The 'playas' club operates much like a franchise and its male members [there are female playas too] come from all wlks of life,and from all ova d globe.There's d Married Playa [who like to frequent the singles-only clubs],the Churchy playa [who picks his victims from the holy spot],the Eligible Bachelor [who lures marriage minded women with the fantasy of settling down but neva does] and the Gigolo[who exchanges love for loot].The list is endless.The question here is how u identify a down and dirty playa in d real sense of the word.Pls only constructive posts!!

The real playa is he/she who does it without getting spotted, if you spot a playa, then he is new in the business.

Right on.But how do u identify one.>>Sure there must be some red flags pointin one out as a potential "playa"

they are the ones who call every women with stupid endearments
honey,darling,sweetie,babe,darling ,

when they get the atteniton of ladies by callin them these names they start acting like a prefect gentleman

@ Muki


Nice guys wit perfecly honest intentions do that all d time!!

A playa will play you to the altar with you not knowing - that is what I call a pro playa - if you find him out, then he is no more a playa.

@ topic there is no sure fire way of spotting a playa! some of 'em are real pros

my suggestion is if you are in a relationship or something, for a change act crazy sometimes, go against your normal behaivour for some time see how he reacts

go against your normal behavior for some time see how he reacts

If you act crazy for no justifiable reason, your boyfriend has every right to respond in a crazy manner. Be sensible.

Hugoboi:

@ Muki


Nice guys wit perfecly honest intentions do that all d time!!

yeah!
but 99% of them are playas

nice guys is dere anything like that?

Seun:

If you act crazy for no justifiable reason, your boyfriend has every right to respond in a crazy manner. Be sensible.

what is not making sense here! his reaction to how you act will tell it all abi?

alabiyemmy:

A playa will play you to the altar with you not knowing - that is what I call a pro playa - if you find him out, then he is no more a playa.

true ! spoken like a true don (_{listen i no find the number again oh contact me})

my suggestion is if you are in a relationship or something, for a change act crazy sometimes, go against your normal behaivour for some time see how he reacts

A true playa might just act like nothing happened till he gets the "booty" of gets enuff of it.Then he throws ur a** out.

There is no sure way to identify a 'playa' just as there is no act to find the mind's construction on the face. Just be as wise as the serpent.

What is all this *&%*%#@$ everybody's sayin that real playas can't be found out?
Where's d playa from? Neptune?
I must say a girl must score like -20 in the IQ department not to be able to spot a playa.Please don't get me wrong,for d very good ones it may take a girl some time but eventually every playa is discovered.Period.
 How does he stop his phone from ringing when the other chicks call?
 When he starts talking in monosyllables on the phone eg."yes","I know","maybe","call u back" when u've always known him as an extra smooth talker.
 How's he going to hide the other chick when she's sitting right next to him in his car when he's meant to be out of town?
Da list is endless.

Y'see d playa's major enemy is time.He has just 24hrs.Now a typical girl wants 26hrs of his time all to herself.
By the time d guy's tryin to run like 6 chicks simultaneously Yawa must gas along the line.The only thing is when yawa gases with one chick a typical playa just goes on to another.Babes too full ground.

If majority of girls weren't so stupidly blind, ^{they call it love} playas wldn't go so far.

My 2 kobo.

Bolarge, remember that there are different types of playas as elucidated in the post. Therefore their mondus operandi must be different too, or don't you think so. I believe that you can be a playa without being noticed.

McDoe:

Bolarge, remember that there are different types of playas as elucidated in the post. Therefore their mondus operandi must be different too, or don't you think so. I believe that you can be a playa without being noticed.

The issue is not 'bout the playa (whatever breed he's of) not being noticed. .it's inevitable.
The issue is the so-called playa believin he's not noticed simply because the girl pretends not to.
Many a girl sticks with 'em hoping against hope that she will be the one to win his heart n'make him settle down.
If that ain't dumb I wonder what is.

should we really blame a playa for his jersey number? i'll put it on the game. and these ladies don't want to hear the truth, hence, the lust at first sight, love after they get bleeped and to-die-for after they get dumped.

Don`t hate the player
Hate the game
The player can only play
by virtue of position.
Play him out and you will identify a real player.

@ georgies

well said!!

Meaning
Its just hard to mark out a quality player
Just hope one dont come
You will sure give in.

georgies:

Don`t hate the player
Hate the game
The player can only play
by virtue of position.
Play him out and you will identify a real player.

Y'all make me laugh.
It'd be a lot more fun if we'd be this liberal-minded if the playa turns out to be our girlfriend and not resort to calling her names. . b*$#ch, h$#, what have you.

_{Signs out}

@ topic

A playa would say something like : you shouldn't be spending time trying to find out if i'm a playa you should be the one playing

, >>> and wat is that supposed to mean?

@Bolarge and ALL. . .

The truth of the matter is that a playa can do what he do cause he is allowed to. . .by his woman  (all playas have a main girl/guy) and the other woman, In fact the other woman/women will make up lies etc to help him do his thang. . .now occassionally we run across a real slick brotha that has multiple chicks but like someone said this don't last long cause there is only 24 hrs in a day and he gotta make time for sleep,(or his play machine wont work right) so that cuts into his playing time and depending on how many ladies he juggling. . .lets just say his time is short. . . but the key to his game lasting as long as it does is that he tells them what they want to hear. . .  See I you have to make each one believe they are your only one. . . this is easy to do. . .if you are creative. . .

Here are some of the easy signs. . .
Cant be reached. . .at the usual times with too many excuses explaining this or that
Change in routine/behavior (time and clothes wearing makeup if she didnt before etc)
Friends(cover buddies)become very important in terms of amt time spent wit them
Always on the go. . .Cant stay in one place for too long for fear of getting caught
Cant get hard or not interested in sex (tired arses Bodi no be firewood. . .prick no be gas pump either) _{my poor attempt at pidgin}
Cop an attitude and always saying "girl why don't you trust me, or "What you don't trust me now"

The list is ENDLESS. . ._{like this note. . . long o!}

**oops this maybe the wrong signs this may be how to tell when your man/woman is cheating**

may b u ll spot 1 if u use an electron microscope

is there anything like a true playa?

i think behind every successful playa is a queue of women who allowed him,

women have the 7th sense of intuition which we guys sadly lack in certain aspects

i believe a woman senses when she is about to get played,she just talks herself out of the feeling,

so a playa would be a guy would get to rolla sis out of her fears

Yeah.there are players. but, folks SOME GAMES YOU PLAY,SOME GAMES PLAY YOU!! that does not mean there are no players, you dont have to win all games to top the league, "am sorry to say but most Girls(the female folks has proven themselves to be FISH BRAINS over the centuries!! No insult intended!!

I dont c y ya'll are wining about, the problem is, women get too emotionally involved. If u think your man is playing u, play him too and c how mad he'll get, and if u have seen him, tell him straight, aint nothing like keeping quiet, it wont solve nothing.

Too many excuses is one way of spotting a so-called player, but if he can do the game, who said u cant?

How to bust a player, Well, i aint too experienced in this field, but i think real players are hard to spot. But again,being a player,hw sure r u that u aint being played? i think most players are made cuz the girls actually made them dat way by feigning ignorance. Step outside the box for a minute and think.If it were u listening to the lies you tell the girls, will you believe it? for peace sakes and to prevent players from being embarassed or busted, most girls just accept it. But again, you dont know where shes goin when she leaves ur crib!

So every one,actively or pasively is a player. Its just the position dat differs. The players, the playees.

Just enjoy the game while it lasts and while at it, keep the game air tight!

But one sure sign of a player: , When he accuses u of doin stuff, as a man thinketh,so is he

@ topic

Boys play girls and girls play boys!. . . . . . it's just that most girls are bad losers when it comes to the heart game.

Bolarge:

What is all this *&%*%#@$ everybody's sayin that real playas can't be found out?
Where's d playa from? Neptune?
I must say a girl must score like -20 in the IQ department not to be able to spot a playa.Please don't get me wrong,for d very good ones it may take a girl some time but eventually every playa is discovered.Period.
  How does he stop his phone from ringing when the other chicks call?
  When he starts talking in monosyllables on the phone eg."yes","I know","maybe","call u back" when u've always known him as an extra smooth talker.
  How's he going to hide the other chick when she's sitting right next to him in his car when he's meant to be out of town?
Da list is endless.

Y'see d playa's major enemy is time.[/b]He has just 24hrs.Now a typical girl wants 26hrs of his time all to herself. By the time d guy's tryin to run like 6 chicks simultaneously Yawa must gas along the line.The only thing is when yawa gases with one chick a typical playa just goes on to another.Babes too full ground.

[b] If majority of girls weren't so stupidly blind, they call it love playas wldn't go so far.

My 2 kobo.

WORD!!  Na true word you talk, my brother. . . . those who have ears, let them hear!

You asked: How does he stop his phone from ringing when the other chicks call? Hey, he puts it in 'vibrate only' mode. Or switches the phone to silent mode. That way, when it vibrates, he alone gets to know there is a call, from a babe! Sometimes, he saves the identity of the babe under a male name. e.g. Alexandra becomes known as[i] Alex,[/i] on his phone. Funke becomes Frank etc. Shey, you get my drift?

Sadly, playas will always make one fatal mistake that would blow their cover at the end of the day. Their lies don't gel over a period of time. And they are quick to go on the defensive too quickly. They also don't care too much about their reputations and are willing to take silly risk that'll jeorpardise their friendships, relationships & image. In addition to all these, they always seem to have a glib excuse for everything.

And when the house of cards they have built on those false stories come crashing down, they are quick to seek further excuses to explain it all away. Playas are nothing but jokers who do not place value themselves. Jokers who think they are smart, when in actual fact they are just making a fool of themselves as they try to hoodwink members of the opposite sex, and also digging a deep hole in which they would fall, as time goes by.

Eventually, they get to learn their lesson. Yeah right. . . . .karma is a bitch. Ain't that sad.

By their fruits you shall know them