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Think of saving yourself madam. The first point in a violent relationship is to stay apart. Life has no duplicate.

See this OP. Why is it that people who have been blessed keep wasting their opportunity? Your mum,brother, wife etc are also running businesses and your are here whinning. Wait till she becomes richer and give you back the 10m then you will hear nwiii. Arrange yourself and start your own business. Met good business consultant for help. If you sit down depending on others to work for the money then you are making a big mistake. The bills you are paying where do you get the money from? Hope you are not collecting money from your mum.

A neighbour of mine used to pick a new girl every night even though he has a girlfriend. One day,he met this babe who is not even as cute,young or fresh as those girls he normally pick. He changed. Before we know it,he proposed to her and then married her. Till today he doesnt look at any other woman. Once we were having a discussion and it came up. He smiled and told us that he now plays champion league so street football have no place in his life anymore. So that adage doesnt apply all the time. Change is constant.

What he said is very true. It is only in heaven that there will be no more poverty,sickness,sorrow,death etc. Since you chose not to be poor,then do your best and walk with God to provide for you. I declare that i am rich even in the midst of all challenges. But as Christ said,the poor will always be among us.

OP take your people to go and meet your inlaws and clear things up.

Yes age can be a barrier,if not so you wouldnt be here. Age difference is a big deal to some people and your girl is in that category. Convince her to give you a try and also come down to her level but if she refuses,then dont waste your time. Look for another girl and let her wait for a younger man. 8-10yrs difference is no big deal.

Maybe they should also ask for your bank statement lol. Its very wrong. They should instead ask for your source of livelihood.

okotv:
ohwhy,

a little advice for you. Watch Mr and Mrs, the one acted by Nigerians. That's all from me.

Nice and very educative movie. Timidity is not humility.

emusmith:
We are talking about the DONTS during dating o...

Ooh sorry i thought you were talking about dos and donts and felt its necessary to thrown in those points. Nice thread though.

In addition a godly relationship walk according to Love. For love is patient,love is kind ..... God is love. Se,x,ual purity is not the only meter rule to measure being godly (thats a mistake some christian couples make,no wonder being a born again christians is not a ticket to a wonderful marriage). Se.x alone cannot hold a long term relationship. Sharing,caring,selflessness,being hardworking,submissive,ability to lead,forgive,provide,torelance,acceptance etc are very important elements in a godly relationship.

Wat-de-hell. Then i think is time you drop that gentle,humble,simple,shy,nice girl mentality and talk to him head to head. He is comparing you with other women and is now feeling that you are not right for him. Is he in competition with his friend. Nawa ooo

miraclebaby:
@Amhappy I sent you a pm, need to find out sth from you.

hv responded.

toni2014:
@ Amhappy, so glad to hear u had a successful procedure. when are u advised to resume Bding?
This is definately our year people, lets keep trusting in the Lord. He is too faithful to fail.

Will get to know when i go for follow up by weekend. Its our year dear. Our BFPs will come soonest.

JUMAYIN:
Osubare reee o, Osubare reee o, OBA taa o ri, tanri ise owo re osubare reee ooo...my wonderful mothers in the houz, after months of TTC the Lord has answered my prayers, I just got my BFP now,am soo happy...my body is shaking as I type this...thank u mighty Father...dear Lord plz fill up this thread with countless Bfps in d remaining days of this month Lord...show yourself strong Baba

singing' Ogene doo iye iye. Thank you Lord. I have been expecting this news. Thank you Jesus. Congrats dear.

'De-humanizing task'-thats a wrong choice of word to describe what your mum asked you to do. I remember a friend of mine who refused to help her mum in her chin-chin biz after we graduated and was unemployed. She visited and met me weeding my mum's farm lol. I agree you should build your confidence and also stamp your authority as the first child by having the power to re-delegate duties as deemed fit to your siblings but not because you are ashamed to do them(I'm a first child too). However be careful not to cross that thin line between self confidence and pride.

aisha2:
Reading through your posts I see there are several other issues.
1. His lashing out and spitting on another woman
2. He still lives with his parents ( has that changed?)
3. You suspect he gave you an std

You are the one in the relationship, you are the one who can tell yourself the truth. You decide to stay and come back later with stories of my husband did this did that or you can sit and tell yourself some home truths desperation aside.

Goodluck

Good investigative journalism. Op shine your eyes.

This one tough. Marriage never even start sef. Is anything troubling him that he is taking out on you? I hope he didnt pretend for 6yrs or wasnt force to marry because of the pregnancy. Talk to him.

You have been played big time. For your own good and the good of your unborn child,do the needful.

Congrats Deezou. I feel like dancing,i feel like shaking my body. Thank you Lord. Now i know that God has mapped out 2015 for ttc women/men. Counting down to our 15 BFPs.

Itissettled3:
Congratulations Deezou

Please amhappy, kindly respond to a sister. Thank you.

Sorry dear,network is bad here ooo. Life specialist hospital Nnewi,Anambra state. Cost 150k.

Itissettled3:
Congratulations dear. Please where did you do the hysteroscopy and how much please? Thanks a lot.

Thank you my sister. At Life Specialist hospital Nnewi Anambra State. 150k for the thing itself. Lab,drugs and other things are billed separately. Baby dust,2015 is our year.

Congrats aghaibiam,createmag and other belleful mamas. God is truly awesome, great and amazing. Enjoy a healthy nine months. I successful had a hysterscopy for adhesion removal 2days ago,house pls join me and praise God,my Rock. @mumilaw tell that fear to disappear,change your doctor if you are not comfortable with him and pray God to be the Head surgeon.

No 1 is mine in the awesome name of Jesus Christ Amen.

Congrats Chiclasweet. Glory to God. Your case gave my hope because i also have a case of uterine adhesion. I am considering the operation thing ooo but if it can be bypassed by iui then better.Happy and safe 9months

Ask an ex for xmas gift, thats bad. If she is not in a desperate situation why have a dinner with the devil. Anyway OP advise her,thats what friends are for.

@ stellx(f) Nice one. Your girl never get ooo. Good morning

This was shared by a lady from my villa-her life testimony. Her daughter is 3months now. Read and be encouraged. Merry Xmas Mothers and Fathers in the house.

MY TESTIMONY
I wnt to use his medium to tell the world of God's faithfulness in my life to the shame of devil.Before i start i plead with u to spare me your time and am nt just writing it for writing sake bt also to build ur faith.
I got married on 24 Sept 2011. God blessed me in the mnth of Nov same year. i ws so happy dt i never waited so lng before receiving it 4rm God. on 24 July 2012 i gave birth to a BBG around 10:30am bt lost her around 11pm same day. hmmm it ws as if d night wnts to overshadow d day. the only tin i did ws to encourage myself in d Lord hopn dt He will never desert me.
Dec 2012 God did it again. i conceivd and again lost in feb 2013. i laughd at d devil cos i know dt it is one of d strategiz he thought will use so as to mak me either curse God or deviate frm His way. (as sm1 marryn an only son). he faild again cos i went on with my life.
Without any delay God visited me again in April 2013. things were moving so fine until 12 Jun same year. after saying my midnit prayer around i went to bed. around 3am i felt severe pain in my lower abdomen. when i got up it seems something coming out of me, lo nd behold brethren it ws my 4 mnths old baby.some minutes later i startd bleeding. it ws so serious dt before 4 am dt i ws rushd to d hospital i had became so pale dt doctors were afraid of attending to me cos according to them i lost almost all d blood bt the MIGHTY HAND OF GOD just held me. there nd then i ws evaccuated. i travelled to stay with my mum bt started bleeding after sm days. i ws taken to d hospital again nd ws evaccuated d second time. one week after i started bleedn again nd i undergone another evvacuation making it th 3rd time. umunna i bled from 12 June to 31 Aug. u can imagine the pains i went tru durin doz period.
To a time i became afraid of getting pregnant bt wen i remembered what my mum told me "devil wants to use dis to hold ur emotional life into hostage in that i will b afraid of getting pregnant again". i prayed nd God eradicated d fear frm me. then and again MY REDEEMER came to my aid nd blessd me agaiin. my first trimester wsnt palatable cos i had signs of miscariage bt i held God bt His word in Exodus 23:26.
I based my prayers on the promises of God nd with d prayers of the saints especially my daddys in d Lord : Ven Prosper Amah nd Ven Alex Ihemekwala which i belived saw me throughout d pregnancy nd child birth.
Now God has indeed made me a mother nd nt just anyhow mum bt a mother to this beautiful baby.
My prayer is that God will surely bless nd preserve all who remembered me in my trial momemt nd reward them accordingly nd u who is patient enough to read my storry. EXPECT MORE OF GODS BLESSINGS THIS SEASON. IF U ARE LOOKING UNTO HIM, DNT LOOSE HOPE COS HE NEVER LEAVE NOR FORSAKE THOSE THAT PUT HIS TRUST ON HIM.
SHALLOM

To be frank i don't know what to do.

Good training will help but doesn't guarantee that this wont happen. A lot of same sex relationship starts in boarding schools and higher institution when the child is away from the parents. I remember vividly how some girls did it when i was in secondary school. Some of them are from godly homes but societal influence and bad company got them. So i will train and pray.

Speechless. Your friend needs advice from experienced minds on this forum Chaircover ,EfemenaXY etc you are needed here

@ Op waiting give Etisalat and MTN lol

toni2014:
@Amhappy, how are you doing? Got ur supp yet?

Doing great dear. Compliments of the season. Yes i've gotten it.

For with God nothing is impossible. All glory to God.

@Post I don't see why this wonderful act should be painted in a bad light. Is it better to give life or to give death? You know too well that this testimony wasn't for Kumuyi to glorify himself but to glorify God.