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Joker09:
Exactly!!! This is so ME!. Maybe they aren’t interested in me, yes. Also look at it from this angle, what if they are just very principled and never let a guy they’re just meeting have his way with them no matter how much they like him? Coz these girls were really happy that i talked to them and even so eager to give their numbers but they won’t just let me have my way easily like I used to. And yes I actually love that idea of inviting them close to a joint close to my place and from there go to my place, I’ve used this strategy before when I used to do ‘dates’ and I’ll say it’s one of the best strategies. I’ll learn to adjust and find a balance with everything anyway. Thanks so much for your input bro!!

Personally,I don't believe the terms "woman" and "principles" go together.When a woman likes a man that fits her criteria and wants him to stick around,all those "principles" are quickly dropped.Those ladies who rejected your advances were trying to game you (chase them,get you into a LTR to likely extract resources from you etc)

mrpaedo:
Nairaland Redpill Post of the Day

The poster perfectly described "the wall"

Joker09:
NOTED. Wise words from the great pansophist. I really appreciate your inputs in this. Yes I understand that part clearly now and I know what to do now. I have to confess I am one of the guys that meet a girl today and I have my way with her within a day of 2 after meeting her, I literally make my phone calls intact and I check on them in their homes or they come to mine, and boom it happens! Sometimes I meet them that day and have my way with them that same day(doesn’t work for all ladies tho). I became this monster that don’t waste time on women because they’ve taken me for granted when I was beta, a lot of money wasted I remember how I used to take them out to places and never get anything back in return until I vouched to change my ways with them. My motto is ‘I must be intimate with any girl I meet within the 3 days of meeting her’ which often works tho but I came to realization that I’ve met few girls lately and that strategy didn’t work with any of them, that’s why I called myself back and noticed I’m not doing something right or I’m being extreme about certain things, I don’t really use Whastapp or any chatthing platform with them too because I hate disrespect, I don’t want no monosyllabic word while we chat, so I don’t put myself in that position in the first place.
I got it now and I really appreciate your input, I’ll adjust. Thanks Bro.

@Emboldened
You actually had the best mindset.
The ladies who didn't allow you have your way with them were simply not interested in you.
My advice on dates is to Invite her to a joint close to your residence,from there straight to your house.If she says no,let her go.All these sitting down for hours and kiss goodnight on her doorstep are beta simpish moves.A woman that likes a man likes a man.He really doesn't have to do too much.Social media apps take away a man's mystery.I don't do them

mrpaedo:
It never fails
Simps,white knights,manginas,male feminists always ALWAYS get screwed over by women

The problem with submissive men (white knights,male feminists,simps etc) is that women hate them for it.Rather than the approval they seek from women,they are usually met with contempt from thesame women and wonder why

Thomas19:
I used to believe in Red and Blue pill till I stumbled upon an interview where A IndecentStar (Dani Daniel) as asked what she finds most attractive in a guy to have sex and her answer was surprisingly simple "Confidence". And since I started being more confident around women, Especially around women I found I didn't need any book or a group of guys tell me that girls respond innately to confidence, they respect it at first but start to hate it if you fail to back it up but it's a good place to start.. At first I didn't have confidence, I faked it and hit the first, second and you know it builds..

I even found that you can act effeminate but be confident and yes, you will get pussy should you want..

However, as someone you have pursed having self confidence for a couple of years, I will warn you that the only way to have innate confidence in your abilities is to simply work on bettering yourself every day and more importantly don't shy away from socialising with the opposite sex. I found women talk alot so be prepared to listen and try to say something constructive.. and yes, pussy will come to yeh!

@Emboldened
You are a bluepilled,limp wristed simp!!
Crawl back into the hole you crawled out off
Take a look at your post below;According to you only men use those tactics in game while women havent been using thesame or even worse tactics to have access to men's resources since the beginning of humankind?
Sod off!

angelfallz:
The bolded, shouldn't it be obvious when you meet and interact with redpilled men?
Your number 1, its more of what we believe and perceive, we both don't have hard facts to back it up.
your number 3, well said.

1.Many Redpilled men in Nigeria who come outright discussing the tenets of redpill will be labelled woman-hater.It happened to me.I for example, started becoming redpilled(without my knowledge) when I saw how women cruelly treated children who weren't theirs.Years later,I discovered the redpill online.
2.Based on perception?It oozes all over their posts.Sometimes they are redpilled on this thread then head to another thread and post blue pilled nonsense

angelfallz:
Ah. Many men parading themselves as redpillers online are fake.
The redpill men are actually few in number. Same as alpha males.
It's not easy to imbue the lifestyle of an alpha male.
The vast majority of men, would always be beta men. It wasn't so in the past. But somewhere along the line men lost what made them alphas,
Rollo Tomassi in his book, "The Rational Male; Positive Masculinity" puts the time when men lost it, to around the late 1950s to 1960s. The reason why men lost it was that, they felt, erroneously that men and women love the same way. That they could get women without the burden of performance.

You kind of missed the point of Pansophist's post.The summary of his question was,"Redpilled Nigerian men have you ever met another redpilled Nigerian man offline?" Many of his respondent's answers were "Yes but they don't know they are redpilled".That is also similar to my experience.
1.As for many redpillers online on Nairaland being fake,I believe many are quite authentic and it is the posers that are few
2.I don't use the term "Alpha male" .It has become synonymous with petty pissing contests in the manosphere
3.Rollo Tommasi described the feminization of men in the U.S/Western hemisphere from his own perspective which i as a Nigerian,cannot relate with but the post by MrColdSweat below perfectly explains the feminization of Nigerian men from our own point of view

ElasmoBranchii:
So funny.

You are not far from the truth But it is wasted effort trying to convince them otherwise
If a lot of men weren't betas maybe they will get the memo.

I know.Women will always do what they see other women do

Skepticus:
You will never understand itbecause you are in the best frame of manly mind that any man could be with it. Some rich beta cucks don't think like that. That fakeness is their appeal

Even with your crystal clear explanation with this post,i still dont get it.

Skepticus:
You guys are right about the ladies having self-hate for themselves.

Truth be told, on a different scale, a lot of these ladies use these fake enhancements to appeal to the vanity of their rich simp cucks.

As we blame these ladies, these rich simps have a portion in it too because they love and encourage these self-hating behaviours in women which reflects their inherent shitty personalities too

Ladies knowing this have now taken it beyond fake hair extensions into breast enhancement and butt lift surgeries which these rich but empty men find appealing. It's crazy.

@Emboldened
You are 100% correct especially with those rich simps obsession with "light skinned-ness" and "big buttocked-ness"

ElasmoBranchii:
You just have to look at the before and after make-up to understand.
Make-up covers up a lot of blemishes that they prefer to hide.

That is why I mentioned laziness in one of my previous posts.There are beauty regimes one can use and stick to inorder to get rid of those blemishes.Eating healthy,avoiding carbonated drinks,fast food consumption etc but these women want none of that.Shawarma,nkwobi,coke,cake,biscuit straight into their mouths no discipline whatsoever.Then the effect shows itself on their faces and bodies.They then pile make up on their faces to hide the mess.Walking around looking like Krusty the clown

Beardedviking:
I hardly generalise in anything I say cos i know outliers always exist. This is why i use Almost,most, especially e.t.c. Personally for me Its a turn off for me no matter ur race or ethnicity.

Its always a turn off for me.It sends the message that you are not comfortable in your own skin and it serves as a sort of culmination of ones internal insecurities outwardly

ElasmoBranchii:
It can never stop and you want to know why? Hypergamy.

Those things help maximize their appearance and in so doing increases their chances of attracting a high value male.

You see why it is ludicrous when girls tell SIMPs "Don't you want me to look good for you" when they are taxing them.

I will never understand how.The make up makes them look like clowns because of how they put it on excessively and a white/indian/native south American woman's hair on a black woman's head always looks odd/weird

Beardedviking:
If a man does not understand why this happen, his gonna struggle to understand women in general. There is no two ways to say it. [b]Most African women love those hair compared to theirs[/b]which is nothing bad at all. It is a measure of the level of your mental strength when you put it on your own head. These types of women are likely to give birth to weak children too mentally.

Its actually not only black women that use fake hair nowadays.Other races of women do too.I think people talk more about black women's own because it seems excessive.
Funnily enough,natural black hair is easy to style and maintain but ignorance and laziness about how to maintain it,insecurities about their natural hair and following the herd mentality in terms of wearing fake hair are issues that affect its wide acceptance by black women

CosmicPhoenix:

women can be irritating when it comes to things like this,they spend so much acquiring fake hair when they could have used it to better their natural hair.

It simply doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says.As long as black women see other black women wearing fake hair on their heads,they will continue wearing fake hair on their heads.Women generally do what they see other women do

Beardedviking:
Mere lookin at the fake complexion and fake hair on any woman especially Africans, Just don't waste much time. All you gonna get is fake love except you have the original hair and skin cos if she truly grows the hair she bought or complexion ,she is not gonna fu ck with you. 99% OF NIGERIAN WOMEN REPRESENT THIS! Someone that still rocks her natural hair is the kind of role model you want for your kids. I don't know how you guys feel standing next to fake hair posing as girlfriend. The hair is a strong indicator of how anyone both male and female perceives themselves inwardly. Its your true Identity. Most ladies you see around with fake hair hate their true identity

I once read a post by a man on nairaland which said he would never understand how a black African woman can place the hair of another woman's race on her head,carefully comb and protect it from wind,dust and rainfall.
Some Nigerian men have talked about this issue for years even the make up issue too but the women won't listen.As long as they see other women doing something (either good or bad)they will automatically copy it.Men's opinions about various issues generally doesn't bother women

stevesawo:
Super Simp photo of the week.

The average Nigerian man's kryptonite;a light skinned woman with big buttocks

MRosario:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fJwsIB0mwLk

If only the man in this youtube video had read this thread...Western men are really suffering.

Faisal :
"I can't believe she would do that to me after everything I did for her"

ME:

MrColdsweat:
Our fathers were firm because their own fathers transfered the masculinity directly to them. Our ancestors took their sons to farms, worked with their sons in the farms, hunted with their sons, took their sons with them everywhere. Back then, it was so easy for a boy to be a man.

Nowadays, our fathers are constantly working in the office, we were left with our mothers

This is where it fell.

Women raising sons to be men when their knowledge of an ideal man is nothing but pure fantasy.

I'd rather die than allow a 21st century woman raise my sons.

Hence why we see males online and offline reacting emotionally to every issue.Even the ones who claim to only rely on "logic" and "facts" are posers/wannabes.Nigeria's society is presently fuelled on estrogen

mrpaedo:
Redpilled Comedy Special of the Day

Patrice O'neal:-Elephant in the Room----2011

Patrice o'neal was super redpilled before being redpilled even became a thing.Clips of him as a guest on the Opie and Anthony radio show are all over YouTube.He even had his own radio show shortly before he died in 2011 called the Black Phillip show.It had 12 to 13 episodes all over 2 hours in duration

demanuel:
That's why you must come from the place of knowing who you are, and what you can become.

You are the Man in the relationship.

Develop yourself. Be a better person. Improve your appearance, career/business, smell nice, look dapper.

Love yourself and others around you first.

You will definitely see someone that has mutual feelings for you.

I think other contributors have hit on this issue from different angles, on different threads.

If you continue to do the chase while they don't feel same way for you, you will surely play the game to lose.

At some point you will become desperate and begin to simp.


These girls will play you like they play candy crush (that colour colour game) on their phones oo The street is military.

Looking at Ozo,who would ever believe he would receive an F9 in all these spheres?There is simply no saving many men

Skepticus:
I followed this year's edition of Big Brother Nigeria keenly than the previous editions because of the sexual dynamics that played out and what men can learn from it concerning the sexual market place, masculinity and self worth. I'm glad many guys (at least from Nairaland) are picking up on it.

From Laycon and Erica
To Erica and kiddwaya
Ozo and Nengi
Dorathy and ozo(the simp did not understand the signals being sent his way or he wasn't interested)
To the very start of the show,Lilo and Ozo(the simp ignored her)

Skepticus:
Unfortunately for him, in the real world for the most part, men get at women they can and women get at men that they want except the woman has hit the wall and lowering her standards.

The Ozo got punished for his ignorance of the game that women have mastered

Exactly.As goodlooking as he is,he was still simping because of his ignorance of the game.A guy who was pre-selected when he first entered the house,became an object of ridicule and scorn amongst women within and outside the bbn house

demanuel:
That's why I said that I now know better.

Regardless of your spec, they are abundantly available for you

Bro, if you think that there's just that your one spec available in the entire universe, you go SIMP oo...

A man's spec isn't readiy available for all men.Even if they see their spec,how will they be able to entice her?If not via the simping,placing on pedestal etc we see amongst men today.The scarcity mentality is also very much alive and healthy amongst Nigerian males

demanuel:
The problem is not his spec, it's having this scarcity mentality like there are not so much of that same spec available, when reverse is the case....Abundance!

It doesnt really have to do with a mans spec availability.Every man has an image of a woman he finds desireable in his head/thoughts/brain.When he eventually meets that woman in the real world,many times it leads to "oneitis" especially for the inexperienced men.
A man has "scarcity mentality" when he believes he cannot really attract any woman in anyway(especially the ones he finds desireable).So he chases anyone he sees.Any sort of woman is good enough for him.He is also desperate for female attention

demanuel:
I actively joined this forum a few years ago, but has being following this site a long time ago.

The most powerful things that nairaland has taught me are;
1. Making money online (fiverr)
2. The RedPill

I once had this scarcity mentality of women. Like it must be one type of woman. It's either this one or no one.

I always ignore those that 'choose me', and instead chase those that don't choose me.

Now I know better

It's as if I was blind, and can now see through the game of women.

It's like I have being handed the formula to play the game of women.

These days I don't stress myself, for I now know better.

Now what I do is face my hustle to get my finance in order. Improve myself and look better. Be a better person for myself and others around me, while I play this game better than before.

@Emboldened The guy called Ozo on big brother Nigeria also suffers from this.It is underlined in his comment below.
A guy on nairaland once discussed the issue with ubunja.He said it is linked to the male ego.I also suffered from thesame mindset too.

mrpaedo:
@Bolded
They don't o!
The latest high profile case is Mia Khalifa.
From crying for her porn videos to be removed from pornhub 3months ago while claiming to have turned a new leaf to joining OnlyFans about 3days ago
Baba God noni bless the manosphere jare

Mia Khalifa's action does not surprise me.There have been many porn actresses who have stated how they would stop appearing in porn movies.They stop for a while,then go back to acting porn movies a few months or years later.Thesame thing occurs with the women involved in the "olosho business" in Nigeria.Even when the women get married,they still go back to it sooner or later.A leopard can never change its spots

Rivalry in football is good but I believe OM players,staff and supporters hold a grudge against psg.
Every slight shove and tackle by a psg player in the match was reacted to as a personal insult by OM players.
OM were the jewels of French club football for many years.So it must feel awful for their fans and players in recent years seeing psg receive all the attention and accolades in France and the rest of the world

wumi2017:
Responsible and Good men and scarce

There are responsible good men everywhere but women are only interested in the top 3% in the Nigerian society.These are the financially buoyant men,the handsome men,the men with high social status,the famous men etc.That is why there exists 70 or more women vying for one man with these qualities while the remaining men without these features have to use their left hands to get relief.Blame your hypergamy for your lack of a mate

ZenithMan24:
What if her past were rough but seemingly changed now ?

I hooked up with one down time ago and she was more like a girl dating for money, as she said, (citing poverty) but she seemingly changed and we were considering the future I do not spend but she does more.

But some times I bring up that past and act like it's a deal breaker for me and she keeps apologizing and I make her apologize for days being sorrowful... I do not do that for the fun of it but that indeed I wanted her feel how hurt I was for she haven been that way.

But we come back and again the same cycle I play after some time, just keep repeating ....

So ?

@Emboldened
She has seemingly changed now because you're both planning your future together.Immediately she acquires that future,she will revert back to her former bad behaviours.It is called "the bait and switch".Whores don't retire,they only go on vacation

owo8184:
Thanks but if you asked me before now, I will tell you she's not a cheat. We dated 6yrs before marriage. I took her virginity at the age of 27. I think she's been influenced by social media

Ofcourse social media is to blame for your wife's actions and not your display of weakness as a so-called man.You Nigerian men should continue marrying all these women who do not give a flying fucck about you but only their purses.I hope your so-called wife and her lover eliminates(by poisoning) a waste of space like you

Alexander71:
you have already made up your mind

The Age of consent law in Nigeria made up my mind.The law supercedes every personal/group sentiment