₦airaland Forum

See them patriarchy princesses.

No wonder divorce dey reign for Nigeria now because na only women dem dey train for marriage and not men. The men end up becoming terrible horsebands.

Una dooh.

cococandy:
The thing is that it’s your fellow Nigerian women who will argue with you until they are blue in the face that there’s no gender discrimination in our Nigerian society.

How we wan solve problems that we refuse to acknowledge?

Patriarchy princesses and its gatekeepers.

All these pick me women dey tire person.

Magnoliaa:
Amazon, your story reminds me of one I read today too.

This woman was already at someplace o when her horseband call her, say if she sleep overnight for where she dey so, na divorce.

And this woman had to take night bus back home.


Kai.

May God not let us get married to monsters in the form of men.

I saw it and it reminded me of this story.

I can't remember who said this but if you have marriage in mind who you marry is one of the most important decisions you make in life and such decisions must not be taken lightly.

Many of these Nigerian bred men have a terrible view of women and themselves. They are looking for women to control nothing more if you see a Nigerian man based abroad you would know that they are different from Nigerian men raised in the country.

They don't listen or take advice, they dish out what they cannot take.


Anyway, Nigerian married Mrs una dooh. Na still in bondage people dey celebrate 20 years of blissful nonsense.

My submission on this is pretty straightforward some Nigerian marriages are a nightmare.
I know of one who stopped his wife from going to help at a family occasion on the day she was meant to go after informing him a week prior about her plans ooo.

The woman was already driving to the venue, she left the kids at home and the husband when he gets home will take care of them that evening. The man called her oo that she should reverse back home oo that if she doesn't he would divorce her.

The thing is the men who were at the occasion heard the whole thing because the woman turned it to a big issue and as an events planner refused to do an event for her husband's friend because of what he did. He forbade her from going to the gathering the men at the gathering said the man knew how to run his home, it is opinion the wife should obey, they used the word 'obey' and 'respect' and that women should listen that he doesn't owe any explanation. Anyway, the woman doesn't owe the husband or his friend any explanation as a week to the event she cancelled her plans to help the husband's friend to spite him too and it affected the money the man would earn from the arrangement.

The thing is men would support men, women must support women. I have always had the view from my early twenties not too long ago anyway that if as a Nigerian woman you can avoid marrying Nigerian men or Nigerian bred men please do.

Our mothers of old raised these men poorly. I know of a boy in the University who could not cook as his sisters did it for him at home while in school he dey call him mama to tell am how to put ingriedients for food. For my mind I say them for give am one of him sisters to follow body come help am cook for school.

pocohantas:
And someone there said that is why Igbo women maltreat their househelps. I actually have same view on child abuse in IGBOLAND. But when I said it here, they attacked me.

Igbos do not give their wives breathing space. Before you marry their sons, you never enter sef, they have started chochocho. You enter kwanu, double wahala. Your husband die? Lord help you!

Allow women breathe!! These are full grown adults for christ sake!

I am from the South East and I don't advice women to marry Igbo men sha

Anyway they say I hate Nigerian men so I don't care.

Magnoliaa:
I'll try to share some screenshots soon.

But I think if you click the Twitter's link, it should take you directly to the thread and you can read the posts even without an account.

Cococandy try clicking on it, if it will work like that.

cococandy:
Unfortunately I don’t have twitter. Are there screenshots?

Continued.

On Twitter the reactions were from women who stated that those women are particularly from one region, living in bondage, Title of Mrs, in abusive relationships etc.
Some were saying that these women should keep marrying these crazy men so that the single ones are not unfortunate to meet those kind of men. The Twitter reactions plenty.

cococandy:
Unfortunately I don’t have twitter. Are there screenshots?

Anyway these are facebook Feminist response

cococandy:
Unfortunately I don’t have twitter. Are there screenshots?

These are married women condemning the original writer who posed the question on the second photo below that how on earth would women want to take her advice and that any woman that listens to her is going to destroy her marriage.

cococandy:
Unfortunately I don’t have twitter. Are there screenshots?

Well it was a Twitter thread created by someone with the name Bitter Feminist on Twitter who was sharing screenshots on how Igbo Facebook married women community take permissions from their lords and personal saviours aka husbands before they go and see their parents

pocohantas:
I know a man that banned his wife from going tp see her mother. As in, he told her if she goes there, she should pack her bags same day. She started hiding to go see her mother. The mother would cry and chase her away. “How can my own daughter hide to come see me?”

Same hometown o. If you throw stone, e go touch the mama roof. The man is late now. I wonder if she would now start going to see her mother. These things happen a lot. From the gender that claims they love peace and it is women that tear family apart. Na who no know them dey fit deceive.

In all these do these men take permission from their wives too?

Magnoliaa:
Na this matter I just dey leave for Facebook so.

How coincidental.

I don screenshot responses and hot teks taya.

Even went to Google this issue of Dr. Iyalla-Amadi vs. NIS and women getting a letter of consent from their husbands first before they could get an Int'l passport pre-2009.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2009/06/court-voids-immigration-condition-for-issuing-passports-to-married-women/amp/

Maidia, you DEFINITELY KNOW what my opinion on the matter will be.

I wish Average Nigerian Women godspeed in their marriages abeg.

Somebody even called them tenants disguising as Mrs., and that can be kicked out anytime.

I remember a similar topic on this on Your View on TVC, Mariam was on this matter and that adults don't seek permission but rather inform and hold each other accountable.

One so-called marriage counsellor that counsels from his Bible and not other means of practice just started blabbing the same blab these women are blabbing so

Good day ladies.

I need you to please go through this Twitter thread https://twitter.com/ownMyShame/status/1615836177415774225?t=V2FecSfIaaGGDjui-rBWjg&s=19

And tell me what is actually beautiful in many Nigerian marriages.


I will be back later to post my submission.

Nhazeru:

Just negodu wetin one man gather

Juicy jay baby..

I salute your majesty,

How can I see this heavy nma agha and not Stan you

In your rod I Stan

Men and brethren, I present to you my fave

mu2sa2:
I know a woman who had 13 children, no twins among them. Apparently she was looking for a male child but only succeeded after having 11 females - at last the boys came as numbers 12 &13. That's a complete female football team!

There are many stories like this. Some never even got the boys they were looking for.
I hope those children are well taken care of ooo.

Righthussle:
Why do Poor men always want sons that will represent them. Represent you for where? For gathering of poor men ?

If you're a father reading this comment and you know you are poor or you try build two rooms and buy cabu cabu car, and you have beautiful daughters but you are not happy because you feel it is not good for a girl to represent you when you are dead and inherit your small property. na thunder go fire you and that your small property wey you dey find sons to come inherit.

If Queen Elizabeth go fit inherit her papa throne and represent the whole people of the United Kingdom na that your land wey you buy Six hundred thousand naira and the two rooms wey you build wey no get fence your daughter no go fit inherit Abi?

This made me laugh
The thing is usually poor men looking for male kids sha. You are right.

switlily25:
Really?
How come she faded so fast?

Dey play
Fade ke

switlily25:
I pray so too!
The timing is wrong but we’ll still have fun
Who be phyna

The winner of BBNaija level up season

switlily25:
He will be the winner of this show!

He should be up for eviction early for that to happen.

I am team neutral this time.

The timing of the whole thing doesn't sit well with me. I won't be as invested as I was last season for my Phyna

Phyna the winner

Gmajor:
WTF are they using bunk bed?

No shipping this year

Geezeem:
With each reveal the hope of supporting a naija housemate gets dimmer and dimmer for me

Same here

switlily25:
I’ll pick my fave after the first gbas gbos!

Gbam. I even wanted to strictly stan a Nigerian this time but these Nigerians are not even giving

I will not mind stanning a South African

ibkayeebbn:
This drummer girl, love it

You don get Big Brother account?

switlily25:
Happy new year my one and only Titan!!!!
How are you doing?
I hope you are enjoying yourself?

I am fine.

Glad to see you here.

switlily25:
I want to meet interesting characters like;
Erica the cute lover girl
Angel the intelligent seductress
Hermes the eccentric guy…but I’ll be intrigued to meet a more complex and unconventional character
Let’s see how it goes

Dear Titan, Happy New Year

The timing to me is wrong sha.

I go still watch am.

My favourite reality show is back

PaulOtl:
Duhh...God was still the one who allowed science to come into existence.
Leave those your subtle attempts to score points here, by stating that I'm using my beliefs as a yardstick to measure and judge murderers...I meant, abortionists. * Clears throat*
You know God, ehh? Lol. If you say so. If it makes you feel better and more sanctimonious. Sit with a lie.
Sweetie pie, I didn't mention you with insults, though. Check through nau.
Anyways, you deviated from the topic. We were hammering on abortion, you digressed to talking about science being a better explanation of the outcome of things (one way or another, you meant this )

Dear, be making use of punctuations nau. You keep ignoring this one. Why.
Tor...

It's the truth, nobody is scoring points by stating the obvious.
I only used science because science was my reason for not seeing it as murder but your lack of comprehension did not tell you that it was a part of the argument.

PaulOtl:
Lol anger-filled response. Like, if I was there with you physically, you wouldn't hesitate to use a knife to stab me. .
But nah...Not happening.
Topaz, stop carrying out abortions if you are still in the habit of doing them oo. Blood is on your hands. I love you .
Toodle-oo.

Why abortions your business it will still be done as long as sex happens and other acts like rape,incest and other complications occur. So worry about your own salvation.

PaulOtl:
Read your comments slowly, and see whom amongst the both of us was commenting and typing like an illiterate who can't punctuate rightly.
Your guess is as good as mine. You.

Like I said you are an illiterate if you were not you will not be discarding science.

PaulOtl:
Aunty....you are just the stubborn type. It's fine! We've met your likes before.

Biology, you say?
Lol...I know where you were driving at.
But you see, once someone (sorry, you come off to me as an unbeliever (oops, did I just jump to conclusion? Yes! ) who doesn't believe that the God of heaven can (if called upon by a repentant heart) take away whatever health complications that a pregnancy has the potential of bringing to the mother and child.

* Sighs* Ughh...You know what? if you don't believe in God, just forget about everything I've just written above. It will just be a waste of time and comment space.

I believe in God maybe not your God anyway. I am sane enough to know that science is real and I like to argue facts and understand the realities of people before using my view or beliefs as a judge or yardstick for people when you have no idea their realities or stories. Maybe that line of thought is alien to your reasoning.
Don't be a clown abeg some pregnancies are complicated and never have I read or seen any miracle for an ectopic pregnancy or some pregnancies that are fatal. If that is your belief then go to hospitals to hospitals and pray for the solution.
I believe in God and I am not stupid to discard science and rational thoughts while understanding that morality is a subjective thing. You should learn that because this world can only survive through tolerance and open mindedness.
You cannot be Christian and mention me with insults then want to act all born again.
Lol
Religious hypocrites abound.

PaulOtl:
Well...they deserve the same judgement and physical/spiritual trauma as you do. Being married doesn't permit them to be omitted.
I hope you now understand.

Trauma koor

Get lost jaare you nor know wetin you dey talk.
Who is judging them irrelevant people like you that cannot respect adults private decisions