missphumby:
This shit happened to me recently, but thank God I brushed that shit off... love is just an illusion

Toks2008:


Are you sure you are not my mum's daughter from another man? because you look so much like my younger sister.

Toks2008:


Love is not an illusion but its our impatience and lack of understanding that makes it one.

softysparky:

Do you believe in love?

Toks2008:


YES I DO but Over the years i have realized that LOVE is the most wrongly used word in the dictionary.

I have seen many people who professed love to each other just to make a 360 degree turn and then i tend to wonder if they ever understood that word love.

I have even heard of a situation where a man found it so easy to walk away from his wife and children after many years just to conclude that what he felt all through the years was probably pity and not love.

It has become the norm for us to now see a million dollar wedding crashing down even before it began and then these same people who were all smiles and curdled up on the wedding day, exchanging vows will turn against each other with so much hatred.

Husbands kill same woman they made a vow to love and wives do same to their hubbies even when they have borne the same man children.

How many husbands can still tell their wives "i love you" even if she denies him sex? how many husbands will still love their wives if she refuses to do her duties as a wife in the house? and how many women will still love their husbands even if he fails to live up to his status?

Judging from all these happenings i have decided to stop using that word love and any one who uses such word to describe his or her feelings for the partner must really take a chill pill and think deep before uttering such.

If from the real life situation i see, i think it will be reasonable for anyone to wait for at least 20years of being with your partner before you can truly say those words "I LOVE YOU" even if we all know that even after 30years people can still turn against each other but at least 20years is good enough to pass that assertion.

I have come to believe that LOVE can only exist between GOD and man and what humans feel is just a temporary feeling of desire which can be in form of initial gragra(Adrenaline love), infatuation(Unreasoning love),Lust or maybe a superficial love as a result of what you are getting from that person and in the absence of such will diminish.

Yes maybe i am over-flogging it,maybe we still have true love between very rare partners but the truth is that i would rather seek for a true friendship, a true bonding which i have found to be more realistic than that facade called True love.

*Just thinking*

softysparky:
This is very deep, I think my friend ronald will definitely agree with you.
I would rather seek for true friendship, bonding and respect.

Toks2008:


Better be careful make dem no use spell finish you.You never can tell with some ladies o. If you know a lady is not the type you can marry by first assessment then don't even go close.

BUTCHCASSIDY:


Yes bawss
Noted bawss
Thanks bawss
Ure the man bawss

ojay2053:
Nice one

softysparky:

This is very deep, I think my friend ronald will definitely agree with you.

I would rather seek for true friendship, bonding and respect.

Toks2008:



People who look for love hardly finds it but just be yourself and get busy with your life and Love will certainly find you.

softysparky:

Toks2008:

You scare me because you look so much like my younger sis.

softysparky:

Are you serious? It's a very small world indeed.

softysparky:
@Toks2008 Shes pretty. You must be an old man then

Toks2008:


It depends on your definition of old.

I just clocked 40 nevertheless still searching for the ideal lady.Strange but true.

softysparky:

Tell me you are joking... and what do you mean by searching for an ideal lady?

chrisbaby24:
Dats a nice one OP...exactly wat am passin thru rite now....don't even want to tink about it...but d thought is always dia...jus kip blaming myself all dis while...prayin to God to help me push it aside and move on...

IamLEGEND1:
Toks2008 mah man....

thumbs up mate....

#AwesomeWtriteUp

Cutehector:
I endorse this topic for front page!



Thumbs up

mooremedia:
@Op I totally agree with you......
it takes like 1-2 years to know if you truly love someone or its just infatuation.
but most people don't wait this long to test the waters before diving into marriage, hence the regular divorce this days . Especially celebrities, I.G is not good for your health or relationship, know the lroduct your buying before taking it home . Divorce us not a good thing.

Toks2008:


Lol! are you surprised that at 40 I'm still unmarried? I was actually in a scam affair that lasted for 12years which broke up two years ago so don't blame an innocent guy who found himself with the wrong lady from age 26 to 38.

So thats it in a nut shell.

MrsPhyno:
If there's no initial gra-gra you won't even start the relationship tho

Aude:


Can you elaborate more on why you consider your last relationship to have been a scam affair? Why I am asking is you were with the girl for 12years and you didn't get married to her. What held you back? I know of a relationship where the girl walked away after five years because among other things the guy showed no signs of wanting to commit to her. If you ask the guy why they broke up he will say the girl wasn't sincere, whereas the girl maintains she pulled the plug on the relationship because she felt if he couldn't commit to her then it meant he was looking for something more.
I have always found it interesting the way females and males have a different opinion of why things ended.