JallowBah: In Norway, if you work 6months of your pregnancy, you can choose to stay home and get payed either 80% of your payment evwery month for 11months, or 100% normal payment every month for 8months.

We are damn lucky to have this arrangement, and I do agree; it should be available in other countries as well. At least 6 months, considering the fact that breastfeeding is highly recommended as the only food for the first 4-6 months.

You just confirmed what i mentioned above.If there could be legisltation here too , similar arrangement can be put in place.

Efemena_xy: Invest in a good br.eas.t pump and get wifey to express some bottles of milk for your son the night before, or before she leaves for work. Enough to see him through till she returns.

But, it's absolutely, absolutely, important that you have constant light supply as you don't want harmful bacteria fermenting and growing in the expressed milk. If you can't guarantee constant light supply, then you'll just have to switch to formula feeds.


At six months, you should start introducing your baby to semi-solids anyway.

We already have a b.reast pump. But experts say the more the baby sucks the more milk the breas.t produces. So sucking is better than expressing the milk. Then there is the problem with preservation of expressed breas.t milk as you have rightly mentioned.

parisienne:

I don't get, are you saying that exclusive breastfeeding makes women age faster? If so I will have you know that the more you breastfeed the more your womb contracts back to the way it was pre pregnancy. It was hard but I manged to do 3 months exclusive and my tummy is as flat as the wall and you will never believe I have ever seen a delivery room

If a woman cant cope with exclusive that is a different matter to but the waking up at night is just for a while she will have plenty of time for her beauty sleep as the child grows older.

Explain to them please. The exclusive thing is not associated with aging anywhere in the world. Nigerian like unscientific superstitions too much.

greatgod2012: @op, the maternity leave in Nigeria is now 84 working days, which is almost 4 months, as for me o, at 4 months, i introduce light cereals to my kids, so, i think 4 months exclusive breasfeeding is okay, please, dont overstress madam, some kids are not even breasfed at all, due to one reason or the other, and they survived, i dont believe that kids that are exclusively breastfed are better that those that are not, so, if after 4 months, madam is resuming work, introduce light cereal to him. Some organisations have daycare inside their compound for nursing mothers, if there is one in madam's working place, let her use it, she will be going there once in a while to attend to the baby in form of breastfeeding, which means the baby will still be suckling, but not exclusively, and the night is there for him to suckle through out. So, no cause for alarm, your boy will still enjoy the bosom milk very well.
But if you still insist on exclusive breastfeeding for you baby till 6 months, then adopt Efe's method, get a very good breast pump, and make sure there is constant light, because it will have to be put in the fridge, then, when its time for the baby to feed, the milk is warmed and given to him.
May God bless your family and ours too.

Many thanks. I alway know there are wonderful people on Nairaland. and you are one of them.

My wife delivered a baby boy last month. Doctors, nurses and other well-meaning friend and colleagues advised that she should brea.st feed the baby exclusively for six months. They narrated the benefits of doing so and my wife and I welcome the idea. She is very willing to do it. My boy is a baby that loves to suck very much. He sucks up to 8 or 10 times daily. Sometimes four times in the night. So we have to wake up in the night for three or four times every day since 7 week ago. this is very stressful for my wife and me. Now if my wife is to go and resume work after the usual three months maternity leave, how will she be able to carry out the exclusive brea.st feeding?
I heard from someone that in the western world they give a leave of between 6 months to one year. So why cant Nigeria working class mothers too enjoy at least six months? If Nigerian mothers must give to their infants the best worldwide acceptable care then why cant they be given this opportunity? My conclusion is that there should be a legislation in this regard for mothers to properly take care of their newborns. What do you think?
Lets hear your opinion people.

Otunba_1:

And how is that concern you? Some people runs private lessons or business during their one year service program. If my friend could saved almost #700k while serving in Ibadan,I don't see why he caanot do the same.

@op, do you have any vocational skill? Let me know so that I can advise you better.

you need to go back to school and pay very good attention to your english language teachers.

its not by force to post on the internet. smh.

But they are not yet sure it is a cure.

alfajamiu: On this case I may direct you to my dad in ibadan he know well about it if you can do that god will solve the problem for your mum

Ok. u can give d address herr or send to formailsalone (at) gmail..com. Thanks.

Please i need your help people. my mother suffers from a fungi disease on her toes. the infection makes the underside of her ten toes appear wet and white. it sometimes smell out. she has been having this problem for years and had received diferent treatment but it refuses to go. I did a little search online that made me conclude the infection must be called "athlete's foot". though i may be wrong.

pls if you know any effective medication or better still herbal medication, help me with it. thanks.

We welcomed our new baby about four weeks ago in my family. Applying what is written in the above article has proven very useful in our family. Most of the instances cited there happen as if they have known what will happen in my house.

Charles: * “Mary and I were thrilled with the arrival of our
baby daughter. But I lost a lot of sleep in the first few months
after she was born. We had all sorts of plans for how to deal
with her, but all of them quickly vanished.”

Mary: “With the birth of our baby, my life was no longer my
own. Suddenly, everything revolved around the next bottle,
the next diaper change, or the next attempt to quiet the baby.
The adjustment was immense. It took months before my
relationship with Charles returned to normal.”

MANY would agree that having children is one of the greatest
joys in life. The Bible describes children as “a reward” from
God. ( Psalm 127:3 ) New parents like Charles and Mary also
know that children can change a marriage in unexpected ways.
For example, a new mother may focus on her baby and be
surprised at how her body and heart respond to each whimper
of the newborn. As for the new father, he may marvel at the
bond formed between his wife and the baby, but he may also
worry about suddenly being left out.
In fact, the birth of a first child may be a catalyst for a crisis in
a marriage. An individual’s emotional insecurities and a
couple’s unresolved issues may surface, exposed and magnified
by the strains of parenthood.
How can new parents adjust to the hectic first few months
when the newborn requires all their attention? What can a
couple do to maintain their intimacy? How can they handle any
disagreements about parenting? Let us examine each of those
challenges and consider how Bible principles can help a couple
to meet them.

CHALLENGE 1: Life suddenly revolves
around the child.
A new baby consumes its mother’s time and thoughts. She
may feel a deep sense of emotional fulfillment in caring for her
baby. Meanwhile, her husband might feel neglected. Manuel,
who lives in Brazil, says: “My wife’s shift of focus from me to
our baby was the most difficult change for me to accept.
Before, it was just the two of us, and then all of a sudden, it
was just my wife and the baby.” How can you cope with the
upheaval?
A key to success: Be patient. “Love is long-suffering and
kind,” says the Bible. Love “does not look for its own
interests, does not become provoked.” ( 1 Corinthians 13:4, 5 )
When a new baby arrives, what can both husband and wife do
to apply that counsel?
A wise husband proves his love for his wife by educating
himself about the physical and mental impact childbirth has on
a woman. If he does so, he will realize why his wife may be
prone to sudden mood changes. * Adam, who lives in France
and is the father of an 11-month-old girl, admits: “My wife’s
mood changes are sometimes difficult to deal with. But I try to
remember that her frustration is not really directed at me
personally. Rather, it is a response to the unfamiliar stresses of
our new situation.”
Does your wife sometimes misunderstand your attempts to
help out? If so, do not quickly become offended. ( Ecclesiastes
7:9 ) Instead, patiently look for her best interests, not your
own, and you will avoid getting upset.​— Proverbs 14:29 .
On the other hand, a discerning wife will try to encourage her
husband in his new role. She will involve him in child care,
patiently showing him how to change diapers or prepare
feeding bottles​—even though he may seem clumsy at first.
Ellen, a 26-year-old mother, recognized that she needed to
make some adjustments in the way she treated her husband.
“I had to become less possessive of the baby,” she says. “And
I had to remind myself not to be too picky when my husband
tried to apply my suggestions about caring for the infant.”

TRY THIS: Wives, if your husband performs some child-care
task in a different way than you do, resist the urge to criticize
him or to redo the job. Commend him for what he does
adequately, and you will build his confidence and encourage
him to give you the support you need. Husbands, cut back on
nonessential activities so that you will have as much time as
possible to help your wife, especially during the first few
months after the baby is born.

CHALLENGE 2: Your relationship as a
couple weakens.
Exhausted by fragmented sleep and unexpected crises, many
new parents struggle to remain close. Vivianne, a French
mother of two infants, admits: “At first, I was so focused on
my duty as a mother that I almost forgot my role as a wife.”
On the other hand, a husband may fail to recognize that
pregnancy has taken a toll on his wife​—both physically and
emotionally. A new baby can consume time and energy that
both of you formerly used to remain emotionally and sexually
intimate. How, then, can a couple ensure that their helpless,
lovable baby does not become a wedge that drives them
apart?

A key to success: Reaffirm
your love for each other.
Describing marriage, the Bible
states: “A man will leave his
father and his mother and he
must stick to his wife and they
must become one flesh.” *
(Genesis 2:24 ) Jehovah God
intended that children
eventually leave their parents.
By contrast, God expects the one-flesh bond between a
husband and his wife to last a lifetime. (Matthew 19:3-9 ) How
can appreciating that fact help a couple with a new baby to
maintain proper priorities?
Vivianne, quoted earlier, says: “I thought about the words at
Genesis 2:24 , and that verse helped me realize that I had
become ‘one flesh’ with my husband​—not with my child. I saw
the need to strengthen our marriage.” Theresa, the mother of
a two-year-old girl, says: “If I start to feel distant from my
husband, I make immediate efforts to give him my full
attention, even if only for a little while each day.”
If you are a husband, what can you do to strengthen the
marriage? Tell your wife that you love her. Back up your words
with acts of tenderness. Make a conscious effort to allay any
feelings of insecurity that your wife may have. Sarah, a 30-
year-old mother, says: “A wife needs to know that she is still
valued and loved, even though her body is not what it was
before her pregnancy.” Alan, who lives in Germany and is the
father of two boys, sees the need for providing emotional
support. He says: “I have always tried to be a shoulder for my
wife to cry on.”
Understandably, the arrival of a baby disrupts a couple’s sexual
relationship. So a husband and wife need to discuss each
other’s needs. The Bible states that changes in a couple’s
sexual relationship should be made by “mutual
consent.” (1 Corinthians 7:1-5 ) That requires communication.
Depending on your upbringing or cultural background, you
might be reluctant to talk about sexual matters with your
spouse. But such conversations are vital as a couple adjust to
the routines of parenthood. Be empathetic, patient, and
honest. (1 Corinthians 10:24 ) You and your spouse will thus
avoid misunderstandings and will deepen your love for each
other.​— 1 Peter 3:7, 8 .

A couple can also deepen the love they feel for each other by
expressing appreciation. A wise husband will realize that much
of the work performed by a new mother goes unseen.
Vivianne says: “By the end of the day, I often feel as if I have
accomplished nothing​—even though I have been busy caring
for the baby constantly!” Despite being busy, a discerning wife
will be careful not to belittle her husband’s contribution to the
family.​— Proverbs 17:17 .

TRY THIS: Mothers, if possible, take a nap when your baby is
sleeping. By thus “recharging your batteries,” you will have
more energy for your marriage. Fathers, whenever possible,
get up at night to feed or change the baby so that your wife
can rest. Regularly reaffirm your love for your mate by leaving
notes for her, sending her text messages, or talking to her on
the telephone. As a couple, make time to have one-on-one
conversations. Talk about each other, not only about your
child. Keep your friendship with your spouse strong, and you
will be better able to handle the challenges of parenthood.

CHALLENGE 3: You disagree about
parenting.
A couple could find that their backgrounds cause them to
argue. A Japanese mother named Asami and her husband,
Katsuro, faced this challenge. Asami says: “I felt that Katsuro
was too easy on our daughter, while he felt that I was being
too hard on her.” How can you avoid working against each
other?
A key to success: Communicate with your mate, and
support each other. Wise King Solomon wrote: “By
presumptuousness one only causes a struggle, but with those
consulting together there is wisdom.” (Proverbs 13:10 ) How
much do you know about your mate’s approach to raising
children? If you wait until your baby is born before discussing
specific child-training issues, you may find that you end up
struggling with each other instead of dealing with the
challenge successfully.
For example, what answers to the following questions have
you agreed on: “How can we teach our child good eating and
sleeping habits? Should we always pick up the baby if it cries at
bedtime? How should we react to potty-training setbacks?”
Obviously, the decisions you make will be different from those
of other couples. Ethan, the father of two, says: “You need to
talk things over in order to be on the same wavelength. Then,
together, you will be able to respond to your child’s needs.”

TRY THIS: Think about the parenting techniques that your own
parents used when raising you. Decide which of their attitudes
and actions you would like to imitate when raising your child.
Also decide which, if any, attitudes and actions you want to
avoid repeating. Discuss your conclusions with your mate.

A Child Can Change a Marriage for Good
Just as a pair of inexperienced skaters need time and patience
to find their balance on the ice, you need time to adjust to
your new roles as parents. Eventually, though, you will gain
confidence.
Childrearing will test your commitment to your marriage and
forever change your relationship with each other. However, it
will also give you the opportunity to
valuable qualities.
If you apply the Bible’s wise advice, your experience will be
like that of a father named Kenneth. He says: “Raising children
has had a good effect on my wife and me. We are now less
self-centered, and we have become more loving and
understanding.” Those sorts of changes are certainly welcome
in a marriage.

ASK YOURSELF . . .
During the last week, what have I done to show my
spouse that I appreciate what he or she does for the family?

When did I last make time to have a heartfelt
conversation with my spouse that did not revolve
around child rearing?


www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/wp20110501/children-change-marriage/

Sorry double post

https://www.nairaland.com/1345091/new-baby-coping-how-children



Moderator pls remove this and leave the other one. thanks.




Here is the link again:

https://www.nairaland.com/1345091/new-baby-coping-how-children

@op did u call that panic?if everybody is taking shots of the plane, where is the panic?

***misleading title****

chidindufrank: Resultant effects of Love letter,nyashing ,smoothie,badoo,amotila,2go,whatsapp,bbm(pinging),twiter,facebook,nimbox,nijapenpals, and Nairaland.

you forgot those parents that paid mercenaries to write waec & neco for their children.

Many mothers with newborns and toddlers use various mineral based oil for their babies and these with attendant troubles. They are known to cause rashes and so much discomfort for babies. Is there a natural way of taking care of your baby? The answer is an emphatic YES. This is a natural ingredient cream-Shea butter. (pronounced shee) It has been referred to as women gold for obvious reasons. It is called ori in yoruba. It is known to produce amazing results on babies and adult skins. Some of the benefits include:


1.Shea Butter nourishes and protects your baby’s delicate skin like nothing else available.

2.it protects your baby’s bottom from diaper rash, or if your baby develops cradle cap, shea butter is the only cream you will need to soothe and heal this condition.Relieves redness of the area and protects the skin from wetness.

3. your baby will love having daily shea butter massages.

4. An emollient which penetrates the skin quickly, Shea Butter moisturizes your scalp and helps to reduce and eliminate dandruff.

5.Prevents skin aging. Acts as a protective layer preventing skin dehydration and protecting it from external factors such as heat, cold, wind and sudden changes in climate.

6. Acts as a powerful antioxidant. Smooths and restructure winkles, scars and other imperfection of the skin.

7. It is used as a sunscreen before and after tanning, protecting skin of the sun damages such as UVB and UVA.

8. Prevents and treats stretch marks with great results. Ideal for pregnant women. Also prevents cracking on the bosom skin.

9. If you have chronically dry skin or Eczema, using Shea Butter provides natural moisture to your skin and relief from itching. I use this on my two year old before bedtime to ensure he doesn't scratch himself raw during the night.

10. Applying Shea Butter immediately helps take the sting out of insect bites. This will allow the bite to heal faster, as you are not scratching.

Mothers, your best bet for your babies and families cream is shea butter

@op
I hav 2 questions 4 u:
1.hav u revealed your own age 2 him? u must do so because he has also has s right 2 decide whether to marry older lady.if he finds out later & he doesnt like it,then u are playing wit heartbreak

2.if age is not a barrier to him,do u think u can truly respect a younger man after marriage & poaaibly in the face od changed circumatances(e.g. poor economic conditns)? marriage is not only about love frm a lady but also about deep respect.

** If you can answer yes to both questns then the relatnship shd end up in marriage asap & i say happy married life in advance.

**If you can not answer yes to both questns then the relatnship shd be stopped asap.


#my truthful two coins
#frm a married man

Are you sure they are not already winning the market? Im typing this post with Techno N3. Its doing the job.

Is shea butter imcluded? waiting 4 your reply

Many of us male ad female have enjoyed a favourite nigerian soup irrespective of our tribe and upbringing. Some of us that care will like to prepare some of these delicacies. Can we share from those that know how? If you know how to prepare any nigerian delicacy, just share your knowledge.

Let me begin with the popular yoruba soup that is rich in iron & good for the blood, ewedu. I will give the traditional way of preparation
there are other slightly different methods


Menu
1. ftesh ewedu leafs
2. kaun (dont know what they call it in your area)
3.iru (locust bean condiment)
4.salt

pick the green ewedu leafs & avoid the yellow ones.wash these and drain away the water frim it.

put little wAter in the pot(quantity depends on quantity of ewedu leafs).

add a pinch of kaun(this must be just sufficient for the quantity of ewedu & water,not too small,not too much) to the water and put the pot on fire to boil the water. add ewedu leafs to the boiling water. allow to cook until the leafs become soft.

match with ewedu broom or blend with a blendet until it becomes fine. put back on fire & add iru & salt to taste.allow to cook for 3 to 5 minutes. its done. ready to be enjoyed with amala, fufu,garri,etc with stew,fish,beef,chicken,etc.


Oya teach us how to prepare your own delicacy.

ConcernMan: Where is the MOD it is high time this hit the front page. Who can help us reach the mod for this section. We need see the choices of other Nigerians at large. Least I forget. As a child I enjoyed kwunu and Zobo. That's definitely Hausa staple drink.

Already on the homepage even b4 i posted my first commrnt.

Eifeh: Yoruba people how true is this? I have not seeing it in any yoruba restaurant over my 2 year in ibadan.

Very true.

Search well & go into ibadan interior you will surely find it.

fingard02k:
.
Get your facts right...Egwusi soup is an Igbo soup not yoruba.

Egusi (yoruba) or egwusi(igbo) is made from melon seed.

As a yoruba man that was born & bread in oyo state, i can confirm to you that egusi is no.1 yoruba soup. in fact, as a youth i have worked severally on farmland where melon was cultivated & hatvested.i always enjoy the egusi soup.

i am also aware that igbo people also prepare the soup but in a slightly different way.
while in lagos,i used to enjoy akpu with the igbo version of the soup with or without bitter leaf.

fingard02k:
.
Get your facts right...Egwusi soup is an Igbo soup not yoruba.

Egusi (yoruba) or egwusi(igbo) is made from melon seed
As a yoruba man that was born & bread in oyo state, i can confirm ti you that egusi is no.1 yoruba soup. in fact, as a youth i have worked severally on farmland where melon eas cultivated & hatvested.i always enjoy the egusi soup.

i am also aware that igbo people also prepare the soup but in a slightly different way
while in lagos,i used to enjoy akpu with the igbo version of the soup with or without bitter leaf.

Temismith: Mortuary science
law edu
craze maintainance
etc.

which one is craze maintenance?

AskProf: 1 man (Ziona Chana, Indian), 39 wives, 94 children, 14-daughters-in-law & 33 grandchildren.

How old is the father of 94 children from 39 wives?

Creative.

What is the year of make?

abbygeal760: dated a guy for close to 2years,we had a minor issue
And he said he wanted out,and 3weeks later I found
Out he engaged another lady.I was so devastated and thought
I might not be able to get over it but God really strenghteen me
Through out this period and I have moved on with my life.he wants to
Come back after 3month,he said he realized he doesn't love the lady and he has been
Finding it hard to get my thought off his mind. I told him we can't come
Back together because if couldn't propose after almost 2yrs of the$
Relationship then he doesn't worth it.matured advise please

you have to weigh his action very critically. Do u think he really love u at this moment? If so do u also truly love him b4 u broke up? Do u love him now? Have u not found anoda man? If he loves u & u love him & u hav not met anoda man, u can forgive him & accept him if he will promise not 2 act as he did again because all of us make mistakes & take wrong steps sometimes. He must hav realized his mistake & repented. If u hav met anoda man i will rather advice u to stay with d new man if u love him. If u leave d new man 4 d previous one then u & d first man are same in action.