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Fashion / Re: My Crochet Fantasy by AryEmber(f): 7:17pm On Oct 24

Where are you based?
Good evening boss. I school in Akure but in Ibadan currently for break
Fashion / Re: My Crochet Fantasy by AryEmber(f): 5:14pm On Oct 19
hello, I'm in Ibadan..I will like to learn too but I'm finding it difficult to find a physical class not very far from me. Are you learning from someone who has a physical class or online pls?
Hi, I learn from YouTube only o and I downloaded some crochet apps too. that's all
Literature / Re: Black Maria 4 (Nemesis) by AryEmber(f): 4:21pm On Sep 27
Nice one Larry, for the very first time JB behaved like human being
I absolutely agree

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Fashion / Re: My Crochet Fantasy by AryEmber(f): 2:59pm On Sep 27
Hi, your other option is foreign yarn. Check the crocheters and knitters of Nigeria facebook page, there are lots of people that can help.

alright. thanks

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Fashion / Re: My Crochet Fantasy by AryEmber(f): 2:56pm On Sep 27

Welcome onboard and happy hooking
You can reach out to @ Nathesth crochet collection in Ibadan, she sells local and foreign wool and crochet accessories.
Here's her contact.07065073340
Fashion / Re: My Crochet Fantasy by AryEmber(f): 10:08am On Sep 15
Good morning guys. I just began my crochet journey weeks ago and this thread has really helped. Please, kindly suggest quality yarns I can use except yeye wool and baby wool. I also stay in Ibadan and I don't know if anyone around here was able to get the wool in Ibadan or it was in Lagos.
Literature / Re: The Bosom Strangler by AryEmber(f): 10:20pm On Sep 12

I don't go through any struggles like that. Maybe it's because I have agbalumo breasts sha.
Seriously, one doesn't know the blessings until you read stuffs like this. To think I wanted more! Olorun sheun o


Literature / Re: Black Maria 4 (Nemesis) by AryEmber(f): 10:11pm On Sep 12
This is madness. I do not believe a father can be that cruel to wish his son downfall for another. Even if he's not Basky's, he doesn't know na
Literature / Re: What's Love (A Romance Novelette By Kayode Odusanya) by AryEmber(f): 11:30pm On May 29
Cool stuff. .....Abike has a point sha. Took dude a break up from being unofficial f**k buddies with her to suddenly realise he's loved Ejiro all this while. I just have this feeling Ejiro is just a rebound and the fact that she's always been around adds more to it.
Exactly my thoughts
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Urgent Vacancy - Van Sales Men, Storekeeper. by AryEmber(f): 3:01pm On May 25

INTERESTED CANDIDATES SHOULD FORWARD UPDATED RESUME to olushola.salami@yahoo.co.uk indicating your interest as the subject. Contact 09044004400 / 09085456050 for enquiries.
are there still vacancies here?
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Immediate Employment At J-six Chicken by AryEmber(f): 7:28pm On May 21
is there accommodation for anyone living far from lekki? let's say Egbeda for example
Romance / Re: Lady Sends DM To A Cute Guy She Met Online. See What Happened 1 Year After. by AryEmber(f): 2:53pm On Apr 21
So yours is all about marriage undecided
Lati Odun wo?
So yours is all about marriage undecided
Lati Odun wo?
Literature / Re: Help Me Find This Story by AryEmber(f): 5:00pm On Jan 26
Good day everyone,

There is this story way back 2014, where a deaf and dumb girl was maltreated by her step mum, she went through a lot, later met a blind boy whom she feel in love with.

I think there was a half brother that was asthmatic or so.

Please someone should help me find the thread. I have forgotten the tittle sef.
search for 'we are able'. Cant remember the author tho
Islam for Muslims / Re: How The Quran Led Me To Jesus Christ by AryEmber(f): 8:38pm On Dec 15, 2020
This guy was led to Christ and na argument follow? Congratulations to you jare bros, you are happy with your religion, let's us live happily with ours. Ko fa ija na
Literature / Re: ITOHAN: THE BEAUTY GODDESS (A Playlet By Jessica Duru) by AryEmber(f): 4:49pm On Nov 19, 2020
Wow! A play! I'm so following, keep up the good work ma

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Literature / Re: Almost Pretty +18 by AryEmber(f): 10:16am On Oct 23, 2020
I love me a rich powerful boy/poor helpless girl romance story anytime anyday but this? Can love just happen like that?! Op please, slow down the pace of this story to make it more realistic, thanks.
Literature / Re: Condemned (A Christian Fiction) by AryEmber(f): 5:46pm On Oct 11, 2020
Happy Sunday. Story continues tomorrow. Henceforth it will be updated 3 times weekly. Monday, Wednesday and Sunday.

Stay tuned...
Thanks for the update, waiting eagerly for the next
Literature / Re: Condemned (A Christian Fiction) by AryEmber(f): 6:43pm On Oct 05, 2020

You are highly welcomed. Hope to get you some popcorn.
Ha! Thanks For the update

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Literature / Re: Condemned (A Christian Fiction) by AryEmber(f): 9:06pm On Oct 04, 2020

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Literature / Re: Broken And Sad by AryEmber(f): 8:56pm On Oct 04, 2020
Just Poem Or Serious Matter?
Literature / Re: Black Maria 4 (Nemesis) by AryEmber(f): 12:06pm On Sep 22, 2020
Oh! My Poor OJB!
Culture / Nigeria's Slave Descendants Prevented From Marrying Who They Want by AryEmber(f): 9:33am On Sep 16, 2020
In a tragedy reminiscent of Romeo and Juliet, a couple in Nigeria killed themselves earlier this month after their parents had forbidden them from marrying because one of them was a descendant of slaves.

"They're saying we can't get married... all because of an ancient belief," the note they left behind said.

The lovers, who were in their early thirties, hailed from Okija in south-eastern Anambra state, where slavery was officially abolished in the early 1900s, as in the rest of the country, by the UK, Nigeria's colonial ruler at the time.

But descendants of freed slaves among the Igbo ethnic group still inherit the status of their ancestors and they are forbidden by local culture from marrying those Igbos seen as "freeborn".

"God created everyone equally so why would human beings discriminate just because of the ignorance of our forefathers," the couple said.
Many Igbo couples come across such unexpected discrimination.

Three years ago Favour, 35, who prefers not to use her surname, was preparing for her wedding to a man she had dated for five years, when his Igbo family discovered that she was the descendant of a slave.

"They told their son that they didn't want anything to do with me," said Favour, who is also Igbo.

At first, her fiancé was defiant, but the pressure from his parents and siblings soon wore him down and he ended their romance.

"I felt bad. I was so hurt. I was so pained," she said.

Prosperous but 'inferior'
Marriage is not the only barrier slave descendants face.

They are also banned from traditional leadership positions and elite groups, and often prevented from running for political office and representing their communities in parliament.
However, they are not hindered from education or economic advancement.

The ostracism often pushed them to more quickly embrace the Christianity and formal education brought by missionaries, at a time when other locals were still suspicious of the foreigners.

Some slave descendants are today among the most prosperous in their communities, but no matter how much they achieve, they are still treated as inferior.

In 2017, 44-year-old Oge Maduagwu founded the Initiative for the Eradication of Traditional and Cultural Stigmatisation in our Society (Ifetacsios).

For the past three years, she has been travelling across the five states of south-eastern Nigeria, advocating equal rights for descendants of slaves.
The kind of suffering that the black people are going through in America, the slave descendants here are also going through the same," she said.

Ms Maduagwu is not a slave descendant, but she observed the inequality while growing up in Imo state and was moved to tackle it after watching the devastation of her close friend who was prevented from marrying a slave descendant.

During her trips, Ms Maduagwu meets separately traditional persons of influence and slave descendants, then mediates dialogue sessions between the two groups.

"Men sat down to make these rules," she said. "We can also sit down and remake the rules."

Descendants of slaves among the Igbo fall into two main categories - the ohu and the osu.

The ohu's ancestors were owned by humans, while the osu's were owned by gods - people dedicated to community shrines.

"Osu is worse than slavery," said Ugo Nwokeji, a professor of African studies at the University of California, Berkeley, who thinks the osu were wrongly classified as slaves by the missionaries.

"Slaves could transcend slavery and became slave masters themselves but the osu for generations unborn could never transcend that."
Discrimination against the osu does tend to be worse.

While the ohu are marginalised as outsiders - with no known places of origin or ageless ties to the lands where their ancestors were brought as slaves - breaking taboos about relations with the osu is accompanied, not just by fear of social stigma, but of punishment by the gods who supposedly own them.

Favour's fiancé was told by his father that his life would be cut short if he married her, an osu.

"They instilled fear in him," she said. "He asked me if I wanted him to die."

'Grassroots engagement'
Such fears have made it difficult to enforce laws against discrimination which exist in the Nigerian constitution, plus a 1956 law by Igbo lawmakers specifically banning discrimination against ohu or osu.

"Legal proscriptions are not enough to abolish certain primordial customs," said Anthony Obinna, an Catholic archbishop in Imo state, who advocates for an end to the discrimination. "You need more grassroots engagement."
In her advocacy, Ms Maduagwu educates people on the various ways in which traditional guidelines on relating with the osu have been breached, "without the gods wreaking any havoc".

"Today, we are tenants in their houses, we are on their payroll, we go to borrow money from them," she said.

Such association with the osu would have been unthinkable in the past.

No official data exists on the number of slave descendants in south-eastern Nigeria.

People tend to hide their status, although this is impossible in smaller communities where everyone's lineage is known. Some communities have only ohu or osu, while some have both.

In recent years, increasing agitation from ohu and osu has led to conflict and unrest in many communities.

Some slave descendants have started parallel societies with their own leadership and elite groups.
About 13 years ago, the osu in Imo state formed a group called Nneji, which means "from the same womb".

Among the benefits that Nneji offers its thousands of members is arranging marriages between their adult children in different parts of the world, saving them the potential heartbreak of relationships with "freeborn".

"People come to you when they want a favour from you," said Ogadinma, a septuagenarian from a wealthy osu family, whose husband is a patron of the Nneji.

"But those same people, when your children want to marry their children, they complain that the person is osu."
Archbishop Obinna, who has been criticised for officiating at the weddings of what he describes as "mixed couples", said: "I have had to safeguard some of the couples from the violence of their parents and relatives."

Ogadinma, who also asked me not to use her surname to protect her family, faced discrimination when she ran for political office about 10 years ago.

Petitions poured in from people who said that she was "unsuitable" to contest - and the national leader of her party, who was Yoruba, found it difficult to support her, convinced that she stood no chance.

"He told me plainly: 'There is something Igbo people say that you are, which will not allow your people to vote for you.'"

Discrimination based on slave caste is not common among the Yoruba or Hausa, Nigeria's two other major ethnic groups. But it has been reported among some ethnic groups in other West African countries, such as Mali and Senegal.

Ms Maduagwu's Ifetacsios group now has four staff and about a dozen volunteers. The work has been slow and hard, but a handful of traditional rulers have embarked on the process of abolishing the inequality in their communities.

She says she was initially shocked by the attacks on social media from people opposed to her activism.

"I had to join a lot of Igbo groups to spread the message and a lot of them insulted me and told me that their tradition will remain."

Nollywood factor
Such attitudes even among the educated and enlightened are perpetuated by African literature such as late Nigerian writer Chinua Achebe's Things Fall Apart, Ogadinma believes.

"He was a person dedicated to a god, a thing set apart - a taboo for ever, and his children after him," Achebe, who was Igbo, wrote of the osu in his 1958 classic.

"He could neither marry nor be married by the freeborn… An osu could not attend an assembly of the freeborn, and they, in turn, could not shelter under his roof... When he died he was buried by his kind in the Evil Forest."
Ogadinma worries that Nigerian students around the world who read the novel as part of their curriculum subconsciously adopt traditional beliefs about the osu.

"If every generation of Nigerian children is reading about this osu, don't you think it will affect their thinking?" she said.

Nollywood also plays a part, according to Aloysius Agbo, an Anglican bishop in Enugu state, who advocates for an end to the discrimination.

Nigerian films have their dedicated TV channels, including the wildly popular Africa Magic.

"Beliefs that we already accepted as superstitious are now coming back as real truths because of what we watch on Africa Magic," said Bishop Agbo. "They do it as showcasing our culture but they are not conscious of the impact on society."

But with the recent Black Lives Matter (BLM) protests around the world, Ms Maduagwu hopes that more Igbo people will be inspired to change their attitudes.

"If more people will reflect that the agonising journey of the black Americans began here, the BLM protests will affect our work positively," Ms Maduagwu said.

"Africans need to look inwardly to see what is happening in their homeland."


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Literature / Re: The Bed Undefiled By Joy A. Adewumi by AryEmber(f): 6:56pm On Sep 12, 2020
This is really amazing! I love it smiley. Permissible to share?
Literature / Re: Dividends Of Obstinacy by AryEmber(f): 5:09pm On Aug 01, 2020
Nicely written but I was just wondering, what exactly was her sin? Fornication or not listening to her family?

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Islam for Muslims / Re: Muslim Women Can Still Participate In Beauty Pageants! by AryEmber(f): 5:40pm On Jul 03, 2020

No you're the one with -0 understanding.
Muslim women are not public latrine like yours, the ones who does it are sinners.

No way this is OK in Islaam, what evidence will they present and who will they say they resemble.

How Islaam talked about it... have u even read anything about anything ?

Are they curing cancer ? Making electric cars or batteries ? Or in Semi-conductor factories making 5nm chiplet ?
Maybe they're in a team of software programmers writing OS? Or an economist fixing the nation? Or Molecular Biologists?
A very good teachers loved by student ?

See this one. Who do heck do you think u talking to?

Many of these are the most dumb people on the face of the earth and all they had to do is show their body (something they got from their parents)
How is that even a fair assessment of women potential?

Abeg left jare. Na your type dey give birth to children who are just vessels, no impact in the world.
U had better start learning something useful. u will teach your kids not being naked on TV.
Please, you can correct and enlighten her more without the insult. Obviously, she doesn't understand the true purpose of hijab and that, you can explain like a gentleman, when anyone reads your comment, they would most likely only see the insults instead of the real message you are trying to pass across.


Islam for Muslims / Re: Why Do Islam Permit The Marriage Of Underaged Girls (10-15) Years by AryEmber(f): 6:44pm On Jun 12, 2020

Of course, underage marriage is not joke
Islam for Muslims / Re: Why Do Islam Permit The Marriage Of Underaged Girls (10-15) Years by AryEmber(f): 9:30pm On Jun 10, 2020

Write in English.

rule 21
Maybe I lost my sense of humour, not funny
Islam for Muslims / Re: 5 Qur'anic Terminologies No Muslim Understand by AryEmber(f): 10:02pm On Jun 06, 2020
Chai! Why the derail na? I suppose that's how most arguments end. Thank God for atheism, how will one have this fun smiley
Islam for Muslims / Re: Why Do Islam Permit The Marriage Of Underaged Girls (10-15) Years by AryEmber(f): 9:58pm On Jun 04, 2020
My own be say; bro kiddler[b], jazakallahu khayran fii dunya wal akhira[/b]

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Islam for Muslims / Re: MSSN, FOMWAN Condemn Murder Of Bello, Seek Prosecution by AryEmber(f): 9:10pm On Jun 04, 2020
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajuun
It is not even forever for her cause she is gone embarassed
Romance / Re: Can Money Open The Leg Of All Girl's ??? by AryEmber(f): 4:29pm On May 28, 2020
What a ridiculous question

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