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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Unilorin Best Graduating Student Jobless After 6years by Aude(f): 8:18pm On Sep 18, 2015

kaeforum:
6years and counting, who knows what God has in store, may be He wants her to o into business, the real challenge in showin the world that your a graduate is to be creative, look for problems in the society and profer practical solutions to them , you will be rewarded thats a fact.

Nobody owes you a job, she has to try something and stop waiting for govt job, having hig grades is different from having practical skills and know how.

She needs a change of mindset , she should stop promoting her disability, its the reason why she hasnt gotten a job.

She should tell prospective employers about her strenght and abilities and stop asking for sympathy from people.

I totally agree with you. She just expects everything to be handed to her. A lot of the people whom you see in the corporate world started from somewhere. They didn't graduate and then were handed cushy jobs immediately. What experience does she have that she expects to be given a job in a university? During this past couple of years how has she developed her skills? How many application forms has she filled and has she volunteered anywhere in order to gain practical experience. She should stop resting on her past laurels and realize that theoretical knowledge is different from practical experience. The job market is full of graduates most of them with masters degrees. The key is how do you differentiate yourself from the others? What do you have to bring to the table?

Celebrities › Re: Ini Edo Responds To An Abusive Follower On Instagram (pic) by Aude(f): 8:33pm On Sep 17, 2015

misspicy:
The lady said the truth buh without tact,she no think am first,besides no be her business
Buh ini edo needs to take it as an advice,its not all about money,a woman is never complete without fulfiling her God given mandate on earth.....'be fruitful and multiply

I wish they could ban you for a month for this stupid comment.

[color=#000055]ALL THANKS TO THAT MOD WHO BANNED ME FOR FOUR DAYS FOR SPACEBOOKING,I GOT TIME TO BE PRODUCTIVE AT WORK,PLEASE BAN ME AGAIN NEXT TIME I BOOK SPACE[/color]

Family › Re: I Do Not Understand My Mom Anymore? by Aude(f): 2:34am On Sep 16, 2015

nlfan:
I'm a lady o, and I will not allow her take this attitude near my husband, I actually keep her far from the people in my life, I don't let her in

I don't think that's the right way to handle your mom. You should let your husband know what's happening so that together you both can find a solution to the situation. Your mom must be at an age where she needs regular medical checkup and treatment. Take her to a specialist who will be able to run several tests to see may have caused the changes in your mom's behavior.

Family › Re: I Do Not Understand My Mom Anymore? by Aude(f): 2:28am On Sep 16, 2015

@op: you should take your mother to an expert for medical checkup. She could be going through menopause and this may be affecting her. It could be something else but it is best you get her to undergo several medical tests.

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Career › Re: Josephine, Airport woman who returned money gets her first salary (Photo) by Aude(f): 8:02am On Sep 15, 2015

kestolove95:
Ibo woman dat was born nd brought up in d west...God thank d owner of d money sai dix woman no meet any ibo person b4 she return d money

Why would you think it is okay to write what you typed above? Even if that's what you think of Ibo people, is it necessary to voice it out? In the past few days I have noted that's all you write about. I do question your level of intelligence and maturity. I am sure you are just a troll and you would not be able to make these comments if your identity was known. Please do grow up and know that tribal hatred isn't good. That's the way the genocide in Rwanda started. By the way I am not Nigerian so I'm not taking sides.

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Career › Re: What Is The Most Suitable Job For A Married Woman With Kids? by Aude(f): 7:51am On Sep 15, 2015

HaneefahRN:
Sorry, I just had to comment on this. Why are people looking down on teaching so much? Why is teaching so underrated like it's not a very important profession? You make teachers sound like lesser people. Being a teacher doesn't mean you can't study and aim high.
My mum is a maths teacher, has her masters with PhD is view and does part time lecturing, so why the subtle and outright bashing of the profession by some ladies, as if it's a despicable and lesser profession?
I believe a woman should follow her passion whether single or married, we also came to this World to fulfil a purpose. Whether teaching, medicine, law, nursing, engineering, etc, go into any field that pleases you. All these men saying trading and other menial jobs, some won't even leave monthly allowance for the woman, nor care for her feeding and clothing. A man that wants his wife to be a teacher should marry one and not expect an accountant to become a primary sch teacher. Thank God women are wiser now, don't depend on any man o. But at the same time, manage your time well, your career should not affect your family.
Proudly a nurse + fashion designer!

I dont think the ladies were bashing the teaching profession. Just like you mentioned in your write up, they are against the men expecting their wives to change professions after marriage. My mom was a teacher and a very kind and loving person. She hardly ever raised her voice and was very slow to anger. I consider teaching to be a noble profession and not a career for everyone. You need to have a vocation for it. Due to this silly mentality that everyone can be a teacher, we have a lot of useless teachers in our society
Teaching should be a regulated profession like it's the case in the West.

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Career › Re: Official Car For Assistant Manager, Nothing For The Manager by Aude(f): 2:19pm On Sep 13, 2015

@op: remember your job title is assistant manager and not manager. You have a technical background so obviously you would manage a lot of the operational stuff. You cannot in your right mind expect the owners to take an official car ftom your boss and hand it over to you! Also what kind of qualification do you have? I'm assuming that it's a diploma or certificate course. In the corporate world the few times you would see a degree holder being a subordinate to a diploma holder would be if the diploma-holder worked their way up the ladder. My advice to you is to keep on working hard, learn to work in a team, get more qualifications and who knows you may become a manager with all the perks that come with the position.

Family › Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Aude(f): 11:29pm On Sep 12, 2015

ebubey:
martins y did u bring my family issue to a public? u shuld learn how to mind ur biz...n 4 those of u insulting me OYO btw my husband loves to cook n his meals re far better... wat do you expect me to do? intimidate myself

I just checked your profile. Looking at your topics it seems contradictory that you will be the wife in this story.

Romance › Re: Lady Gaga Flashes Her Nude Panties In Daring Red Gown(photos) by Aude(f): 12:24pm On Sep 11, 2015

@op: what do you mean when you say "unclad panties"?

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Romance › Re: Why Do Guys Go Blank When Asked This One Simple Question? by Aude(f): 3:17pm On Sep 10, 2015

It's so funny to see how men will justify asking a woman if she is a virgin and then turn around and vilify women who ask about their boyfriends' salaries. Both questions are very probing and should only be asked if the couple are intimate. A man should not walk up to a girl he barely knows and ask her if she is a virgin. In the same light, a woman should not ask a man she has just started dating how much he makes. These are topics that should come up when the couple are intimate and in a serious, committed relationship.

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Family › Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Aude(f): 3:01pm On Sep 10, 2015

vani86:
dude, dont waste your time with madam joy, i am sure thats what she will like to be called. from her conversations, you can easily conclude that she has planned a life of being a house wife that nags the husby when pepper no rest and bleep the houseboy

Thanks Vani for the heads up. Actually I am female, so I have updated my profile to reflect that.

Family › Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Aude(f): 12:30am On Sep 10, 2015

Joy1706:
She contributes to the welfare at the home front e.g cooking good food. You lazy ass men should handle the finances. After all you're the 'head' of the home ba?

Abi na jst 4 mouth

I can't believe that in this day and age women still reason like this. So how do you buy the food to cook? What if a husband loses his job or worse dies, how would the wife take care of the family? Instead of watching Telemundo and nollywood movies, a woman can go to work and help support the family.

Romance › Re: Why Do Ladies Flare Up When Asked These Two Questions? by Aude(f): 12:07am On Sep 10, 2015

redcliff:
I dont understand o. You ask a white girl this question and she would not even hesitate to tell you without even thinking

So continue dating the white girls. Why bug the black girls who don't want to answer your questions?

Romance › Re: Why Do Ladies Flare Up When Asked These Two Questions? by Aude(f): 12:04am On Sep 10, 2015

@ Tiwasiaife

Go to the politics section and create your own thread. I didn't click on this thread to read your long epistle which has nothing to do with the topic.

Romance › Re: Why Do Ladies Flare Up When Asked These Two Questions? by Aude(f): 12:01am On Sep 10, 2015

Laitesmart:
Why do ladies find it difficult to answer some questions the way it is? simple, straight and direct. Some ladies will flare up when guys ask them some certain questions using the anger as an excuse to avoid the question. Questions that on a good day are actually harmless.

These two questions are always headache for ladies and i dont know why. Maybe the ladies in the house can let us know.
The questions are...
1. HOW OLD ARE YOU?
2. ARE YOU A VIRGIN

It's called respecting boundaries. These are questions you shouldn't ask anybody unless you are intimate with them. I can switch it round and ask why do men find it difficult to state how much they make or what their account balance is. We Africans need to learn boundaries, it's not everything that you should ask. Familiarity breeds contempt.

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Family › Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Aude(f): 8:14pm On Sep 09, 2015

Abbey2sam:
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It's Ball down

The correct expression is "It boils down ..."

Career › Re: Share How Your Ex-boses Responded To Your Resignation by Aude(f): 3:34pm On Sep 09, 2015

735i:
Sometime in 2011 i advised HR that i needed trainee staff since my team's workload had increased…

They called interviews and recruited staff for my team and some other teams.

A 1st class engineering student was assigned to my team… I went back to HR and told them; this boy won't last 4 months with us; give me someone else… HR said; NO

Less than a week after he resumed he came and met me in private and told me he wanted to go for an interview… Of course i allowed him and even wished him luck…

A few weeks later; he had another interview… I gave him my personal car to go with since it was raining…

I was the first person to see his offer letter and pay package when a major multinational oil servicing firm recruited him…

As he dey go; i carry my C.V give am (If opening dey for my level make he put am for me)

No time!!!

I asked for a trainee staff in a F.I and you give me 1st class engineering graduate? Na me wan block person destiny?

I just had to tell you that you are a very nice person. Other people would not have been so understanding

Family › Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Aude(f): 1:34am On Sep 09, 2015

deebrain:
You are wrong. It is entease. That is Trick somebody.

Thanks.

If you had spent a few seconds checking a dictionary you would have found out that "entease" isn't an English word nor does it exist.

Family › Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Aude(f): 1:06am On Sep 09, 2015

@op: does your wife work and does she contribute to the upkeep of the home? If she doesn't, then tell her we are now in the 21st century and women do contribute to maintain the household. Too many African men die before their time because they take on a lot of responsibility. I'm certain that while you guys were dating she never paid for any of your outings or even bought you a present. If a person is tight-fisted during courtship, they won't change after marriage. I would always advise men that before they marry they should see if their partners would support them when times are hard. No one knows the future and marriage is a partnership.

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Family › Re: Can You Marry A Lady That's Richer Or More Educated Than You? by Aude(f): 10:24pm On Sep 06, 2015

Gaborone:
SonofEl, your last post was a good read.

But then, I'm worried by your use of words: "put her in her place.. ", " humbled her"... what's all that about? And it raises a welter of questions.

Are you sure that's not the 'breaking' I was talking about earlier? Why can't a man meet a rich intelligent woman, and just flow with her, and not make any attempts to make her feel like her wealth and intelligence is something she should be apologizing for? Why cant he just hear the opposing view of his medical student of a girlfriend, without interpreting it to mean she is trying to supersede him because he read food and nutrition? W hy cant he just enjoy an intelligent discuss with her, without interpreting it to mean she is 'showing herself'. Why can't her just befriend and love her, give her a chance to let him know who she really is, before judging her as proud and insubordinate?

Why does he have to 'humble' her? What does that even mean?

Well said Gaborone. I concur 100% with you.

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Family › Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Aude(f): 1:55am On Sep 03, 2015

babygirlfl:
Did I read it right? Are we talking about Oga dishing food that is in front of him?

It seems the wife is a housewife. I don't see the man asking the wife to dish food that is already served if she too was getting ready for work at the same time. It does not make Oga right but at least he will have an excuse.

From the fb replies, it is clear most women don't pamper their husband because they love and adore him but because they are scared another woman will take their place. Yet the said men still jump from one woman to another claiming men are polygamous. Just how these women live their life like that beats me. So sad.

I agree with you 100%. Some women treat their husbands nicely not out of love but just because they don't want another woman to take their place.

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Travel › Re: My Shocking Experiences In Public Buses----ladies Be Very Vigilant! by Aude(f): 2:07pm On Sep 02, 2015

olumayowaakin:
I'm sorry, but don't you think you should check up on yourself? If it has happened once, twice, will you wait for the third time? You could be putting to much forward, exposure in dressing or something!
And when such happens, you found yourself with guys who don't have control over there emotions.
Check up on yourself!

Don't be silly. So she's now to be blamed for the actions of men who can't control their sexual urges.

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Career › Re: What Is The Most Suitable Job For A Married Woman With Kids? by Aude(f): 1:34pm On Aug 22, 2015

raphy:
Wht do u mean by tht?i hv a gf if still gettin to knw her if she is gud i cn marry here.so why do u tink i want uneducatd girl ?if they send u fo me go tel em u didnt see me ok.becarful by d way u write.

I hope you have told her that you want her to sell frozen foods after the wedding.

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Career › Re: What Is The Most Suitable Job For A Married Woman With Kids? by Aude(f): 2:51pm On Aug 20, 2015

remiotega:
I love women like you.

D most annoying thing is dat wen u hear dis men sayin teaching teaching everwhere ,you would think they hav very good jobs sef that can provide for dia familys everyday needs...

I pity for the fathers who spent so much on dia daughters not knowing they ar planning to be teachers and chewing gum sellers... Why cudnt they be kind enof as to tel d old man not to waste his money as they won't be needing all d Msc's to sell groceries.

On the other hand ..maybe na nemesis sef because the fathers too must hav turned somone elses Chartered accountant daughter to a crayfish seller.

Now I understand why som men don't even bother sending dia daughters to school but focus on dia male children.

But wait oo. Where are d men dat always talk about a woman(married or not) being very successful in her chosen career so as not to b a liablity to her husband?
Those men who praise rich women...and talk down on women that ar not there yet but want a rich man..
I noticed they ar not present here...or mayb they ar d same people shoutin teachers everywhere sef....confused people!

Hahaha girl you are the best. I admire women like you. I am so happy that there are African women out there who reason the way you do.

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Career › Re: What Is The Most Suitable Job For A Married Woman With Kids? by Aude(f): 1:44am On Aug 20, 2015

raphy:
My advice fo u is to open a shop and start your own business so u cn hv tym fo your children. dnt rent hous help o.be strong n work fo ursef dnt chase whyt collar job anymo.just do bizness thts is not very stressful like provisions or frozen foods:dnt foget to thnk me later whn u build your own shoprite in future.am not married bt hv a good bizness ideas to gv my future wife.i hop u all r good

Go find a village woman or an uneducated woman to be your wife

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Career › Re: What Is The Most Suitable Job For A Married Woman With Kids? by Aude(f): 1:36am On Aug 20, 2015

83lagosroad:
buiod career and loose ur husband to some small girls and latter come to NL to complain . ok now.
u think say e easy to get patient husband abiiiii
my friend wise up.

So what about all these housewives that have been filling NL with their sob stories? Didn't they devote all their time to their families?

Women please value your education and fulfill your dreams. Sometimes I think NL is full of half-educated people with no dreams. You have people suggesting that their wives become shopkeepers, hair stylists and food sellers. Tufiakwa! After all the money spent on education! I thank God my parents were professional people who instilled in me the desire to be the best I can be.

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Romance › Re: When you get carried away by initial gragra. by Aude(f): 6:01pm On Aug 12, 2015

Toks2008:
Lol! are you surprised that at 40 I'm still unmarried? I was actually in a scam affair that lasted for 12years which broke up two years ago so don't blame an innocent guy who found himself with the wrong lady from age 26 to 38.

So thats it in a nut shell.

Can you elaborate more on why you consider your last relationship to have been a scam affair? Why I am asking is you were with the girl for 12years and you didn't get married to her. What held you back? I know of a relationship where the girl walked away after five years because among other things the guy showed no signs of wanting to commit to her. If you ask the guy why they broke up he will say the girl wasn't sincere, whereas the girl maintains she pulled the plug on the relationship because she felt if he couldn't commit to her then it meant he was looking for something more.
I have always found it interesting the way females and males have a different opinion of why things ended.

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Fashion › Re: Looking For A Great Seamstress Or Tailor In The GTA (greater Toronto Area) by Aude(op): 9:29pm On Jul 22, 2015

izzieman:
If you have not already found someone, contact Ojie at 647-872-1748.

Thanks for the response.

Family › Re: Why Do I Have Great Phobia For Tolotolo. Smh by Aude(f): 2:01am On Jul 22, 2015

Fkforyou:
Lol...well am not afraid when its on photo infact sometimes I try to look at the photo and study it, to understand why am I scared of it, imagine that some of this artist go dey snap with am self.....by the way have you watched snakes on a plane?

I was present when my family watched it. I believe I watched the beginning and when the snakes started appearing I went to the room.

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Family › Re: Why Do I Have Great Phobia For Tolotolo. Smh by Aude(f): 3:27am On Jul 21, 2015

Fkforyou:
Lol....Funny comments, well my own na snakes. I just have this irrational fear about that thing and I dont know why, even in broad day light, if the thought of it cross my mind I go just dey check around my self to make sure say nothing dey my side , even if na rope touch me I go panic

Same here. Even seeing snakes on the TV, Internet or in books scares me. Recently a couple of nairalanders have posted pictures of snakes they killed. I can tell you that not once was I tempted to view the pictures, I steered clear of clicking on the topics.

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Family › Re: Sexless Relationship Due To The Man. by Aude(f): 7:32pm On Jul 20, 2015

^^^^
@Sagamite post=36093831]

I am a woman but I totally agree with your post. It has given me a lot of food for thought. It is so easy to talk about communication but are we really willing to hear and accept the truth especially something as painful as our partners not fancying us anymore. Nowadays we hear women saying things like "he doesn't fill my loveboat anymore", it would be nice if someone explained what the hell that means. Thank you for this great post.

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Career › Re: The Ladies In My Office Are Milking Me Dry. by Aude(f): 7:10pm On Jul 20, 2015

dacrystal01:
Something tells me you're still a student. No offense.

Because if you've started working, u'll know that some job descriptions dont allow u to "leave" ur company and go out in search of food, or anything.... During working hours.

Far from it. I am in my thirties. I have been working for well over 10 years in all kinds of roles. I have never worked in Nigeria because I am not Nigerian. Everybody is entitled to a break. I know in Africa people like exploiting others but for someone like the op who seems to be in a senior position it seems weird that he cannot leave the company's premises. Maybe it is time HR departments started doing what they were created for and start ensuring that the employees are treated fairly and know their rights. What do people do if they don't bring food from home? How do you expect a person to be productive if they are not allowed some freedom? Well that is my rant over. Maybe it is time we Africans learnt how to treat each other.

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