omobabaolowo:
I am very curious about knowing,the love lives of chubby ladies,i for one,am a chubby girl,quite pretty cos people do tell me that i have a pretty face,but one problem,ve always had is the fact,that i dont get as much attention as my friends,do,which has really affected,my self-esteem,there has never been a situation whereby guys will see me and my friends and opt.for me,instead they usually go after my friends,and even those that go after me,when they see my friends,they start tripping for them and go after them,and stop chasing,me,the one that even really got to me is recently,that i met a guy,we later became friends and started talking,on the fone,after a while we started dating and we had sex,all through the sex,all he kept telling me was,i need to lose weight,i was quite embarrassed but did not show it.My chubbiness is affecting my self-esteem and sometimes makes me feel am not worthy to be in a relationship and have sex,cos the guy woul eventually lose interest cos of my weight..Ve tried many ways in loosing weight,which i often lose but end up adding again,so i just wanna know on nairaland,if other chubby ladies out there,also feel the way,that i feel about their size,in their relationships and in finding love

alutacontinua:
unfortunately my marriage is not upto 5 yrs, but i have learnt that in a relationship, if u concentrate more on the positive side and overlook those silly mistakes which makes us who we are, life will be a better place. and remember life is full if phases, so never let the present phase deprivr you of the happiness the next phase brings.
op, pls, i would like you to expansiate further on this point. When you fall out of the love, what keeps you going? I understand that you fall out of the love....i look at my parents or couples of over 10 years and I definitely know that they don't have that feelings that I have when I think about my boyfriend...but my question remains, what keeps the relationship going when those feelings dissappear? Is it the feeling that you're stuck or what? Please, explain! Other married folks can also explain. Please, if you're not married for 5 years and above, maybe you should not bother.

Osahon7: I dont like her..i heard she is still single?

Okon.akpan:
My wife and I have been married for about two years now with a son, we reside in Calabar and I work at Eket. I spend some weeks at work due to the nature of my work. We dated for more than a yr before we married but knew and dated when we were in the university for few months. When we were dating, she was nice, respectful, understanding, caring and tolerating.

Things changed when we married, she became hot tempered, impatient, stonehearted, unforgiving, isolates my friends and rants angrily if things are not done her way. She complains whenever I present a gift to her either is too expensive or too cheap (fake). She cannot be pleased or satisfied; its either what I did is too much or not enough. She has issues with neighbours and the previous places we have resided.

She has issues with almost all her siblings, she don't trust anybody not even me, and she suspects anybody when negative incident occurs and thinks everybody around her is diabolic. She is very economical and complains when I spend money on my people but wants me to be spending money on her people and on her. She told me that she don't have feelings for me again which shows in her.

Things became worst when her mother came for child birth visit, she became more aggressive in everything, she nags a lot and would keep on talking for hours even if I decide to ignore her, in-short, the more I ignore her, the more she talks. During any argument between us when I’m at work, she cuts the phone on me and does not answer my calls nor call me for days or weeks until I come back home.

Previously we resolve our differences within a day but this had changed. She wants to do all the talking while I just sit and listen to her, when I speak, she would want to raise her voice on me and as I resist her, she would wear a stony face, snub me and start crying moments later, the snubbing will continue for days.

I need advice from this house on what to do, I can't continue like this. I don't know how my child is; I don't know what is going on in my house as I'm in Off Shore. My wife has changed into what I cannot explain, she want to have the final say in my house and control me but I've refused. What do I do cos, I must confess, it disturbing at work and I don't know the future of our marriage.

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babylast: Dear naira landers, this is my first time of creating a topic and i will implore the married men and women to kindly offer their advice . i will be glad if this post is on the front page.
My marriage is just about seven months old. My husband is hosting his elder brother who came in from the US for the holiday and will be spending few days with us before we all travel to the village. in other to impress his brother brother, my husband had us moved out from our bedroom to another room for his brother during his stay, vacating my matrimonial room and bed for an in law, although we have a guest room which nobody is occupying at present one reason because there is A/C in it which is absent in the guest room. What happens when he comes in with his girl friend or his fiancee in few months time? my point is this really neccesary, am not pleased with it and am thinking of discussing it with him today but first want to hear objective views from you. the experienced married women should please comment. thank you