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I disagree with this article. Only 0.1% of runs girls may fall into this category if any at all. 99.9% are due to peer pressure(Blackberry/Abuja babes things).

My humble opinion;Life is too short. Do not let fear of the unknown stop you from taking this big step. Nobody knows tomorrow. A family should be together. If you dont take this step now,you may never enjoy your marriage. Resign your job and join him in Nigeria. I hope you have some good savings just in case. However, believe you are moving here to enjoy your marriage. Make up your mind to make your marriage work. It may be tough at first but you will overcome. All the best.

I remember a lady Captain Chinyere with Aero contractors was given an award by Chevron as the best pilot after she made a decision that saved the life of 50 workers on a mini-plane. OP you are on your own.

OP since you need advise this is mine. You are not just a single man but one with two kids from differents mum. So you need a wife who will not just love you but also mother your kids. Dont come home with the promise to marry anyone instead with a plan to unite your family. Take your daughter to spend time with your son and his mum. If you are not sure of your second baby mama relationship with your babygirl then dont marry her yet. You have to watch her rival too. Wait and watch. I think thats what Tubaba did and went for Annie.

kodozion:
I understand what you are saying but I don't agree some of your points
A ring or marriage does not bring out respect in a woman...a disrespectful woman will always be like that whether ring or not until she decide to amend
Are there not wedding where both parent gave consent to but d union never went pass 3 months
If a woman cannot display a good xter before marriage then she will not even if you marry her
I have always look beyond her manners/fault but my issue with her now is her ungrateful and comparison with my daughter which goes to show she can't unite my daughter n her son
If she has shown this side before I don't think I would ve continue this far with her

I have never compared my daughter with her son...I hardly even discuss my daughter with her
How much did I spend on daughter last year compare to her son

All through last year....I only bought clothes during summer for my daughter, sept I enrolled her in a new sch of 67k...oct I gave my mum 10k to take her to hospital..finish


But her own case.....in march I spent 77k for ante natal,her pyschatric posting and allownace
May..I gave 180k for her 1st baby shopping......june I made a new bed frame and bought new foam for her for 50k.....august her pack bag for delivery I gave her 23k...all these doesn't include her monthly allowance
She gave birth sept 6th..on the 1st sept..I gave her 102k for delivery n allowance....oct..I gave her 120k for allownace,settle debt of 15k n buy few electronics....november...I gave her 80k for her and my son expenses....dec I gave her and her family 93k (50k for the parents)..........no wonder the father called on new year to bring the baby to visit him.....I gave them the money just put respect on her since I have not come to do the right thing

This year janaury....I only paid my daughter sch fees...40k.....while she and her son collected 53k
Then on the 26th she asked for her febuary allowance and money for dedication..I gave her 60k.......
The problem now is that on the 17th feb she asked for money I told her to wait till month so I will give her moni for both her sch stuff and allowance before she started vomitting rubbish that if it were my daughter n mother that requested moni I will run and send it
That the other day my daughter was not feeling fine I sent money but I refuse to respond now that she said her son is not fine
Also that the land my mum bought for me,she knows her son is not included but just me and my daughter
Lastly what does she really benefit from me self

The bible say....he that is faithful/grateful in little will be faithful/grateful in much..
She is very ungrateful and is too early for her to see my daughter as a rival
Is not healthy at all
I'm trying but she is not encouraging

I dislike this 'her son' ,'my daughter' use of words. He is your son too so please correct that. All these are why she is complaining sef.

cococandy:
We're you guys planning to get married?
Or just cohabiting?

You know Nigerian ladies don't fancy living with a man who's not ready to do right by them especially when they have people by the side mocking them about their 'cheapness' in openly living with and bearing kids for a man who won't do them the 'honor' of marriage.

Nne seems you are in my head. I dont want to comment on their fighting aspect. I just want mcdokwe to know this is the root cause of his failed relationship. Your girl have been ridiculed,abused and is frustrated. You admitted to not being financially boyant. Those friends and maybe her family were definitely asking if she was enchanted. That you love her,are gentle and dont beat her was her only bragging point. Now that have been lost your relationship is doomed. Love is never enough.

@ Novelle when is your NEBOSH PH training holding for the month of May/June? I am planing towards any of those two months

Love is the most abused word on earth. A lot of people profess love to deceive,men mostly do this. I always say that love is never enough for marriage or relationship,trust,loyalty,friendship,being responsible,acceptance,understanding,perseverance,wisdom are virtues that love cannot replace.

Peterken05:
That is what it is called then, that's what we are been taught in sch here in nigeria,
the law or fact in the what you called 'law' of gravitation is that 'anything that goes up must come down'-thats a fact,
in atomic theory, 'atom consist of proton, neutron and electron'-thats a fact,
germ theory of diseases- germs causes diseases- a fact,
so as string theory, relativity and evolution which is -man evolved over time.
what it explains is called theory and I think I explained it to you.



We haven't stopped evolving, there are many evidences for that, we are losing our wisdo teeth, we now develop lactose intolerance, our brains are shrinking, we resist diseases, those are signs that we are still evolving.

Evolution is not magic, evolution is not changing over night, it involves time.

FYI, I don't know it all, I'm just a guy(in my teens) in 300lvl in one of the schools here in nigeria. Nobody knows it all.

Ok all the best in your studies. Being scientifically inclined is great. Science is one the best that happened to our world

Peterken05:
Yh, life started from bacteria, you can't understand it, you know why?

1. Because you have another story that contradicts it
2. Because you don't even know what a scientific theory is

Who told you chimps would evolve into man?
Chimps are the closest relative to human, what does that tell you, it means we have the same ancestry, we share the same (forefathers), look at the chimps, their anatomy, compare it to humans, look at their DNA, the gene that makes human to walk straight
is a mutated gene, the real gene is in chimps, we know this by uner tan syndrome (you can readup on that), its a condition whereby humans can't walk upright.

Look at the bacteria, we have the same set of DNA coding proteins

Just because we live for a short period of time to see these things happen doesn't mean it isn't happening. For example, you look at the clouds, you just look at it, you don't see anything happen right?.
If you do the time lapse of a cloud, you would know that they are not just standing there staring.

What is the meaning of "law" you guys are shouting sef?

You want to compare what science is in the 1600s to now, there is nothing like law in science.
Theory is the last stage you can reach,
It means your hypotheses have been proven, tested, peer reviewed and accepted by other scientists but waiting to be proved wrong.

Look at the like this, for example, there was a theory called 'germ theory of diseases' explaining that germs causes diseases. Years later we know that the germs are diversified, we have viruses, bacteria, fungi etc. Some don't even causes sickness, some are useful, some helps ruminant animal digest their fibre.
You can say the latter explains the former, you can say it refute it, but the essence is you can't call it a law (not anymore), check daltons atomic theory too before the new modernised theory.

lots of theory you can check, theory of relativity, theory of gravitation etc.

Mr know it all please there is nothing like theory of gravitation,it is Law of Gravitation. Its Isaac Newtons law not theory. Theories can be disproven but laws cannot. A theory remains a fact until it is disproven by another theory but a law cannot be disproven. Everything that goes up will come down that's the gravitational law. It is a known fact and there is no fact out there to disprove it. Do you know what the world of avaition passed through to keep planes up against the force of gravity?Please how again do you prove that we all came from bacteria and how many million years before man evolved into the next specie or have we suddenly stopped evolving?

You don't need to lie,just avoid saying the truth. The best thing to do is simply to take a day(s) off so that you can relax during your interview.

Nigeria pikin doing great things from time immemorial. Go girl,we are proud of you.

missbronze:
Wow.

That's a nice one for my country.

I love that her name.., Zuriel.

who knows the meaning, Abeg?

Long live Nigeria..!!
Proudly one!!!

My Rock is God,thats the meaning. I will give that name to my child. I think the name is unisex.

frank317:
And what has this got to do with the OP?

Oga Frank my response was for Peter. I did not even read the OP post.

Peterken05:
Evolution is not a belief system, its the fact.

The theory that man started as a cell in the sea or the one that chimpanzee will soon evolve into man. A scientific law is the undisputable fact and evolution is not a law yet even in the world of science.

frank317:
He is just a fraud who gets frustrated when he cannot decieve some folks on Nairaland just the way his fellow gullible Christians can be deceived because they are just ready to believe anything.

Dont tell me you believe in evolution

What the guy did is gross. The lady just stepped out for a while and he is already doing another girl not in a guest house but in their house. This is not just cheating but also disrespect. Imagine what will happen when she go for the studies proper. For me confronting him is paramount. His reactions will determine your next step.

I love CC comment. The right decision is one that will stop them from continuing the act. So OP dont look away,do the right thing. May God help you.

Of course bro you can beat your wife and you will beat her but just remember the favour does not extend to another man's wife. So happy beating for you and your darling wife.

Let the past belong to the past

Things are hard so we dont expect men to bear the family responsiblity alone. Mbanu,you wan kill am. But why on earth will a sane man do same to his wife. Thats wickedness. The man is the head of the family,the lead,the front liner,the team captain. He should do his work with the support of his wife. God made a woman to be a helpmate. Only an irresponsible and lazy man leaves family responsibility for his wife. If a man is handicapped,thats a different issue altogether.

MistarT:
wow really helpful.

I'm glad.

OP if you wife is God fearing and pricipled, then you have nothing to fear. Also make sure you play your part as a husband. Visit her office once in a while and dont leave without greeting her boss. Let your presence be known whether you are rich or not. If you wife is also the type that uses 'my husband said' in discussions,it will discourage the man more. I have a randy boss and from day one i made up my mind that any day he tries anything unprofessional with me,i will leave. And so far,he has behaved well.

OP free us jare. Let you friend define her relationship with that man abeg. 6yrs dating ke for this age make she shine her eyes.

What a news to start the week. Congrats beauty4ashes. Thanks for sharing and the encouraging words. Before the end of March,i also will be congratulated.

@mumihaja Happy Wedding Anniversary. Whether the devil likes it or not you will live to see your children children in Jesus name.


I am in for the prayers. Prayer changes things.


Father, i thank you for all of us here,for our husband/wife and for our lovely babies. You know our children one by one even now they are yet to enter our wombs. You call and know them by their names. Thank you Lord for we will raise these little ones to know and serve you. Thank you for you promised our father Abraham that a stranger will not be his heir. Thank you that we are children of Abraham so this promise is ours. Thank you Father for you are not man. Eternal Daddy you cannot lie and you cannot fail. Thank you for you always honour your word.

Father in the name of Jesus Christ,let every womb waiting on you be healed. Womb be healed and conceive. Every reproductive organ male and female hear the word of God. There shall be no barren man or woman among God's people. Be fruitful and multiply in the Mighty name of Jesus Christ Amen.

Has witnessed such although it didnt happen to me. Was during work hours so the guy carry am enter bank sharp sharp.

God bless nairalanders,you guys are simply the best. I am honoured to be part of this noble group. Hoping to contribute my own widows mite today. Folake will beat cancer,God is in on the throne. Nigeria, Good people,Great Nation.
And all the this people still shouting scam,please quietly get off this thread. Your contribution is not needed,thanks.

Op thanks for the info. I am not a sucker for violent Se'x . So i guess i will just keep away from 50shades of ife-nwa.

lolaxavier:
Sorry to say but sincerely I'm not sure you know what a crime of passion is. Crime of passion is not premeditated. When you rape someone and kill her, then it is premeditated to me.

Bro i did not study criminology but my good guess is that this is a date gone wrong.

Who did this? This is clearly a crime of passion.