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One day, a young guy and a young girl fell in love.

But the guy came from a poor family. The girl’s parents weren’t too happy.

So the young man decided not only to court the girl but to court her parents as well. In time, the parents saw that he was a good man and was worthy of their daughter’s hand.

But there was another problem: The man was a soldier. Soon, war broke out and he was being sent overseas for a year. The week before he left, the man knelt on his knee and asked his lady love, “Will you marry me?” She wiped a tear, said yes, and they were engaged. They agreed that when he got back in one year, they would get married.

But tragedy struck. A few days after he left, the girl had a major vehicular accident. It was a head-on collision.

When she woke up in the hospital, she saw her father and mother crying. Immediately, she knew there was something wrong.

She later found out that she suffered brain injury. The part of her brain that controlled her face muscles was damaged. Her once lovely face was now disfigured. She cried as she saw herself in the mirror. “Yesterday, I was beautiful. Today, I’m a monster.” Her body was also covered with so many ugly wounds.

Right there and then, she decided to release her fiancé from their promise. She knew he wouldn’t want her anymore. She would forget about him and never see him again.

For one year, the soldier wrote many letters—but she wouldn’t answer. He phoned her many times but she wouldn’t return her calls.

But after one year, the mother walked into her room and announced, “He’s back from the war.”

The girl shouted, “No! Please don’t tell him about me. Don’t tell him I’m here!”

The mother said, “He’s getting married,” and handed her a wedding invitation.

The girl’s heart sank. She knew she still loved him—but she had to forget him now.

With great sadness, she opened the wedding invitation.

And then she saw her name on it!

Confused, she asked, “What is this?”

That was when the young man entered her room with a bouquet of flowers. He knelt beside her and asked, “Will you marry me?”

The girl covered her face with her hands and said, “I’m ugly!”

The man said, “Without your permission, your mother sent me your photos. When I saw your photos, I realized that nothing has changed. You’re still the person I fell in love. You’re still as beautiful as ever. Because I love you!”

This is not a matter of taking things personal.. It is about what is going on on Nairaland.. Most people are afraid to express themselves because of criticism. If a small community like Nairaland can not tolerate people, then how about the whole country? Nairaland shoudn't be I am Ibo, I am Yoruba or I am Hausa.. It suppose to be We are one Nigerian.

Ceasar1: [color=#000030]OP, Stop taking things too personal or else you will continue to be a victim of needless suffering.[/color]

They are talking one by one.. pass this message to your other colleagues

It doesn’t matter how you choose to live your life — whether you build a business or work a corporate job; have children or choose not to have children; travel the world or live in the same town all of your life; go to the gym 5 times a week or sit on the couch every night — whatever you do, someone will judge you for it.

For one reason or another, someone will find a reason to project their insecurities, their negativity, and their fears onto you and your life, and you’ll have to deal with it.

If you are frustrated about your life, that doesn't mean you should pour your anger on an innocent person. Just because your life is miserable, doesn't mean others should follow suit.

Why do you have to hate someone who writes about building better habits, being healthy, providing solution to someone's problem and living an adventurous life. Could you imagine if I wrote about something that was actually controversial like politics or religion?

Don’t be the hater. Don’t be the person who tears down someone else’s hard work. The world needs more people who contribute their gifts and share their work and ideas. Working up the courage to do that can be tough. Support the people who display that courage.

We can't control what other people do but we can control what we do. Live a full, rich, happy life and surround yourself with people who do the same and you won't have to deal with people that don't see the value in your presence in their life.

Don't be in a hurry to condemn someone because he doesn't do what you do or think as you think or as fast. There was a time when you didn't know what you know today.

Before you condemn someone else for a wrongful act, check your behavior and see if you too, have committed an act similar or even worse than the act that person has done. Then you won’t be in a position to judge.

Oh yes, I am talking to you. Haters here in Nairaland who doesn't appreciate other people's effort.. They are now forming caucus. They know themselves.

To those who have been criticize here(Nairaland), remember that Criticism and negativity from other people is like a wall. And if you focus on it, then you’ll run right into it. You’ll get blocked by negative emotions, anger, and self-doubt. Your mind will go where your attention is focused. Criticism and negativity don’t prevent you from reaching the finish line, but they can certainly distract you from it.

However, if you focus on the road in front of you and on moving forward, then you can safely speed past the walls and barriers
that are nearby.

Focus on the road, not the wall.

Peace!!!

I know what you’re thinking, pot calling the kettle black much.. When will Nigerians grow up with their shallow thinking?

AlfaSeltzer: ifeness be afraid. be very very afraid.

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A female suicide bomber Wednesday blew herself up at Kano Polytechnic while students were checking their results in the school.
Vanguard cannot ascertain the number of casualties but the Kano State Police Command has confirmed the blast in the school.


Source: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2014/07/breaking-news-many-feared-killed-female-suicide-bomber-attacks-kano-poly/

Please if you are in Kano, let us know the situation there.

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Carlos Slim Helú is once again the world’s richest person, thanks in large part to a sharp increase in telecom giant América Móvil’s share price both in U.S. and Mexican markets. Slim bumped Microsoft (NYSE:MSFT) cofounder Bill Gates from his perch as the world’s richest, a post Gates has held since May 2013.

The move happened when the value of Slim’s phone company América Móvil’s (NYSE:AMX), his largest holding, rose 1% or $805.6 million, pushing his net worth to Forbes estimate of $79.6 billion, against Gates’s estimated $79.1 billion net worth.

Between July 1 and July 11, Slim’s wealth jumped from $74.5 billion to $79.6, a gain of $5.1 billion in 12 business days, an indication that investors are applauding Slim’s unexpected decision to reduce his phone market share below 50% as a new antitrust telecom law mandate comes into play. Investors seem to believe the outcome may actually be better for Slim’s business interests.

Currently, Slim’s América Móvil controls 70% of the mobile phone market in Mexico, and 80% of landlines.

Slim fell from the top of the Forbes World’s Billionaire list in May 2013 largely due to a sharp drop in América Móvil’s stock, fueled by fears that Mexico’s new antitrust regulations would crumble his telecom empire.

For the 2014 World’s Billionaires List, Gates took the top spot with a net worth of $76 billion, while Slim came in at second richest with a net worth estimated at $72 billion.

Source: https://www.facebook.com/consultainment/posts/611373885644091

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Do you think that God left you? I know that you may be experiencing a very bad mood now and I know that everything in your life may seem to be so dark but it’s time to ask yourself one question: is this really the truth, or is it just your incorrect perception that led you to think that God has left you?

Some people start to think that God abandoned them as soon as they experience a hard time. The moment bad things start to happen they blame God for them. But just think of it, what if this was intended to be a short down time followed by many good things?

What if God wanted to get you closer to him and so decided to send you some problems for few months? If you were just patient enough you would have discovered that this was intended to be a temporary period. What makes you think that god abandoned you is that you think that these problems are going to last forever!!

Be patient and don’t just think that you were abandoned few weeks or months after facing some problems because if those few months passed and then you discovered that things have changed to the better you will feel so embarrassed because you had such thoughts about God's deeds.

Joe was facing a real hard time. This month he lost his job and had a car accident that totaled his car. The only explanation he found for what’s happening was that God has abandoned him.

This is what happened from Joe’s perspective but when looking at what was actually happening things seem to be so different. The day Joe had the accident there was a robber waiting at the place he was going to in order to steal his car. This dangerous criminal was intending to kill the person he is going to rob and if Joe hadn't had the accident it would've been him! This means that Joe's accident was actually a stroke of luck! The accident totaled his car but saved his life.

Joe was feeling broken because he lost his job and had no other choice but to search for a new job. Few weeks later he found a higher paying job. Something he would never have found if he didn't lose his old job. His insecurity after losing his first job motivated him to find another job that turned out to be even better.

I could give you hundreds of similar examples but the moral would be the same: what if God was doing the better for you? It's just your lack of knowledge that‘s making you think that God left you while the truth is that God may be doing the best for you.

When we lose faith our subconscious minds demand solid proofs that supports our old beliefs. If we didn't manage to provide these beliefs we might lose faith forever.In my book "I Saw God" i explained how can scientific facts can provide these solid proofs to your mind.

If your belief in God was shaken then start to search for scientific facts that proves that we were created. These are the most powerful evidences you can provide to yourself and to others for proving God's existence.

God might want to bring you closer to him. He may be testing your faith or he may want you to develop empathy for others who suffer. There are hundreds of explanations for that but the only incorrect one is that he left you.

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I once heard a friend of mine talking about how great a certain stock was. Upon hearing that advice I bought it too. Few days later when it lost half of its value I felt really bad and I really wished that I have never listened to him.

But do you know why I felt bad at that time?
Simply because of one thing: I lacked the knowledge about the stock and so I felt that i will never get my money again.

The only thing that can make you feel bad if a price of a stock went down is the lack of knowledge. If you didn’t do your homework well then most probably fear will control you whenever the stock price goes down and so you may end up taking emotional decisions and losing more of your money.

If you had the same problem then don’t waste your time and just go now and dig for information about that stock you bought.

You will find that the more information you get about it the more you will feel good and the more your bad feelings will go away. (Assuming that you bought something good). Most of us hate uncertainty but when this uncertainty is about our financial future then it might feel even worse.

Fortunately there is a way out of this. The more knowledge you collect about that thing you are uncertain about the better you will feel and the lesser your fears will be.

Do nothing and your fears will grow, take actions and your uncertainty will disappear.

Ever wondered why most people make much more money using demo accounts than the money they make when they invest in real stocks?

When people use a demo account they don't let their emotions control them simply because they have nothing to lose, after all its a demo who cares!

As a result they take better decisions, make less mistakes and make more money. Investing is not hard but you just need to have a great deal of emotional control in order to make sure that you don't do fatal mistakes.

Many investors make mistakes while they are well informed! the problem in such a case is emotional control.

Lots of parents have troubles dealing with their children in the teenage phase because of their lack of knowledge about psychology.
A teenager is usually rebellious and stubborn because he is in constant search of his identity. Not knowing who he is or what his role in life will be he starts to join different groups and follow different trends in attempt to discover his true self.
At one time he might put on weird clothes, at another time he might spray his hair and at a third time he might listen to weird music. With each one of these changes he tries to find an identity or a group to belong to.

For a parent to properly deal with a teenager he must be aware that all of these phases are quite normal and that the teen must be left on his own in order to develop his identity properly unless he engages in a dangerous Behaviour.
Searching for an identity is a normal stage of growth. As a parent you should not interfere with what the teen is doing as long as it is not dangerous.

Interfering with the teen's life by telling him that he should not wear this or that he should not act in a certain way might affect the development of his personality and might result in psychological disorders when he becomes an adult.
Many parents complain about their stubborn teens without realizing that being stubborn can just be a defense mechanism the teen is using to prevent the over controlling parent from controlling him.

* Never be over protective: Being over protective will result in one of two things, either the teen will do bad things behind your back or he will either become an insecure adult who fears to take risks or to take on any new challenges.
Children who are over protected usually fail to develop the life skills they need and so grow up lacking self esteem.

* Be Authoritative not authoritarian: Teens can sometimes try to find their identities by trying to act on their own. some teen may try to disobey all rules that the parent sets just to be feel that they have their own personality.
In such a case the parent must be Authoritative not authoritarian. Authoritative parents are democratic, they set rules but are flexible enough to discuss them and that's why they usually raise healthy children. Authoritarian parents on the other hand ruin the self esteem of their children and prevent them from developing proper self regulation.

* Be his friend: The teen’s mind is being constantly bombarded by programming that comes from external sources like the media, peer pressure and the society. Each of these sources tries to affect the teen in a different way.
If as a parent you didn’t manage to become his friend so that you can influence him more than these external sources then he might follow any of them and forget about your rules.

Final words to parents, Its not a problem to see your teen following the latest fashion, doing weird haircuts or changing his life style everyday. As long as he doesn’t harm himself allow him to do what he wants and make sure that you have a supervisory role.


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