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Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 6:28pm On Dec 25, 2022

Heroicvic:
Thanks for taking your time to respond even though you avoided the real question like plague and want to know why I don't do head slamming like Jesus did according to you

The reason I don't head slam is that Jesus taught me how to pray specifically, why should I deviate from that because you want me to ?

Now back to my own question: why is it that Islam/ Muslim as you call your religion has killed people than every know disease combine ?
Why can't you preach your religion to me without launching a grenade or bazooka

Personally I have questions about the Bible and christianity but seeing y'all modus operandi as a religion made me thank God I didn't came from a Muslim parents, maybe I would have been defending the religion of piss

When will the world have peace o ye Muslims ?

I remember you said in your previous post that there are over 1.5 billion Muslims world wide. In Nigeria alone, there is an estimated 80 million Muslims. If that 80 million Muslims wanted to kill Christians in the name of Islam do you think a single non Muslim will be in Nigeria? If the Muslims wanted to kill do you think that your neighbours Mai guard or that shoe shiner or that suya man you patronise wouldn’t have done that?

That there is the most stupid thing I've heard on the internet today

You think only y'all have Monopoly of violence? lol

I can’t keep going in Circles, your questions have all been answered in my previous replies. You can’t ask same questions in a different format and expect that i keep spoon feeding you answers. And it is obvious you are not here to have an educational conversation, you looking to brawl and roll in the mud. That I do not do, so this would also be my final reply to you.
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No, don’t twist my words, I never said why don’t you “head slam”.
You said and I quote
were are Christs, we act like him
and my reply was, have you acted like him and “slammed” your face? Like he did in the verse?

But from your reply, that’s a negative you haven’t done it. However, you did acknowledge that’s a form of prayer just different from the one he taught you.
At the end of the day, you agree he also “slammed” his head or face in prayer! That’s what the verse says, not me not my opinion not my say, it’s your book!

JESUS was also a “HEAD SLAMMER”

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 5:35pm On Dec 25, 2022

Heroicvic:
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This writeup says a lot about you, you don't know much about christain religion
The prophet you mentioned are not who we emulate and that's why you don't see christain fighting wars like David and taking up wives like Solomon.. I am shocked to realize that's Islamic pattern
Like the name implies were are Christs, we act like him which is why it will be hard for you to see christain fighting and killing people in the name of blasphemy and religion... I think those twos are not enough reason to cut short a precious life like yours coz you're not the one that created them in the first place

As a Muslim think about this: why would God create someone he wants you to kill, you feel me? I mean he's see the future before creating them ...

What will y'all tell God when you meet him with your hands reeking of blood, I'm not sure he will pleased with that and that's why everyone assume every Muslim is a terrorist..

I dare you to shout allahu Akbar in a moving train, plane or anywhere... People are scared of your blood sucking religion

Please don't mention that sacred name (JESUS) when we're talking about Islam

These questions I have already answered!
Please refer to this post

Analysist:
Now, there are over 1.5 billion Muslims world wide. In Nigeria alone, there is an estimated 80 million Muslims.

To this point :

Like the name implies were are Christs, we act like him

In the bible verse I originally quoted, where Jesus fell with his face to the ground and prayed. Have you acted like him like the verse reads? Have you “slammed” your face on the ground? Until you do this, please don’t come and boost that you are like him and follow him.
Do that then come and let’s have a conversation

Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 1:33pm On Dec 25, 2022*

LastProphet:
You talk about the human rights violation of Libya, Afghanistan etc, so and what of the human rights violation Gaddafi and his children on Libyans which we all know was the ultimate cause of the invasion of his evil govt? Was there human rights violations in Libya or not? But you can't mention that because he does what your prophet recommends. Libya had no written constitution and only 1 man decided who lived or died, his children tortured athletes in special rooms under stadiums if the athlete did not do their wish, his daughter disabled a Libyan maid in her mansion in London simply because the maid forgot to do a chore or that and here you are with all the information and knowledge you obviously have, fail to see the evil in what you support all because of your religion? This is what is worrisome about Islam, inno other religion will you find biased but yet informed people. Look at Afghanistan that has reduced women to a grade below a house pet and you are here talking about the west's human rights violation of Afghanistan? This is why the only place on earth today where we still have slavery is in Muslim countries which of course you must know. The Arabs stole more slaves from Africa, the Arabs eliminated black slaves systematically through castration etc, yet there's no single admission by any Arab your Muslim brothers for their role in trans Sahara slave trade. But I bet you that the only account of slave trade you will talk about is the trans Atlantic trade and you will side step the fact that the west ultimately were the ones that stopped slave trade. You see I want you to see if you are capable that you are biased

The biggest issue in discussing with Christians is when you provide them with facts and evidences without digesting it, they point to another thing and then bring up other unrelated topics, at the end of the day it’s just disruption and chaos!

The aim for them is not to learn and acquire knowledge, no! It’s to throw as much mud in the conversation and see what sticks. It’s more about winning than finding out the truth and learning from it. You are doing exactly this! However as always I will patiently educate you but this would be my last reply to you, we are in the 21 century, you can find every information at the tips of your finger. My job is to let you know that there is a truth out there and you need to find it. I have done that already!

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You link peoples personal traits with an entire religion, you connect an entire race and religion of people to the atrocities of a handful. Does that make sense to you? This same thing I answered in a previous post, if na so the man that prepared the suya you eat and enjoy so much, if he has the same thinking as ghadaffi and his children, he would have used that knife to cut....

You fail to see the big picture I painted for you in my replies, you want me to spoon feed you everything.

Libya enjoyed so much social benefits under ghadaffi that even the west did not. Go and research it, you will find it.

Putin is a Christian and catholic is the major religion in Russia, why are you not talking about the atrocities he is committing and attaching it to Christianity and catholic religion?

Mussolini and Stalin were both atheists (to the best of my knowledge). Both of them committed unimaginable atrocities, why don’t you associate them with the atheist way of thinking?
Why is it when the person is a Muslim, then you attach their atrocities to Islam?

Can you quote me a rule from Islam that teaches you to torture your workers or lock your athletes up or whatever you mentioned? Can you quote me where the Prophet SAW taught Muslims not to seek knowledge?

I’ll do you one better, the prophet SAW being a leader and living in an era where leaders and noble people had slaves didn’t own a SINGLE slave, not only that, he freed every slave gifted to him.

Slavery in Arabia was an ancient practice that dates back to hundred if not thousands of years before Islam, the difference between west and Arabian slave system was that the west specifically came to Africa and packed them to work on plantations. In Arabian slave, anybody could be a slave, so Arabians too were slaves. A person from the town next to yours could be a slave! A classical example of this is Joseph, according to the bible he was sold as a slave by his brothers and that’s how he ended up in Egypt! His own BROTHERS sold him as a SlAVE.
Anyways, my point is the FIRST time in recorded history where slaves were granted rights and were treated justly was when Islam came and gave them rights. The prophet SAW gave them rights. This is facts and recorded history go and research it.

Read books and research!!! Stop spilling out the same garbage the news feeds you!

Baghdad and Damascus were once the center and capital of the world! From the 8th century up until around 10th century. All the university in the world were there and they were built and funded buy the Islamic empire. People came all the way from London and other parts of the western world to study there, your Oxfords and Cambridge of today were formed off the knowledge and resources taken from these places!

Has Saudi Arabia, UAE, Jordan, Bahrain, Qatar, Morocco, Egypt, Tunisia, Algeria, Sudan banned education for women?

I am not biased, I always speak with facts and evidences which are all available, I don’t speak from a personal view, go through all my posts on this thread, every point I have made is verifiable. All you need to do is not be lazy and study!

I truly hope this makes you seek out the truth, oben your mind to read and not just consume the garbage the media feeds you. Do you own research. I wish you well.

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 8:21am On Dec 25, 2022

LastProphet:
But why is Mecca never in dispute why is it only Jerusalem that's in dispute and yet the world has peace. If Mecca was being disputed between Islam and another religion the world would have ended by now. But you people are dragging the very seat of Christianity and yet we are even discussing settlement

The answer to your questions are in that reply you quoted. Have a nice day

Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 8:13pm On Dec 24, 2022

LastProphet:
Yes but with all the expanded knowledge we have you can see that extremism has reduced across board. Even Nazism and other recent forms of extremism failed because of widespread enlightenment. So is it not curious that only Islam continues to rise consistently? Even the crusades who started them? Why did Jerusalem needed taking back from Muslims? How did the Muslims take it in the first place being the that Jerusalem was a Christian kingdom? All the wars the prophet waged on medina etc what are they called?

Neo-Nazis are very much there and on the rise now, they are a huge movement in the US and they are the back bone behind the January 6 insurrection in the US. Last week Germany arrested a Buch of them planning to carry out a coup, the prime minister of Italy is supporter of Neo-Nazis, the Zionist state is also prosecuting Palestinian state. And just yesterday, a 69 year old french man killed 3 Kurds in Paris.
The only difference is the media let’s you see what they want you to see. A quick example is the World Cup in Qatar, the media bombarded us with human right violation claims however the next World Cup is in the US but no media house has talked about the human right violations of the US in countries like Iraq, Afghanistan, Libya etc.

Anyways, Jerusalem is not a Christian kingdom, if you said a Jewish kingdom then that’s closer to the truth. Jerusalem has been controlled by Greeks, Persians, Jews, Romans, Christians and Muslims. It has a very complex history, it has been captured and recaptured based on the historian Erik klein 44 times. Jerusalem changed control several times before the Muslims captured it in mid 600s. Go and read history, the khalifa at the time when it was captured was Umar ibn Khatab RA. He was very just to the inhabitants of Jerusalem, even allowed them to keep practicing their religion, it’s a remarkable story, go find it. However, Did you know that the crusaders massacred most of Muslims and Jews inhabitants when they captured it in 1099? Also, the city has been controlled by Christians the least roughly 400 years, but Jews and Muslims have controlled the city for 1000+ years each.

The Prophet SAW home was in Madina, logic should tell you that all the battles fought in and around there were defensive battles. If you fight a battle at home with people coming from other places to attack then that’s obviously a defensive battle. This is recorded history, if you just do a bit of research you will find everything!

Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 6:54pm On Dec 24, 2022

Ofemmanu1:
You did all this to call us headslammers?!

SMH

I think you Misunderstood my intentions. You are offended because it is a derogatory term you use, my only goal was just to educate you that the derogatory term you use also applies to your Jesus, so basically any time you use it, indirectly you are referring to Jesus.

It is for you to go and educate yourself further about your religion. Don’t be afraid to look into those points I listed. Look at it this way, if it checks out then you reaffirm you faith and have nothing to be worried about, if not then you need to ask more questions.

Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 6:36pm On Dec 24, 2022

LastProphet:
Why should you believe any book in it's entirety of you actually attended school? What happened to the holy curiosity you are expected to have? Yes I was born a Christian but I don't believe everything I read, I have even questioned and investigated how the books of the Bible were put together and it leaves much to be answered. Can you dare to do that? Adherents of Islam kill for Islam everywhere they are, it can be alshabab in Kenya, bokoharam in Nigeria, whatever in wherever, they kill for exactly the same things without mistake. But funny people like you still somehow think you can defend or explain it. Where is your sense?

Now it’s people like you, I like to have a conversation with. Because you ask questions.

To answer you question, yes you dare do that in Islam. It is a field of study on its own and people do PHDs in it, it’s called the sciences of Hadith. Every Sahih Hadith can be traced back to the Prophet SAW and his companions, with the chain of narrators.
We have manuscripts that have been dated back to the first Islamic century.
The prophet SAW taught his companions the Quran and these same companions turned it into a book immediately after he died, through a rigorous process. These has all been documented.
So yes, it was only through questioning that these books were complied and preserved!
Also it is because these books have been verified that we believe in them in their entirety.

Now, there are over 1.5 billion Muslims world wide. In Nigeria alone, there is an estimated 80 million Muslims. If that 80 million Muslims wanted to kill Christians in the name of Islam do you think a single non Muslim will be in Nigeria? If the Muslims wanted to kill do you think that your neighbours Mai guard or that shoe shiner or that suya man you patronise wouldn’t have done that?
In every stage of humanity, if you study history there is always some form of extremism, most recently it was the Nazi, in the Middle Ages it was the crusaders and they killed for Christianity, a bit earlier it was the byzantine (Romans), a bit earlier it was the Sasanian (Persians), the Mongolen also did theirs.

Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 6:06pm On Dec 24, 2022

Heroicvic:
I learnt that Mohammed was a warrior all his life while Jesus heals everywhere he goes

Can I say Muslim derived their motivation from that, I think they always want to be a warrior or am I wrong?

Muslims emulate the prophet SAW in every aspect of his life, from how he ate to how he walked to even how he brushed his teeth! Muslims derive from everything.

Now, I’d ask you a simple question, wasn’t Solomon a warrior, wasn’t David a warrior? Do you know how many wars they fought? You need to understand what the message the prophet came with and the time they lived in.

That being said do you derive motivation from the Jesus you claim to follow, this verse I quoted said he fell to ground on his face and prayed! Have you done that or do you deny it?

Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 4:21pm On Dec 24, 2022*

Ofemmanu1:
Na lie, falling face to the ground is different from Headslammin.

You can pray hard by falling face ground or roll on the ground depending on the needs.
Today at 3am, I prayed by laying flat on my tummy with my face to the ground; That's not Headslammin!

Even Jesus thot his disciples how to Pray, he never told em to headslam. Matthew 6;9.

Meanwhile, Headslammin is; Standing upright, saying some bullshitts, Knee, Yansh up and headslam in intervals in that position@ five times daily.

I know you will not agree but I don't have the time nor the crayons to make explain it to you.

We ain't headslammers.

Mr. Man cool down, I know it’s a tough pill to swallow. You are in what is called the denial stage.

According to you, you can pray in various ways. Fine!
Again, he taught them a prayer, which you quoted. Fine!

But in this verse how did he pray?
I’ll simplify it for you. The technical term is prostration. You see that thing Mo Salah or Sadio Mane do when they score? They go further towards the flag, fall to the ground on their face and pray? Yes that!

So to clear your ignorance, you don’t only do it 5 times daily, you can also do it in a football match or anywhere.

With regards to this -

We ain't headslammers

I am in no doubt about that, I mean I just quoted you your bible about what Jesus did and all you could do is deny it which is by extension denying him, also creating fake stories about praying on your face at 3am. Haha.
Shows you don’t even follow the Jesus you claim.

My advice to you is this- Rather than just straight deny and jumping on the defensive, do your proper research into your religion. Your motive shouldn’t be to use it against me or another Muslim but to make sure you are either on the right path or you are led astray. Drop the arrogance aside and do it for yourself.

Some starting points.

-how and when was Christmas created
-how, when and who complied the bible used today? Hint : First Council of Nicaea
-what is the way to salvation?
Hint : Mathew 19:17, check no1 on that list (10 commandments)
-Did Jesus follow the laws of previous prophets E.g Moses, Abraham etc? Or did he tart new laws like Trinity?
Hint : Mathew 5:17, also check no1 on the list of laws Moses came with.
-you should also research the verse I quoted

DO IT FOR YOURSELF and with an open mind

Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 2:18am On Dec 24, 2022

advocatejare:
The point is Jesus pray to a father, not to the one who you are slaves too

Whoever he prayed to, he still performed “HEAD SLAMMING”

killALIEN:
Then you're a Christian, Mohammad is a Christian. I'd have asked you to mention just 2 more verse where you got your "issue". But no need going the distance so. I pray for you to see the light before it gets late for you.

No doubt the prophet SAW, Jesus, Moses, Abraham and every prophet till and including Adam were on the same believe of monotheism. The question is are you on the same believe as Jesus or are you on a romanticised version of Christianity created by the Romans, just like how the Christmas you are about to celebrate was invented by the Romans (research origins of Christmas)?

As a Christian who believes in the bible, wouldn’t one verse carry the same truth and weight as the rest of the verses in the bible? If you truly believe in the bible, then one verse is all you need!

Point still remains-

JESUS was also a “HEAD SLAMMER”

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 9:34pm On Dec 23, 2022

killALIEN:
Clown, he fell to the ground and pray doesn't mean he does that every morning afternoon and evening.
Or should we say Mohammed is a Christian because he shouts alawakuba at the top of his voice while standing?
You wanted to be logical, but you ain't a deep thinker.
I hope someday I'm able to wipe out the parasitic muzlims off the surface of the earth

This is really funny, you guys are just attacking and calling names! This is your book I am quoting from o! If e pain una like that then take it up with the book na.

Fact still remain facts, I quote from your bible-

“ He fell with his face to the ground and prayed”

If he did it once or a million times, fact and evidence still remains-

JESUS was also a “HEAD SLAMMER” - even if it was just once, him still do am..

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 7:54pm On Dec 23, 2022

LastProphet:
Continue to live in denial you hear

I quoted from the bible, and it is clear for all to see.
If anybody is in denial are those that believe in the bible and choose to ignore the facts in that verse, they are the ones in denial. So my friend, if you believe in the bible and still deny this verse, you are the one in denial!

Winnin009:
Lol. Seriously?! One verse?! You know you can do better than this.

If you truly believe in the bible you would believe in it’s entirety. You would believe in all and every verse in it, and one verse out of it is enough!

Ofemmanu1:
Werey, Jesus didn't headslam Five times daily.

After you headslam 5times daily, what's left of your brains??! ... NOTHING.

The verse mentioned that he did it at least once! He might have done it more, maybe more that 5 times daily! However, let’s stick to the once.
That once made him a “HEAD SLAMMER”!
If you have a problem swallowing that fact, take it up with your bible!

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 6:06pm On Dec 23, 2022

advocatejare:
Going a little farther, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed, "My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will."

Is God your father?

The God Jesus prayed to is the God who is the father,

You are slaves to your own god.

Your god declared that he doesn’t have children.

So Jesus didn’t pray to your god!

You can believe what you choose to, which ever “god” or “God” he might have prayed to.

Fact still remain-

JESUS performed the act of “HEAD SLAMMING”

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Ps. Just cause you change it to small letters don’t change the facts, it just means you fail to recognise. Nothing more.

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 5:14pm On Dec 23, 2022

SirJerrie:
You just open mouth waahh
You just quoted a random passage in the bible after saying rubbish!!
Maybe you should read the Bible with understanding

How many Christian terrorist organisation (if there's any at all) are there in the entire world ??
And then How many Islamic Terrorist Organisations do we have in the world?
How

You see my problem with Christians, you provide them with evidence and they start defecting and pointing other things that has nothing to do with the topic!
But to answer your question there are loads of such organisations.
They are called Neo-nazi, they were responsible for January 6 insurrection in the US, they just arrested a bunch of them in Germany last week, they have a supporter in Italy as their PM, they are also Zionist who Suppress the whole of Palestine.

That being said, the main topic still remains-

JESUS was also a “HEAD SLAMMER”

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 5:04pm On Dec 23, 2022

Idonweak:
How does this relate with what you muslims are doing?

If anything this only describe that he bow his face and prayed. Besides, if you read the Bible and not just cherry picking. You'd see where Jesus thought his followers how to pray. If he wanted them to be slamming their head on the ground like you do in islam, i think he would have clearly gave the instructions. Besides, you know jesus was a jew and his timeline was far from that of Muhammad and that of islam. Jews don't slam their head on the floor.

Oga no need to be foaming for mouth..

It is clearly stated in the verse that He fell with his face to the ground and prayed! Don’t try to twist the verse by bringing in “bow” or apply some twisted logic, go with what is clearly stated in the bible.

Do you know Judaism and Islam have much more in common and a whole more similarity than say Christianity and Judaism?

If we were to accuse people of cherry picking then Christians would be mostly guilty! All the verses you pick about killing non-believers and etc are clearly out of context! That aside, let’s focus on the fact that-

JESUS too was a “HEAD SLAMMER”!

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Mass Shooting At Kurdish Center In Paris. 3 Dead, shooter Arrested by Analysist: 4:13pm On Dec 23, 2022*

Quelme:
Head slammers again!!!

I noticed that people use this on this forum as a derogatory term for Muslims and I just laugh at their ignorance. It shows that ‘they’, if Christians are very ignorant of their religion, if ‘they’ are not Christians then they are just plain ignorant.

I will quote from the bible

“Going a little farther, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed”

-Mathew 26:39

Source
[url]https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2026%3A39&version=NIV[/url]

Your JESUS that you pray to and say is your lord and saviour was also a ”HEAD SLAMMER”!

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Ps.
The intention of this post is in no way to portray Jesus in any derogatory manner, the intention is and always be to educate my Christian folks that the derogatory words they use on people from Islam applies to their “lord and saviour Jesus”

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Christianity Etc › Re: Artificial Insemination By A Single Lady Is Unnatural And A Sin. by Analysist: 9:34am On Sep 25, 2022

BloomingDale:
while the Muslims worship the moon. That's why the Muslims always wait to sight the moon before conducting all the religious festivals.

Do not correct someone out of ignorance and assumptions. Muslims do not worship the moon!
Stop spreading false information.

Family › Re: Case closed by Analysist: 9:58am On Sep 08, 2022*

Graduate2015:
Your post is a reality check.
He uses visitors toilet because its.in the downstairs and he is too lazy to climb upstairs. He also doesn't have sex with me because he says I always deny him when he asks so he has now stopped asking. He will have sex anytime I initiate so he is still attracted to me but complains I only ask for sex when I want. He doesn't want to follow my suggestion and doesn't want to initiate a solution for.our sex life. He changes and starts helping if u talk to him but goes back to his nature after a week or two.weeks.

I mean it is obvious what the problem is here.
You are treating and speaking to him like a child and that has destroyed his ego! He doesn’t trust you with his heart and ego anymore.

Personally, I think your husband has something more in the line of ADHD. Do some research on it, you will understand how to handle him better.

It’s going to be tough I wouldn’t lie, people with ADHD get bored of things and routines easily, that’s why they fall off and can’t commit to a schedule for long. You will need to be innovative and change it up regularly to keep the interest!

You will need to always initiate intimacy for months, hoping for that one time he will ask you, if he does never turn him down even if you want to die. It is a step to building the trust and him trusting you again. That one will quickly become two and three and more. Never turn him down, it’s you building his ego back up. I know it’s hard, but it is just the sacrifice you have to make.

You are trying to fight him with force and it will never work, they are the most stubborn people and have their guard up like a brick wall around their heart.

The easiest way to break them is love, care and tender. Live up on this man and watch how he will breakdown for you. Loving him is the only way to break that defence and he will admit by himself that has an issue, this is the only way to get him to admit. Forcing him is like taking away the little ego he has left, so you have to show him that despite his flaws you still cherish and respect him. Trust me, you can only unlock this level by showing him love and respect. No nagging, no argument , no telling him no, make him feel like king. Then slowly you choose the language you use to get him to go see a professional.
If you try to use force, forget it!

Also, throw away that 11 years older ish, stop expecting him to be the bigger person because he is not, you are! Accept that you are the driver and the responsibility that comes with it. But, never show him that you are, it is a skill you need to learn- making him think it is his Idea or he is in-charge but really you the one doing the driving. Remember, he has a very fragile ego and you have to extremely careful.

Main points and take away

1. Do a deep research into ADHD and how to handle it in adults.
2. Stop treating and taking to him like a child.
3. Build his ego back up, treat him like a king. Respect! Respect!! Respect!!!
4. Accept after doing all this work, he will get better but will always require guidance and assistance to be consistent.
5. Accept he will always need help

Good luck

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Family › Re: Case closed by Analysist: 6:41pm On Sep 07, 2022*

Excuse my typos, my keyboard is glichy/

You mentined your son has special needs. Do you think you can force your son to do something his mates do that you know he is nt capable of doing? NO! Because you knw he cannot, thats why you have a professional come everyday to assist. It is the same thing for your husband. You cannot force him to do what he can not do, or doesnt have the mental capabiity to do.

The good thing is that you already know what the problem could be, a mental disorder. The problem is you not acceptiong the responsiblilties that come with that.

Solution to your problem.

Acceptance stage

1. Accept that he is not normal, and can never be.
2. Accept that he is not a leader and a macho man.
3. Accept that he will never take initative and you have to do that and manage things.

Source of problems

1. Find out what causes the mood swings. (My guess, he has a disorder)
2. Find out why he uses guest toilet. (My guess, you nag him about not keeping the main toilet tidy)
3. Find out why he doesn't like being intmate with you. (My guess, he is not attracted to you, or he likes somethings he sees in the adult movies that you do not want to do for him)
4. Find out cause of every issue.

-- If you find out the causes, avoid those things or do the things that he wants you to do.

Solutions

1* DO NOT COMPARE YOUR LIFE AND HOME WITH YOUR FRIEND!
1** Make peace with the fact that the journey will take several months and its not a quick fix.
1*** Do not talk to him like a child and stop nagging him about cleaning up and other things.
1. Accept that he might have a disorder and you will have to take care of him forever, make peace with this and see the fighting go down significantly.
2. You will need to love and care for him like you do for your son.
3. You have access to his recources, use it t make the lifr easier, buy the machine yourself and do not wait for him.
4. Show him how to love you, it is not exciting i know but he will never get clues because he does not have the mental capacity. Be direct and show him.
5. Make sticky notes and place where he might need help, eg. Toilet handle, make a simle not that says "flush please" and a heart or kiss symbol.

I know the things i mentioned are hard to do when you do not love a person or they irritate you. But that is your reality, he needs help and that is your job as the wife. It is your reality, unfortunately he is not the brave macho kind of man, you just have to make the best out of it.

NB.. When i use the word nagging, i do not mean you are at fault for teling him what he should already know. I am not blaming you in any way. But from his perspective thats how he sees it. Also i would not give this avice to a normal person, your husban is clearly not normal and he needs extra help, just like your son.

Good luck.

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Travel › Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by Analysist: 12:57pm On Mar 23, 2021

Prettiepearlz:
I am not talking about the one year IT that polytechnic students do, this I know is acceptable. However, If you studied in a university and you include your 6 months IT as a student, it will not be accepted. Not seen anyone successfully use their SIWES experience. If you know any, please share.

Jamaticulus:
I kinda disagree. It has been clearly stated here:

https://www.cic.gc.ca/english/helpcentre/answer.asp?qnum=394

If your IT was remunerated and you can find an appropriate NOC, it would count.

These internships were not in Nigeria, they are not like siwes or university IT. Rather they are real work on the job and you have real responsibilities and they pay you.

The only issue I have or clarification I need is the “continuous” statement. My internships were 6 months at a company, ended say this month and then the next month I started another one, they followed each other like that. It meets the minimum requirements which is (NOC A) I think(professional). So, would it be counted as continuous with the breaks in between or not, that’s basically the main question?

Travel › Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by Analysist: 9:48pm On Mar 22, 2021

Prettiepearlz:
Yes, you can use your NYSC experience but not your IT as a student. Are you above the age of 30?

Thank you for your response.
Yes I am above 30.

Travel › Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by Analysist: 10:06pm On Mar 21, 2021

phabulous88:
Couple of years ago, the CRS cut off point was around 430. Nowadays, cut off point is around 470. So you should explore ways to increase your CRS score.

What did you score in your IELTS? If CLB 9 or less, try and rewrite IELTS and aim to max it out (CLB10).

What's your highest educational qualification? If a BSc, see if you can do a quick one year MSc.

Can you dedicate some months to learn French and write the TEF?

I have maximum scores from every section of IELTS. I have a MSc. What about the experience I listed, does it count?

What level of French is required to get a Reasonable score? I assume at least a B1 and that would take at least 9 months if I am not mistaking?

Travel › Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by Analysist: 9:19pm On Mar 21, 2021

I would appreciate some input guys
Thanks

Analysist:
Hi guys,
I am new here and would like to take path in this journey to greener pastures..

I have a question please, what are the chances of someone with an evaluation score of 435 to make it to the end and get that golden mail?

Does NYSC count as work experience?
I have internship as a student of 6 months at 4 different companies totaling 2 years, does it count as work experience?

Travel › Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by Analysist: 2:07pm On Mar 21, 2021*

Hi guys,
I am new here and would like to take path in this journey to greener pastures..

I have a question please, what are the chances of someone with an evaluation score of 435 to make it to the end and get that golden mail?

Does NYSC count as work experience?
I have internship as a student of 6 months at 4 different companies totaling 2 years, does it count as work experience?

Christianity Etc › Re: New Dead Sea Scrolls In Israel Reveals Fragments Of Biblical Prophets (Pics) by Analysist: 10:33am On Mar 21, 2021

BluntTheApostle:
No one has tampered with the Bible per se.

I am afraid that’s not true, I will advice you to read and research a bit on the history of Christianity and the Roman emperors.

The Roman emperor Constantine was the one that came up with somewhat the Bible and Christian traditions you know today!

He gathered all the scripts of the Bible available at the time and burnt the ones that he didn’t like or favored his style of rule and left the ones that he liked, so to say.

He is the person that introduced celebrating the Christmas which you do today, it was never celebrated till he started it and made it a law/tradition.

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Travel › Re: MOTIVATION | DEMOTIVATION - Immigrating To Canada - Our Story So Far by Analysist: 10:26am On Mar 20, 2021

1nairaland1:
There are many pathways to migrate to other saner countries. I migrated through the Express Entry pathway.
https://www.nairaland.com/travel
This link contains priceless information that will help you

I am aware of the travel section and the skilled express entry.. However, I was hoping to get an insight into say, how you acquired extra points, what you thought made you stand out from the pool, just normal things like that that can give someone an advantage. Especially for someone advanced in age.

Travel › Re: MOTIVATION | DEMOTIVATION - Immigrating To Canada - Our Story So Far by Analysist: 3:57pm On Mar 16, 2021

1nairaland1:
!

Hello,
I am glad you got to move and start a new life that you are thriving at, i mean at the end of the day we are all doing it for our future generation. We are trying to create a legacy and make sure our kids get a better chance at life than we did. I commend your efforts.

I am however interested in your journey, the process you used to migrate. Can you please elaborate on that, from the very start to landing in canada. You can make them bullet points in order not to write much and any stage i do not understand or need more information on i can ask you to elaborate on that.
I look foward to your reply.
Remain Blessed!

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