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Darkseid:
Getting 2:2 in my Industrial Physics is almost as difficult as getting first class in other courses. I never let it bother me for a day because while it's a great course, I saw it as a waste of time studying it in Nigeria. All we did was cram long materials, equations, formulas and copy notes; no practicals, even the lecturers didn't understand what they were teaching us.
While schooling I acquired some other skills in electronics design and repairs, phone repairs, computer repairs, programming and others.
Today I run my own business in those skills that I acquired, infact the last time I saw my certificate was two months after NYSC service last year.

"Even the lecturers didn't even understand what they were teaching us". These one got me cracking... Lol �

You will surely survive the ordeal bro. Suicide is never an option. Never have I come across a chelsea or whatsoever thread that's transformed into an appeal thread to save a soul. If not for anything, give nairalanders and those closest to you a chance to change things.
We've been there and here we stand today.
Much love to you all Nairalanders for reaching out to our very own. There's nothing greater than the love I just witnessed tonight amongst you all.
Emmanuel... Your name signifies something important and I decree tonight that it will be well with you MY BROTHER.

Apeshy101:

My story is short.

When the first girl I loved, whom almost ruined myself and future for, dumped me, I swore to take my revenge and never to love any girl again

Basically I started dating several girls, this girls loved me though but I was just in for se.x, nothing more.


Fast forward to this year, my life triangulated between 3 girls.

1. The first girl loves me and will do anything for me. She is totally obsessed about me and I can do anything just to be with. She knows I'm not faithful in the relationship but doesn't know I don't love her. She is well behaved.

2. The second girl loves me but her shakara no be here, Las Las, we started dating, she is a jealous lover, told me everything about her last boyfriend and why they broke up.
On Sundays, we do go out together and she takes care of the bills. If I insisted, she will still find a way to return the favor. I like her Sha, but I don't love her.
She is more keen on getting married.

3.The third girl loves me like kilode, we've known for 7 years but started dating last year, so far things are going on fine. Her personality and views about life just WOWS me. She is a liberal thinker and full of wisdom. Very considerate.


The problem now is that, since early last month, my heart is drifting towards the third girls. I can't believe it but I have fallen in love with her already.

Now I'm beginning to feel bad about the first and second girls, I knew I don't love them from the beginning but I kept them just for see.x sake.

I want to commit only to the third girl but cutting off the first and second seam impossible.
I gradually started cutting off communications with them but this is not yielding any result.

I'm scared of telling them I can't continue with them.....they can do something stupid with the way suicide is on the increase now.

Even as I'm typing this, the second girls called but I lied to her that I traveled.


Pls, if you have been in my shoes before, how did you manage to get over it.




NB: bashing is allowed but I need help ohh

Chai!!! You too?
I thought i was the only one experiencing these poo!
And i wish mine even triangulated amongst even 3 but it's even worst than that. I share the same fears as you are due to the closure now and due to some girls' sentimental state couple with the present suicide mission with sniper taking going rampant in the country.
I've emaciated from thinking. It's as if na now the love dae shark them pass sef!
Even if you are at fault in anything... Na them go even wan apologize just to settle the dust.
You aren't the only one in need of solution bro. Make i follow you for back sef dae seek help from our fellow nairalanders on NL. It's not been easy!

tydi:


There isn't going to be any winner.. They will play ball today till players begin to faint and die in the pitch..

Then a metalsmith would be called so the cup could be cut in halfs and shared between them..

This is my prediction!

Make una come see wickedness oh b:4A68A2BD

nepapole:
. Na klopp be that na abi which kind resemblance be this?

The semblance is maddening. If na 9ja... Na another way to scam be that oh

nepapole:
. Na klopp be that na abi which kind resemblance be this?

The semblance is maddening. If na 9ja... Na another way to scam be that oh

bukatyne:
I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says your sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

At Op, No truer words have ever been spoken.

bukatyne:
I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says y


our sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

At Op, No truer words have ever been spoken.