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Gbomo gbomo, lol. Used to be very scared of it or him then
Those were good old days,

ohilebo:
@ Poster, you did not add these,

In Benin then, we used to say

'' Not to you''

How many o'clock?

''Ku ku kill me finish''

''You dey draw rain''

etc

lol

Poster, sorry that am being blunt but I think you are the cause of his problems. If you had left him a long time ago, he should have woken up and gotten a grasp on life. You are sheltering him and you are not being fair to him. Sometimes we hurt the ones we love in order to make them grow. Its something like a mother child relationship. When a mother spanks her child to make him learn.

In your own case, you have tried all u can, the next best thing is LEAVE HIM,

I think she should confirm first before jumping into conclusions, It might just be the tactic of a jealous ex.

It's a relationship myth that giving your guy an ultimatum will mess things up. As a matter of fact, it may be exactly what he needs. "If you've been together for a while and he's not moving things forward with a proposal, you really should have a serious conversation to get what you need," says relationship therapist Krista Bloom, PhD, author of The Ultimate Compatibility Quiz. Here's the catch: Men are notoriously skittish about "till death do us part," so having The Talk is a delicate business.

When to Bring It Up
Every couple sets a different relationship pace, so there's no rule that says you should be discussing a proposal after X amount of time. That said, there are some guidelines you can abide by. If you've been together for only four or five months, it's too soon to detail what kind of ring you lust after. At this point, you're still getting to know each other, and it may weird him out. At the same time, it's not realistic to wait years before bringing it up. "After you've been in a serious, monogamous relationship for a year, it's reasonable to want to talk to him about your future," says Bloom.

How to Do It
If you're not careful, issuing an ultimatum can sound like a threat and make your guy feel like a caged animal. To avoid freaking him out, it's vital to be firm but calm.

The best way to make sure you'll stay relaxed is to talk to him as soon as you realize marriage has been on your mind frequently. "If you wait until your feelings are boiling over, you're bound to sound impatient, which may make him stop listening to you," says Anthony Riche, PhD, author of Finally! How to Stop Dating Losers Forever. When you start getting those persistent wedding-bell urges, find a nonstressful time to chat, like during a quiet dinner.

Then, be direct. "Men don't do well with hints, so telling him flat out what you want will reap the best results," says Bloom. Tell him you picture him as your husband and that you want to know if he's on the same page. Or try "I love being with you and want to move our relationship forward. I need to know if you feel the same."

Now Back Off
Finally, you can't expect him to propose immediately. Remember, you've had time to let everything percolate, but this is new to him. "Give him a few weeks to think about his feelings on marriage," says Riche. Make a date to have a follow-up convo, and don't bring it up again before then.

Once he makes a decision, it's up to you where you go from there. "You can invite a man to propose, but you can't force him. If he's really not ready, you have to decide if you want to wait for him or move on," says Bloom.

cosmo.com

A father passing by his teenage daughter's bedroom was astonished tosee the bed was nicely made and everything was neat and tidy.
Then he saw an envelope propped up prominently on the centre of thepillow. It was addressed "Dad". With the worst premonition, he openedthe envelope and read the letter with trembling hands:-

Dear Dad,
It is with great regret and sorrow that I'm writing you, but I'mleaving home. I had to elope with my new boyfriend Randy because Iwanted to avoid a scene with Mom and you.
I've been finding real passion with Randy and he is so nice to me. Iknow when you meet him you'll like him too - even with all hispiercing, tattoos, and motorcycle clothes. But it's not only thepassion Dad, I'm pregnant and Randy said that he wants me to have thekid and that we can be very happy together.
Even though Randy is much older than me (anyway, 42 isn't so old thesedays is it? ), and has no money, really these things shouldn't standin the way of our relationship, don't you agree?
Randy has a great CD collection; he already owns a trailer in thewoods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. It's true hehas other girlfriends as well but I know he'll be faithful to me inhis own way. He wants to have many more children with me and that'snow one of my dreams too.
Randy taught me that marijuana doesn't really hurt anyone and he'll begrowing it for us and we'll trade it with our friends for all thecocaine and ecstasy we want. In the meantime, we'll pray that sciencewill find a cure for AIDS so Randy can get better; he sure deservesit!!
Don't worry Dad, I'm 15 years old now and I know how to take care ofmyself. Someday I'm sure we'll be back to visit so you can get to knowyour grandchildren.
Your loving daughter,Rosie.

At the bottom of the page were the letters " PTO".
Hands still trembling, her father turned the sheet, and read:
PS:
Dad, none of the above is true. I'm over at the neighbor's house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than myreport card that's in my desk center drawer. Please sign it and callwhen it is safe for me to come home.
I love you!
Your loving daughter,Rosie

Gidson, class of 2002. was the senior prefect.

Garrick, that was my school too. Whaoh its a small world,

[quote][/quote]What a cartload of tripe.
Meant for 4yrs olds.

Thats why its a joke. Thought you were the "moderator"

I personally love no. 10, trying to figure out what would happen. Delete all contacts

Sure, you could put on a sexy outfit, give him flirty looks, and hope he gets the message. Or you could follow these pieces of advice from comedian Amy Schumer

1. Approach him at a bar and say in a sexy voice, “Hi, do you have gonorrhea? Do you want it?”

2. Make out with your hand, giving it some long, wet, sensual kisses, to ensure he’s aware of your skills.

3. Casually drop your birth control prescription in front of him so he knows you're down to party.

4. Wear a maternity shirt and say, “Dress for the job you want, right?”

5. Insult everything about him so he thinks you’re better than him. That’s a huge turn-on.

6. Talk about all your favorite Ani DiFranco and Tori Amos songs, then offer to sing him a medley of each one.

7. Let him know that you don’t swallow because of your nut allergy.

8. Begin sobbing uncontrollably out of nowhere, and refuse to explain why. Men love mystery.

9. If he offers to buy you a drink, request a vodka cranberry and mention that you’ve been trying to kick this UTI for weeks.

10. Ask to borrow his phone then erase all the numbers but yours. He’ll know you mean business. He may be mad now, but he'll appreciate it later.

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When my husband proposed to me HE HAD GLEAMERS IN HIS EYES,

aww, thats so sweet.

exactly what I look forward to. not necessarily glimmers but at least a longing, but glimmers wont hurt.

I love the analogy about a promise to go to london and a ticket to london ( makes alot of sense) thats what am gonna use to explain to her when next I see her.

Where are all the people that grew up in benin? Dont seem to be having any witnesses

personally I recall goody goody sweets, choco milo, hausa sweet ( pronounced anwunsa sweet )

walking all the way home cos you used your t fare for ice cream ( jamil youghurt or savanna ice cream)
my brothers were fans of the table soccer thing so I even played that too, lol
childhood was definitely fun.

I have this friend who is crazy about engagement rings. Recently she went visiting to her boyfriend's and when she came back she told us that he promised to marry her so she was gonna get herself a ring. And she did! The very next day,
We had an argument about it, we're like a group of 4 friends, and some ladies stood for and against the motion. I personally didnt buy the idea, cos I love the whole getting down on 1 knee business

So I thought to bring it up here and seek your opinions,

Scenario 1:
A guy promises to marry a girl

Scenario 2:
A guy asks a girl to marry him

Do they translate to the same thing? i.e a proposal hence an engagement.

Found this on a friend's note on facebook and it brought back lovely memories, so I thought to share, Cos I grew up there too.


YOU KNEW YOU GREW UP IN B-SIDE….

1. If you either attended Emotan, Greater tomorrow, Word of faith, Airforce, Federal staff or university staff primary schools.

2. If you either went to Mr Chukwusa’s lesson or independence lesson.

3. If you come home late from lesson because you went to pluck ebelebor

4. Or appitanga

5. Or Guava

6. Or amugie (5 a day was the least of our problems i tell you)

7. If you had a quarrel with someone in your class and set up a game of ten-ten to sort it out.

8. If you spent hours looking for the perfect seed for seweh (one that doesn’t bounce)

9. If you played “leke leke give me one finger”

10. If you played “boju boju oh”

11. If you “koh koh koh, who is there, mr wolf, what do you want, a shiny colour”

12. If “Banya” was a matter of life and death

13. If you played with football cards and competed for how close to the wall you can get it.

14. If you used red Hisbiscus to make stew (lol…play stew that is)

15. If you risked your life plucking cashew (knowing well if your mum sees a tiny stain on your cloth you
are dead)

16. If everyone told you to not swallow guava seeds or else you will get instant appendicitis.

17. If you played “STOP” as if they handed medals to the winners

18. If an 80 leaves notebook suddenly becomes 20 leaves because you have used it all to make
aeroplanes and boats.

19. If the big brown “ODIAKA” book once only second to the bible in your life.

20. If you knew Ali and Simbi so well that they became real to you.

21. If your first knowledge of Calabar was because Edet lived there.

22. If after school every day you looked at the ice cream man and wished we would just give you “BIG YOGOURT”.

23. If the ice cream man by your school gate didn’t give you your change for years forming like he was
busy and forgot.

24. If you take off your socks before your mum arrived to pick you up so she doesn’t see how dirty it is.

25. If you played “will you take my gold or SI-LI-VER”

26. If you scraped your knee and tried to treat yourself secretly so your mum doesn’t find out and conks you (lol… how mean).

27. If you parents said to you “If you fall from there I will not take you to the hospital oh”

28. Or “If you keep blowing that balloon it will burst and suffocate you and I will stand here and do nothing”

29. Or “If I get up to go and look for it myself and find it I will conk you”

30. If you went visiting and only agree to eat and drink from the secret language in your parents look.

31. If you don’t obey that look, you knew you are in trouble.

32. If on the way home you sit at the back of the car so your mum cant reach you but she does and pinches your leg (lol… fun memories)

33. If you once called Penalties “PE-NA-RI-TY”

34. If you were shit scared of GBOMO GBOMO (lol)

35. Finally if to you –the good guy in a movie was the “ACTOR” and the bad guy was the “BOSE”

B-SIDE is too much… be proud of where you grew up!

Am a pg student of the institution. was supposed to write my final exam monday morning and it has been postponed indefinitely cos of this event. Its so annoying that this has disrupted my academic calendar. I think the muslims are overreacting.

Earlier in UI it was the cross in the catholic church opposite them they complained about. They didnt want to see the cross from their mosque, so a big wall had to be constructed to cover it!.

BTW be advised that even married couples get attracted to others who are not their partners but the ability to admire and move on without going further is what keeps the relationship intact.

makes alot of sense,  The fact you are attracted to someone else is not a good enough reason. Thats the reason for the word "faithfulness" afterall.

RIP mama will surely be missed

Got my invitation too and the venue was confirmed through a text message yesterday. Wish all those who ve been invited all the best,
God favour you