a Nigeria which is a safe place to live in; a Nigeria where liberty, equality, fraternity and justice is not just written in the constitution, come let’s make it true, together we can change our nation.

I want to be a part of political system and transform the system that caters to the needs of 155million people. Let’s change the definition of politics in Nigeria, let’s start the politics of development, ethics and values.

I was talking to a friend and he said if I want to join politics in Nigeria, then:

1- I must be ready to practice and be involve in juju? Is this really true?
2- That as a lady I must be ready to have intimacy with those in power before I can be heard or seen
3- I must be ready to practice corruption.
He went on and on, are his points really true about politics in Nigeria?

Now to the mature minds if I really want to join Nigeria politics,how and how should I go about it? What are the do's and don't's in Nigeria politics? Which political party can I join so I can make my impact? Which female politician can I choose as a mentor? I was thinking of Abike Dabiri I admire that woman.

Your opinions are welcome.

alosiby92: So...you didnt break it? what where you doing touching places then?? Teeo...I fear for you sha...

Dear House...
This Ijebu gehl is heading home today....
Will terribly mis you all...
especially those who know I will miss them...*you know who you are!
Enjoy the festives!!

Awwww, am definitely gonna miss you.Hope is safe to say merry Christmas in advance. lemme use your e-mail to add you on FB hope that is allowed?

@ all thanks for you response. @slimyem I asked those same questions too, but the problem is that her parents are moving back to the east and since he just got a job he wants to stay back but have no where to stay,her parents rent will expire this month and he is not financially OK to get an apartment. I don't know if he actually browsed some other options, will ask her.

@baby 123 calling her whole family shameless is un-called for. Thanks for your contribution though

A friend of mine got married last year, they live in a bungalow but no babies yet. Her elder brother who is of the same age group with her husband wants to move in with her since there are lot of vacant rooms in their apartment.

She's worried cos her brother if allowed to move in might probably not move out till he is comfortable enough which might take him four or more years. And she also felt its somehow to harbour her elder brother in her matrimonial home, she believes it would have been more reasonable had it been a younger brother.

She hasn't discuss with her husband yet though, that's why she asked for my advice but am not married I don't know how these things works.

Please what do you think she should do, allow her elder brother in to her house or not?

MUM- She thought me a lot of things, will just share some. Every new month she send or place beside our bed side this note, I practically grew on these words.
*Have courage to be different from others
*Know that some people may not like the “new”, or rather, “real” you
*Surround yourselves with people who are supportive
*Alienate those who try to make you the person they want you to be
*Open up to the world and admit this is who you are, the good, the bad and the ugly
*Laugh at yourself
*Take criticisms in a stride
*Do not apologise for who you are
*Trust in your own judgement, you know best for yourself
*Love who you are
*Don’t let others tell you who you are
*Once you can look yourself in the mirror, and smile at the reflection, that’s when you know you are being who you are at the core.


DAD-My dad is a teacher. Not a teacher in the sense that he lectured me on life, nor did he spout profound words of worldly wisdom. He never wrote any books or taught in any universities. He was the teacher of the greatest kind because he taught me through his actions, by who he is. A simple man of his words.

Who my dad is, taught me important aspects of character, like being honest, sincere and caring. His life taught me things like working hard, working without complaint, Getting the job done.
He instilled in me a sense of enjoying simple things, like laughing at silly jokes. These things and many more my dad taught me all my life.

perez019:

Am sure u r one of those hungry naija ladies that buy all those decorated 200naira birthday frames they sell in traffic around maryland. U don't want to spend your kobo on a man and u expect him to spend his millions on u abi? Infact thunder fire that ur mouth.

Eyah pele, that was all she wrapped for your last birthday shey, I totally understand your frustration now.

All these broke a.rse NL guys will be yapping naija gals now, better log off NL and go make money.

Yes when you have class and money you will attract babes with class and money then you both can spend on each other.

Or do you think its Ipad and galaxy phones jayz give beyonce as gifts?

Only broke a.rse couples exchange Ipad and boxers in between
why will I spend my kobo on a guy who add no value to my life except an Ipad?

A broke dude shouldn't expect a 3m wristwatch from his babe. You buy her Ipad so expect a boxer. (How much be Ipad self). Mtcheww

perez019: Naija ladies I hope u all saw dis, beyonce is also a lady like u. Our naija ladies will only buy u 200naira boxers and 150naira singlet, they will now wrap it with 20 naira wrapping paper. They now expect guys to buy them Ipad and galaxy tab.. If u want Ipad and galaxy tab simply go to SLOT at computer village.

alosiby92: Mu choi at whatever alecia was typing....
by the way, how is life with your boss on BBM?

Lol, life with my boss on bbm is there o, will just be careful not to post work stuffs up there shikena.

Whoa, nice one alosiby, saw your mail. Nice building you have here. All I want is a pink bedroom oo. Lol@15minute guy. You are such an interesting chic.