https://www.nairaland.com/8065322/avoid-telling-men-age-until

OP clearly is yet to come to terms with the new reality. Marriage is losing its appeal world over. Where, decades ago, an unmarried 27-year-old girl must have been someone with an inexcusable character flaw, now women in their 20s are all-together refusing to be tied down by marriage.

Why should they?

There are no tangible incentives anymore: They make twice as much money as their male counterparts, their careers have taken off, social media use gives them validation to no end, society has largely normalised single-parenthood, and in today’s sex-crazed society a girl can make your annual pay-check on a single trip to Dubai/ Miami/ Abu-Dhabi.

The very few women who accept to be partnered up are always in a haste to abandon ship.

Face it, Jeromestarks, we have created a society where women see no real benefits in putting up with men and their shenanigans. Your Evening Newspapers (27 and above) are simply settling for a lifetime without you.

Lordlontor:
boys de put something for body if dem wan travel come sell am use am raise money. Update if u know u know

I genuinely hope you get caught. You and your legion of imps are the reason why I am utterly cautious in betraying the fact that I am Nigerian in civilized society.

Oh no. Not this unfortunate lie again. If you live in a predominantly Caucasian society as an African, you'll stick out like a sore thumb. Yes? Of course, yes.

For better or for worse, and mainly dependent on your personality and physical attributes, Caucasian women feverishly jump on any opportunity to know what you're on about!

Show them. Court them traditionally. You'll get laid non-committally, too!

Please mention the zodiac sign and list top 5 qualities of this fictional TV character which leans towards the sign you've mentioned.

Mine's Ragnar Lothbrok from Vikings. I strongly believe he was an Aquarius native.

1. He was a dreamer. From a simple inkling that prosperous lands lay west, look what wealth he brought his people.

2. Too detached. Although he loved and cherished his family and close friends, in most of the scenes he was aloof.

3. Great orator. Ragnar could charm with words.

4. Little to no ability to make a choice in matters of love. Remember when Ragnar had to choose between Lagertha and Aslaug? Majority of Aquarians cannot decide what partner to be with seeing as they command the attentions of lots of people at the same time and their need for independence

5. Unconventional thinker. Ragnar cared little for their loot. He was a curious man. Oftentimes we caught him learning about the Christian god from Athelstan. Or visiting the king of another kingdom to see how they lived before attacking. All these led him to challenge conventional thinking.

Little wonder then and after learning so much, he announced his unwillingness to believe in the gods' existence and fate

"I fashion the course of my life and my death. Me. Not you, not the gods. Me."

And I've never met a woman, good or broken, Caucasian or African, who didn't immediately chose a man who was completely invested in chasing his own dreams and not her.

hammer567:



BLACK MEN MARRYING WHITE WOMEN SUFFER FROM INFERIORITY COMPLEX.


AND THAT IS OFF TOPIC.

Excuse me?

You can’t even begin to comprehend the utterly uninteresting lives your black sisters live out here. Who wants to put up with that?

A (black) girl who’s sworn to living life in survival mode is incapable of loving anything beyond a man’s pockets.

lovediehatelive:



Interesting.

Can you shed more light on this.

Who should an aquarius be with? Which sign is more compatible with aquarius.

How does the relationship between aquarius man and Libra woman get.

What about aquarius and Capricorn

Was in a long-term relationship with a Libra woman. Had a short whirlwind and deeply passionate relationship with a Cancer. I have yet to be with a Leo Woman.

Let me do that first and come answer this question afterwards.

PinkNature:


I'm a fan, I've been waiting for a new thread since Jan 12. Hopefully you keep on creating more threads and share more knowledge to young men.

I'm honored.

The exact reason why I'm admonishing men to
mentally rise above sex on that topic I created!

Ha!

Given our bad rep world over and an exceedingly restrictive travel passport, it’s almost impossible to be fond of Nigeria.

yemmit90:
Being awhile I commented in Romance section .

@op, you don't need women for whatever reason except for business or to sleep with. Be focus on your goal , only a weak man chose women as friends. From my years of experience in life, only your mum, wife or some female family members should be consider, others has nothing to offer you than pains. If you are single and need sex, just pick one and do the do without being on losing side to her.

Besides, if you don't want women to know you need sex from them or use them for business, then what is the point of relating with them? Women only offer emotional baggage or financial responsibility on male friends, and I hope you realise this someday.

Same thing I said. Women are a useful resource to level up with (tha business)

It’s 2024 and this year you have to level up. You’re either levelling up by your family’s might/ connection or you’re gonna have to do so leveraging on your connections.

If you’re like the rest of us, there’s no powerful, influential family to push you up; so here’s where you need your OWN connections.

Stick with me.

Your home boys can lift you up. Sure! But what about these girls around you. Have you ever sat to think about the potent force that females possess? This is where we have to disagree with the teachings of the redpill.

The redpill teaches men that women “ain’t sh*t” and that you don’t need them for anything besides stroking your ego after you “make it”. I’d argue that the wisest man utilises all the resources available to him. Everything!

But here’s a template for levelling up. You can use it, you can vilify me. Your business.

1. Appreciate and draw women to you.

It’s always been easy for me to have girls around me. Not bragging; I still don’t know what quality I possess that draws them in. I’m not the most attractive dude I know. Maybe it’s because I have the ability to listen, to not judge, to observe and maintain the frame of a friendly outsider.

2. Mentally rise above sex

This is the most important point. If you spent 2024 without sex, I promise you, you’d live to see 2025. No bragging rights for sex. Think about it this way: If you could never fill a basket with water, then why keep pouring into it?

If you could never have enough sex in life, why kill and embarrass yourself over it? Men tend to chase and chase and chase everything just to get a 5-minute romp in the sheets. You’ll never have enough sex, my brother.

3. Let these girls know you don’t need sex from them

I live in Europe. And this is my story: dated a white girl for a year. But that fell apart. Since then, I’ve moved on even easier than I thought I would. My ex is still very much present in my life as friends. I don’t desire a rerun of our relationship nor does she.

Other foreign men here complain about not getting a girl to go out on a date. Even an African babe. I don’t know what that feels like; being sapiosexual, I find myself drawn to Caucasian females who are well-travelled, passionate about the arts, who take up solo trips round the world. I learn from them. I no longer try to f*ck them. It isn’t the first 20 things I think about. That’s changed something…

Most nights, I don’t sleep alone. There’s always some new Caucasian chick texting to come over for games, a sleepover, or an African meal. I don’t get in a frenzy worrying if she’ll let me f*ck her when she comes over. If she makes a move and I find her attractive, I’ll take the bait.

If she’s overweight and ugly, I haven’t got a white fetish, please sleep the sleep you came to my apartment to sleep. “Don’t wanna have sex; I’m on meds”

4. So WHAT DO YOU NEED?

You need to level up! Only admit classy, pretty, high-achieving girls into your circle. My new criteria: Caucasian, got a career/ passion, makes about €3000 (the models I’m close with conveniently do $8000 per month working abroad). And you? I don’t make as much but they don’t need to know that. I bring flowers to dinner, I pick you up in a nice Uber, I dress old-money, I’m well-mannered, I invest in healthy meals because I go to the gym four times a week, my apartment is cosy, I work on one new thing about my dreams every week.

See? Even if I were a loser, these girls would never know.

But this is important: When they win, you have to be genuinely happy for them. Expel envy. Draw them closer. Also, with drastic changes all around the world, women are out-earning men. Wealthy simps aren’t even helping matters.

5. The game plan.

You aren’t chasing sex. You aren’t faking it; it’s your present state-of-mind. Don’t go masturbating every so often now, that’s just worse. These women will feel the powerful new energy you possess and come even closer. They’ll tell you about the new contacts they’ve made. Listen, don’t judge, observe. As friends, you can ask for help from a point of power and humility (yes, it’s a thing). She can help you, you’ll be eternally grateful. If she won’t, it’s no matter, you’ll ultimately find the help you need.

These girls can connect you to the men, the places, the opportunity you need. She’s more drawn to you because you aren’t like the other guys who want to only f*ck her. You aren’t gay, she’ll know that because you dated hot girls before her and because every now and then during your hangouts you’ll register a sexual move and that’s it.

A few days ago, a new friend passed out drunk on my bed during her first visit. Took care of her, made her dinner and breakfast, genuinely tended to her. Made NO PASSES at her. Today I got a friend and a free hospital card should I ever need a favour.


FINAL WORDS: In today’s ever-changing world, resources aren’t only skills and degrees to level up with. Women can be your own valuable resource.

This is for men.

Mentally rise above sex. All the free sex you’ve had in the past hasn’t helped you financially or spiritually. Or has it?

Blonde Israeli women? Yeah right!

For your information, last picture is of two Slavic models doing a photoshoot.

Respect women. Go out of your way to make their lives easier. Be kind, but maintain frame at all times

Now you suspect disloyalty. You’re not crazy. I’ll tell you why. Your woman may yet have her panties on tight and not be having sex with these men.

But the rule of thumb is: If a woman intentionally gets too close to another man to the point that her confident and secure male partner begins to smell foul play, that in itself is a problem.

Cut your losses and move on. Don’t allow the sunk cost fallacy tether you to her. There are no soulmates in life.

You’ll find another wonderful woman (if you’ve inherently got value). But don’t kid yourself. Caucasian, Latino, Black, or Asian, all women are problematic. Trust me, I know.



PS: I’m yet to date an Asian, though.

BentizilL0:

What do you mean by a chisel frame in number 4

Live at the gym.

As is the norm, unpleasant past experiences push you to the light. It may not be much light but it beats the darkness. Here’s what I’ve learned about men vs the world, life, business, and women:

1. Don’t practice Emotional Detachment. Be it. You can’t anticipate the vicissitudes of life as it most often appears in business, relationships, goals. Don’t get emotional. Be clearheaded enough to find the solution. Do it. Also, people have very little hold on you when they can’t bait you emotionally.

2. All women are the same. And you can take this to the bank. Back home, I rolled with ‘em: Same. Abroad and with Caucasian women: Same. Keep your relationship as transactional as you can and save yourself undue heartache. Follow this simple guide: She does something impressive/ gets you something valuable, reward her. She does nothing, a dry spell, you must.

3. Get angry. Let your spirit loathe your financial stagnation. Crave growth! Need I say more. Oh maybe I should: Your loving lover will sooner walk out the door than endure months without dates, gifts, or trips. She isn’t the priority now, fattening your wallet is your PRIORITY.

4. Have sex. Cheap sex, please. You must have something going for you: A chiseled frame, a nice apartment your current financial situation can bankroll, at least. Be confident. These inconsequential things most often get you laid.

5. Discipline! Your life is your life, don’t let it be clogged into dang submission.

And Jumia?

High time an independent body carried out a proper audit of Nigeria’s one-time e-commerce powerhouse.

Men…

Never build a woman up at your own expense. You’re hurt only because you think you lost your investment while she’s made some solid gains.

No? Think about it deeply.

Go now and be as selfish as you can; notice I didn’t say stingy or tight-fisted. Love yourself first. Then love your woman. Build your finances and body first, before setting your woman up. Got the gist?

Do for yourself first, then do for her!

Maybe, albeit minimally, we should look to astrology when deciding who we settle down with. Might have saved me (African Aquarius man) time, resources, and a string of bad decisions owing to a relationship with a Caucasian Cancer woman.

Astrology strongly declares that a match like this is unlikely to work out long-term.

Live your truth!

Naturally and biologically, a man feels worthy when he plays god; this immediately implies that he foots the bill for his woman and their home.

Realistically and given the sorry state of the economy world over, only a handful of the male population can provide 24/7 at full capacity.

So live your truth, get you a woman who’s on your financial wavelength (you never stop doing right by her and she understands that some days you will come up short, if ever).

Live your truth!

Good gracious! The comments on this thread!

whippersnapper:
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Some. In my case, despite our racial differences, my girlfriend has been an immense blessing in my life. No kidding!

But yeah, you’re the man, you foot the bill on vacations abroad or in other cities.

I remember seeing this particular comment on Instagram. It went thus:

“When you comot for relationship, e go be like say kidnapper release you.”

etrange:


In sentence one, "them" is used as the subject of the verb "ventured". This is wrong cause it's an object pronoun and can never perform the grammatical function of a subject pronoun. Note that the nearby expression "the brave explorers" is a appositive noun phrase that only adds extra details.

In sentence two, "them" is used as the subject of the verb "perched". This is wrong cause it's an object pronoun and can never perform the grammatical function of a subject pronoun. Note that the nearby expression "the the colorful birds" is a appositive noun phrase that only adds extra details.

In sentence two, "them" is used as the subject of the verb "perched". This is wrong cause it's an object pronoun and can never perform the grammatical function of a subject pronoun. Note that the nearby expression "the old books in the dusty library" is a appositive noun phrase that only adds extra details.

Appositives only serve to provide more details about a noun or a pronoun. A sentence should still be correct without them. Now, let's try removing the parts I identified as appositive noun phrases in your sentences and see if the they are correct.

1. Them ventured deep into the uncharted jungle, seeking hidden treasures.
2.Them perched high in the treetops, filling the forest with their melodious songs.
3.Them held secrets and stories from centuries past, waiting to be discovered.

As you can see, they're all wrong. That's because only a subject pronoun can be used be as the subject of a verb. In this case, that would be "they".

@OP, while such contructs might not be uncommon in old English, I believe they're only found in poetry today. Also, it's "good at English" in this context, not "good in English".



You're correct, but those are not reduced relative clauses. They are not even clauses at all. They noun phrases, and they function as appositives in the sentences made by that guy.

Thank you so much for the correction.

Goalnaldo:
1.Them, the brave explorers ventured deep into the uncharted jungle, seeking hidden treasures.
2.Them, the colorful birds perched high in the treetops, filling the forest with their melodious songs.
3.Them, the old books in the dusty library held secrets and stories from centuries past, waiting to be discovered😊

All wrong constructions. Take away the reduced relative clauses and repeat the sentences to yourself.

Sound awful, yes?

“Them” is an object pronoun, remember? It’s moderately possible, employing the infinitive, to have something which begins thus: “To them…”

Joyrider404:

Them, the group of dedicated volunteers, tirelessly worked through the night to provide relief to the earthquake victims, demonstrating their unwavering commitment to helping those in need.

Them, the talented musicians, captivated the audience with their mesmerizing melodies, leaving everyone in awe of their musical prowess.

Them, the adventurous explorers, embarked on a daring journey into the uncharted wilderness, braving the unknown and seeking thrilling adventures at every turn.

They… tirelessly worked

They… captivated the audience

They… embarked

The use of an object pronoun at the start of a sentence is merely and entirely poetic. You wouldn’t use that in everyday discourse now, would ya?

To you residing outside your fatherland and reading this, I pray you never experience what Sukkot is talking about.

I wish you well in that foreign land where you reside; flourish, never stop to settle, acknowledge the power of God and proper networking, take up jobs to increase your income and savings/ investments, live below your means and send money back home as often as you can.

And if calamity such as this still visits you, it is my prayer that it doesn’t break you.

There’s a reason for the steady influx of Lebanese to Abuja, Lagos, and Kano.

Go to Wuse 2, visit supermarkets along Aminu Kano Crescent. You’ll make up your mind a lot faster that way.