Johnnycastro18:
comrade wetin the funny you nah

The thing wey d funny you d funny me too

Johnnycastro18:

Tribe7777777:
had to open a new account for this please. A website I worked for blatantly refused to pay me but my contents are still on it. All avenues to have them remove my contents has proved abortive.

Kindly help

You should have the cpanel login details.

I don't give out cpanel login details until the client pays in full. And God help them if they don't.

FERNANDEZISBACK:

What if they were victim of rape..you lots don't read to understand..chill a lil bit boy..

Rape is a case on its own. It's something totally out of control by the victim.

My comment excludes those who are victims of rape.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Most time it's due situations and the rest tho..

Anyone who's not (Financially or Mentally) ready to mother or father a child shouldn't go about having s*x carelessly.

In fact, they shouldn't have s*x at all.

Datboredberry:

I hate that black men cut their hair

How would you have them do it?

cho25bc:


I guess as much. Hope you can woo a girl like this sha?

You are welcome

About that... Well, that would be a topic of another day.

But I guess that shouldn't be any difficult

cho25bc:


Lol. From your posts, i can see that you are an extreme introvert who hardly talks verbally to people around you. Like, maybe you keep to yourself a lot and stay indoors all day. Perhaps, your most comfortable mode of communication is chatting on social media but when it comes to real conversations, you lose ideas.

I believe most of what i guessed about you are wrong but if im right, then you might need to go out more and interact with people on phone and around you.

Going for a visit to greet parents of a newborn baby is not difficult at all, even condolence visits. You are not the father of the child nor the family of the deceased. You dont need special and prolonged words to express yourself on both occasions.

For the newborn visit, just say. "Congratulations ooo. God will bless and preserve the baby ooo. When is the naming ceremony? See how e resemble him papa and mama? This baby is so beautiful." That's all.

Then drop your gift (cash or kind), sit for a while with the parents. If they allow you to carry the baby, fine. Carry the baby for a few minutes, smile at him or her all the while s/he's in your arms. Within 10 mins, you are done. Tell them you will still come back later to play with the baby, then leave. It doesnt matter again if you dont return to the house. You have played your part. One thing is that you should never go there without gifting them something. They will need it at this crucial time. And it's a way of blessing the newborn and welcoming him/her to this world. Even the 3 wise men went to visit baby Jesus with precious gifts.

About the condolence visit. The same way you visit new parents is the same way you will visit a bereaved family, but this time, instead of a smile, your expression will be sober. All you have to say is. "Im so sorry about what happened. S/he was a good man/woman/guy/girl when he was alive. May his/her soul rest in peace. Please take heart and be strong. May God give you the strength to go through this trying time. Accept my condolence." If any other prayer point comes to your mind, add it to this address. When you are done, excuse yourself and leave if you dont want to stay there for long. You can shake hands with the family members or just pat their shoulders lightly while telling them about the incident. If you have any money, give it to one of the oldest members of the family or the closest person among them that you know, maybe your friend or girlfriend. You can also ask the cause of death (if you didnt know this before). You can also ask for burial arrangements so that you can attend (if you wish).

You did well by visiting your neighbor though. That's commendable.

You are very correct. I'm an extreme introvert. I find it difficult to communicate with even people closest to me.

It has always been just me and my thoughts. Social media is the only place I express my self.

I appreciate your input. Thank you

deavicky:
hope na my advice you use.

I did use few lines from your comment. Thank you boss

Legalcriminal:
Good to hear [b]but hope you give the baby money sha [/b]and u no wait to collect malt and biscuit wey dem dey share

Of course

I'm thankful to all the contributors on my previous thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/7032114/how-greet-neighbor-just-gave

I took the advice of some matured Nairalanders, rehearsed them couple of times, went with a little courage and overcame.

Some people from my previous thread were asking me what's difficult in going to greet someone who gave birth?

Well, that's what makes us different. To you it's easy. But for some of my type, it's very difficult.

The one I hate more than anything is going for condolence visit. I don't know of any other visit as hard as that. I always avoid that sh!t

Anyways, once again, thank you all.

Pacesetterz:


That awkward silence na him op dey avoid..hahahahaha

I sabi op type. Na those kind of neighbors wey no dey interact (or anti social) with neighbors reason why he’s finding it hard to do. This is y one must be sociable (I no mean say make u go dey open teeth anyhow with neighbors,make dem no see u finish).

At least a day in a week,make u stand greet/do some chit chats with neighbors for some mins before entering ur space. U can discuss a lil abt Buhari and his fuel matter or some political discourse.

If u were doing all these u won’t come here to ask to put words in ur mouth to go greet neighbor and her baby...it would have been way easier.

I swear bro.. You are 100% correct at the bolded.

jclassiq:

Lol.
I won't even lie, i would have asked the same question some years ago. But at this moment, the only one that makes me want to die is going on condolence visits. That one dey hard me like mad..

Bro, I never see anything wey hard reach condolence visit. I dey always avoid am

faithfull18:
Lol, introverts wahala. Just pay me let me help you greet your neighbor

How much? Lol

I have already though

tellwisdom:
Please don’t touch someone’s baby with your dirty hand. Just greet and ask them how they did it.

Lol

Blunttruth:


Hold Money, put it in an envelope. Say congratulations,joke about who the baby looks like. Pray for the baby, if you can . Put the envelope with money in the mother's hand. That's all.

Thank you boss

Bloggersp:
Introvert spotted
What you say does not matter, just go there with a lotta cash, your neighbor will do the talking

Exactly

SmellySperm:

So before nkor, u been wan go explain how the belle take start? Shey na u give her the belle? Simple congrat don do abeg

Lol

rickpat:
say this ..

congratulations,thank God for safe delivery,go close to the baby and say "your baby is so cute"... smile...add 1k if you have for the baby.. ask when is the naming ceremony for the baby ...just ask of the name of the child. .talk randomly and say you got to catch up with something...shikena...you move...

hope this helps ooo

Thanks boss

Zonefree:

You don't have to say too much. Just say congratulations, touch the baby and drop some money and bounce.

Just like that?

Bro, e get as e be nah.

I know this is not the right section for this but I need a wider view.

My neighbor just gave birth. I want to go greet them but I'm short of what to say. I don't wanna go there and be looking like a fool.

I don't know how to start the conversation.

What do I say when I get there?

I don't know how something so simple could be also very difficult to do .

lomprico:


do u live under a bridge or you have your own house?

I'm a young guy. I stay with my parents for now. I'm just starting up. Thanks for your comment

GIANTPLUSHUB:
Not normal sir. Shops agreement and commission are mostly cheaper. They are within 15 thousand to 20 thousand each making 30 thousand together or 40 thousand together. So, leave that shop. You never see shop. The agent might have seen that you desperately needed a shop hence capitalize on that probably magga go pay!

Thank you sir

Bekermann:


Those people are rogues. They're part of the people making accommodation in Lagos very expensive. You're not meant to pay more than 10% agency and 10% legal fee and probably a service charge. You can even ask on what basis is the property manager charging you that fee as service charge, because there are formulas in which we derive all these.

If I was in Lagos, I would have helped you address this need of yours.

Thank u sir

grandstar:


They are greedy guys.

The highest you should pay is 30k agency, 30k legal. That is 60k in total. I am an estate surveyor.

Thank u sir

byteem:
The sad part is if you don't pay someone else will. So what do u do.. negotiate.. if it's a high end location with competition.. then negotiate . Pay the rent to tie the place to the landlords account. Then negotiate agency ..rent is 60 k u should negotiate max 20k.. the thing is these agents rely on each other to get a location so most time they are more then two or even four sharing one agency fee.. not holding brief .. but if location is not competitive then insist on paying max 12k.. the question how.much do u want the place..

@ the bolded..
You are very right. That's exactly what happened here. The first agent I met, met another agent and both took me to the shop. Guess this explains the reason for the ridiculously high charge.

Thanks for your comment

AlexisGrphcs:
U ursef, judge Weda u are being cheated,
Asking annoying question

How am I supposed to know when I have no idea how it works. This is my first time renting. I have no idea how they charge

SUPERPACK:
Why should the agent fee be more than twice the cost of the shop, is Cubana the agent or what exactly. Better go around shops in the area and ask them how much they paid to secure their shops. At that rate the landlord is building free shops for the jobless agents.
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@mynd44 help op get more opinions before she enter one-and-half chance

God bless u sir