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Akin1212:
In between the lines? You said she's like that(her condition) because her heart is hardened.

I am just concerned about the fact that her hardened heart does not have anything to do with her condition, and her condition does not have anything to do with her hardened heart.

I am not trying to judge you, rather I am just examining your statement. It's not a big deal really, you don't have to respond, and no hard feelings.

No hard feelings dear. Do have a nice day

Akin1212:
Her condition is like that because she has a hardened heart? Which developed first?

Her condition or her heart?

Read in between the lines and you will understand what I mean. Thanks.

Jupxter:
In life it's easier to change to the negative than positive, your write up is so on point. Nice work, copied or not

Thanks

Jupxter:
In life it's easier to change to the negative than positive, your write up is so on point. Nice work, copied or not

Thanks

Elohor means softness but your heart is so hardened madam no wonder your condition is like that.

Flexherbal:
Most people actually change after marriage.

It could either be positive or negative.

Yeah but I'm beginning to think the negative out weighs the positive with the rate of what is going on in our society today.

Many married people are daily regretting and cursing their marriages. If you are single, know the reasons why people marry wrong persons and end their marriages in bitter separations or live to endure it.

1. YOU FOCUS MORE ON CHEMISTRY THAN ON CHARACTER
Principle: Never marry someone because you’re in love. Falling in love is a state of temporary psychosis. It is the “delusion of fusion.” Identify the specific character traits you must have in your spouse and know clearly how to asses for each one.
Background checks are essential, Be especially careful to check out the family.
People from warm and loving homes will most likely be emotionally healthy people.
Chemistry means there is physical and sexual attraction.
Compatibility: Looking for sameness: same backgrounds, culture, language, interests,politics etc. Temperament types are important to know.

2. YOU EXPECT HIM OR HER TO CHANGE AFTER YOU'RE MARRIED
The question you must ask is, “Can I live with this person the way he is now and be happy with him?”
Principle: Never marry potential. This implies bad potential. He’s a chronic smoker and drunkard and says he’ll change for you. This is bad potential. If he doesn't change you’ll resent him.

3. YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THE FUNDAMENTAL NEEDS OF MEN AND WOMEN
This is all about making sure the male-female energies are in sync. Men and women each have one core emotional need. Men want to be respected. Women want to be cherished, which means they want to be protected, provided for, and guided. The ultimate prerequisite for a man to get married is that he is ready to take responsibility. He has to be ready to be a “man.”

4. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND WHERE YOU'RE GOING
This means knowing what you stand for in life: Your values, priorities, and goals.
Ideally you should not be considering marriage until you've answered life’s most important question: What am I living for? Two people who have the same life goal have a much greater chance of growing together and staying together in a deeply bonded way. A soul mate is a goal mate.
Principle: The more clearly and narrowly we define ourselves, the better our chance of finding the right person.
Tools: What are we going to build together? What are this person’s life commitments? What does this person stand for? What is he passionate about?

5. YOU GET INVOLVED SEXUALLY TOO QUICKLY
Becoming intimate too soon can be self-defeating because it creates confusion.
• It may create a false sense of commitment and depth.
• It may block you from processing your feelings which is soul-tie
• It may lead to overlooking problems that should not be overlooked.

6. YOU CHOOSE SOMEONE WHO IS ABUSIVE
The definition of an abusive relationship is one in which you are afraid to express your feelings and opinions.
Other indicators:
• You don’t feel emotionally safe.
• You have to monitor what you say.
• You walk on egg shells around this person.
• You don’t feel relaxed and don’t feel you can be yourself.
• The person is demanding, controlling, or communicates with anger and criticism.

7. YOU DO NOT HAVE A CONSISTENTLY POSITIVE EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH EACH OTHER
A positive emotional connection does not mean you are in love.
Five questions to evaluate if you have a positive emotional connection:
1. Do I respect and admire this person?
2. Do I trust this person in every way and feel I can rely on his or her judgment?
3. Do I feel totally safe with this person (like I feel with my best friend)?
4. Do I truly care about this person and have a desire to give to him or her?
5. Are we open and honest with each other about our feelings and opinions?
Your greatest tool for measuring the quality of the relationship is your feelings.
Principle: Never dismiss anything that bothers you! Process everything that bothers you.

8. YOU DON'T COMMUNICATE WELL
This is very important: You must be sure before you get married that the two of you communicate well.
Good communication means:
1. We can talk openly and honestly about our feelings
2. We listen to each other and make it safe for each other to express ourselves.
3. There is no defensiveness
4. We trust that together we can resolve problems
5. We have confidence in ourselves that we can repair our breakdowns
6. We work well together; we’re a good team

Principle: You must be able to repair breakdowns 100%, which means there is no resentment or bad feelings left over.
One of the biggest mistakes people make is to believe that marriage will heal or fix their deep inner pain. In many cases, marriage will only make the pain greater and more unbearable.


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Rubyventures:
I disagree, it doesn't matter where it happens there is nothing better about slavery.

Yeah, nothing good about slavery but the chances of escaping and getting freed are higher than when you are in a faraway land.

100% true but it's better to be a slave in your homeland than be a slave in another man's land

BrigadeApproach:
hehehe!!! He took me by surprised. I will invite you na. You will be the Chair woman of the day

.. Cool

Congrats dear. You for kukuma give am heavy knock for head because that hitting was too soft.

Anyways I'm happy for you, don't forget to invite me to your wedding.

You cheated on your husband during courtship just because you wanted to secure your career. You should have opened up to him long before you people got married, there are still matured guys that are understanding, that are ready to work things out with their spouse before they tie the knot.

When you were enjoying the man's money, you never thought about the future, any agreement can be breached. Now the man is set to blackmail you. Believe me your husband will be so disappointed because when you guys were courting he trusted you so much, he never thought you would cheat on him.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

My own opinion, I suggest you tell your husband, open up to him yourself now and pray God gives him an understanding heart.

And don't ever consider seeing that man again.

May God help you.

greiboy:
no I pretty sure your womb is where the magic of life happens, therefore it will produce more money

Hahahahaha.

greiboy:
so you don't like me ehn

Don't worry

when we want to do our own, we will use your womb for the money rituals

Don't worry about kids, we will simply adopt children

No, your testes is better off. It will yield more money

Learn to walk away no matter how angry you are, never say a word at that particular time because there are some damages that can't be fixed once it's been done.

greiboy:
hahaha
baba the thing shock me o
So how much we go come spend for the wedding itself, I million naira

Cake 1 million naira, wedding gown 1.5 million naira. If you don't have money, go and use your testes for rituals to satisfy her...

Who is she trying to impress? I see no reason why any reasonable human should screen shot a conversation and put on social media. If you don't like his advances block him and case closed. Same goes to any guy who indulges in such act, you screen shot a conversation or nude and put on social media just for cheap black mail. There is no iota of sense in any individual that indulges in such act.

I don't see the need of publishing the chat between them on social media. A man chats you up, if you don't like his advances block him and case closed. Who is she trying to impress now? That is how another guy will screen shot her chat and put online.

tosyne2much:
Don't employ insults to win an argument. It's silly people that do that when they know they can't win an argument. A simple logical explanation can convince your opponent to substitute to your opinions rather than the hogwash you posted up there just to score cheap points

Remember we are arguing about cakes and you're saying already digressing. How many caterers have you met to conclude that a caterer can't bake a medium sized cake for 5k?

Madam, you don't know anything about catering so it's better you bury your head in ignorance

Easy man !

tosyne2much:
[/b] You don't mean it

Vikky014:
you are making it to look like asking for money is a reward for allowing the guy sex or press boobs
As a matter of fact relationship is a mutual thing. what will u say of a guy asking for money or airtime from a girl BC it happens.?

My question wasn't directed at you ma'am, let the OP answer me.

Yes, they still exist.

Can you be in a relationship without asking for sex? Can you be in a relationship without seeking to press her boobs?

tosyne2much:
Emi ke? The last time I tried to count, I had only about 500 ladies following me

Chisos!!! A whole 500?

Team 2nd born but I disagree with this write up.

JamesReacher:
Open the thread yourself, don't wait on nobody

I'm waiting for you to open it.

It seems we only have feminists here on NL, don't we have ladies that are womanists here on NL?
I'm waiting to see a thread on womanism, the issue of feminism is been over flogged.

Coldfeets:
How can somebody steal your money just by knowing your bvn? How?

I guess from their database. Once you type your BVN it automatically goes to their database, and it can be retrieved from there by whosoever that is managing the database.
Your BVN can be use to make transactions on your bank account without your permission.

"SCAM ALERT!!!


http://npvn.npower.gov.ng

There is a circulation that N-power site has been readjuted. Don't click on this link.


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Enter your BVN and your Bank Accounts is drained.

Stay away from this site.

If you aren't selected, don't go extra miles to cause yourself pain.

Apply NEXT YEAR".

I got this from a group chat, applicants should be careful with their BVN. Boys are not smiling.

Happy birthday. I wish you more fruitful years ahead.

Shine on.