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Truvelisback:
So, whats ur own opinion?

Truvelisback:
1. Full time housewives are for people whose husbands have good jobs and are earning well. 2. They are for women who loves being idle.

phr33man:
Op: Tell Me how you can teach your kids how to socialize. I think homeschooling can be effective from crèche to pry 2. 3 and above, send them to traditional school. Adopt again in Ss1 and 2. Then, join as 3 to round up secondary school.

The sole advantage of homeschooling is you set your ward's pace of learning(which is most likely going to be faster) as opposed to the traditional schooling that follows academic calendar.

Mercychen:
You know, my Mom was a like, since there were no traces of bodily damage, it might be difficult to a accuse or drag him for any form of molestation. And you know Nigerians, when you make such accusations without evidence, especially when it was reported by a little child, people will not believe you and they'll see you as insulting an elderly man especially as my Mom was so young then. So, she only did the little she could then.

I knew if it was my dad, he would have dragged him cos my dad doesn't joke with us with men.

KidsUnsaid:
In its simple form, Emotions are your feelings.
People feel happy, sad, angry, dread, etc.
While Trauma is wound.
Put together, I am talking about the involuntary feelings of hurt from your childhood.
The unforgettable memory or experiences from your childhood that has turned you into this angry, difficult, irritable person.
Childhood trauma is as real as the air you breath.

Growing up in Africa already saddled with a lot of environmental difficulties is hell of a trauma already.
Growing up in an intentionally loving home should help reduce some of these effects yeah, but what happens when the home becomes even more emotionally toxic?

We Would Have;
.. Adults with poor self esteem
.. Adults with attention problems
.. Adults with self destructive behaviors

Few days ago, I was watching 'SPEAK SIS' on Oprah Winfrey Network, an episode dealing with mental health, childhood trauma and healing.
So, this 31year old lady shared how she physically abused herself by heavy addiction to drugs, sex and alcohol as a result of her mental health problems which stemmed from a father who abandoned her, and having to grow up with a depressed mum.

No matter how much we live in denial or try to hide behind the curtains of black strength without accepting and dealing with childhood traumas, we will continue to raise emotionally sick people who were also raised by emotionally helpless parents.
And so goes the cycle.

I am an adult with childhood emotional traumatic experiences,yeah?
Currently going through healing, I am allowing myself to be vulnerable by accepting my truth.
Too many individuals pursuing careers because they want to prove a point to their parents or siblings as a result of the comparison they were subjected to at childhood. Growing up to become people pleasers and always measuring their success in life against others.

Recently, something happened to me that reminded me of a childhood memory I thought I had moved on from. A friend with a tall, big stature as my dad jokingly refused to hug me. Something that was natural between us. I suddenly felt so rejected, the feeling of rejection was quite intense. So much that I started to beg him not to leave without hugging me.

Apparently, few months before I turned 10years old, I did amazing in the Common Entrance Examinations that my teacher had to bring my results home.
At the time, there was the Entrance Exams first, then the interview.
The first exams, 22 persons passed from my school while only 9 persons qualified for the next stage of which I was the overall second best and the only female.
I think it was the second result my teacher brought over because I remember being really jumpy!
When he told me, I ran to tell my dad who was lying in his bed.
The moment I jumped on my dad to share the good news, he immediately put me down and warned me sternly never to hug him or any man like that ever again in my life....
It's been over 20 years now and it's the last time I came that close to my dad.
Sitting beside him even now would mean there are no others seats and standing would rather be awkward.
I cannot deny how difficult it is recounting this right now. Need I mention that touch is my love language?

Parents who shut their kids up, ordering them every now and then, whose kids are not allowed to choose clothes or colors, who believe other kids or people above their kids are only breeding adults for tomorrow who would be in relationships, have beautiful ideas that could help their companies but would never speak because they lost that voice at childhood.
It is only civil that I request that parents seek knowledge to bring up their children better before you destroy your child out of ignorance.

As an adult survivor of childhood emotional trauma, you can get help no matter how old you are.

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Mercychen:
Some parents are not close or friendly with their children. They make themselves so unapproachable that the children can't even confide in them about such sensitive issues or issues bothering then generally.

That's one thing I'm grrateful to God for about my parents. They made us feel so free to approach them easily with any thing bothering us and that was why I was able to escape sexual abuse after a near experience with one useless old man who's supposed to be my God father.


I was just 8 yrs old then. This man, an elderly man. ( was older than my dad then) was my Godfather by reason of baptism ( in Catholic). So since then, if he sees me on the way, he'll be calling me "my daughter, my daughter". I'll go and greet him and continue on my way.

So, one day, he was coming to our house and saw me downstairs by the stair case. He just Carried me up with the usual "my daughter" trash. He didn't put me down until we got to the stairway.

This man put me down in front of him and made me back him. So my back was resting on his knees as we climbed up the stairs. The next thing, this ugly beast bent down ( we were still climbing) and threw his hands across my shoulders and started putting his hand inside my pant. Gosh! I thought I was dreaming. And you know all this corner staircase can be very dark even in the day time.

I quickly wriggled and skipped a stair and he nearly fell because he didn't see that move coming but he quickly rubbed the front part below my belly button before regaining his balance and I jumped to the top case leading to the second floor to our apartment. Mehn.. I hated this man instantly.

Immediately we entered our flat, he sat with my dad in the sitting room and I went straight to my mum's room and told her everything the old fool did to me at the stair case. My mum quickly lay me on the bed and checked my body asking questions. And I told her he couldn't go past my belly button before I jumped off him. So after checking and not seeing any harm, she warned me never to go near the goat again.

When my mum came out to the sitting room, he was shaking. Looking at me and my Mom but my Mom just gave him a disgusting look. She just respected my dad and kept her cool there. I don't know if she later told my dad but since then the idiot never came to our house again. And if I see him, I'll hide.

Even when I started growing breast, he'll be calling me, I'll just be like, please please, excuse me. He'll be like " my daughter come here"! With authority. Ill just walk past him.

That is why I shout and frown when ever I see all these children following brother up and down. Even baba can not be trusted.

Tohsynetita1:
that's one of my jobs, I do receive 100s of it daily and give it out. In shot , freelancing is a bae. bye to work for now.

mariopepper:
It's quite an interesting question to be discussed. I would pick some kind of freelance sites like Fiverr or Upwork and try to spread my services there. IMAO

AMumAndMore:
Do you bake? If Yes, then you may consider starting a cake business and make money for yourself working from home.

I haven’t met a single person who genuinely hates baked goodies

In case you didn’t know, the demand for baked items have been on a steady increase.

Cake-baking is the one of the few businesses that can't be threatened by a shortage of customers. Do you know why?

As long as there is something to celebrate there will always be need for a cake!

This means that becoming a baker is an excellent money-making business idea and should be on your list of businesses to consider.

When you’re thinking of starting your own cake business, at first, it seems overwhelming.

You begin to border yourself with business technicalities and funding and all that.

But thank God that in Nigeria, most of these things don’t matter.

You don’t need a lot to start your baking business.

All you need are your baking equipment, baking ingredients and a place to bake.

Did you know that you can run your cake business from home?

I know many people who began their cake business from the university hostel using stoves as ovens!

When writing your business plan, there are three large subheadings you have to consider.

Things to Consider when Starting a Unique Cake Business

1. Cake Niche:

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