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I've been in relationships like 3 to 4 times in my entirety but we splitting up just happens but the one that occurred between one of my ex and i in 2018 and the response she got from me was top notch... there's no need beating about the bush. There's no stressing and rolling on the floor with excessive emotional meltdown.

In all my dating experience, i would prefer my gf breaks up with me than me going through with it because of past experiences and it's been working like that ever since.

She called me severally on phone to drop the national cake on me but i wasn't with my phone. My phone was been charged at a charging booth within my neighbourhood. So, she came from Ogale in eleme where she's residing then with her mum to Onne to see me, although her mum's already late 2 months back.

Onome: Corpertion o... you know i really want the best 4 you in life and instead of making things easier 4 you, it's been getting worse which isn't no fault of yours.

Atticusxsz: I understand you completely.

Onome: I will always pray to God to grant you your wishes and give you someone that you'd be so proud to call your better half.

Atticusxsz: So?

Onome: If God wills and wants us to be together/end up together, there will always be a way but as it stands now, i think we aren't compatible and it can't just work. I know you won't want to break up with me, so I'll take the initiative to say we need a break so as to recollect and know where we are headed in life.

Atticusxsz: Ok... that would be cOoL.

Note: If eyes could kill, i would've drop dead on the spot that day. For two weeks, Onome related what transpired on that day to her clique of friends and co... swearing up and down, telling me that I've got no heart and feelings, not knowing that i was just been fair to her since she called the shots.

It's been 3 years now and Onome no one allow me hear word... hoping and wishing for a reunion, abi na comeback but I've got a lot on my plate, not to talk about the ones I'm trying to minus from the harem readily available.

So, break up abi na wetin una call am no dey move any artery 4 my body.

Make una continue... we go follow una 4 yansh.

Sometimes, i tend to wonder and imagine how some of you lot come to be addicted to such an extent. I stake what i can afford to lose and as 4 virtual abi na baby oku, lmao... I've seen it destroyed lives but I've never 4 once indulge in it, even when they're more than 7 betting shops within my neighbourhood.

My babes dem sef dey even dey ginger me to play 4 dem on a steady. Like what the Bleep! Although, I'm quite good at analysing games but when Bleep up go reach you eh, you go fear life. Like in some cases where i had cut one in 5 straight games of 52k above.
You'll see them giving me 1k to 5k to play 2 to 5 odds for them since i hardly do have more than cut one in my #500 to 1k stake but since it's not my money, i don't encourage such from them except it's my money.
They're always pestering me, asking me if i played games today and even if i did booked a game to be played, I'll lie to them and tell them i didn't so as not to get pressured by them.

I've been playing since 2016 till date but my stakes are within the range of #100 to 1k depending on the odds I'm to stake on.

I can stake #100 for 300 odds and above, and mostly, they're running games while i mostly stake #500 to 1k for 5 to 20 odds.

That's just it. So, i don't know how someone will misuse 300k and above on betting on games except the person is accursed or probably not disciplined.
Abi their own betting dey different from the one I've been indulging in all these years eh?

Abeg, make i go stake my running game for the week. Ciao

Nothing like mago mago 4 these matter. There's no two ways about it.
NFF don finally jam! They must surely pay, abi no be same footballers in the diaspora dey earn more than that said amount in a week eh?
They're hugely corrupt and must pay from their tight fisted hands.

When i thought i had seen it all with Chelsea's abysmal and nonensical display today, then came Gbas Gbos from Manchester United with a 4 - 0 loss within 60 minutes of game time.

This one pass Vawulence extraordinaire o!

WoundedLamb:
Thanks!

Uwc boss

WoundedLamb:
What's the title, please?

That would be "Bad Comments".

Atticusxsz:
It lOoks like you want to dash the boOkies your hard earned monie na. No think am o!

Why not rather stake it with and ov 2.5 since that's clearly plausible, although football 4 champions league is quite unpredictable?

If that nigga had listened to reason and stake as aforementioned than the over sure 4:1

Austineva:
seriously I want to play it with big money. Should I stake it?

It lOoks like you want to dash the boOkies your hard earned monie na. No think am o!

Why not rather stake it with and ov 2.5 since that's clearly plausible, although football 4 champions league is quite unpredictable?

Austineva:
how sure are u,bro or is it mere prediction?

Quote me anywhere, Man City alone are scoring over 1.5 goals and will definitely play out. Forget the guy's prediction. Abi no be same Real Madrid stadium wey Chelsea banged in 3 goals to nil b4 they responded with a goal, let alone an attacking team like Man City to score just a goal... mbanu na, not with that Madrid shaky defence line!

Dazall:
If my game enter 5k giveaway to the first 10 person's to quote this monicker

Oga boss, you're quoted.
0097503045 Access Bank.
Thanks greatly boss

Amarisco:
Men sayin that the OP is automatically the side dish have missed the point. Taking a picture with someone changes the nature of the image. This is not a love celebration or engagement photo shoot. She is the one marking her birthday, why turn it into a family portrait .

You’re not even married yet so why would you feel so entitled?

You can stick to taking pics together on your phone for free - for now.

Nothing deflate person ego pass your last statement o! This na original painment.

LiverpoOL don shatter soULs o!

Wait o! Has the match been postponed?

ARCANE
VIKINGS: VALHALLA
THE WITCHER
PEAKY BLINDERS
MONEY HEIST

How many times will this thread grace front page?
It's stale already na.

Onahi95:
Good Morning Fam, I've got this pressing issue that I would very much appreciate your wise counsel to help me solve.

I met a lady about three months ago and we bounded pretty quickly, this oyibo movie kinda love story that the dating starts without anyone doing the toasting and all. I asked her about her relationship status weeks later and she said it was complicated, citing how the relationship has been toxic and she wants to leave but the guy won't let go.

I shaa told her that I won't get involved so let her handle it herself. The guy backed out for a while but has resurfaced recently hell bent on getting the girl back. From the WhatsApp conversation and call recordings the girl sent me she has made it obvious to the guy that she's moved on with another guy but the young man is having none of it. She even offered to return everything he's ever given her but no way.

Now he has resorted to threatening me and the said Lady with death. I've never met this guy and I don't have anything to do with him either. The last thing I want to do is fight over a woman that is not even my wife with another guy reason why I've never interfered in their issues. I have it at the back of my mind that I might still breakup with the girl anytime in the future.

He keeps telling the girl that its either he has her or no one will, that she and whoever is attempting to steal his joy away is playing with their lives. The whole issue is making her scared and confused. I asked her to get a recording of the guy making those death threats so I can use it as an evidence in the police station but he has stylishly been evading it despite the girls best efforts. He suddenly became calm and all apologetic now saying he will pray to God to destroy who ever wants to destroy his relationship after all his investments.

How do you guys think I should handle this issue amicably, I find it embarrassing when men bicker over a lady and never imagined myself getting involved in such. I've considered the option of leaving the lady for him but she really loves me likewise me. In as much as I don't want any issues with anybody, won't it be cowardly of me to hide in a closet while a fellow man threatens me with death.

Fear Fear! I comprehend your situation and I've gone through something far worse in relation to been threatened by someone's ex.

While serving in asaba in 2017, there's a girl residing at okwe close to DDPA corper's lodge where i resided. She and her friends took a liking to me like I've never seen before. She had an ex who's also a cult guy but he's in the military and do come around once in a while. They dated for 6 years and she almost died when they finally broke up because she took some unknown substance but she's revived on time by her fellow colleagues working with her at a filling station known as B2 where she worked. The issue casablanca in the area then. There's no one that didn't hear about it.

Then, i came along and she's all over me due to my young facial features and calmness, also me being a serving corper. At Op, girls sarara 4 the unit but it's her that caught my fancy due to her being bold enough to open up clearly about how she felt 4 me and due to that, i had to just keep others coming as just casual female friends.

There's a day i was accompanying her home and someone behind us shouted at her to stop but b4 that she was acting all fretful and strange... i never knew her ex was around. So, i thought it's her elder brother/relative and when he walked past me to meet her, i greeted politely but he went ahead to slap her.

Oboy! I was damned aware of my environment and i had to put my phone inside pocket since i was putting on my tracksuit and a fanciful night singlet. He then question her if he hasn't warned her to tell me to desist from following her about and that he's back to continue from where he stopped and also saying that no one will ever have her if not him and him alone. It's as if i was in a trance because i never thought about something like this ever happening since she clearly told me they weren't together anymore.

Military man waka come to slap me and i dodge and he threatened me and was about to call up back up aka niggas around the hood, it's there and then i pushed him with a force i never knew i had in me, after all, na normal doings 4 PH and it ain't something new to me. Na so my man go fall inside gutter and his phone disappeared from his hand.

I wanted to rush him but the girl stopped me and was begging me not to fight him and was crying profusely. The nigga panicked and told her why would she be begging me and i answered him by saying was he the one she should be begging when it's obvious that i was the one pained and angered at the moment and would literally finish what he started since he thinks I'm just someone he believes he'll do away with anyhow. My blood was already boilt to a degree i never knew existed.

She pleaded with me to go but b4 i left i told him that as a pitakwa boy, i was going to come at him in whichever way he wants it since he already said no one was going to have her except him alone and that she's his investment.

I and my lodge mates at the corper's lodge almost died with laughter that night while my mamo and some of my close female friends pleaded i leave Emilia since she wasn't the only available girl that took a liking to me there at Okwe but i never paid attention since i believed i wasn't in the wrong.

I kept a diary of my experiences on what transpired back then but lastly, i gained my respect and i freed Emilia to him since she outrightly knew from onset that i wasn't going to end up with her due to me having someone i so cherished. Although, she's still optimistic about we ending up together.

So, at Op... if you're threatened, you can choose to fight or scamper for safety because all fight ain't just physical.

Are you even ready to fight for your supposed girl?

Are you sure she'll be able to stand by you when it matters the most and is she trustworthy at all so as not to enter one chance o.

Mine happened in a faraway land where I'm not an indigene unlike the military dude/cult guy who's from the community itself, what can you say about yourself, any backup if it goes haywire?

I can go on and on but you alone will feel the heat when the battle commences.

The battle can go your way or your opponent's way but are you ready for what's to come?

post=112148461:
.......This and many others.

The good ol' days when men were boys.
And women were girls.
And virginity was sweet


Those are realy the good old days!
Oga Kasim,
Agba Awo himself


You can say that again Sir.
Truer words have never been spoken.

Oh! The goOd Old days! I've got 9 of these novels still with me and in their original hardcover.

1. Eze goes to school
2. The Passport of Mallam Ilia
3. The gods are not to blame
4. Weep not My Child
5. The African Child
6. The Drummer Boy
7. Zambia Shall Be Free
8. Things Fall Apart
9. Jagua Nana

And i can hardly believe I'm already in my early thirties... how time flies!

Sixfiguresmart:
Rape is anything out of consent, right? I will tell you how it happened.

The first one was me at 9. Playing in my neighbour's compound with friends in the hood. The girl called me upstairs and asked me to bring (I've forgotten the item) to her. I did and she closed the door. (Can't remember what happened before) I was on top of her. She was literally lifting my hip up an down. I begged her that I wanted to pee. She didn't let go until I peed inside of her and she quickly let go and warned me not to disclose it to anyone. And, threatened to kill me if I did.

I didn't tell my parents. She is married today with kids but I live with the scars. I have no intention to ruin her marriage.

The second rape was me at 18
I was troubled, going through unknown emotional pains. Flashback of the rape surfaced sometimes. A friend of my cousin living with us at the time would occasionally spend days with us. She built a trust with me. I opened up my trepidation to her and told her how I was raped.

She offered some clues and I felt that she was the one to help me deal with the thoughts in my head. A few months later was the 31st of December and the whole fam was out to the churchy new year thingy.

She came in right before midnight. Told me that we would go together. I didn't even want to go anywhere that night. My cousin was the last to leave the house and joked about us using the condom in her shelf and we all laughed about it. She went into the kitchen, served herself, ate a little.

Moments later, she was all over me that night. She saw her moment. I snubbed her and went upstairs, she followed me. It felt like a joke, but she playfully got serious. Told me how she had a brand new shaved kitten

Flashing her newly shaved quim and scrubbing it on me. She had me feel it. I asked her to stop, she didn't. I was lost in a dichotomy. She jumped all over me and we landed on the bed. I squirmed outtta the bed. She locked the door and asked me why I hated her. I explained that I didn't but didn't think it was right. She argued that she understood but urged me to also read her feelings that she needed me badly. She approached me, hugged me so tightly. Reached for my crotch, rubbed the tip of my mickey. I felt perplexed as my blood ran wild. I told her that I was scared. She soothed my anguish and slowly dragged me to the bed.

She took control of me, my power left me. As soon as she notice that my reluctance had trickled down, the monster in her grew fierce. Down went my pants and my boxers.

Before I could wink, she was all over me. Riding me and pleasuring herself. She would lean up to my body, felt like swallowing me and then back to ride

After a while, I ejaculated. She told me that I was sweet. Tried to kiss me but I looked away. She kissed my face and my body. Smooching my torso.

I felt truly ripped off of my dignity. I had a shower, curled up in my bed. She asked me if I wanted anything to eat. I nodded to decline.

I woke up to a new year. Pretended nothing happened. My cousin suspected what happened, but she was simply making jesting comments about it and trivialising it. She told me later that she had always wanted to taste a virgin male.

That was a new me and another ordeal that I still live with. As a man, you are forced to suck it up and move on. I do, but it forms the man in me. Men are sexually assaulted. These are two cases in which I felt indubitably fell out of control. There are many more sexual assaults as I got older which are grave but at least I have built the cojones to establish control over them.

These two ladies are thriving as respected women and mothers. No one knows their pasts but their victims. I am sure that they didn't start or stop at me. There are others parading themselves as virtuous women today while they take advantage of people's sons.

I hate sharing this but since I am anonymous, its fine

It's been a trying experience for you. So, you'll live and let live i suppose?

Sixfiguresmart:
Thanks for your response. Do not mind Nepa.
Well, the question is about me. I am a survivor of rape. I know that if I post my topic up there, it might go on front page and many naysayers have pitched their ambush tent around me to insult me. I truly want to share it though.

I had told a girl about this in 2016 and all she ended up doing was rape me still. I don't know why but I somehow attract people's sexual attention. I don't know what it is about me, but it sometimes drives me crazy why I can't build a relationship that doesn't narrow down to me getting exploited sexually or financially.
My rapist is known to me. She is married now with 3 children.

I will never confront her about it or ruin her marriage and motherhood. Nevertheless, I somehow think that I should let her know somehow.

Wait a minute! You told a girl about you being a survivor of rape and she had the audaciousness to rape you still?
As in, you were sexually exploited/rape by a woman without your consent/approval?
Are you 4 real bro?

This is one rare of a case that many persons might disbelieve due to you being a male. Originally, we Nigerians hardly believe that a male can be sexually assaulted or raped by a female and we've being brainwashed to believe that the reverse is always the case due to our masculinity unlike in saner climes were the possibility of that happening as it happened to you is normal.

I believe this is not one of your fictious write up and you're damned serious about the whole you being rape by a girl stuff and twice at that?

Sixfiguresmart:
gotcha. Well, I come here to ease tension. In the convenience, I read stuff. I admire some posters, though. I am withholding my posts lately cos I have got too many flaks and too many PM. I don't know why they shoot my topics to frontpage but I will love a small company and have to engage with the readers like you.

I find thise village people's comments very senile. In as much as we differ in opinions, we can always find a common ground. I have a part of my life that I want to share. I have been extremely busy with work and travel but as soon as I settle, I'll post it.

Haha I see your nose got turned up I know that you want me to create a blog and do stuff.

Let me hear your thought on how to help a rape victim.

Sorry 4 the late response. We've got light issues here in 9ja and power supply here is limited/meagre in rationing.
It seems you already read my mind.

Help a rape victim!
Do you know of someone that's physically abused or this is about you taken up on a research thesis on the aforementioned discourse?

Nonetheless, you can seek professional help for the victim if you can afford the time and resources.
You know, sexual violence or rape is a crime, no matter who commits it or where it occurred.

However, you can consider getting medical help for the victim to detect possible injuries and also, she might also be at risk of getting pregnant or contracting sexual transmitted diseases.

You can also get help from sexual assault referral centres (SARCs) and they offer medical, emotional and practical support to persons who have been abused, sexually assaulted or raped and they've specially trained medical practitioners and support workers that can take care of the raped victim.

Other places that can render help to the raped victim are contraceptive clinic, a voluntary organisation such as rape crisis or women's aid and a sexual health clinic.

You can easily visit any of the hospitals or pharmacy clinics around your vicinity and they'll hook you up with the renown ones.

Sixfiguresmart:
My thought exactly. Verbatim. You are a smart dude. You are one of the few that I can humbly duff my hat for.

Here is one question, why are you fond of the romance section?

Thanks but you're certainly my boss and predecessor in that aspect.

Uhm... actually, it's not as if it's something i intentionally do, like going to the romance section to peruse thread/topics. It's like an innate stuff that just piqued my interest due to the happenings we do encounter daily and also, most of the topics on romance section are regular day occurrences and one can easily get proffered solutions from matured comments from one or two experienced nairalanders on life related topics.

JaphNice:
Who is Darwin pls and which club does he play?

He's a Uruguayan player that plays for benfica fc and scored against Liverpool both home and away in their recent encounter in the Champions League.

Sixfiguresmart:
Amazing stuff, bro.
I wish you all the best in your journey. Pray your dream comes real.

For me, I am striving to stay spiritually sane because the pressure amounts by the day.

I would like to hear your opinion on the rape of the 10 year old Chrisland pupil.

From what I've heard/seen and the discourse raised, the child wasn't raped. The video clearly showed a girl and some group of boys having consensual carnal knowledge. Although, they're all underage.

Imagine a ten years old girl with visible bodily features that can be passed for a 15 - 16 years old girl.
Probably say, 10 years old with experience.

Are we to blame the parents, society or Chrisland?
Our parents were far better and the society then wasn't too advanced to accommodate such abominable and far wretching atrocities.

This stuffs happen on a daily and if it wasn't for the leaked sex tape, no one would've had a clue or believe that the girl wasn't raped after her mum came baring her teeth at Chrisland and even if they do know about the incident, they'd want to hide and curtail it from the public, since it will likely ruin the supposed faculty of learning and paint things in a bad light for their business.

So, it's more of parents to up their game and oversee the affairs of their wards, checking up on them, going through their stuffs to know who they hangout with, who they interact and be in contact and other whole lot of stuffs.

Even with all the care in the world and how meticulous you go about these things, some wards might turn out even worst. So, it's left for the parents to do the needful before they're exposed to the society like taken a pig to the slaughter because our society today is merciless and if your ward isn't disciplined and your core values aren't firmly deep-rooted in your ward, you'll be alive to partake in the share of the blame.

Sixfiguresmart:
Amazing stuff, bro.
I wish you all the best in your journey. Pray your dream comes real.

For me, I am striving to stay spiritually sane because the pressure amounts by the day.

I would like to hear your opinion on the rape of the 10 year old Chrisland pupil.

Thanks bro... and being spiritually sane on a daily basis in a world that's so chaotic is nothing short of a miracle. I'm sure Our Heavenly Father will proffer to you, the spiritual discernment to overcome your worries as the days go by.

Sixfiguresmart:
Cool stuff. You seem to have many fun memories. Poetically, I kinda like you, though. I like your level of reasoning and your imaginative prowess.
I was immensely enamored with those Hellenic stories and movies. The Odyssey is my fave of all. I loved that movie deeply and I had it on replay for years but coming to age with my spirituality, I discovered that Hellenistic practices are pagan and in sharp contrast with lovers of God. As a matter fact, Paul preached to those Zeus worshippers to quit such practices. That was the turning point for me. Cannot be a Christian and still love those fairy grecian fallacies.
Where do you see yourself 10 years from now?

Wow, cool! The Odyssey is still one of my coolest greek historical movie as well and I've got the movie in my flash drive as we relay.

Yeah, i truly comprehend where you're coming from. It will be quite contradictory and that goes same for me but what keeps me glued at times is for the fun and little childhood memories of it.

Although, I'm not much of a spiritual person per se but my family, practically my mum is at the apex of it. She's damn too spiritual.

Although, what we do envisage of our lives while growing up is not what life grants us no matter the time and toil we put in but we still put in efforts and hope for the best still. So, 10 years from now, hopefully, i see my self attaining a level of satisfaction academically/careerwise, married with beautiful loving kids, a proud sponsor/contribute immensely to charitable organisations or probably own one and live the rest of my days acknowledging God for what is to come and after while contributing my day to day quota to make life livable to all and sundry that crosses path with me.

Sixfiguresmart:
Actually, I never knew that my posts could hit front page. I didn't call for it. I felt like expressing myself to a few people who cared for substance and not traffic. There are many readers who care less for front page materials like me. I do enjoy reading embedded posts. I got a few more of me to share, but I will let the storm weather out.
Love your aura of communication. What's behind your pseudonym?

My pseudonym? It came about after i watched a movie series known as SMALLVILLE some years back, say like 15 years back.
Lex Luthor who's a friend of Clark Kent initiated a discourse about "Atticus" which is a boy's name of greek, latin origin meaning "from Attica".
He's far too knowledgeable in history and greek mythology.
And as boy growing up, i was always curious and inquisitive to know and i quickly took a fancy to the word since it's catchy and non-existent to my clique
of friends then.
But i decided to modify it to suit my taste by adding the letters "xsz" at the extreme.

Sixfiguresmart:
In as much as it sounds weird, I don't care for fame. I have everything necessary to be famous but that lifestyle is not in my DNA. I have what I need to survive and I am totally grateful to God for my life and the level that I have accomplished in life.
Being famous is not a raisin in my pudding for now.
I am working on a project at the moment and I will stick to it rather than being a face on people's walls. I am from the good ol' old school of thought that People should rather look up to their creator and to Jesus than a famous personality.
I know that you mean well when you recommended that stride of success to mee by assessing my abilities. Nevertheless, I believe that you can do better in such field cos you have the determination and the cravings for it. It takes that much to hold under the limelight

I've always being a lone wolf in such affairs sha. I'm my own company except 4 families and few associates here and there. Glad to have had a taste on your perspective towards these stuffs and more enlightening ones to grace NL's front page.

Sixfiguresmart:
I believe that you already have an inclination. Your response is sentimental and I can decisively tell where you're coming from or heading. I
Well, to be real, I have decided not to give a bolded eff to any troll. I do not owe anyone a legitimate or illegitimate reason for expressing my thoughts. I spread a blanket of organic fart on the face of any troll who desires to come for me. I am here now in Italy on a 2 weeks vacation. They can come for a fartspread. Who cares?

It seems the odd is in your favor. That's why your moniker alone says it all.
Wish you the best in your pursuits for a well meaningful living.
Sorry 4 disrupting your peaceful outing then. Happy Easter Sunday.

Sixfiguresmart:
I hate the spotlight. I can only survive that with you beside me or ahead of me.
I am not the missing piece. I guess that we are.

You're kidding me, right? Who would hate being in the spotlight except the said person has had a taste of wealth and affluence, and wants to dim it a little due to personal reasons?

Sixfiguresmart:
I am anonymous here but the artillery fired at me alone churns the interior walls of my liver. Imagine if I had revealed my identity here.
Some have a tracker on my handle to collate dirtA about me. Had I been famous in this 9ja, I'd have died of depression. The trolls are so mean and acidic.

That depends on the personality you've adorn yourself with online that would make persons collate dirty and want to troll you.
Are you sure you haven't being in the wrong for that to be warranted in the 1st place?
You can't be loving and harmless and you'll be trolled and condemned by many to the extent of them being brutally harsh and acidic towards your person.
There's something amiss somewhere. Your statement ain't adding up.

Sixfiguresmart:
can we be famous together?

How's that possible when you're the only missing piece in the puzzle?

Sixfiguresmart:
should I quit my job and do as you say?

That's 4 you to decide since you'll have to weigh the pros and cons involved. That regardless, you'll be renown and the benefits accrue to the above job description is enormous on its own. You'll be a celebrity and be in the spotlight. Who wouldn't want that eh?