₦airaland Forum

The pit bull has the potential to do more damage during the commission of a bite than a rottweiler. The pitbull's jaws close at 2000 pounds per square inch. However, at least in america, rottweilers are the #1 biter. (I work with them for a living so these facts are near and dear to my heart.) Pitbulls were bred for fighting so they take that type of training quickly but a well-trained, well-socialised pitbull won't be "set at anything" because he won't understand what it means. This misconception that the breed is violent is what has caused them such stigma. They are aggressive because ppl train them to be that way! Btw, I had a beautiful blue pit (*Ulysses) who lived in the house. Currently I have a 150lb. male rottie (Kilo) who is a housepet so they CAN live indoors.

@ chinani Eba is soup of grated cassava (gari). Not appetizing to me at all.

Whats the diversity like in Nigeria? Lots of different races or just a few mixed in?

I just have to say that the Nigerian men that I have met thus far have fit your descriptions to a "T". @mohid: I don't see the point in wasting precious money on flowers which wither away and die, or most other frivolous items - although sometimes they are nice.

Now, a possible bone of contention - cooking. Some Nigerian foods are similar to ones I grew up with. In fact, they are the same things, just named differently. The problem is that the dishes that I like, he doesn't and vice versa. I would rather starve that have eba (sp?) and he can survive only on that!

Well, maybe his mother will like me,

Thagodfada:
Thatz an example of what i was saying earlier. The role of a woman in indian culture is a little spooky.

Tell me about it. It has been the demise of many.

Many girls are like that. Then one day it all changes. There is a time for everything, and right now it isnt the time for boys. You've got a good head on your shoulders!

I'm half indian and grew up in indian culture and i absolutely will not date an indian boy again. My cousin and i dated Indian Muslim brothers. She married hers, I moved on. She now wants to leave him because she has no freedom. The boy changed after they got serious. I know some indian boys (like my cousins) who are nice but they are few. Even my mom says indian men don't want a wife, they want a slave! Indian girls are another story. She treats her man like a king, and is always dutiful regardless of whether he deserves it or not.

Just imagine if women could take many husbands, There are some things that I don't do, and share my man is one of them. I've also learned that you will lose a man the same way u get him. If he 'cheated' with you on wife #1, and you become wife #2, there will surely be #3 coming along soon. My bf is African and he claims that he isn't into polygamy. But if he should change his mind after we get married, there will certainly be divorce. So, my advice to you is prepare for #3 or leave the guy alone. You're worth being someone's one and only.

What gets me is the deception. When was she planning to tell you? On your wedding night?! Then, Is she a hermaphrodite or a pre-operative transsexual? I don't think pre-marital sex is necessarily the answer but, in this day and age, these are the kind of scenarios that exist. I could deal with a hermaphrodite because she was born that way. But I dont think I would continue a relationship with a transsexual. Kudos to you for wanting to help her. There should be more people like you in the world!

Love is relative to each individual, I think. I know that I love someone when I can accept them inclusive of their faults and annoying habits. So for me, that is what love is. If I'm not able to do that then I dare not introduce the L word. Judging by my own definition I have to give thanks every day that there are people that love me. I'm annoying as h#ll!

I'm not Nigerian at all, that I know of. I say it like that because my father's heritage is spotty and I don't know much about him. My mom is East Indian and I was brought up in America. My bf's dad is American and mom is Nigerian. He has lived his whole life in Nigeria. This month's phone bill is $300 which i think is like naira 38,317. I can afford it, but still. It would be less expensive for either of us (meaning HIM) to immigrate. Now, before ppl start callin' me selfish, he said he will come. But it made me wonder, how many Nigerians are willing to give up their home for a distance love. It seems that there's a long of distance lovin' goin' on!

I would move in a heartbeat to anywhere that I can work and keep up the standard of living to which I'm accustomed. Btw, Hotstepper, thanx for the encouragement. I hope you're a lawyer so u can represent me in bankruptcy court. That's where I'll surely end up!

Yes, I've met him. We were on holiday in New York (separately) when we met. After about two months time he returned to Lagos. Modern technology is a wonderous thing - we've been able to keep up the communication and we speak every day, sometimes several times a day. Its become a long distance relationship and it's getting to be an issue. What we are spending on phone bills could go towards a plane ticket!

@whitelexi : I printed out your reply for reference and I just had the opportunity to speak with my guy and he said to me "Huh? And what are you going to do with that?" when i asked about some of the hotspots you mentioned. You see, I'm not in nigeria right now and couldn't possibly know these things.

Heated arguments, in my culture, those are for men. When the conversation gets that lively the women go find something to do and leave the men to their talks coming back every once in awhile to bring a beer or some food, etc. (Sounds a little sexist, but I dont mind it.) As far as leaving my watch behind - Never! I feel naked without it!

I read with great interest the thread about long distance relationships. Of this I'm curious: of every one who says that distance relationships DO work, how many would immigrate to a different state/country to be with their love? I'm dating a Nigerian guy and I would gladly adopt his home as my own, but I don't think I could possibly leave America permanently for Nigeria. His skills are very marketable here and he would do very well, but there he is, as he refers to himself - " a poor young man" and "a hustla." My reasons are based on economics.

I think ladies would be more likely to immigrate, but what of the men?

A man is not Nigerian. He has interest in a Nigerian girl but doesn't want to put his foot in his mouth and humiliate himself by being a social/cultural disaster. How would you ladies advise him? Same for you guys. What would you tell the ladies? Ultimately I believe that a person should just be themselves, but one still has to take cultural differences into consideration.

For example, I was raised by my East Indian mother who is very old school. A guy doesn't have to touch her feet but he has to be well-mannered, modest and prove himself capable. With my friends, he could just be himself. What are the peculiarities of dating a Nigerian?

IMO the person being cheated on shares the blame a good bit of the time. A problem that exists, and both parties don't talk about it, or one isn't receptive or compromising, which leads the other to cheat. Then there are some people (mostly men, in my experience) that cheat for selfish reasons. Those are the ones that need to be flogged!