₦airaland Forum

ayowole21:
The OP just described my Dad seriously....my siblings and me don't have the joy of fatherhood at all....we always wish he travelled to a place very far.. cos when he's around the house turn into a living hell....our mom is our only consolation...although he supported us in terms of education...but my dad is just a sadist...at 24 and a graduate I don't have a good rapport with Dad

chimah3:
Why is this op describing her husband for us?

Please enough of the hasty generalisation!

If your husband treats you bad...Pele! All men are not that way!

In fact I've never met a man that does any of that! Shiorr!

Titilayooni:
Start acting all aggressive especially when their team loses or when a match spoils their bettting ticket.....*SMH*

SANDOSKI:
Lol......

maxwelljava:
I, ELDER EMMANUEL UKOHA KALU (JP)
LOST THE CONTACT OF A FRIEND/BROTHER
ARIKPO JONAH INAH IBOH OF A QUARTERMASTER,
S & T BDE HQ. NIGERIAN ARMY. ANYBODY THAT KNOWS
HIM SHOULD CONTACT THIS NUMBERS. IS A MATTER OF URGENCY?
08061636035, 08153945226
PLEASE SHIFT THIS TO FRONT PAGE, LIFE IS AT STAKE. THANKS ADMIN

wtfCode:
obanyego one way

greatgod2012:
1. A man who refuses to eat because there is a disagreement between him and his wife is not only childish, but also stupid, except if his money is not what is used to prepare the food. He can however be regarded as wise, if during the disagreement, the wife threatened to poison him.

2.No sane man will keep malice with his own kids because he's corrected by his wife.


3. Totally childish, well, poo.happens.

4. A man who beats his wife is an animal. Simple.

5. This is cool. It's called wisdom.
There is no way there won't occasionally be disagreement between couples, but the wise ones do not let visitors know when visitors are around. It's actually childish to let visitors know that you and your spouse is quarrelling.


6. The man is a chameleon.



My own childishness is when a man sits in fronts of television all through the day. while the wife is doing almost 10 different things simultaneously and the man is still complaining of lateness of his meal. Also, when a woman insists that men should be responsible for all the financial obligations in the family and such woman is still complaining of the authority over her.


Couples,
Let's all do unto ourselves what we want done unto us.

Acidosis:
Lol, the way people mention lala these days ehn, it now seems like no thread (no matter how sensible) would make the front-page as long as lala is not called.

It's rather too childish in my own understanding.

@OP, you made great and salient points. Whether or not it makes the front-page, that shouldn't bother you. If indeed you want men to learn and change their ways, then post it, leave it at that, and move on.

amicable09:
Oh! Uhm... Lol, It's been so many years and I can't even remember the details on how I came about it but I had a neighbour while growing up who called me that. I'm Amara by the way

overhypedsteve:
Use the 5million dollars and buy a generator to charge your iphone

ayusco85:
Mine too was sms, I attached d screen shot. I called d number to find out who was behind it weda I will recognize the voice. I knew it was scam

MsGlobalwonder:
war room koor, battle field ni!! Mtshewww. Nigerians!! Smh!!

amicable09:
Hi dear
What inspired you to choose this moniker?

amicable09:
Ahn!
I came to encourage the OP when I saw a moniker like mine... I don't know how I feel seeing my 'moniker sake' ... I feel like crying and laughing at the same time.

Nice moniker though.
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OP, I'm happy your mum is making the house uncomfortable for you. You are too comfortable at home for a guy. I mean who comes out to say they are beginning to hate their mum because she's not giving him money for airtime? If it were she didn't give you transport money to go for test or interview in another state cos you've run out of savings I'd have said she overdid it but mere call card?

Upgrade your hate game!

Leave the house everyday! Engage yourself in sth productive whether you are paid or not and your mum will be happy. Try it for one month and you'll see changes.

achicares:
This is the type of post the op needs. Not those who are rather judging him of depending on his parents.
They didn't read where he said, he was offered a job, but his mother stopped him from taking it. that automatically gives no but to depend on his mother to provide for him.
Op, follow the advice of this person I quoted.

Djpassion1010:
. I wish I have the opportunity to go to school like u hv gone!

cocoduck:
I am a full blooded Igbo man and in our culture it is considered Aru (abomination)

Seconded!!

nobilis:
Make proper researches before spewing trash.

No african tradition forbids homosexuality.

Of all the tribes and ethnicities in Africa, none forbade homosexuality.
The very first time that homosexuality was viewed as a sin in Africa was when the colonial masters came and imposed their laws on Africans.
Before that, there was no forbidding of homosexuality.

christopheru:
I think you're high on Dusting Powder hahahahahahahahahahaha

Juzzybabe:
Even if God wants to answer my prayer,if he cant work the miracle in the direction of changing him completely,let him find me another man that will treat me with love and respect. If you know how much beatings i got even while pregnant from that beast i married,every time he visited i was his boxing sand bag. I never for a day enjoy the marriage i happily signed for. i don't want it again o. and i cant even waste my prayers in that direction again

PaulKillerman:
Fork them and trash them, that us their only use... Any nigga taking bitches serious is a big fool and deserves anything he gets...

Women are just sex objects... They understand and know it... They have no other use...

Holywizard:
ok

TheArchangel:
You sound so entitled to your mum's pocket. So she can't treat herself to good things because she has an ineffectual Buffon as a son.?

Get off

Holywizard:
I am so sorry to say this but it is actually the truth.
Ever since I graduated last year my mum has made my life a living hell.
I ve tried severally to get used to her bad attitude but all to no avail.
She complains on every thing I do. In fact once she wakes up from sleep she must look for something to complain with.

Since I graduated, I automatically stopped receiving cash from them & they (she & my dad) doesn't even care whether I have money to recharge my phone. Since last year they haven't given me ordinary #1000 & once I complain they will say 'no money' but my mum especially keeps buying unnecessary things. No money but she'll buy new shoes, clothes, bags, cell phone etc which she won't even put on.

Last week, our last born of de family came back from school & she took him out for shopping & she spent not less than #50,000 on him. Everything she does now is on the boy. My mum can even wash the plates on behalf of him. Everything he does is right. She protects the boy like an egg.

When an old friend wanted me to come over to PH so that I'd be managing his business before I go for service, my mum refused, saying that the days are bad via money ritualism. All my elder siblings called me to talk sense into me that I should just stay back, I missed that big opportunity because I'd ve been having like hundreds of thousands in my bank account.

My parents doesn't care about my welfare. Right now I don't have up to #1000 in cash & in bank. I think they hate me & I
I hate my mum the most!!! I just feel like leaving the house for them.

PresVA:
"Men don't look good in aprons" ..is kitchen for fashion?

if your wife falls ill or becomes heavily pregnant, you starve because men don't look good in aprons. . Hunger never catch you. .

If the apron is your problem, then don't wear it...

Ujoan:
Nigerian men been wanting to eat their cakes and have it since 1903 . . . . . Oshi!!!

In you twisted sense of entitlement, you didn't even see the sarcasm in the original post.

Until you raise your own child to those standards, you have no right demanding such from someone else's daughter all in the name of wife.

SSpeter:
I know this might not be totally right but at least it will make me feel great. Egbon wants to get married in march and automatically I will become the best Man. But I don't want him to get married to her. It is not because of her but the dad.

It all started back in 1998 my dad was having a court case with our supposed in-law over our house. The house was sold to my dad by the late late brother of our supposed in-law. That was even before my dad got married. We have lived in that house for more than 10yrs. My siblings and I were born there. After the death of the brother in 1998 he dragged my dad to court saying his brother was only a benefactor and does not have the legal right to sell the building and their late father made him the executor of His properties according to the late father's will. My parents were partners in business and their office was located at the ground floor of the building where we lived. Their goods were also stored there (plumbing equipment).

Prior to joining the plumbing business, my dad was into commercial inter-state transport services after suffering heavy losses he auctioned what was left and joined my mum in the plumbing business. A year later he was in court with our supposed in-law. The legal battle started in December. Egbon travelled with an aunt of mine who had won a visa lottery the previous year. My sisters were older than the guys. they were already in boarding school. I was the king of the house. My dad suffered many embarrassment at the hands of our supposed in-law. He dragged the case for some years money meant for business ended up in legal battles. My dad had to borrow to pay suppliers. He couldn't not order for new materials anymore and the business eventually collapsed. Extended families gave their support until 2003 when a lagos high court handed our supposed in-law victory

My dad wanted to appeal the judgement but his lawyer told him to get an apartment with whatever he has left. Although my parents thought they hid everything from us. Perhaps my sisters didn't notice because they were not always home but I saw my mum cry severally. I saw the fears in my dad eyes. I listened to their whispering at night I knew we were doomed. Our supposed In-law sold the house to a bank. The bank gave two weeks to evacuate. But before the notice expired they brought sledge hammer and started destroying the building with our properties in it. My dad tried to protest but he was beaten and arrested. For the first time I saw our "Supposed In-law" that day ordering the boys to destroy everything. My dad was later released days after. I went to live with my cousins. My sisters also went to live with my other cousins.

In 2006 I wrote a mail to Egbon I narrated all that happened to him and he vowed he was going to ensure that they payed for it dearly. Few years later, I got admission into the university my parents embraced christ; But I still feel bitter. How time flies, my sisters are both married and it's just me preparing for the life of a bachelor; Until recently my brother told me his plans of getting married, I noticed it because he has visited us more than usual last year and had extensive discussions with my parents. But whenever He came back He still promised my dad that he will never forget all that happened. My dad told him that was in the past but I know what my brother was capable of doing as regards family.

He brought his supposed girl friend (I believe that is all she will ever be) to the house last christmas everyone welcomed her but immediately I set my eyes on her, she looked like the man that was giving orders to tear down our house. I asked her for her surname, when she said ****US, I knew she was the daughter of our long time enemy. When they left, my mum and dad begged me that I shouldn't say anything. That they have forgiven him. She invited my parents and I during the new year but I declined. I have also told my brother I can't be his best man. He thought am joking cos it was via mail. My brother had assured me severally whenever I told him what became of us after then that incident and he told me "I will give up anything to deal with the Man that messed with my family". I guess I will have to tell him the whole truth. But my parents keep calling me every single day to beg. "Saying I should not bring him misery. That they were happy he decided to bring home a cool headed lady".....But I just can't let it go. Unless my brother and I will decide not to be brothers anymore because I will never go to his house if he marries her. I will never associate myself with him or anything that has to do with him.

I have finished typing the truth I want to send the mail to him...I don't know why I am hesitating (I guess my parents will forgive me sooner or later) but he has to know the truth!!!!....i can't dine with my enemy!.....I don't want to see her dad face again....never...I hope am doing the right thing....i think I am.....perhaps I am...

IamMetallic:
Pls @OP, if you find such a woman kindly lemme know, even though I no trust you.

June24th:
Others have the right to be enlightened..
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