fiolaP: my advice...be with whoever makes you happy and stay happy...it is quite important...

Amelian: Ok, it goes like this.. Am in my early 30s , good looking, building my career to a nice level, the kind of guys am attracted 2 are cute tall chubby guys.. I don't settle for less ... I guess that's y am still single...ok , fast forward.. I was at a BUSSTOP waiting for a bus, when a car slowly drove close to me and this handsome dude, lowered his head in his car to say hi, and if he should give me ride... I looked at him, was skeptical abit, but I noticed his baby face and the way he beckoned on me softly, I sighed and I hopped in.. He introduced himself, but he looks kind of young..especially his face which I secretly liked.

We got talking, he was like he is in town to assist his dad in their family company.. I was like,,oh ok..that's cool. ..... We started dating, thenafter few months , he dropped d bombshell that he has a confession to make...And we have to meet, I was like what's wrong.. He says he is actually working for his dad , part time, though but he is in his Finals in the university and he is about to go his NYSC Programme. And he is posted to Yobe state! ... I was like wat! Why didnt u tell me , yur a student!.. I felt so bad, that he could conveniently omit that info , of being a student! The question , I was dreading to ask him, now came up... I shook my head and asked how old are you? He looked down and says he is 26 yrs..oh my God! ... I somehow knew he was younger, but not that young...and at then, I was 31. I felt so bad , I just told him , to go and leave me alone.. I felt so hurt, I felt so alone... Cause av gotten to love him so much... I never imagined, I won't see him for a whole yr!

Good thing here is you didn't have to find our yourself, he has a conscience for him to have opened up to you, he could have just played you if he wanted to! Don't listen to friends, the ruin relationship, just follow your mind but keep it open.


He tried calling , texting... I ignored him... I just want to get over everything and move on.....did i eventually move on, yea but i was not satisfied with two other relationships, i had...He eventually travelled to the north..and I moved on... After two failed relationships again with guys my age bracket and older too... I just decided to forget abt guys and focus more in my career .

After a yr, I received a text message from my once Prince Charming, he is back to town, and wants to meet with me...
Then he called my line, I felt so soft listening to his voice... And we agreed to meet... He asked , how far av gone with work... I told him, av just bought a car a month ago .. So we are now car owners,, not only him ... he laughed and said that's cool, what brand ... I told him..

Now , av forgiven him, we started dating again.. But my friends are like he is younger, he's just done from his youth service ..why do I want to be serious with him?. They don't know his prospects and I can't keep on explaining that he has potentials. One of my frnd a guy even said, he hopes, my bf is not back because I have a car! ...
Can u imagine? And that I shud be careful and he is after my money...I was like, listen to yourself, becos am living well, does not mean I shud be wary of guys and see them as opportunists?

I know there r bad guys , also there are bad girls too..But pls don't judge him, he is with me.... Just for me and he has great dreams and strong potentials, which I know deep down , he will succeed....he is branching out from his dad's company, and has great plans he is working on...why shud I allow suspection to creep in? He has never asked me for money, cos he is ok.

Yea , we do av little issues like most couples do.... But we make up quickly and we understand ourselves better ...pple shud stop creating doubts in couples mind...

It's not good, it's not fair.... ...stop judging the intentions of a seemingly good guy... Or what do u guys think?
Cos, I don't want doubts about him loving me truly to creep in... And he is so handsome : and bubbly with life...

Atheist:-D:
Amelian,

I just dont want to say nasty stuff to you so I will keep it simple...

You met this guy, he seemed really nice, you loved him, he probably loved you too. You found out his age (5 yrs younger). Now age difference can be a problem in a relationship or marriage. It is however not insurmountable. It can be overcome with determination, mutual respect and love. So what did you do when you found out his age... you dumped him.

Now you are older and getting desperate, you have also been handled roughly by your age mates and older fellows (who smell your desperacy) you want to come back to this guy. Hmmm.....

I reckon you shouldnt bother. He wont take it likely that you dumped him because of the age. You probably dont respect him too. You are also desperate, this is not a good state of mind to have when seeking a partner. Relax, take your time and focus on meeting someone you truly care about.

rigormortis: the first day you met him, would have considered talking to him if he didnt have that car?, i thought you said you like tall and chubby guys, now young dude comes in a flashy car and you sharply miss you period while standing on the high way, you suddenly dont [b]car[/b]e about height or chubbiness anymore.
well to more serious stuff, the guy might just resent you for taking him for granted for over a year, what if those other relationships have worked out, you wont be considering him now, and you might also want to rein in on your feelings cos the first few most of being reunited with a long lost crush/bf/lover can give you intense feelings which fade with time. also the guy is young and needs to sow wild oats you come in very handy. on the other hand the guy might really love you, if thats the case dont act like you are older and start tutoring him on stuff, if you feel he does love you, have a date with him and gently drop hints about the future, if he keeps talking about how awfull it is for man city to sack mancini or how great last night was, hit harder, if he declines comment or he begins to hem and haw, then have a nice time with him but dont start shopping for wedding clothes just yet or stop picking calls from that pestering guy cos if you force a younger man to marry you, hes either going to cheat or resent u in future, on the other if you say nothing, you could keep having a nice time till you are 40 and hes 34 then suddenly he will marry your younger sisters friend that you thought was plain looking....just cos hes younger....dont force him but dont waste time, bit of a paradox.....keep your eyes shined, you vag. closed (occasionally to know his reaction, if hes just in for the ride) and your options open

Amelian: @ Bennyraz, God bless you jor.... Have henceforth made up mind , not to listen to hypocrites, and bad belle pple... Am happy, my bf is happy... Bad pple can go to blazes for all I care..thanks dear.

who you be wen you think say u get bad belle