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Politics / FG Confirms The Missing Of 110 Dapchi Girls, 7 Days After Boko Haram Attack by austonclint(m): 7:20pm On Feb 25, 2018
FG through the information ministry said a total of 110 girls remain unaccounted for following the attack in the town of Dapchi.

The Federal Government of Nigeria has confirmed the kidnap of 110 girls following a Boko Haram attack on students of the Government Girls Secondary School in Dapchi, Yobe State.
On Sunday, February 25, 2018, exactly seven days after the attack, the FG through a series of tweets confirmed the kidnap of the girls.

The FG through the information ministry said a total of 110 girls remain unaccounted for following the attack in the town of Dapchi in the northeastern Nigerian state of Yobe by suspected members of Boko Haram.

The students’ disappearance may be one of the largest such incidents since the jihadist group abducted more than 270 schoolgirls from the town of Chibok in 2014. That case drew global attention to the insurgency and spawned high profile social media campaign Bring Back Our Girls.

“The Federal Government has confirmed that 110 students of the Government Science and Technical College in Dapchi, Yobe State, are so far unaccounted for, after insurgents believed to be from a faction of Boko Haram invaded their school on Monday,” the information ministry said in a statement.


Information Minister Lai Mohammed also said police and security officials had been deployed to schools in the state while efforts were being stepped up to rescue the missing girls.

See the statement in these tweets

https://mobile.twitter.com/AsoRock/status/967807186205372416

On Monday, February 19, 2018, the men of the Boko Haram sect invaded a part of Yobe State including the Government Girls Secondary School in Dapchi kidnapping several students and reigning terror on the school and the village.

According to a forum of parents of missing students, the number of girls in captivity have been given as 105.

Meanwhile, President Muhammadu Buhari has condemned the girls kidnap saying it's a national disaster.

US condemns kidnap of school girls in Yobe
The United States of America condemned the abduction of over 90 school girls from Government Girls Technical College, Dapchi, Yobe state.

The Spokesperson of the US Department of State, Ms Heather Nauert, at a press briefing on Thursday, said “We are still trying to get all the details about that but we wanted to mention that we condemn in the strongest possible terms the terror attack on a school earlier this week in north-eastern Nigeria.

“The choice of targets including schools, markets and places of worship reflect the brutality of terror organisations.

“The victims in the attacks were girls who were simply seeking an education.”

“We continue to support Nigeria’s efforts to counter the terror group.


“We also support Nigeria’s efforts to enable more than two million displaced in the Lake Chad region to return home safely.

“United States continues to provide humanitarian assistance to those who were affected by the violence,” Nauert added.

British military offers to assist Nigeria in rescuing 105 kidnapped girls
The British military has offered to assist the Nigerian Army in the search and rescue operation launched for the 105 girls kidnapped in Dapchi, Yobe State.

The Guardian reports that the British army led by Major Ian Robertson, the general advisor, British Military Advisory and Training Team (BMATT) in Nigeria, recently made this known.

Condemning the attack and kidnapping of the school girls from Government Girls Secondary School (GGSS), Dapchi, Robertson lamented the fact that girls’ schools have become soft targets for insurgents.


source :http://www.clintgist.com/fg-confirms-kidnap-of-110-students-dapchi-girls-7-days-after-boko-haram-attack/

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Politics / Re: Canadian Athlete And Manager Arrested For Stealing A Car @ 2018 Olympics by austonclint(m): 6:14pm On Feb 24, 2018
Politics / Canadian Athlete And Manager Arrested For Stealing A Car @ 2018 Olympics by austonclint(m): 6:14pm On Feb 24, 2018
According to NEW YORK TIMES Two members of Canada’s Olympic delegation, an athlete and a manager, were arrested Friday in Pyeongchang, accused of stealing an idling car and driving drunk, a local police official and representative of Team Canada said Saturday.


Lee In-ho, superintendent of Gangwon province police, declined to name the athlete or manager but said the driver had a blood alcohol level of .160.

Lee said that the pair jumped into the car and drove from Daegwalryong village in Pyeongchang to the athletes’ village, in Gangneung.

It was not immediately clear whether the athlete or the manager drove the car. Reports in Canadian and South Korean news media said the athlete was a 35-year-old skier who did not win a medal.

Isabelle Charest, Canada’s chef de mission, confirmed there had been an incident involving a Canadian athlete but declined to provide further details.

Source : http://www.clintgist.com/canadian-athlete-and-manager-arrested-id8032074-html/

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Politics / Re: Boko Haram Member Seeks God’s Forgiveness For Kidnapping Chibok Girls (Photo) by austonclint(m): 5:49pm On Feb 24, 2018
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Politics / Re: Boko Haram Member Seeks God’s Forgiveness For Kidnapping Chibok Girls (Photo) by austonclint(m): 5:21pm On Feb 24, 2018
Politics / Boko Haram Member Seeks God’s Forgiveness For Kidnapping Chibok Girls (Photo) by austonclint(m): 5:21pm On Feb 24, 2018

Abubakar confessed to being one of the brains behind the kidnap of over 200 girls at a girls secondary school in Chibok, Borno state.

Abdulkadir Abubakar, a leader in the Abubakar Shekau led Boko Haram, has said he’s seeking God’s forgiveness after repenting from killing and kidnapping innocent Nigerians.


Abubakar, who is in detention at a military facility, was arrested at Buni Yadi when he allegedly went on an espionage mission ahead of the insurgents’ plot to attack the commander of the Special Force Training School.

TheCable reports that Abubakar confessed to being one of the brains behind the kidnap of over 200 girls at a girls secondary school in Chibok, Borno state as well as the Buni Yadi massacre of secondary school students.

Abdulkadir Abubakar’s confession
Abubakar claims to have repented saying since he had sought forgiveness from God, he believes his sins and atrocities will be forgiven.

Narrating some of his crimes, Abubakar said, “Myself and two other Boko Haram commanders, Abu Fatima and Paper, led most of the attacks on schools in Yobe between 2013 and 2014.

“We were also the ones behind the abduction of students at Government Girls Secondary School, Chibok. We also carried out attacks on schools in Potiskum, Mamudo, Damagun, Wagir and Ngarzarma, all in Yobe state.

“I wholeheartedly regret my actions and hope the Almighty Allah will forgive me. Allah said he will forgive whoever repents and asks him for forgiveness. I have repented and seek forgiveness.”

Abubakar also claimed that Shekau ordered attacks on schools, mosques, churches and markets, and also ordered abduction and rape.


source: http://www.clintgist.com/boko-haram-member-want-forgiveness-for-kidnapping-chibok-girls-id8032075-html/

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Romance / Re: Model Arrives On Date With Only Body Paint (PHOTOS) by austonclint(m): 12:55pm On Feb 24, 2018
Romance / Model Arrives On Date With Only Body Paint (PHOTOS) by austonclint(m): 12:54pm On Feb 24, 2018
joy Jewell hoped to show up for her Tinder date at the mall wearing nothing but body paint to see how her potential beau would react.

After teaming up with body painter, Jen Seidel, a model chooses to go out on a date with nothing but body paint on her.
Joy Jewell had been hoping to show up for her Tinder date at the mall wearing nothing but body paint to see how her potential beau would react.




Seeing as her date only assumed that her body paint was an albeit, suspiciously tight ‘outfit’ that hugged all of her curves, he never even noticed.

Joy arrived at the mall wearing a big coat, which her date helped her remove after ordering their coffees.

The model’s date went on to compliment her outfit before they both go for a stroll around the mall.

However, Joy’s secret was almost exposed when a group of girls spotted the paint and the cameraman and asked for selfies.

Joy was finally forced to admit to wearing nothing but paint when they walked into the rain on their way to the car park.

We can only imagine what her date must have thought. Your guess is as good as ours.

Body painting rave
This is not the first time a model has dared to take on the streets with nothing but body paint on.

In 2015, a model went viral after she was spotted walking around Hong Kong wearing nothing but a t-shirt, gold backpack and pair of boots.

The blonde model, who was naked from the waist down, had been painted to make it look like she was wearing a pair of denim skinny jeans.

She was painted by body-paint artist Sandra Bakker who carefully painted the model’s bare legs and buttom.

She painted the fake jeans with intricate detail and used a blend of different blues to create a distressed look.

The jeans were finished with painted pockets front and back and a seam down the side to make them appear realistic.

In a video the woman was seen walking through shopping centers, riding escalators and crossing busy roads without pants, wearing a t-shirt that bears the says: ‘No pants are the best pants’.


source: http://www.clintgist.com/model-joy-jewell-arrives-on-date-with-only-body-paint/

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Politics / Boko Haram Trying To Embarrass Buhari With Yobe Attack - Lai Mohammad by austonclint(m): 12:58pm On Feb 23, 2018
Minister of Information, Lai Mohammed, has disclosed that Boko Haram’s attack on Government Girls Science and Technical Secondary School, Dapchi, Yobe, which has led to the disappearance of an undetermined number of schoolgirls, is an attempt to embarrass President Muhammadu Buhari’s administration.

The minister made his remarks when he visited Yobe State on Thursday, February 22, 2018, to get a first hand account of the attack that happened earlier this week.

The militant group had invaded the school in Dapchi town in Bursari local government area of the state on Monday, February 19, and made away with loads of food items from the school, sending students and staff running into the bushes for safety.

While addressing reporters at the school on Thursday, Mohammed insisted in the Federal Government’s position that the terrorist group is in its “dying days” and is merely lashing out with its attacks after getting pushed out of its primary base in Sambisa Forest.

He said, “We are still monitoring the situation and what I want people to understand is that since two days ago some of the students who fled to neighbouring towns and communities had returned and more have been returning.

“When we arrived here we have been briefed by the governor and the GOC about the situation of the students.

“We know there are few students who are yet accounted for, but we don’t want to manufacture stories on this issue. But give us few days, we will be able to tell you exactly the real situation of things.

“But you can see response of the military, the response of the state government is quite commendable. Since four days now we have been following the efforts being made to arrest the situation.

“But we must understand that these are they dying days of the Boko Haram and what they intend to do is to embarrass the government because they have been degraded, they have been pushed out of Sambisa forest.

“They have been starved out of oxygen and the oxygen they feed on is publicity so that they can grab the world’s attention. But I can assure you that with the determination of our gallant military, the days of Boko Haram are numbered.”

Conflicting reports of number of missing girls

A head count of the students on Tuesday, February 20, had revealed that at least 94 schoolgirls were missing.

However, there were conflicting reports by the Commissioner of Police, Abdulmaliki Sumonu, who said 111 girls were unaccounted for, while the state government claimed later on Wednesday, February 21, that only over 50 were missing.

On Wednesday evening, Governor Ibrahim Gaidam‘s spokesman, Abdullahi Bego, said “some of the girls… have been rescued by gallant officers and men of the Nigerian Army from the terrorists who abducted them.

“The rescued girls are now in the custody of the Nigerian Army.”

Dapchi residents stone Governor Gaidam for lying



When Governor Gaidam visited the community on Thursday, February 22, he made a dramatic turnaround and said none of the missing students have been rescued by the army. He told family members of the students to keep praying that the girls should be found.

He had addressed concerned parents at the palace of the district head in Dapchi town saying there’s no confirmation the girls have been abducted by terrorists.

He said, “Until now, we have no certainly that these boys (Boko haram) have taken these girls. We should keep praying so that God reveal the whereabouts of the girls

We directed the soldiers and security personnel to go anywhere the girls are said to have been seen and find them.

“I am together with the GOC, Brig-Gen Garba. His men went to places that the girls were said to have been sighted but, for the past two days, wherever the troops go, they were only told that it was a convoy of Boko haram passing through the villages but they didn’t see any girls.”

Angered residents showed their displeasure by booing the governor and throwing stones at his convoy of vehicles, destroying seven of them with shattered rear windscreen and banged up body parts.

Some of the governor’s aides, other government officials, as well as a cameraman were reportedly injured from the attack as the governor’s security team dispersed the crowd with tear gas.



A journalist in the convoy told The Punch, “We were in fear as the residents continued to throw stones to protest against government’s handling of the girls’ abduction.

“The angry residents ignored the tear gas as they vandalised seven vehicles in our convoy.

“From the little information that we got, they were angry that the Yobe State Government deceived Nigerians that the schoolgirls had been rescued when nobody was rescued.

“Some of them told the governor to present the girls that were rescued.”

The governor left the town immediately after the incident.

Attack on all-girls school

According to accounts by residents, the terrorists invaded the town around 7pm in over 18 gun trucks mounted with high caliber weapons.

Their loud shooting alerted residents, school students and staff who ran to seek cover in the surrounding bushes as the school’s food store was successfully raided.

Troops of the Nigerian Army later arrived to repel the attack, aided by military jets.

A school source told ThisDay that the militants targeted the students as they went into their hostel during the attack.

It is unknown whether the girls are missing as a result of abduction by Boko Haram or have simply failed to return after fleeing from the attack, with some reported to have arrived at their homes safely.

The school has been closed down for a week pending investigations.


http://www.clintgist.com/boko-haram-trying-to-embarrass-buhari-with-yobe-attack-lai-id8026482-html/


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Crime / US Condemns Kidnap Of School Girls In Yobe By Boko Haram by austonclint(m): 8:51am On Feb 23, 2018
The United States of America has condemned the abduction of over 90 school girls from Government Girls Technical College, Dapchi, Yobe state.

According to reports, the girls were abducted by the dreaded terror sect, Boko Haram.

The girls went missing after sect members attacked Dapchi town in Bursari local government area.

SaharaReporters claims that the school authorities revealed that at least 94 students were missing after a head count conducted on Tuesday, February 20, 2018.

The Spokesperson of the US Department of State, Ms Heather Nauert, at a press briefing on Thursday, said “We are still trying to get all the details about that but we wanted to mention that we condemn in the strongest possible terms the terror attack on a school earlier this week in north-eastern Nigeria.

“The choice of targets including schools, markets and places of worship reflect the brutality of terror organisations.

“The victims in the attacks were girls who were simply seeking an education.”

“We continue to support Nigeria’s efforts to counter the terror group.

We also support Nigeria’s efforts to enable more than two million displaced in the Lake Chad region to return home safely.

“United States continues to provide humanitarian assistance to those who were affected by the violence,” Nauert added.

111 Yobe school girls unaccounted for

The Police Commissioner in Yobe, Abdulmaliki Sumonu, on Wednesday, confirmed that 111 girls were still unaccounted for following Monday’s attack by Boko Haram insurgents.

According to the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN), the insurgents who attacked the school looted foodstuff, while the staff and students ran into the bush for safety.


Read more http://www.clintgist.com/us-reacts-to-yobe-school-girls-kidnap-id8025339-html/


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TV/Movies / Black Panther: Did The Ancient Bini Kingdom Inspire The Fictional Wakanda? by austonclint(m): 1:42am On Feb 23, 2018

Bisi Alimi related a connection between the Bini Empire and Wakanda. Is it possible that we're missing something?

If we're to agree with Bisi Alimi's takeaways from the Black Panther movie, the ancient Bini kingdom may have been the inpiration for the fictional kingdom of Wakanda.
Before its releae, Black Panther wa heralded as a manifesto of black and african identity as the first Marvel feature film to be set in Africa. It also features the first African superhero, T'Challa who takes the role of the Black Panther.


Since its release, the most attentive viewers have highlighted references to African culture and history, such as the Dora Milaje, the female guards of the King, inspired by the Amazons of Benin.

Among these many allusions, gay rights activist and commentator, Bisi Alimi has put a very interesting case forward.

He believes that the Kingdom of Wakanda, which T'Challa rules over and most of the movie is set in, shares similarities with the famed ancient Bini Kingdom.

Two great African kingdoms
In a lenghtily-captioned post on his Instagram account, the vocal commentator related the greatness of Bini to the imposing and technologically advanced Wakanda.

He wrote, "The image you can see above is the Benin Empire in mid-western Nigeria. It was one of the many powerful advanced kingdoms that dotted the western region of the country that is now known as Nigeria."

"Another of such advanced kingdom is the Oyo empire. I am sure that we all know the concept of an empire and a kingdom will not be called an empire unless it is powerful, advanced in technology, has a system of government that is well respected and an economic policy."

"Why am I writing about Benin Empire this morning?", he asked. "Well, it is the fact that we have been told "Wakanda" is imaginary. We were told that it only exists in the world of our imagination but when I saw this picture I realised it is not so."

The Bini Empire was one of the greatest in African history. It's capital was Edo, the area which is now known as Beniin City in Edo State.

At its height, it was one of the oldest and most highly developed states in the coastal hinterland of West Africa, dating perhaps to the eleventh century CE, until it was annexed by the British Empire in 1897.

Despite the popular perceptions of African civilisations at the time, Bini was well advanced in trade, government and structure.

Like Erediauwa, Like T'Challa
It is here that some of the similarities with Wakanda may lie. The Empire was ruled by the Oba, a position which was handed down by inheritance.

The Oba enjoyed a reputation close to T'Challa's. He was the spiritual and political head of the Empire and when trouble beckoned, the people looked to him to save them.

Much like Wakanda, the Bini Empire, especially the capital, was a structural phenomenon. While Wakanda had cities lying along cliff edges, Benin was surrounded by a great wall that has been described as the largest man-made wall in human history.

The city itself was a labyrinth of streets that was a testament to the planning and order that we now associate with the world's most advanced cities.

Is this enough to say the Kingdom of Wakanda was inspired by Benin? Perhaps, not. Across Africa, many ancient civilsation left their footprints in the sand and the annals of history.

The Black Panther movie did well to draw inspiration from these many sources and incorporate them into one seamless story. It is more likely that Wakanda was created in this form, as an amalgam of influences drawn from different cities and empires.

Regardless, the sentiment shared by many who have seen the movie remains valid. Wakanda is a black story.

In a world where the media has more power than any other single force (save, nuclear bombs and religion), it is important that we celebrate these victories, where the African identity is portrayed with pizzazz, verve, strength and depth.

Wakanda Forever!


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http://www.clintgist.com/black-panther-did-the-ancient-bini-kingdom-inspire-the-fictional-wakanda/

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Celebrities / Re: Wizkid Shows Up At The Brit Awards 2018 Looking Stylish In All Black PIX / VIDEO by austonclint(m): 1:21pm On Feb 22, 2018
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Celebrities / Wizkid Shows Up At The Brit Awards 2018 Looking Stylish In All Black PIX / VIDEO by austonclint(m): 1:20pm On Feb 22, 2018

Wizkid makes a surprise appearance at last night's Brit awards looking stylish as always in all black with friend Tinie Tempah

Wizkid looked every inch the superstar he has grown into at last night's Brit awards. Accompanied by good friend Tinie Tempah and the Disturbing London team, Wizkid was pictured looked stylish in an all-black drip set.
Wizkid looked in high spirits as he posted videos on Instastories from the event and also appeared on music insider Grace Ladoja's Instastory with the caption 'Black Excellence'.

After his appearance at Davido's concert shut down the sold-out venue and fresh from the release of his latest single 'Soco', it looks like Wizkid is gearing up to make this year even better than the last.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E3c5gZBIv6Q


http://www.clintgist.com/wizkid-shows-up-at-the-brit-awards-2018-looking-stylish-in-all-black/


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Romance / Former Catholic Priest Patrick Edet Is Getting Married, Months After Resignation by austonclint(m): 11:41am On Feb 22, 2018

The ex-priest is getting married nine months after leaving the priesthood.

Patrick Henry Edet is getting married, months after resignation.
He left the priesthood after announcing his resignation on the 31st of July, 2017 on the radio.



Eights months later, the former Akwa Ibom state-based Catholic priest has revealed his plans to get married.



According to NewTelegraph, Edet is tying the knot on March 17, 2018.

Reportedly, his fiancée will be revealed next week.

Patrick Edet leaves priesthood
The former Rev. announced his resignation on air through his weekly live radio programme called Grace and Inspiration.

In his words, “From today Henceforth, I cease to be a Catholic Priest in my spirit and in my soul.

“I forgive those who will criticize me. I live for God…I seek freedom for my soul. As I leave, I leave smiling, I AM SO HAPPY THAT I AM FREE.”

Edet said it took a lot of praying and fasting that lasted for seven-month to make this decision.

His announcement was met with mixed reactions.

read more : http://www.clintgist.com/former-catholic-priest-patrick-edet-is-getting-married-months-after-resignation/

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Education / University of America VC says Nigerian students are receiving expired education by austonclint(m): 10:33pm On Feb 21, 2018

The American VC also advised Nigerian leaders to fix education for the country to move forward.

The Vice-Chancellor of the University of America, California, Prof. Gamalier O. Prince has said that Nigerian students are receiving an expired education.

Prince while speaking at the first joint matriculation of the University of America, an affiliate of Peaceland College of Education, Enugu said Nigerian leaders must fix the education system if there must be an improvement in the country.

He says: “People in Nigeria are getting an expired education. That is why you see people who studied engineering and are not able to do engineering feat. You see people who studied computer science and are not able to understand anything or diagnose computer language and what have you. This is because Nigeria’s educational system is a dilapidated one.

“The problem of Nigeria began from the citadel of learning and if you want to fix Nigeria, you must fix the educational system. This is because every Nigerian in leadership went through our academic institutions – politicians, scientists and leaders.

”They were not able to acquire training that could be used to advance the course of the country. If our leaders have failed, it is because our educational system has also failed. So, if you want to change Nigeria, change the educational system. So, the mantra of change must begin with the academic institutions and students.”

The VC, however, said that the University of America had introduced the “updated American education” into Nigeria for students in Peaceland College, Enugu.

He, therefore, informed the matriculating students that the university is ready to mould them and help them realize their dreams.

He added that there is no room for malpractice which he said is the hallmark of Nigerian education system.

READ MORE : http://www.clintgist.com/us-vc-says-nigerian-students-are-receiving-expired-education-id8019058-html/

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TV/Movies / Big Brother Naija: Evicted Housemates Share Who They Think Should Win by austonclint(m): 9:39pm On Feb 20, 2018

"#BBNaija shouldn't project someone just going into the house, sleeping most of the time, being quiet, sliding into the finals and then winning" – Princess.

The first Big Brother Naija eviction happened over the weekend, and the evicted housemates already know who they want to win the show.
The eviction show happened hours after Khloe and K.Brule were disqualified from the show for breaking Biggie’s rules.


During the show, Bitto and Princess (Pritto) and Vandora and Dee One (Vandee) were announced as the first set of pairs to be evicted from the #BBNaija house.

During an interview with Pulse Nigeria, the housemates shared which housemate they thing should win the 45 million naira prize.

Dee One

As una don dey vote for who dey… I think it’s Mina, judging by the love they have for their sex life.

Bitto

It’s obvious that a lot of people have their favourites in the house and the person who stays till the last week with the highest number of votes automatically wins.

But in all honesty, I will like to see someone who is quite creative win the show. Over the years, we have had people win the show and they have not given back to the society.

I’m an advocate of people giving back to the society. So in all honesty, if you ask me who I want to win Big Brother Naija, I think the only talented housemate left is Ifuennada, and I hope she does win.

Princess

Apart from the fact that Ifu is my girl, she is multi-talented, and that is what I think Big Brother should project’

I don’t think Big Brother should project someone just going into the house, sleeping most of the time, being quiet most of the time and sliding into the finals and then winning.

No, I think people should vote for someone who’s got it.

K.Brule

I love Ifu. I love Rico, I think he is very entertaining, very funny, and if we are to believe everything that he said, he has had it very tough.

But for some reason, I just love Angel. I fee like, how can one man be a Kung fu master and be a kickboxer?

My guy sabi sing, my guy dey play guitar, my man come sabi book on top. My guy has tried. So, if it’s based on merit, I think it”s Angel.

Vandora and Dee One revealed that they are rooting for Alex, while Khloe said she wants Leo to win.

Miracle won the head of house for week four, but Biggie already announced that there won’t be any eviction this week.


source: http://www.clintgist.com/evicted-big-brother-naija-housemates-on-who-should-win-id8013270-html/

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Health / Here Are 5 Natural Ways To Quit Cigarette Smoking by austonclint(m): 12:27pm On Feb 20, 2018
Statistically speaking, cigarette smoking leads to eighty-seven percent of lung cancer, as deaths are tied to its prevalent usage.

"Smoking cessation [stopping smoking] represents the single most important step that smokers can take to enhance the length and quality of their lives."
- U.S. Surgeon General
There's no way around it, smoking is bad for your health.

As a matter of fact, nearly every organ of the body is destroyed by smoking. And statistically speaking, cigarette smoking leads to eighty-seven percent of lung cancer, as deaths are tied to its prevalent usage.

In addition, it is responsible for many other cancers and health problems; these include lung disease, heart and blood vessel disease, stroke and cataracts and the irresponsible pollution of fresh air.

It is, however, important to state here that women who engage in this practice burden themselves with the greater risk of certain pregnancy problems or having a baby die from sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).

Your smoke is also bad for other people - they breathe it in and can get many of the same problems as smokers do.

However, you should be aware that there is no high and fast route to quit smoking.

It starts with a mental attitude and an emotional framework of self-trust as you clearly assess that the condition of smoking stands against every dimension of individual progress.

Here are five natural ways to quitting smoking
1. Water
Water helps your healing process and enables you to recover from smoking while you are trying to quit.

Actually, your body will naturally heal on its own and start to detoxify as you forsake your smoking habits, but water gives it an extra boost, flushes your system, and speeds up the process, helping you gain ground in the fight against your addictions.

Nicotine is so addictive and hard to get rid of because it permeates your body as a toxin; penetrating your system and latching on.

But water is a natural detoxifier. It will purge your system better than any other liquid. And your body needs water to counteract many of the harmful effects of tobacco and nicotine

2. Ginger
Your efforts to quit smoking will likely be met by the feeling of nausea. This is a common symptom most people experience when they try to quit.

However, taking ginger in tablets, capsules or as a tea form will help calm your stomach and help you overcome nausea.

What you should look out for as you combat your addiction is something that can ease the withdrawal symptoms and make you able to handle your cravings.

Vitamins re energize your system and give you the strength to fight back.

3. Ginseng
Ginseng powder added to your juices, cereal, oatmeal or soup could be the key to specifically out doing your cravings. It is best to take it during the morning, and in so doing, it can fight your cravings all day.

If you find that it is not enough for your cravings, then you can increase your dosage or take it more frequently.

Take note: You may already be ingesting ginseng as one of your multivitamins, looking at what your vitamins have would see to the prevention of this needless intake.

4. Grape juice
Getting the toxins out of your body is the biggest part of conquering your addiction and the symptoms of withdrawal.

Nicotine is one of those toxins and once it is out, you should not experience any more cravings or withdrawal symptoms.

Although increasing your water intake is a great way to do so, but bolstering this push against this toxin could be achieved by drinking grape juice daily.

The acids in the juice are natural detoxifiers and they will rejuvenate your system and cleanse out the toxins faster.

Note
The toxins are the cause of cravings and low energy levels down. By using detoxifiers you can boost your energy levels and counteract cravings.

5. Meditation
The importance of meditation cannot be over emphasize when it comes to smoking cessation. And this is because people who practice meditation are more likely to succeed in smoking cessation.

They are encouraged to start living a healthier lifestyle. In addition, they are able to regulate their cravings, experience fewer withdrawal symptoms or stress, and are able to get their emotions under control.

SOURCE :http://www.clintgist.com/here-are-5-natural-ways-to-quit-cigarette-smoking/

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Politics / Re: APC Has Failed To Fulfill Promises And Restore Hope – Goodluck Jonathan by austonclint(m): 2:09pm On Feb 17, 2018
Nigerians never knew the out come will be this bad... But we was so tired of a weak man as president...

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Crime / In Borno: 22 Killed, 28 Wounded In Multiple Bomb Blast by austonclint(m): 10:02am On Feb 17, 2018
No fewer than 22 persons were killed and 28 others injured in a multiple suicide bombing at a market in Konduga Local Government Area of Borno.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the incident occurred on Friday at about 9:00 PM, when three suicide bombers detonated explosives at the “Kasuwar Kifi” in the outskirts of Konduga town.

A witness, Idrissa Bana, said the three suicide bombers simultaneously detonated the Improvised Explosive Devices (IEDs) on their bodies in the crowded market.

Bana said that the explosives killed 22 persons and 28 others sustained injuries, adding that those injured were evacuated to a hospital in Maiduguri.

“There were a lot of people doing last minute shopping when the suicide bombers hit the market,” he said.

A competent security source confirmed the incident, adding that at the moment the identity of the suicide bombers and exact number of causalities could not be ascertain for now.


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Romance / Just Stop It! 7 Awful Things We All Despise About Bad Kissing by austonclint(m): 1:58pm On Feb 15, 2018
Kissing is an art, not a forceful use of the mouth. There are some things your partner may not be able to tell you. Well, ClintGist will help them out with this list.


We love kissing you, it’s the beginning of a make-out session, and it often leads to so many interesting other possibilities that can vary from intense smooching, to dry humping and who knows, full on sex too.

Just as great as it is, there are just a few things that isn’t really that great about kissing.

1. Everyone assumes they’re good at it

Almost everyone thinks they’re quite good at kissing, and some people have also been misled to believe this as well, like other things, the act of lip locking requires talent and also lots of practicing just like driving, cooking, swimming or any other endeavor. So, its quite possible that you meet someone that doesn’t know how to kiss but feel they’re the best at it.

2. The use of tongue

Tongue during a kiss if applied well is quite good, but as kissing itself, it requires mastery. No used shoving down your tongue down someone’s throat. Learn how to use the tongue properly, watch videos about it online.

3. Duration of the kiss

Kissing can be very interesting but after a while, it loses its mojo. The length of a kiss can make the mind wonder away from what the mouth is doing. It’s good to know when to move along with the kiss.


4. Bad Breath

This might be the number one problem with kissing Bad breath can be a curse especially when making out with someone new. You don’t want to blast them with gutter stink from the oral cavity. This is by far one of the most disgraceful things that can happen to anyone.

5. Awkward mouth position

If you both have long noses then someone has to tilt for the other person, else it’ll your pointed noses doing all the kissing while your lips struggle to even touch each other.

6. The mess with the glasses

If you guys wear glasses, it’ll be advisable that you have somewhere you can both put them, so you can have the room you need within your faces else, your glasses will also be kissing, and we know the kissing action is for your lips not for your spectacles.

7. Is the other person’s eyes closed?


This is also important, the beauty of a kiss is that you share a bond in this moment of intimacy. When this happens, you want to be sure that you’re both in sync, which is why it’s best that you all have your eyes closed. It can be thoroughly disappointing if one person’s eyes is open while the other is closed.

Source : http://www.clintgist.com/7-awful-things-we-all-despise-about-bad-kissing-id5885459-html/


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Romance / 5 Best Spots To Celebrate This Valentine's Day On Low Budget In Lagos by austonclint(m): 4:23am On Feb 14, 2018
Valentine’s day is here again, and a lot of people will like to show their loved ones that they really care but the size of income is usually a problem.
Business Insider Sub-Saharan Africa (SSA) took a drive around Lagos and has identified some locations that seem to accommodate people from all income class to have a time on low budget. For low-income families and lovers, this is an opportunity to appreciate your loved ones without breaking the bank.


So, going on a date shouldn’t be a problem again as these 5 good spots in Lagos that can accommodate your low budget size for the love season.

1. Petit Paris Café, Lekki
Petit Paris Café is a low budget restaurant in Lekki that offers a recreation of dining experience in Paris in Nigeria.

The place has an exotic touch interior design that makes it a natural fit for date and rekindling of love. You can also get Crème brûlée from the restaurant which is rarely found in Lagos.

Based on the reason for selection, all services are within the range of low-income earners despite the economic situation in the country.

2. Pat's Bar, Victoria Island
Pat’s Bar offers extra for lovers who are sports lovers and it will surely be interesting to have a date to this location especially during this love season.

Despite its location within the elite environment, food and drinks are cheap and decent. Based on our last visit, there is no menu that is above N5000.

3. Pizze-riah, Victoria Island
If you are considering making this valentine’s day a pizza-themed one, Pizze-riah is the best destination. With just N5,500, you are surely a nice guy for this love season.

This is surely a place to consider for next date or love celebration.

4. Olivia's Cafe, Lekki
Olivia’s Café offers more than just a comfortable place to celebrate love. The place also has a free wifi for all.

The restaurant offers affordable foods including a goat meat on their menu. For the willing and regular visit to the place, with an N5000 budget, you are fine and okay.

5. Cinemas in Lekki, Yaba and Ikeja
Lovers can enjoy a different bite of Valentine’s Day by going to the cinemas and feel comfortable on a low budget.

Some of these cinemas include the Genesis Deluxe Cinemas in Palms, Lekki, the Silverbird Cinemas in Victoria Island and Ikeja, and the Ozone Cinemas in Yaba.

With N5,000, you are sure to treat your partner to a wonderful date at these locations.

SOURCE: http://www.clintgist.com/5-best-spots-to-celebrate-this-valentines-day-on-low-budget-in-lagos/

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Science/Technology / Re: The World's First Ski Tournament For Robots, The Pictures Are Incredible(photos) by austonclint(m): 6:21pm On Feb 13, 2018
Science/Technology / The World's First Ski Tournament For Robots, The Pictures Are Incredible(photos) by austonclint(m): 6:21pm On Feb 13, 2018
Eight robotics teams from a number of universities have competed for a $10,000 prize in the Ski Robot Challenge on the sidelines of the 2018 Winter Olympics.


If you're a winter sports athlete, you may want to look away now.

Because robots — some of them headless — are coming for your jobs.

While the planet's finest athletes contested the fourth day of the 2018 Winter Olympics in Pyeongchang, South Korea, a bizarre robot ski competition took place on a nearby mountain.

Eight robotics teams from universities, institutions, and one private company all contested the Ski Robot Challenge at the Welli Hilli ski resort, one hour west of Pyeongchang, on Monday — and the photos are incredible.

Bellow are few photos of the robots that competed for the $10,000 prize.












SOURCE :http://www.clintgist.com/the-worlds-first-ski-tournament-for-robots-was-held-near-the-pyeongchang-winter-olympics-and-the-pictures-are-incredible/

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Crime / Re: APC Councillorship Aspirant Illegally Kill By Fulani Herdsmen In C'river State by austonclint(m): 4:53pm On Feb 13, 2018
Nawa for this ppl ooo
... Buhari why na
Sports / Re: Obafemi Martins Flaunts His N162M Lamborghini (Photos) by austonclint(m): 4:13pm On Feb 13, 2018

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Sports / Obafemi Martins Flaunts His N162M Lamborghini (Photos) by austonclint(m): 4:12pm On Feb 13, 2018
Super Eagles striker Obafemi Martins has showed off his N162m Lamborghini Aventador on social media.
Obafemi who plays for Chinese Outfit Shanghai Shenhua took to his Official Instagram account to post a picture of him and his son who was in the expensive car.



Alongside his post Obafemi used an Emoji which is interpreted as family.

Obafemi who made 13 appearances for Shanghai Shenhua contributed seven goals and head attracted the interest of Super Eagles handler Gernot Rohr who wants to take him to the 2018 FIFA World Cup.

Martins has played for top football teams such as, Reggiana, Inter Milan, Newcastle United, VfL Wolfsburg, Rubin Kazan, Birmingham City, Levante, Seattle Sounders FC before he moved to Chinese side Shanghai Shenhua.

The 33-year-old earns about N2.57 billion ($6.6 million) a year at the Chinese side, which makes him one of Nigeria’s highest earning footballers, so he can afford these luxury cars.

Obafemi is known by many football loving Nigerians, for his performances with the Super Eagles, but is not shy to show off his cars, as he also owns a Bentley Bentayga, and Mclaren car.

Obafemi Martins has made to total of 41 appearances for Nigeria and contributed a total of 18 goals.

Obafemi’s Lamborghini Aventador is worth $450000which approximately (N162m.)

N.B – Conversion rate ($1 =362)

source: http://www.clintgist.com/obafemi-martins-shows-off-his-n162m-lamborghini-id7976242-html/

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Politics / Court Sentences One Of The Abductors Of Chibok Girls To 15 Years In Jail by austonclint(m): 9:53pm On Feb 12, 2018
The Federal High Court sitting in Wawa Cantonment, Kainji, Niger State, has sentenced a Boko Haram terrorist to 15 years imprisonment.
The convict, 35-year-old Haruna Yahaya, bagged the jail term on Monday, February 12, 2018, for participating in the abduction of over 200 schoolgirls in Chibok, Borno State, in 2014.




Yahaya, whose left arm and left leg are crippled, pleaded guilty to the two counts preferred against him by the Federal Government.

He, however, pleaded for mercy, saying he was forced into the terror group.

He was said to have participated in the group’s attacks in Chibok, Chibok Local Government Area of Borno State and Gabsuri town in the Damboa Local Government of the state.

Delivering judgement, the presiding judge said the court was “not fooled” by Yahaya’s story, adding that the convict was “using the misfortune of his handicap to draw sympathy.”


The judge ruled that sentence starts counting from Monday, February 12, even though Yahaya has been in detention since 2015.

On the night of April 14-15, 2014, the sect invaded the Government Secondary School in Chibok town, Borno State, and kidnapped 276 female students of the school.

Over the next few months, 57 of the schoolgirls managed to escape.

In May 2016, one of the missing girls, Amina Ali, was also found. She claimed that the remaining girls were still in captivity, but that six had died.

1n October 2016, the terrorists released 21 of the girls while 82 more of them freed in May 2017 in an exchange deal struck by the terror group and the Federal Government.

It was reported that the sect had demanded the release of some of its commanders in the government’s custody.

It was alleged that huge amount of money was also received by the notorious group.

Founded by by Mohammed Yusuf in 2002 and later led by Abubakar Shekau, Boko Haram has killed tens of thousands of people in the northeast and displaced over 2.3 million from their homes.

In 2015, the group which had pledged allegiance to the Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS), was ranked as the world’s deadliest terror group by the Global Terrorism Index.

source :http://www.clintgist.com/court-sentences-boko-haram-terrorist-to-15-years-in-jail-id7973823-html/


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Politics / NIPSS Board Chairman John Shagaya Dies In Auto Crash by austonclint(m): 8:19pm On Feb 11, 2018


The chairman of the board of NIPSS, John Shagaya has been reported dead in an auto crash in Jos, Plateau state.

Newly appointed chairman of the NIPSS board, retired General John Nanzip Shagaya, has been reported dead after he was involved in an auto crash.
Naij reports that Shagaya died in the car accident on his way to Jos from his hometown, Langtang.

Family sources were quoted as saying the sad incident occurred on Sunday, February, 11, 2018.

The late General Shagaya was recently appointed as the chairman of the National Institute for Policy and Strategy Studies (NIPSS) by President Muhammadu Buhari.

Shagaya’s death is coming a year after the death of his wife, Pauline Tare Philomena, after a brief illness.


SOURCE :http://www.clintgist.com/nipss-board-chairman-john-shagaya-dies-in-auto-crash-id7968256-html/


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Religion / Pastor Who Sprayed Believers With Insecticide Convicted by austonclint(m): 3:17pm On Feb 10, 2018
South African court has convicted a self-styled pastor for spraying his followers in the face with domestic insect killer as a supposed cure for an illness.

The pastor Lethebo Rabalago popularly known as Doom was also found guilty of contravening the Agricultural Stock Remedies Act.

He is yet to be given a sentence after the verdict by Mookgopong Magistrates Court in Limpopo province.

On Friday, magistrate Frans Mahodi told the court the state had proved its case beyond reasonable doubt that the five people who laid assault charges were violated, South Africa’s national broadcaster SABC reports.


The magistrate said the fact that the complainants “were sprayed on their faces with Doom makes this offence worst of its kind”.

He also revealed some of them had suffered “detrimental side effects… like coughing for more than seven months” after the incident.

Photographs of Rabalago dunned “the Prophet of Doom” spraying volunteers at his church in Limpopo, in the northwest of South Africa, spread on social media in 2016.

Source: http://www.clintgist.com/pastor-convicted-for-spraying-followers-with-insecticide-id7964681-html/

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Politics / 8 Nasty Things Ex NIA Boss Abba Kyari Said About Buhari's Cos by austonclint(m): 3:34pm On Feb 07, 2018
Immediate past Acting Director-General (D-G) of the National Intelligence Agency (NIA), Mr Mohammed Dauda, has levelled grave corruption allegations against Abba Kyari who is President Buhari's Chief of Staff.
Also indicted were current DG of the NIA Rufai Abubakar and Babagana Kingibe who is a former Secretary to the Government of the Federation.

Sahara Reporters obtained a brief Dauda sent to the House of Representatives Committee on National Security and Intelligence.

Ikoyi billions
Dauda became Acting DG of the NIA on November 7, 2017 following the sack of Amb Ayo Oke on October 30, 2017.

Oke was fired by Buhari over the controversial N13 billion found in an Ikoyi apartment in April of 2017.

Here's a summary of what Dauda detailed in his brief to lawmakers:
1. Dauda says when he took over as DG of NIA in an acting capacity, there was a certain $44 million cooling in the agency's bank account.

Dauda's predecessor, Mr. Arab Yadam, said this money was "part of the intervention fund that brought the Ikoyi apartment cash scandal."

2. Yadam introduced Dauda to Brigadier-General Mohammed Ja'afaru, the Acting Director of Finance and Administration (DFA).

Ja'afaru would go on to brief Dauda on the nature of the NIA's operations and assignments.

3. No sooner had Dauda settled into his new role than Kyari and Kingibe began pressuring him to steal and share this $44 million. He resisted, he says, by telling them the money was an exhibit.

4. Dauda says Kyari and the gang also asked him to fire DFA Ja'afaru to make a clear pathway to this $44 million.

"They kept insisting that they had the mandate of the president and that the president had directed the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) to hands off the money and that it was legitimately ours.

"They verbally queried me on the logic of keeping the money as an exhibit since there was no case pending in court.

"Ambassador Kingibe told me that he was the one who, through the Chief of Staff drafted the memo that the President assented to, instructing the EFCC to hands off our case (Ikoyi cash scandal) just to convince me that there are no more encumbrances on the money," Dauda  stated in the brief seen by Sahara Reporters.

5. Dauda says Kyari, Kingibe and Abubakar would ask him to hand out money to their girlfriends for trips abroad.

"They wanted money for medical treatment or holidays abroad for their families and girlfriends. I met and gave a lady Ambassador Kingibe simply introduced to me as "Angela"  money twice at the car park of the Hilton Hotel.

"Once $50,000 and the second time $20,000, which apparently did not impress him. Even the current DG NIA once called me on WhatsApp, just like Amb. Kingibe always does and said that his Oga was traveling to London for medical check-up and he suggested that I should find something for him as a sign of good will.

"So, I reluctantly gave him $50,000 against my will, a decision that made me sad throughout the day," he said.

6. Dauda added that Mr. Kingibe collected over $200,000 from him during the time he headed the PRP (Presidential Review Panel).

7. Kingibe, Kyari and Abubakar also told Dauda not to cooperate with National Security Adviser (NSA) Babagana Monguno for obvious reasons.

"I was instructed to channel all our activities, contacts, concerns and complaints through the Office of the Chief of Staff Abba Kyari only," Dauda says.

8. Dauda believes he wasn't made substantive DG of the NIA because he refused to play ball.

The story reads:

"They then suggested that it was his turn to do something in return as he was likely to get the president's nod as the substantive DG only if he could immediately make $2 million available.

"I told them it was not going to be possible as the only money available was the $44M and I didn't know how to approach the Acting DFA. They also told me at the meeting that if I can't  sack the DFA, they would send someone to do it soon.

"That was my last communication with them until I heard of my removal from office on Wednesday 11 January on Channels Television around 8 pm."

source: http://www.clintgist.com/8-nasty-things-ex-nia-boss-said-about-abba-kyari-id7949682-html/

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Crime / Re: Nigerian Man Accused Of Cutting Italian Girl Into Pieces Escapes Murder Charge by austonclint(m): 3:10pm On Feb 07, 2018
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Romance / 9 Signs The Person You’re Dating Is Right For You - Relationship Experts by austonclint(m): 2:03pm On Feb 07, 2018
If you already have a partner this Valentine’s Day, congratulations, you’ve beaten the system.

For the rest of us, modern dating is a minefield. There are so many rules and games to play it’s easy to lose track. You might be “left on read” by someone you really liked, and your mind may spin out of control when you’re over-analysing what their last few messages really meant.

The woes don’t necessarily stop when you find someone. With Tinder right at your fingertips, it’s tempting to go back and see if there is someone out there who is just a bit more perfect. With so much available choice, how are you supposed to know if someone is right for you? When should you stop over-thinking and finally commit?

Business Insider asked nine relationship experts for the signs to look out for when you’re trying to figure out if someone is right for you.

Here’s what they said:

1. They pass the ‘bar test’


“As simple as this may seem, I call it the ‘bar test’ to know if you’re with the right person. When you’re at a bar (or restaurant, wherever) with your new partner, are you looking around to see who else is out there or who might see you two together? Or, are you perfectly content with your partner, and you want everyone there to notice you with him/her? If the latter is true, then he/she passes the test. But if it’s the former, it might be time to decide whether being in a relationship with this person is your best option.”

— Erika Ettin, dating coach and founder of dating site A Little Nudge


2. They don’t hold you back


“A person who can authentically be excited about your success and goals in life is someone who won’t feel the need to hold you back. Most unhealthy relationships include some form of sabotaging of one partner. Dating someone who is happy with their life means they can be happy for you and alongside of you.”

— Shannon Thomas, therapist and author of “Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse“


3. They don’t want to change you


“When you listen to your heart, you’ll feel whether or not the person you’re dating is right for you. This is known as ‘intuition’ — your heart’s message to you. Almost everyone can think back and recall a time when they didn’t listen to it. When you feel good, feel that your partner is patient and true, treats you the same in public as he/she does at home, then you’re on the right path. Keep in mind that your intuition may send out warnings as well. It may come as a gut reaction. For example, if your partner wants to change you in any way. He/she is not accepting you for who you are. If that happens, run. That is a sign of a controlling person and he/she will never treat you properly.”

— Tracy Malone, a relationship expert on YouTube


4. They fit into your life


“A good sign that someone is right for you is if you can imagine that person fitting in to other parts of your life and not just living in a microcosm of the relationship. Ask yourself: Do they get along with the other people in my life? Do I get along with their friends and family? Do we have mutual interests and things that we enjoy doing together that can be a source of sustainability in a relationship? If the answer is yes, then you may be on the right track.”

— Holly Daniels, a doctor who specialises anxiety, co-dependency, and relationship addiction




5. They listen to you


“One of the signs that your date is likely to make a good mate is that the he or she shows genuine interest in your life and listens attentively when you are speaking. They also remember things that you have told them about yourself.

“Conversely, if the person that you are dating nearly always monopolises the conversation, does not ask you about yourself or your day, and then tunes you out when you start speaking, these are clear signals that your date is not really very interested in you as a person except as an audience for them. If they are not interested now at the beginning of the relationship, they are likely to be even less interested later on.”

— Elinor Greenberg, psychologist and author of “Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations: The Pursuit of Love, Admiration, and Safety“


6. They’re happy when you’re happy


“It certainly helps if you’re dating someone that you want to make happy and who wants to make you happy in return. Couples who each truly place the needs and wants of their partners on par with or above their own seem handle a lifetime of compromising, juggling priorities, and collaborating better than couples who individually pursue their own best interests.”

— Laura VanderDrift, director of the Close Relationships Lab at Syracuse University


7. They comfort you when you’re sad


“One of the major signs that tells you if the person you’re dating is right for you is how they treat you when you’re sad, crying, having a bad day, or just emotional. Are they compassionate? Are they attentive? Do they stop what they’re doing to give you their attention? Are they distracted when you’re expressing your feelings and most of all, do they know when to just give you a hug? It may seem simple but this is a very important trait to know what kind of human being the person is. If they criticise you for being sad or tell you that how you feel is silly that you’re over-reacting, that may be something to pay attention to. They could show signs of narcissism. Although later, you may think you were over-reacting, it may be just as important to know you were being listened to in the onset.”

— Catenya McHenry, journalist and author of “Married to a Narcissist“


8. They have boundaries


“Something that is important is whether this person has boundaries. Boundaries are important because it means someone isn’t a pushover, and they can communicate when they are unhappy. When we are unhappy and we don’t say anything, our resentment builds up and boils over. Some women prefer the man to take charge. Some women want the man to be more passive. So you’ve got to think about your values. In healthy relationships, growth is very important, generally in the same direction, so you need to be able to have arguments, and conflicts and points of disagreements without killing each other. Rather it’s an opportunity to say, hey, this is how your brain works, this is how I feel, and can we actually learn from each other in this point in time, and grow in the same general direction, with our own wisdom and our own failures.”

— Perpetua Neo, psychologist, expert in toxic relationships, and creator of the Detox Your Heart program


9. The balance is in their favour


“One of the first ports of call of an effective narcissist or an effective manipulator is to dissociate you from your own capacity to listen to yourself and your own intuition. Once he’s marginalised your intuition, you then margianalise your common sense and your friends and other things. So I think it starts at a very subtle level, to listen to that sense that maybe something is wrong here, and just keeping yourself aware of that voice.

“Maybe it sounds a bit cruel, but in the fog of love, we abandon that voice quite quickly, because the other person is quickly perfect. So it can seem cruel to ask yourself, if anything were wrong here, what would I select first about what might be wrong? But when you give yourself permission to ask that question, then the intuition and the hunches can come back. And you may decide that you’ve considered them, there are ten things you don’t like that much, but there are a thousand things you love. Then great, get on with loving them. But ask yourself that question, and give yourself permission to consider those other things. It can salvage your intuition, and that part of you for good reason, although that may not be comfortable.”

— Jonathan Marshall, psychotherapist and executive coach


Source: http://www.clintgist.com/strategy-relationship-experts-say-these-are-the-9-signs-the-person-youre-dating-is-right-for-you-and-some-are-surprisingly-simple-id7948785-html/

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