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✍🏾Amina has a big Dream

It’s late in the night and the stars are on a short break but inside the little room, a young girl couldn’t sleep. Every where was pitch quiet and a little rave of fear was crippling in. But she shrugged it away. After all nothing is as fearful as knowing that I would not go to school for the next few days she muttered to her self.

With a deep sigh, she tried one more time to force herself to sleep by shutting her eyes tightly. She silently started to count the sheep and before long she gave in to Mother Nature. By morning, she woke up to her chores of sweeping, fetching water from down the stream and getting her younger siblings ready for school. After a quick breakfast, she walked them to school and stood by the school gate waving them off.

“Amina, are you not coming to school?” She turned around to see her classmate Hauwa running up to her. No Hauwa, I’m not. It’s my time of the month so I have to stay back home. I will be back next week Insha Allah, she muttered. Her friend gave her a hug “Masha Allah” as Amina slowly made her way back home.

In this small rural village in Nigeria, this bright young girl named Amina loved school more than anything else. Her dream was to become a Peadiatric Doctor and treat children, but every month, a challenge forced her to stay home from school. Without sanitary pads during her periods, Amina had no choice but to miss several days of learning, watching her dreams drift further away with each passing month.

Her parents, though hardworking, could barely afford daily necessities, let alone sanitary products. The disappointment in Amina’s eyes every month pained her mother, who wished for nothing more than to see her daughter succeed.

One day, a group called A Mum And More heard about the struggles of girls like Amina. They started The Girl and Her Pad Project, aimed at providing sanitary pads to girls in rural communities. When they arrived in Amina's village with boxes of pads, it was like a new chapter had begun.

With these pads, Amina no longer had to miss school. She could study consistently, participate in every class, and keep her dreams alive. It was not just Amina who benefitted; many other girls in her village now attended school regularly, their futures looking brighter.

As Amina sat under the wide, starry sky, she thought about how many more girls could be helped by The Girl and Her Pad project. She turned to her community and beyond, saying, "Please join me in supporting A Mum And More. With your help, we can provide pads to every girl who needs them. Your donations can change lives, keeping our dreams alive every month. Let's help every girl go to school without interruption."

Her heartfelt plea reached far and wide, urging people to donate and join the effort to make education accessible for every girl, no matter the time of the month.

Would you join us to keep girls Amina in school all through the year so that they can live to fulfill their childhood dreams and aspirations? Every little kobo counts. For as little as 1K Amina and her friends would grow to become the beacons of the society and make our Nation proud.

Please reach out to

A Mum And More on how to support



Every Kobo counts.

#endperiodpoverty #thegirlandherpad #girlpower #communitysupport #GirlChildRights #padup #amumandmoreng

✍🏾One thing I can vividly remember my parents never doing is owning up to their mistakes.

They'd even rather die, than make a mistake in plain view of their kids.

As a child, I saw my mum as infallible, like she could do no wrong. But when I started coming into my self, I realized how wrong both my mum and myself were.

Oh! How fallible she was and how gullible I was.

I can faintly remember thinking on one of the days of my awakening" so my mother no get sense finish"
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Dear Mamma,

I know you already know the '*Do as I say' concept rarely works.

This is a do as I do era, and the best lesson you can ever teach your kids is to let them see you fail and recover from that failure with integrity and dignity.

Weeks back, after I fell during my kids interhouse sport parents race, I quickly stood up and continued the race until I was stopped

In my mind at the time I had embarrassed the boys but something happened last week that made me want to fail every week in their presence for them to learn lessons. As it seemed to work better and faster.

Bottom line is, these kids see you, they see your every move and they subconsciously take note of every unspoken lesson.

So don't be ashamed of making mistakes before them. Nobody is above mistakes.

Remember, the lesson is in how you react to the mistakes.

So do better mamma and be intentional .

Love, Laugh Learn Lead and Live Life to the Fullest .

Stay Fabulous!

#parenting #parentinghacks #oldenparenting #motherhood #flourishinginparenting #reawakening #April #mistakesinparenting #mistakesmomsmake #momsinlagos #momsinabuja #momsincanada

✍🏾 She who always shows up........

When she was woken at 3am because he was thirsty and had to drink

She felt like crying. she sometimes even considered sending him back to the Dreamland with such brutality. Alas, she lacked the powers.

So she got up, because pikin wey say him mamma no go sleep, him sef no go sleep and she desperately needed him for him to go back to sleep.

When she something looses her cool because those babies wouldn't just listen.

When her anxiety peaks because she has to decide on what to cook.

When the house she just tidied a moment ago is now a mess.

When all she needed was a leave but all she got was an overtime .

When the guilt consumes her, even when she felt like a failure.

Guess who showed up?

You did mamma!

You swallowed all the negatives you felt and showed up.

So when you feel like you've not given enough, remember, only those who SHOWED UP are counted as "ENOUGH"

You are ENOUGH mamma !

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous !

#thursday #fridayeve #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #parenting #heartsunited #inthenameoflove #momsinam #reawakening #amumandmoreng

✍🏾 What's love holds true like that of a mother's..............
Pure, ungarnished, undiluted like honey straight out of the comb?

What heart beats so hard with zealousness against the rib cage as that of a mother for her child ?

Ever given thought to the intriguing reality of a mother who regardless of the different phases of life her child passes through or even puts her through, remains unrelenting in what she knows to feel for her child.

Feel what she may feel in the heat of a bad phase;
Disappointment
Sadness
Regret
Fear
Guilt
Anger
Spite
Truth is, in the heart of a mother, these feelings no matter how strongly they manifest at any moment, are fleeting.

They never erode the essence of what a mother feels towards her child, because embedded deep in our DNA is a gene bigger that life itself.
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If anything ever stood out to me yesterday, it's the fact that Nigerians will always love Nigeria.

Come what may, The Motherland is ours and is loved.

Just like only a mother would love.

What's your take on the whole event of yesterday mamma?

Let's rub minds together

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead, and, Live Life to the Fullest .

LOVE IN MOTHERHOOD.

As I sit here, cradling my baby in my arms🤱 and watching my older child playing with toys, I can't help but marvel at this extraordinary journey called motherhood.
Love in motherhood is a profound and transformative force. It is a selfless love that began the moment I realized I was expecting and it continues to evolve with each passing milestone.

In the heart of motherhood, love is a shield that protects and nurtures. It is seen in the sleepless nights, the sacrifices-- often times I'm willing to put my needs aside for the sake of my children. The daily acts of nurturing and the profound joy derived from witnessing the growth of these precious ones.

Yes, there are challenges.
Yes, there are moments of exhaustion.
Yet, through the challenges and triumps, love in motherhood is unwavering, It creates a bond that transcends time and space.

Dear mamma, as we navigate this incredible journey while uniting our hearts in the name of love, lets celebrate ourselves as mothers. Take a moment to soak it all in. In the chaos, find the quiet moment of connection. In the challenges, find the hidden blessings. For in the heart of motherhood, love is the most beautiful gift we can give and receive.
#Loveinmotherhood
#amumandmoreng
#inthenameoflove
#unitedinheart
#love

✍🏾 If you could make the transition into womanhood easier for the girl child, what would you do?

Think about it!

Dear Mamma,

Oya, stop thinking......

We all know the anxiety that comes with the menstrual cycle, more so when we have to step out, regardless of the fact that we have all the apparatus needed for an anyhow flow in place.

Now, imagine the level of anxiety in the heart of a preteen who doesn't even have access to these essentials.

You just drew in a deep breath right?

Yes, that's the sad reality of over 37 million girls across Nigeria.

Alarming right?

Now that's where we're coming in.

Come April, A Mum and More would be storming schools across Nigeria for the sake of the Girlchild and her Period.

Tagged: 𝐀 𝐆𝐈𝐑𝐋 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐇𝐄𝐑 𝐏𝐀𝐃

You like the sound of that right?

You too can join in on this project to make A Girl smile.

Are you in?

Let's see you in the comment section

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest

Stay Fabulous !

#anniversary #amam #menstrualcycle #pad #agirlandherpad #menstruation #thegirlchild #womanhood #momsinamam #momsinlagos #momsinabuja #momsinportharcourt #amumandmoreng

✍🏾 No!

The intent for this isn't to guilt trip, condemned, or shame you!

Motherhood is terribly daunting therefore most moms find themselves in a rut of discouragement, utter exhaustion, and even potent exasperation at different points.

Dear Mamma,

Are you in that clime where you snap at anything that moves or you feel like you are dropping the ball at every corner of motherhood?

Do come close,

Let me tell you something I've heard from mammas who've been doing motherhood longer than we've lived
From their perspectives, the frustrations you feel, will soon be a distant memory.

The rebellion, the heap of laundry, the screaming, the dirt, the daily chaos, all of it would soon be a faint memory like the pangs of childbirth.

You'd find toys to pick up but won't find them, kids to cuddle up to you but they'd be so far away making their marks in life, you'd want to cook but won't have them around to bicker around your table.

So what to do?

Find the sweet spots in your frustrations and revel in them, for they'll be balm to your soul.

Reset your days to simply enjoy your children. Chores can wait. They will always be there. Don't be so stuck up on the mess that you lose sight of the goal. Get down on the floor and play with them. Cuddle with them wherever the opportunity presents itself. Sit just and memorize their tiny faces. For the time will come when you'll need help (pictures)to remember what they looked like this little.

The laughter will fade, the rooms will become empty, then your heart will long for these days and the frustrations you feel now will disappear from your memory.

So find Joy in these days mamma, make the future good old days matter, because you'll long for it like a babe longs for his mother's milk.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead, and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous !

#motherhoodunplugged #mamunplugged #motherhood #motherslove #parenting #thefuture #momreality #momtruth #momscore #standingstrong #amumandmoreng

✍🏾 The difficulty of motherhood..........

With the crazy decline in economy, millions of moms are juggling an overwhelming amount of responsibility.

Women are expected to raise families as if they don’t have careers and work as if they don’t have children. These clashing expectations take a toll, as moms continue to scramble and sacrifice to balance each day leaving too many of us feel stressed out, worn out, and guilty.

Dear Mamma,

I see you. I see the struggle, I see the tears, the doubt, the fear, the self scrutiny. I see it all mamma.

However, realize that balance is possible, through setting boundaries, relying on family and friends, creating a solid schedule, and engaging in healthy priorities such as self-care.

In this day and age, you can truly have it all - a happy home and a fulfilling, successful career.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous !

#mamunplugged #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #parenting #workfront #homefront #balance #stayathomemom #workingmoms #standingstrong #amumandmoreng

✍🏾Did you know that the maternal brain changes are so pronounced that machine learning algorithms can determine who has had a baby and who hasn’t by examining brain scans?

Whaaaaaatttttttttttttt!

It's amazing that specific areas of the brain are reduced, incur more robust responses, or adapt uniquely during pregnancy and postpartum.

The good news?

All of these changes are meant to reinforce and motivate maternal care behavior.

But God shaaaaaaaaaaaa

Well, The human brain’s ability to adapt and change to specific life experiences is called neural plasticity, and it’s what makes us so successful as mothers:

📌Your enhanced sensitivity

📌The emotional regulation

📌The empathy

Dear mamma,

If you've ever caught yourself Wondering how you became this new, selfless person since having a baby, then wonder no more.

Your brain has changed functionally and structurally to adapt to your role as a parent. It is all just part of the wild ride that is raising children.

It’s completely normal and for a good reason too. Because imagine if the patience you have with any other person is same as what you have towards to kids, everywhere go scatter be that.

It also goes to show how thought out God planned this whole motherhood thingy for us.

So, yes mamma, even on the days you feel like a loos#r, always remember, you're in your calling and you rock.

Love, Laugh, Learn Lead and Live to the Fullest .

Stay Fabulous!

Dear Mamma

✍🏾 Did you know that World Mental Health Day (10 Oct) is a day to talk about mental health and show everyone that mental health matters?

Do you also know that It’s a day to let people know that it’s okay to ask for help, no matter what you’re going through?

How about the fact that mental health is a universal human right?

Dear mamma,

We know that women face more barriers to good mental health than others that's why here in AMAM, we advocate for a "SPEAK UP, SPEAK OUT approach.

Do you feel suppresed?

Don't keep it in, like the saying goes "A closed mouth is a closed destiny"and in this case, "closed mind"

Seek help mamma.

Good mental health is vital to our overall health and well-being.

A good mental health is your human right.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous!

#mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealth #itsyourright #motherhoodjourney #GoodHealthAndWellBeing #seeingpossibilities #amumandmoreng

✍🏾Why are you always like this?

Any little thing, you'll cry as if you're baby

Can't you act maturely for once?

You were told you had a big head and you're crying... Is your head big? Abeg leave the road so I can pass.
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I'm sure you're very conversant with the above sentence.... I'm very sure, because that's how you are with your kid.

𝙎𝙀𝘾𝙊𝙉𝘿 𝙎𝘾𝙀𝙉𝘼𝙍𝙄𝙊

✍🏾 Honey can you just listen to me?

Can you try to see things from my perspective?

Why won't you just have an open mind about this?

Why do you like making me feel like my feelings aren't valid?

Hey mamma,

I'm also certain you're very familiar with the above. You have to be.... Isn't that at the top of your list of things you want your husband to get better at?

To understand you better....

Yet, you've refused to do same for your child.

You take your feelings seriously but you don't take cognizance of that of you child.

Did I just perceive you say"But he's just a child?"

Youdonminit!

A child animal or a child "human" just like you?

Dear mamma,

I no wan talk too much

You already know how you want others to act towards you when you get into your feelings.

Do same for your child.

Put yourself in their shoes. Literally.

In therapy it's call mirroring.

A child who you've made feel seen and heard, is a child whose self esteem will be Insurmountable.

Dear mamma,

Your feelings are valid but so are your child's feelings as well. Don't make nonsense of it.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest .

Stay Fabulous!

✍🏾 How important is sleep really?

When we talk self-care do you really only think vacation or daycation?

Have your thought ever slightly wandered to self-care being equated to sleep? Not just sleep as you know it, but a good night sleep.

Dear mamma,

Getting enough sleep is essential for maintaining optimal health and well-being. Like exercise and a balanced diet, sleep may help prevent a range of health issues, including heart disease and depression.

While Modern-day living does not always embrace the necessity for adequate sleep. Yet, it is important that people make an effort to get enough sleep regularly.

Here are some other health benefits of sleep:

📌Promotes growth

📌Helps heart health

📌Supports weight management

📌 Helps combat germs and keep your immune system strong

📌Reduces risk of injury

📌Increases attention span
boosts memory and learning

Bottom line is, sleep keeps your mind and body healthy. So invest in it.

Love, Laugh, Learn Lead and Live Life to the Fullest .

Stay Fabulous !

#friday #FridayFeels #selfcare #mentalhealth #sleep #goodsleepmatters #goodsleepbetterlife #fulfilled #amumandmoreng

✍🏾 What was I just talking about?

What is it called again?

I was going to do something but I forgotten what it was.......

Where did I drop that ?

Oh, I can't even think at all........

Sounds familiar yea?

Oya calm down.

You're not alone.
No be only you Waka come.
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We don't talk about the levels of changes that a woman's body undergoes during pregnancy and post partum enough.

One on that list, Mommy or baby brain.

If you don't know what I'm talking about, I don't even blame you, most people don't know that's even a thing.

But here we go;

One of the most common symptoms of "mummy brain" is forgetfulness. Have you found yourself constantly misplacing keys, forgetting appointments, or struggling to focus on tasks?

Do you also have trouble finding the right words or remembering details of conversations?

Dear Mamma,

While this phase can be frustrating,
It's important to remember that these feelings are temporary, and they will pass as you adjust to life with a new baby.

Give grace to yourself rock motherhood itself.

Did you experience mommy brain?
Are you currently experiencing it?

How did you cope with it?

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live the Fullest .

Stay Fabulous !

✍🏾Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!

You know it!

It's self-care Friday again, because why not?

Who would take care of the people you live to take care of, when you're not in topnotch health yourself?



Agreed right?

Oya, in what cheap way can we make your ministry of help progressive?

Simple!

#drinkwater

Have you ever pondered on the great impact drinking water in a considerable proportion has on your overall health?

You haven't right?

Oya let me help you do the pondering

1. The digestive system depends on it.

The bowel needs water to work properly. Dehydration can lead to digestive problems, constipation, and an overly acidic stomach. This increases the risk of heartburn and stomach ulcers.

2. It flushes body waste

Water is needed in the processes of sweating and removal of urine and feces.

3. The airways need it

When dehydrated, airways are restricted by the body in an effort to minimize water loss. This can make asthma and allergies worse.

4. It makes minerals and nutrients accessible

These dissolve in water, which makes it possible for them to reach different parts of the body.

5. It prevents kidney damage

The kidneys regulate fluid in the body. Insufficient water can lead to kidney stones and other problems.

Every day, the kidneys filter around 120-150 quartsTrusted Source of fluid.

Of these, approximately 1-2 quarts are removed from the body in the form of urine, and the rest is recovered by the bloodstream.

Water is essential for the kidneys to function.

If the kidneys do not function properly, waste products and excess fluid can build up inside the body.

Untreated, chronic kidney disease can lead to kidney failure. The organs stop working, and either dialysis or kidney transplantation is required.

E no shock you

Bottom line, drink water mamma.

Drink water!

Drink waterrrrrrr!!!!!!

Even your skin would thank you.



Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

✍🏾Does your kids trust you?🤔

When something goes wrong, are you their go to?

Parenting is hard but life is also hard for the ones we parent.

I understand your need to raise well grounded children, however, discipline and setting standards doesn't have to evolve around fear.

Are you kids okay with making mistakes or are they afraid of making them because you'd judge them?

Dear Mamma,

Let kids make mistakes but don't judge them for it.

You can though, if you've never made any mistakes............

Let them fail then show them to path to learning from their mistakes.

The world is already tough, don't make it tougher with your judgements.

Remember, your child can only learn from you when they trust you. But they cannot trust you when they fear you!

Make it right going forward!

Love, Laugh, Learn Lead and Live Life to the Fullest

✍🏾Dear mother who mothered me!

I didn't know…

I didn't understand…

I only figured it out when I stepped into the same calling you were first called into.

The calling of motherhood!

I only just understood why you snapped at almost everything. The reason you screamed at any little offense.

It was a buildup of frustration, anxiety and stress of not having things under control.

I now understand why you were almost always grouchy.

You were de#ad tired and felt underappreciated.

I realize now why you said you'd play with me but almost never did. I see now that you just wanted a minute to catch your breath.

It no longer puzzles me why you seemed to come alive while with your peers but looked sullen while at home.

It was your need for adult communion because being with kids day in day out has the propensity to drain you.

Then I approached the teenage years and I never could understand why you always worried whenever I had to leave your presence.

It was because you loved me more than life itself and couldn't bring yourself to the thought of me getting hurt.

Becoming a mother gave me a 360 change of perspective and it made me love you more!

And even more, it's made me redefine the kind of mother I need to be!

Love, Laugh, Learn Lead and Live Life to the Fullest .

Stay Fabulous !

✍🏾 Did you know the foundation of effective parenting is leading by example?

However, this hasn't settled with most parents.

Parents think because they are the adult, then the kids automatically do as they are told.

But infact kids do as they see adults do not as they're told.
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Dear Mamma,

Give your kids some good examples.

🍀You want them to be kind? Be kind yourself

🍀You want them to tell the truth? Be truthful.

🍀You want them to pay attention to details? Well, pay good attention to them.

With kids, trust me mamma, it's a give and take situation.

So you know drill now yea?

So switch your parenting game up. It'll pay off.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous!

What never remains the same once motherhood happens to it?

Hold up!

I'll call it!

Life!
True story, motherhood changes every aspect of life as we know it.

The regrets, the loss or delay of opportunities, the sleep deprivation and in more serious cases, the sometimes loss of self, the depression that accompanies it.

Oftentimes, we find ourselves berating nobody in particular for not giving us the heads up about the realities of motherhood but the truth remains, no heads up would have sufficed.

And even if it did, it wouldn't have made motherhood easier
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In all, you know you love your children and would give yourself in an instant for them, without second thoughts.

You know you'll always worry about them for the rest of your life.

Sometimes you wish for this cup to pass over you, yet you hoard that cup with every fibre of your being.

Why?


Because you're MOM!

And moms love hard


This is our reality!

We may hate it sometimes, but we'd never change it for anything in the world.


Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest .

Stay Fabulous !


#mamreality #motherhoodunplugged #mamunplugged #momscore #mommytruth #momvillage #motherhood #purposefulmotherhood #amumandmoreng

✍🏾I discovered a beauty in motherhood!

A beauty embedded in contradictions.
A plethora of contradictions that make motherhood whole.

Have you ever found yourself Wondering how accomplished you are since becoming a mom, yet feel so inadequate, like a failure?

Ever wondered how it could be possible to feel empty, yet full of your kids?

Ever given thought to how you've learnt so much about motherhood but still feel clueless?

What about when you manifest stable, but on the inside, you're just teetering on the edge?

You really want to be gentle but you find yourself shouting.

You talk about how lonely you are, but you really want to be left alone.

How you're certain that motherhood was the best thing that happened to you, yet a "what if" weighs heavily on your mind.

Ever laughed at yourself a moment after dishing out same advice you can't seem to follow.

Found yourself so thankful yet crave to bemoan?

How you're so pumped for what the future holds, yet, you look back so often?

Are you happy about the choices you've made, yet you find yourself questioning them?

Then, welcome to my world!

The beautiful world of contradictions a mother lives in.
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Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous!

✍🏾 Will open ended questions help widen my child's mind horizon?

As parents, most often than not, we tend to ask questions that give no room for interaction between us and our kids.

We hope to raise our kids into bright intellectual adults, but we don't even stop to think how we could use the little day to day activities to broaden their train of thoughts.

Children who are taught to think about things at an early age through open-ended questions are better equipped to understand the world around them, and relate this new information to past or present experiences.

Dear Mamma,

Start open ended questions with

What do you think about...

I wonder...

In what way...

Tell me about...

How can we...

Don't just ask to gather information, let them think about their answers. Kids need time to decide what to say and how to say it.

Do you want your kids to not run away from conversing with you, or to not give you monosyllabic responses when you try to converse with them?

Then, you've just got a lead.

Remember, instead of "What is your favourite movie?"

Ask "I'd love to hear about your favorite movie"

It's the holiday mamma, bond with your humans by giving them the room to air their opinions and thoughts. You'd enjoy it!

What do you think mamma?

We'd love to know.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

✍🏾A thief of parent/child joy

Did you know your belief about your children not just influences your parenting but also who they become?

Yea! You didn't know that, did you?

Rising above comparison is a lesson for kids to learn. An even harder lesson to learn, is for parents not to even compare.

Truth is, as adults, we often compare not because we want to be the best, but because we don’t want to fall behind.

As unhealthy as this mindset is, it is even more devastating when we try to impose our fears and sometimes unrealistic expectations on our kids.

As mothers, we are always grasping at straws to see if we are doing the right thing. And to have some clue as to whether we're “mothering” correctly

We love our kids.

Any self-respecting parent just wants what is best for them. But in our desire to push them, we have to realize when it becomes harmful.

Children have diverse passions and they move at different paces. We know our kids best and we have to distinguish the fine line between when to push and when to back off.

Dear Mamma,

If you can't help but compare.

How about compare your kid's last milestone to where he's presently at, as opposed to his sibling, friends and neighbors.

What do you think of this idea?

Let's know in the comment section.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous

✍🏾 Are you the star of your life show?

Have you noticed that the media perpetuates messages centered around the notion that femininity is “other-focused and self-denying?"

We frequently see female actors focusing on everyone else’s needs, listening to others instead of speaking and playing a supporting role.

Over and over again, the woman is task-zoned to care-taking, even to her own detriment.
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Dear Mamma,

It's up to you to decide if you want the star of the play to be work, a man, kids or family in general.

However, it doesn't make sense for a woman to play a supporting role in her own life's show.

If you notice that your needs are going unmet, try asking yourself who the main character in your life is right now, and whether you would like to stick with that or change it.

You may also try to ask yourself; "While I'm taking care of others, who's taking care of me?

It's as simple as that! If you want to be the star of your show, you know what to do.

If you want other people or things to take center stage in your life show, it's all up to you.

Nevertheless, remember self care is for everyone and self care is good health.

What's your choice?

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous!

✍🏾 Is bribery really harmless when it comes to parenting?

A Briber's Story

I asked Nancy to start her homework. "Okay," she bargains, "but then I get to eat icecream."

"Can you please help me pick up the building blocks?" I ask Julian.

"Yes" he sighs heavily, adding, " only if I get to watch bluey till it's late"

All I wanted was to get these kids to the basic things, instead I've schooled my kids in the art of extortion.
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According to family therapist, David Gruder, Bribery teaches children to expect rewards for basic behaviors.

Bribes rob kids of the opportunity to feel good for doing the right thing.

Dear Mamma,

Bribery may seem harmless, but in fact, it's not.

Their lecturers aren't going to reward for making attendance.

Their bosses aren't going to reward them for meeting their targets.

So why set them up for a difficult future?

If we intend to raise well grounded children, it's the seemingly minor things that count.

Say NO to parent-child bribery.
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Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous!

✍🏾 Letter to the Mamma who feels like quitting.........

I know you feel like the weight of the universe rests on your shoulders.

You feel overlooked, overwhelmed and underappreciated, because no one cares if you run on your last wheels, or if you stayed up till 3am to make sure everything was in order for the new day.

I know you sit on the floor when your housemates are off to school and work to let the tears flow.


I know you're already Wondering how you'd keep up with your little humans, now that's school is out of session.

I know you just want to give it all up and walk away.

Adulthood wasn't all we had thought it to be!

Heck! Motherhood is far from the picture we had envisioned it to be while we were young.


I know you feel like quitting!

I know you wish you hadn't even embarked on this journey.

I know, because we've all been there. I have been there!
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Some days are hard, some weeks are even harder.

Some days are long and lonely, some weeks even sullen.

But you, Mamma, are the real deal.

So, on the days you feel like quitting, tell yourself you can do this.

You can, for you. For your family.

You'll toughen this up and make motherhood work.

Because there's no dollar sign that can equate to the value of motherhood.

On the day you feel like quitting; Remember, You are a mom and Moms don't quit.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous!

✍🏾 When you've pushed your control buttons too far!

Mamma, do you know kids by nature, are explorative and curious?

Do you also know a control freak parent will always butt heads with their kids?
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It is within every parent's Job description to correct behaviours that are not in alignment with how a kid should act.

But when you find yourself telling your kids what to do all the time.

Backing orders here and there and expecting your child to follow them blindly without any resistance.

Then, YOPE! You're a control freak!

Unfortunately, your kid will push back against this high level autocracy.
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While being controlling might very well be part of a person's personality, such behaviors can impede on your child's development.

Top of the list, you'll be raising a rebellious aggressive child with no idea on how to hold his own.

While it’s not healthy to be a pushover parent, being a control freak is equally problematic and have consequences such as:

🌸 Exhausting your child

🌸They begin to fear Mistakes

🌸Your kid pick on your anxiety

🌸 Mental health problem. E.g depression.

Dear Mamma,

Letting go sometimes and allowing your child the freedom to do them can be good not just for them, but for you.

Take steps to raise a mentally strong child who is prepared to face life's challenges on their own.

Trust that they'll make good or better decisions. After all what are mistakes for? If not for making us do better



Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous!

✍🏾 Do you agree that if motherhood had to be renamed, it'd be called "self doubt"?

Jokes apart, motherhood and self doubt are like bread and butter!
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It’s common knowledge that mothers go through massive physical, mental and emotional changes. Thereby making our minds filled with doubts and fear of failure.

The media, movies, etc. also complicate matters by painting an imaginary picture of mothers who can seldom does wrong.

Daily, moms are placed on a pedestal that’s unrealistic. The result; it’s widely believed that motherhood is all rainbows and sunshine.

Well, newsflash!Mothers are humans too!

While feeling some self doubts is perfectly natural. For some, feeling like a bad mother or father can become crippling and actually thwart their parenting capability, ushering in a never-ending cycle of doubt.

Dear Mamma,

As a mom, your mind will always be filled with doubts and questions which are natural.

You’re thinking about what kind of mother you are?

If you've been doing a good job of giving your children the love they deserves?

If you are ever going to match the levels your family or society set for you?

If you will be able to give your baby a life of safety and comfort?

Catch a break mamma!

Thinkingness go carry you go where you no know.....
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Dear Mamma,

On the day you feel like a "failure", sit for a moment, look at your child and think about everything you've had to give up and are still willing to give if it boiled down to it.

Realize that some days are tough but it's nowhere near your fault.

Guess what?

You couldn't have had a child that beautiful and smart and intelligent, if you weren't doing a good job!

You're doing what only you can do for your child and that makes you perfect.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead, and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous!

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✍🏾 Have you figured out why you stumble around in a zombie-like state, drained and depleted?

Have you?

Many of us may say, "I'm always busy."

Good answer!

Of course, you had to be busy; you live in busyville afterall.
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As humans, we are creatures of habits, and it's in us to be busy and focused and create and maintain momentum.

Somehow, society and culture have sold us the idea that we have to be active from the moment we wake up to when we eventually collapse on our beds at night.

Women, sadly, have bought into this myth.

Yes! I called it!

It's a Myth!

Dear Mamma,

Doing something is not always productive.

The Truth is, Doing Nothing is also very practical!
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Doing nothing?

What's that called?

Well, I introduce to you;

The Almighty, Underrated REST!
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Dear Mamma,

Sometimes, the most productive thing you could ever do, not just for yourself but also for your family, is to take a break.

Take a break from all the hustle and bustle, take a break from the kids, and take a break from the husband, take a break even from you, from your mind.

Do this just because you deserve it and your mental health depends on it.
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Hey beautiful,

Do you know Rest isn't luxury?

It's SANITY!
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So how do you keep sane?

Mine is in the comment section.

Drop yours in the comment section also.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest

Stay Fabulous!

✍🏾 Is there such a thing as "Healthy and Unhealthy disciplining strategies?
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As a parent, the onus rests on you to teach and guide your child to behave.

This is a time-consuming job that requires a great deal of grace and patience.

Now the million dollar question is.......

How can effective discipline be achieved?

Now, many parents would point out the "Almighty scriptural ROD" As a road map to discipline that works.

However, many others would argue that the " Rod" Is only an allegory to discipline itself.
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Dear Mamma,

Discipline means many and different things to parents.

What then is your approach to discipline?

Let's discuss!

Oya, hit the comment section.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous!

✍🏾 Dear Mamma who needs a break.......

With every parenting trend and word of advice, every aspect of caring for your family can be magnified.

You may expect, or feel expected, to reach impossibly high standards.

You might think that "good mothers" are always in control, always perfect, and that asking for help is admitting failure.


Mamma, inasmuch as we have the innate ability to go round the clock, that doesn't make us Indispensable.

You are human, not a robot.

Guess what?

Even robots take time off to recharge.

How much more you my woman?

You are Mom, not Perfect.

What is perfect anyway?

Your family barely recognizes perfection. Truth be told; they don't need it.
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As humans and especially mothers, we can sometimes feel that we should be able to get everything done all by ourselves.

However, do you know, should and should-nots usually lead to guilt about failing our own expectations?

Dear Mamma,

Changing should to could as in ‘I could use some help’ focuses on positive action.

This allows a problem to be recognised and solved without interpreting it as a failing on your part, because it’s not.

We are all humans and we are not indispensable. We can't do it all.

Dear Superwoman, that needs a super break

It is well within your right to ask for help when you need it.

There's absolutely no shame in that!

Let's normalize
#mothersarehuman

#Mothersneedhelp

Because in reality, we all need Help!

What do you need help with today mamma?

Someone may just be waiting for you to ask!

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous!

✍🏾 What did you hear or know about making money of off the internet?
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We've all become conversant with drop shipping, however there's another gold mine waiting to be exploited...

Wait for it!

Affiliate marketing.

Yes mamma, you heard right.

You want to join the group of people cashing out on from the internet? Then think affiliate marketing.

Best part?

You don't have to leave your home for it.

Is your curiosity piqued yet?

Oya use the link:

https://amumandmore.com//

It's 2023 mamma. There's no excuse whatsoever not to secure that bag.

Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.

Stay Fabulous !

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✍🏾Has motherhood gotten so overwhelming that you hardly have anytime to rest?


Then this is for you:


https://amumandmore.com/finding-rest-as-a-mum/


Did you find help with this mamma?

Do let us know.


Love, Laugh, Learn, Lead and Live Life to the Fullest.


Stay Fabulous!


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