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squad03:
I have been pondering on this for several years and I'll appreciate the inputs of good people on this forum.

Way before I got married,I had considered that should I encounter any delay in childbearing,I would be open to 'unconventional' means like IVF, Surrogacy or adoption.
Thankfully,I didn't encounter any delay and my husband and I have had 2 kids.I am not keen to have any more kids but my husband is open to more so we are keeping our fingers for a few more years.

Despite having completed my family (maybe temporarily), I have always kept on my mind the urge to volunteer to be a surrogate for another family.Why not since pregnancy treats me really well,my body snaps right back and I hardly experience that postpartum drag, it's a superpower I feel bad about going to waste since I probably won't be having anymore kids for myself.
Over the years,I have encountered couples I would gladly have engaged in this conversation but every time I run it past my husband (before I get their hopes up) he shoots the idea down.

I found it quite odd at first until I read about a woman who after 2 kids died during childbirth as a surrogate for another couple. That was scary for me but it didn't quite dampen the desire.

The first couple I spoke to him about are friends of ours who have been making efforts and he said he appreciates my kindness but that this is Nigeria where nothing is black and white and he wouldn't want any troubles as a result of it.
I paused for a bit.
We have all been friends for a while since we were all single and there's an adage in Yoruba that translates to 'Communual eating isn't sweet if one person doesn't contribute' and there has been that silent wedge even though it's often ignored.

For me, I can hardly see the downside to this,granted I will have to pause my career for just a few months during the advanced stage or early postpartum phase but that pales in comparison to going on the journey with a friend who can be a part of it every step of the way,can come to Antenatal and ultrasound scans..it's exciting to me.They will be rest assured that I will be taking all the right steps to ensure perfectly healthy babies.Please bear in mind that the baby(ies) will be 100% theirs (husband's sperm and his wife's eggs),I will just be a happy incubator.

There are legal aspects I am happy to follow through as they please and this is no quest for financial gains as my family is more than comfortable.

I also have a cousin who has been trying for a baby but has medical conditions which have hindered this so far and I will do this for her in a heartbeat but I have to convince my husband to allow me.
I have been having sleepless nights about it and I'm hoping that since it's family this time,he won't hesitate to give me his blessings considering it's a sacrifice for him as well.This is the only time I can take this break in my career and I want it to be meaningful.
God answers prayers in diverse ways,maybe this is it for my cousin.

Husbands in the house,how will you react to such a request from your spouse?

Wives,can you volunteer to be a surrogate?

Parents-to-be,will you allow known persons to be surrogates for you or have you considered any downsides to it?

I come in peace and for the love of babies,may the joy go round.

Just say u want to have a taste of another man sperm inside you.
Why not get pregnant and have more kids for your husband.

Your are just trying to fetch ants infected fire wood & hope u will not start groaning when lizards starts visiting u.

They should first of all find out how many female students & lecturers are aware of the king size bed in his office.
Then can now start from there.

placeofallure:
Just pray you marry your friend. When you do, all of that won't matter.
I started dating my husband when I was almost leaving secondary school. We dated for 16 more years before we got married. Now, we're about 10 years gone. It's like we just got married yesterday. He never leaves the house without giving me my peck. I'll never trade him for anything. He Pampers me like he just met me. Calculate the years. We're old now but we act like newly weds. It is that way when you are married to your friend, no ulterior motives, just plain companionship.

Let us see your pictures then and now so we can understand you better and be in the same page with you. Send ASAP please

okeyben10:
Buh ladies bia,

Y una too dey like that yansh pose

D expression on d guyz face tho.

How old do yu think these people are?? They can pass for a young couple

But Since 1999?? Wow

Only d gal know her secret of how many guys she has dated that never worked.
She is lucky her church boy then is still free and no side gal to attack her too.
If she decides to open up her can of worms all these years, that would be another bad tales from the guy.

Anyway she used the remote control well.

drinoayo:
Nollywood actress and video vixen Cossy Orjiakor has denied claims of assault made by her German fiancé Abel Jürgen, Igbere TV reports.

The 36-year-old shared pictures of her fiance and another man with bite marks and blood in an Instagram post on Sunday.

She said their relationship was toxic and it was her fiancé that had a problem.



https://www.instagram.com/p/CIvXlKpswFX7-WBQT7MtEyCfE5nvzy0BcNREks0/?igshid=1xevdnc8w3myt

Abel had on Saturday shared pictures of his bitten hand claiming Cossy did it after they got into a fight on Instagram.



Cossy and Abel got engaged in August.

https://igberetvnews.com/1375275/anger-issues-cossy-orjiakor-denies-assault-claims-fiance-photos/

Her naturally endowed milk factory can feed her state for as long as she lives.
Government should look inwards on this our naturally untapped milk industries. NAFDAC if they still exist should coming here.

thaoriginator:




Mi laugh, my sad and me bloodclaat!!!


How the hell dem wan we fi believe inna this??

A long time dem tell we di batty man shecow him dead and gone.

Bombaclaaaaat NA me nah take dem serious fi dis...

How many years it ah go take fi destroy a rasclaat terrorist weh nuh have no military training?

Dem ah take we fi a rollercoaster ride since day one inna dis zoo-clot Nation..

Buss me gun and praise the Lord

Which adulterated language is this

Garba!!! Why should a single soul still remain with abductors if not devilish politics in play. Soon we hear the boys resisted all efforts to rescue them hence now converted.

The 3 worst set of people to believe in this country are the Politicians, Police & Army.

Believe them at your own peril.

Patrioticman007:
Your mumu never do ?.
1. Its a fact that there are Generals from Igbo extraction among those told to go on isolation, are you trying to tell us Karma is also dealing with igbo tribesmen in the Nigerian armed forces ?.
2. Its a known fact by every man that death is certain upon everybody, what is not certain to man is the hour of death, the last time I checked Dim Ojukwu the great is still alive & commanding the Biafran Secret Service (BSS) from hell.

Karma is not tribal or selective.
If Igbo general is amongst d one that sold his conscience during the killings. Why not Karma visiting such person

[quote author=PopSmoke post=97044449]my problem now is I have never seen a Nigerian Christian bear the name Jesus when other Christian's in the world answer that name

what's really wrong? are they scared or what?[/quote
Any person that answers that could be linched due to religious intolerances.

powerfulguy:
https://www.sunnewsonline.com/katsina-school-attack-women-protests-rock-kankara/

But u all put ur lives at stake and voted for him.
North is still safer than any other part of the country said your presidency.
What we sow we shall reap & 2023 is still far away you know

dre11:
The two were identified as an employee of UN World Food Programme, who had just attended his wedding, and a colleague from the International Committee of the Red Cross who had been the best man at the ceremony.






https://saharareporters.com/2020/12/12/terrorists-kidnap-groom-best-man-shortly-after-wedding-borno

So ISWAP now have a road checkpoint up North

DoubleEngine007:
I thought Police said it was fake news

Who still believe Police?

annyz:
LEAH is now forgotten

Very unfortunate.

Pity on anybody amongst the populace still expecting maximum security protections in this country.

I am sure this is not the type of country our great grand Fathers dreamt to have.

BREYZ:
Vote for us, we will end insecurity, we will bring back the chibok girls, boko haram will be a thing of the past, 1 naira will be equal to 1 dollar una don win now things don worst, nobody is talking anymore.

LEAH is now forgotten

ContentedK:
I don’t understand the army you’re referring to here. the cowards in uniform that only show force to unarmed civilians?.. please !!!, the earlier we understand that nigeria had gone to the dogs , the better for all of us to start finding ways of protecting ourselves.. this killers are on a serious blood sucking rampage and the clueless bastard with his cabinet is clearly supporting this Janjaaaweed movement

They are busy down South in search of IPOB members in Obigbo.

SilverNorGold:
We have unscrupulous southern elements pretending to be Northerners just to mock us, even here on Nairaland. Members like Kaduna1stSon, Yenefer, etc are examples. They start by praising our beloved father, President Mohammadu Buhari and Northerners and then subsequently unleashing their anti-North agenda.. They don't mean well for us. So they can continue to fool themselves..

That said, I strongly condemn the Kankara GSS attack. The government should do everything possible to arrest the situation and bring the perpetrators to book! More military personnel should be deployed as a matter of urgency to ensure that all civilians are safe and sound. Nothing must happen to anyone otherwise the repercussion may not augur well for the government.. But I strongly believe in the leadership/capability of President Mohammadu Buhari and I am 100% sure he'll handle this issue professionally and intelligently, being an experienced, brilliant and intelligent retired General.

While we await the outcome, I appeal to my brothers and sisters in the North to remain calm and patient.

God bless Nigeria.

Military personnel that are in Oyigbo still in search of IPOB members? They are very busy down South.

Aisha! Have u abandoned ur calling
Have the govt unfreeze ur colleagues accounts??



I prefer hearing u talk on human right abuses.

Aisha! Have u abandoned END SARS victims.

I prefer hearing u talk on human right abuses.

Christistruth00:
This looks like a Political Set-up.

Were they waiting for Buhari to go on break in Katsina or was it just a long shot coincidence?

Not only is the Timing suspicious but the Kidnapping itself.

How easy is it to Cart away 600 boys in 2 hours?

Did they come with Train or Luxurious buses
North is the problem of this country from the day of creation.

Why must it be GGSS schools all the time?
After now we will hear some persons in the other religion amongst the students have escaped.

Deadly politics

NwaNimo1:
Good news...

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Politics!!!!
I will only believe if he ......
Hope you know what I meant

chi4ik:
I don't know why people are doubting COVID-19 existence in Nigeria.

I contracted COVID-19 and it was a painful experience. 5 week of horror in my life. The worst was difficult with my breath for 3 weeks.

Guys just be careful.

U based outside the country?
Are you obese?
How did you contact it?

Answer please

This man know where they are.

Politicians are the worst people to trust.

Liposure:
It shall not be well with bokoharam.

Don't search too far because the real bokoharam sponsors are in government house.

When they have turned to grandmothers abi?

ToluNazzal:
We need to be sure of what we're putting in our body.

Meanwhile, guys, see me harvest a yam for the first time in my life


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_NeRwfT-EU

Harvesting YAM is for male folks while female folks harvest coco yam.

hammerDK:
WIKE HAS NO BASE, NO SUPPORTERS AND NO POLITICAL VALUE


THE PEOPLE AROUND WIKE SHOULD TELL HIM TO LEAVE NIGERIA POLITICS.

WIKE SHOULD STOP GOING AROUND, HE STINKS OF OBIIGBO BLOOD AND PEOPLE DONT WANT TO SEE HIM.



IF ELECTIONS WAS TODAY IN RIVERS STATE, WIKE WILL BE EX GOV.

His candidate in any future elections will surely lose.

Hovering spirits of the massacred innocent Obigbo youths will ensure that.

Edusouls:
Corona is real I have experienced and survived it, we are just lucky that African environment reduced the lethality, bro it’s out there..

YES!!! Malaria even if branded another name is real.

This COVID-19 has been turning round for more than 7 months without hitting on the known wicked people.
Wasting our data coming to check name.
This COVID-19 should hear the cry of the masses and help us sanitize this country for once then no body will blame END-SARS protesters or IPOB.

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Fahdiga1:
The home state of the tyrant we have as a president. not surprised

Nice move!!! Let it start from there.

That's what they voted for.

Favemmzar200:
Hmmm, the security status of borno state is questionable....they told us this terrorist have been eliminated then they terrorist are back.


What other cock and bull does the security cheifs have for us.


By the way this bh are just seeking international attention

Zulum said Buhary is working