₦airaland Forum

BRATISLAVA:
Is she black?

Before her marriage she identified as biracial that is mixed race after marriage she identified as black to play the race card.
The British media is toxic and were out to get her, no doubt but their whinning against their own family is silly.

Good morning all, Happy New to you all may this year be filled with happiness, Joy, prosperity and everything good. You will always have a reason to celebrate and never be sorrowful this year. God bless your family, friends and loved ones.
Cheers to a better 2023.

Magnoliaa thank you so much for the mention, may your year be merry and blessed in all spheres.
Folake4u, you will begin to conquer the legal profession and excel abundantly in all you do. Amen.

Humble25:
Why are the west trying to force this immoral deed on everyone.
And my fear is that, they are progressing with this stupidity

They are not forcing anything just showing you a representation of what goes on in their country you are at the discretion to ban or avoid it.

Finneseguy1:
Happy new year in advance fam.

Please don’t allow your children to watch this cartoon, Disney world is now encouraging same sex In their cartoons. Meaning they are trying to pass the message to children that it is okay to have a crush on your follow gender

Cartoons are not strictly for kids though.
And since its a cartoon in a country where same sex union is allowed there is nothing wrong with it.
No need to wail too much over something that kids already know exist. It's up to countries who are hostile to the LGBTQ community to ban it.

MyVILLAGEpeople:
So there is a country called Kiribati ??. Sounding more like kirikiri.

AderonkeOlaniyi:
We have been celebrating with lots of drinks in Pupua New Guinea

Papua New Guinea is not in the New Year yet. It's less than three hours away

Occurstaem:
Maybe Kiritimati

Kiritimati in Kiribati is the first to welcome the New Year.

ThompsonJoo:
New Zealand is the first country to celebrate New year and they are officially in the year 2023

It is not the first to enter the New Year.
Kiribati is a nation and it is the first to enter the New year.

folake4u:
Hello Topaz! My apologies for the late reply.

My humble opinion:

A long lasting marriage does not necessarily mean a happy home.

Take for instance, the useless and jobless redpill cretins that usually chant "My mother has been married for 40years and she endured throughout... Nigerian girls(including their sisters and nieces) are useless" etc. They know the truth deep down in their hearts but too embarrassed to admit that their mothers were married for 40 years living in toil and agony. If really their mothers' long lasting marriage equated a happy home, why then are they bitter? Why do they not respect women?
A happy home begets happy children. Right? No?

Personally, I do not rate marriages based on longevity, it also doesn't necessarily represent its success because some of them experienced abuse in all forms, emotional torture and infidelity.
I rate marriages by how HAPPY both parties are. So yeah HAPPY MARRIAGES over LONGEVITY MARRIAGES.

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One important point from that video is "Do you treat your spouse the way you want someone to treat your children?"

It is something to ponder on.


Another interesting question asked is "Does a woman's success( through her children being successful or graduates) outweigh the suffering of 40 years marriage?"

Personally, my answer is "What if you don't live to enjoy the fruits of your labour?"
One cannot really determine these things.

This late "Ekueme" crooner that was abused by her husband still remains fresh in my memory. Despite her staying back in the marriage (due to her own reasons) whatsoever, probably she thought she'd just "endure" just because of the kids and enjoy the fruits of her endurance, it led to her death.
And there are so many sad tales out there.
But oh well, one man's meat is another's poison.

In this part of our continent, Nigerians judge from the outside and conclude a perfect marriage from IG pictures and the likes, I think we should learn to value and normalize healthy marriages. The reward for Marriage is not for who suffer pass please. Gosh!

If I ever get married, that part where they exchange their vows and say "For richer, for pooer" , best believe when it's my turn I'm saying "For richer, for richer". Biko nu.

And also,children usually pick up on abuse even if and when their parents try to hide it. You can't hide abuse from children, it is not possible. That's why they pick up all those negative energy from their parents such as narcissistic tendencies. More reason we have so many toxic and dysfunctional people in the society today. Check the likes of Elon Musk and Donald Trump. Narcissistic attitudes. Check their background.

It is better to be open with children and tell them the realities of marriage so they do not make the same mistake their parents made. This is based on the fact that most of our old folks have long lasting TERRIBLE marriages and these children are traumatized from how they were raised.

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I like the fact that Morayo was honest about her marriage lasting for only 2 years, did co-parenting and raised a healthy child.
Co-parenting is a really nice idea if both parties calm down and there's maturity on both ends. It should be normalized on Nigeria in the interest of the children.

My humble opinion again.

I come in peace.

It's Madam Yeni's marriage that lasted two years. Morayo is still married.
I agree with you and thanks for your input.
You mentioned those two narcissist Trump and Musk let me not even talk because I dislike them both and you are right about their background.

Magnoliaa:
Yes.

I was an ardent listener...just before I went to school.

Now I don't even even really keep up like that that much.

I love talk shows and programs, even on the radio, a lot.

Yes.

Times have changed definitely.

I think one reason why people liken longevity to success is probably because they feel that for a marriage to have survived that long, then no how no how, the couples would have learnt to live with themselves. And they count that as success.

@bold, even when the environment is toxic and they are living like strangers. Nigerians can be easily fooled

Magnoliaa:
Okay... so I've watched it this.

First, I must say it is an interesting discussion.

There's no time they never have an interesting topic, anyway, so...

They all raised pretty important points and great perspectives on the matter.

I still felt like Morayo's question was not addressed in-depth maybe because of the time.

One thing that jumped out to me is ... indoctrination. She was asking if those women's testimonies over their children's successes is enough compensation for the years of abuse they spent, and I agree with Nymah's (?) point that it is different for individual women.

I think for something to count as a wrongdoing to some extent and in some cases, the participant has to first of all see their situation as an aberration. But these women grew up seeing that dynamic as normal. Suffer in marriage for your children.

And it might seem absurd to us, but if they consider their children's success celebrations and the testimonies they'll give on that day as a reward ... well, so be it for them.

And I think we should really cut them some slack...so long as they are not trying to propagate and to preach with their experiences as the norm.

Oh wow, are you an ardent viewer of the programme like me?

In a nutshell, we all marry for different reasons. A lot of women of old and even today remained in marriages for various reasons today it is not always the case because women of today will not take in what our mothers did. It's one of the reasons why I am not too keen on the longevity of marriage but rather was the marriage long or short healthy and were the partners happy? It's the most important thing hence I have nothing against divorce because it has saved the mental health of some people and prevented other terrible things.
Many will not see it this way but rather be fixated on longevity of marriage because they misconstrue it for success.

Folake4u, your opinion

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8MTuN4q8JE

Good morning Magnoliaa and folake4u this is an interesting video I would love for you to please watch when you are less busy.

Praxis758:
I’m not criticizing divorce, but this is what you get when you see and define marriage from the prism of WESTERN VALUES AND CIVILISATION.

Is that the values they told you they followed in their union?

You self don ready to contend

Ayinke93:
Which god? Krishna ,Allah or Jehobvah? or I almost forgot, there are thousands other. Tell me the one I'm contending with so i can prepare properly

When will the women of Afghanistan take a cue from the Iranian women?

Angelfrost:
Not a damn thing surprising about this report!


Religion has long been the hiding place for so many proclivities and depravities!

The number of hypocrites in Nigeria cannot be counted.
They are the first to condemn and scream blue murder yet do worse behind closed doors.
Na who dem catch be thief

Codepain:
Since they are not caught having sex light sentencing is enough and be forced to have conversion therapy

Conversion therapy is terrible and an abusive hence why there is no evidence to even support that it works and has been banned in many places.

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/what-is-conversion-therapy

MrColdsweat:
I don't actually care about the worldcup. I'm just worried about the unadulterated foolishness of humanity.

The world cup cost $220bn.
To eradicate world hunger will cost humanity $30bn a year.
To eradicate malaria will cost $17bn.
Humanity chose entertainment over saving themselves.

We are nothing but cashcows for the criminals in fifa.

And people will be defending billionaires and the wealthy I remember Elon Musk being asked to donate money to eradicate world hunger he asked for a plan they gave it to him and he ignored and pretended like nothing happened.
These your stats are they true? If so I weep for humanity. Qatar always had a human rights problem to begin with yet they allowed them to host the world cup what a shame

folake4u:
Nor mind her oh.

I go do her back sha in double folds.

Magnoliaa:
You sef fit collect now.

I been wan mention you, but I just comot my mind, say make I leave you...

Lol, wetin concern me

So Magnoliaa you get mind troll folake4u?

Luckysbab:
He has time. And Madrid is there

It should come fast oo

[quote author=Luckysbab post=119260358][/quote]Mbappe needs the champions league and Balon D'or

Congratulations Argentina

dominique:
Is it the same France that played such captivating football throughout the tournament that is suddenly playing like amateurs? Even super eagles play better than this. There's nothing anybody can tell me that this world cup was not rigged in Argentina's favour.

We been knew.
France cannot be playing this rubbish in a world cup final.

The conspiracy theorist calling it rigged since were correct

Skimpledawg:
Nigeria has to win too please

We go arrange am

I go buy 2026 World Cup for Nigeria if Argentina can do it so can we.

FIFA must aid us

Ibime:
Golden boot with two goals from open play. Spits!

The person that arranged Argentina's victory with Fifa I must contact him to arrange Nigeria's own in 2026.
Fifa must be on our side

PDPGuy:
They all count

Like Penaldo, Like Pessi.
Agreed

Magnoliaa:
You will never let go of this, will you?

Never because it's annoying.
I am not a conspiracy theorists oo if I were this world cup is rigged

Expert17:
Yes, cry bro

If na Ronaldo wetin you for call am?

99thEnemy:
Yes na

If na Penaldo you no go complain

All of una Messi and Ronaldo fans be hypocrites