I know this is like a dead thread but even dry bones can rise again.

This may sound crazy but really crazy things happen everyday and we can't question God for His mysterious works can we? I am going to meet my wife to be very very soon. The meeting point will be in Lagos. We are going to hit it off right a way. She is also praying for this to happen now and the time is ripe anyway. One strange thing is that this beautiful girl is going to have something I have always disliked in women but I am going to love her with it. I am her bread and she is my butter, we go so well with each other. I will be back to confirm this. Watch out. And may I ask, do we have people who have such premonitions before meeting their spouses?

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Go to the market - buy 10 naira funnel

go 2 her window @ nite

hide behind flower

sofree make stick nor enter your eye

then shout

Woman - woman - why have thou forsaken me

she would wake up and start sweating

then continue and say

My son who have been dating you for 4years is your right husband

then take to your heels before vigilante fire your nyash with arrow

next day watch out for results


-thank me later-[/font][/color]

So funny yet  very appropriate in the circumstance.

@ OP: Please prepare your mind for a major heartbreak, but it is no big deal, really there are better ladies out there and in no time u will meet someone who will love you without restraint. Your Lady wanted to marry you initially and I can assure you that as at the first time you people were talking marriage, she had probably informed her mum and they had prayed about it. It appears their findings are not very positive, but the Lady does not want to lose you or does not know how to break free from you, so she has kept the relationship these past years albeit against counsel. She is not just waiting to hear from God, she heard a long time ago, its just that now that she can no longer make excuses, she is being forced to tell u the truth, which she will, very soon. My advice: Give her a reasonable ultimatum, say 3 weeks or a month to prayer, hear from God and make up her mind. If there is no response in a month, u have got your response already. This lady has kept you for abt two years even though she has had reasons to be sure she would not be your wife. That is unfair but life itself is unfair. Move on and trust me a better girl who has prayed ahead and obtained a definite answer from God will come ur way. Nothing do u dude. ALL WILL BE WELL

@ OP: Take a walk. Just take a walk and make yourself available to  well brought up gurls. In your situation, I will advise you look for someone who is already working. My mum use to say that women who are not working are the most difficult to please cos they don't know what it feels like to work hard to earn money yet they want everything working class women wear and more. I know that working class women have their attitudes too but it is apparent you are willing to have a balance shareholding right in a relationship so there shouldn't be much hassle in that regard and please don't take your bitterness from this relationship to the next one. I am sure your gurl will be happier with some other person too.

congrats man, all will be well.

Hallos! I am bald, that explains my ID. I got it from my Dad who got it from his Dad who got it from his Dad, Am I bothered about my rapidly receding hairlines? Yes. Does it make me feel a bit inferior to other men with full hair? No. DO I care if some ladies don't like me because of my balding head ? I use to , but now I know better, the receding hairline kinda keeps the very shallow and vain ones outta my way and draws attention to my personality as opposed to my looks in romantic relationships. I really wish I could wish to have a full hair but I have no such wish, I actually feel stronger than those other men who can't stop joking about my hairline, cos I know most of them can't handle it if nature were to play that joke on them. I am bald and proud!

OP. Let me assure you that there are so many other men in your shoes. You are perfectly okay.  You need to relax and just continue to ask for God's guidance. And stop making heavy weather of your decision to abstain from sex till marriage. It is a noble yet personal decision, u dont need to raise it with every prospect u meet, if u dont make the move, most ladies are wise enough not to make advances, moreover it is kinda of creepy for a guy to be pleading abstinence as a condition for starting a relationship, any lady will think u have incompetencies u are trying to conceal. When you finally find a gurl that is worth your attention just show her love in other ways that does not involve sex and unless she says what you are giving her is not good enough or she explicitly demands for sex, it should not be an issue. Meanwhile, I hope you are not looking for a virgin for a wife? doing that will make you lose sight of some other important considerations. Look for virtues that can last beyond the wedding night and virginity is not one of them. When you finally meet a worthy lady, make sure the courtship does not last for too long so that you don't fall into temptation. It is easier said than done, especially for those who make heavy weather of it.

I am still very curious, are we saying that none of the married or about to be married people who have read this post, have had to ask their Pastor who spiritual mentor to help them pray or seek prophetic guidance on their choice of spouse. The advice has been very useful, however, I just want people with first hand, real life experiences to share same with us here. Has the prophesy concerning the future attitude or fate of your spouse come to pass?

Its interesting reading the comments made by some of the ladies here, especially those who managed to wade off the distractions.

I am 28, balding, 5'7 , a colleague just told me this morning that I look like a teddy bear, so I am kind of out of place when it comes to the qualities ladies want but really I know any woman will be lucky to have me.

I told my ex ( who is still a very good friend) about a lady that caught my interest sometimes ago and the first comment she made was that " she is so lucky" I can recall that it was that same comment my sister made when I told her I was dating my ex. But I really do not fit into any of the descriptions given so far. We all have lists whether written or not, but the fact is that we cannot know what we want until we find the right one or until we lose him/her.

Going through the lists got me thinking how easily one can miss a good product if one pay too much attention to the package. Solid products don't do much in terms of branding.

I trust women know when to bend the rules and they generally grow to appreciate what they really need as opposed to what they want.


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@ N101

That is a very valid question and not lame at all, even if it strays from the original post.


I said the question is lame because it should be obvious that technology and leadership in Nigeria unlike in the Old testament times are not 'prophetically (religion) driven'. We do not have National Prophets or Special Prophet to the President (who is statutory empowered vested with the responsibility of looking into the crystal balls for the Nation) We hear prophetic warnings everyday but we do nothing about them. I just dont get the logical nexus between the absence or presence of fake prophets and the state of the economy.

On the main issue, I agree with you that it takes patience to hear from God ( most people in love, usually do not have that patience) I also feel its a lot safer if the guidance is coming from a close person.

God works in a mysterious way and with God there are very limited absolute rules. Some people ignore Counsel and they have themselves to blame for the rest of their lives

I completely agree with OP that it is best to be led personally by the spirit of God, I also fully understand that some of the spiritualists are fake. But from time immemorial, there has always been some sort of consultation by the families. Most times, parental approval is predicated on spiritual guidance, even as we speak, if most of us here go to our parents to introduce a would be wife, the mothers are likely to reserve their comments or approval until the face of the Lord has been sought concerning the Lady.

I am still surprised to hear that some people get married without praying personally and confirming their revelation from a more matured spiritual mentor.

Are we saying that all the prophets are fake or that their spiritual guidance on the choice of a life partner is no longer necessary?

Do we have anyone here who went ahead to marry. following their hearts even where there has been a prophesy warning against same?

Congrats! my broda won too, and both of them are just two out of the about 6000 people selected in Nigeria. Please tell your brother to make sure he provides the same information he provided in the original application form, in the next form he will be filling online, unless there has been a real, verifiable change. I will advise he should not try to introduce the issue of marriage at this point, unless the marriage is genuine and verifiable. Moreover, he should not ( of course he will not be allowed) try to smuggle the new bride ( if any) into the scheme, at this point. The only problem he might have is if he tries bringing any new info that might appear like an attempt to cheat the system. Trust me, lies are easily discover, because you will be asked the same question in differs ways in the course of the processing. Let him start processing the Police report, I think they get it from the headquarters in Lagos or Abuja. Its always advisable not to make much noise about it, he should not leave his job until traveling his imminent. I repeat tell him not to play smart in anyway. The medical text will be at Kamoras but that is not the next step for now. Let him fill the forms and await further directives. Please tell him America will not change him, if he could not succeed in Nigeria for whatever reason, he might even be more difficult to succeed in the US, if he has been succeeding here, he should be prepared to put in extra efforts, making it in the US is not a piece of cake. Hope all of these help. Congrats again.

While I will not criticise those who seek such spiritual guidance, I'll never do such thing. @OP the truth of the matter is many of these spiritualists are FAKE, they have destroyed many promising relationships due to their fake prophecies. My advice to those in relationships is to pray for yourself and most importantly shine your eyes. If I have listened to these prophets of doom I wouldn't have been married to my wife today and honestly I do not want to imagine my life without her in my life. I was speaking to a friend of mine last week and she was lamenting that one of the reason why her marriage failed was becos she failed to confirm from her pastor whether her husband is the right person for her but I immediately reminded her how I warned her against marrying the man in question who usually physically abuse her during their courtship but she was blinded by the physical qualities of this man rather his whole person.

Thanks everybody and particularly tunnytox, I quite appreciate your response and I am sure some "singles who are about to make the ultimate decision" will find it helpful.

Human beings are such pathetic and utterly predictable creatures. Would this poster be asking these questions if the lady was the daughter of one of Nigeria's ex-presidents with hundreds of billions in her bank account? Even the babalow he intends to visit will tell to go ahead, the gods are behind him, its "his" destiny of marry into an elite family (and it doesnt matter if she's mannerless,a pervert,extremely obese and uglier than Iyabo Obasanjo). I'm pretty sure this lady in question is NOT from a "creme de la creme" family and perhaps she's lacking in other areas and this pathetic poster is looking 4 one excuse or the other to get rid of her. If all these "prophets" really see the future, why is there so much backwardness in the land? Why is that their "visions" mostly center around material wealth? Every day, it becomes clearer to me that over 93% of Nigerians are mentally unstable.


Guy, I refuse to join issues with u on the above post because it is apparent you are the one that is mentally unstable here, and not 93% of Nigerians. U made a lot of assumptions that show clearly that you were hallucinating. Where did I make any reference to a lady (rich or poor) in my post? Do u even know why I posted the questions ( which could easily pass for a research in the field of sociology or theology). U went off topic and succeeded in showing every one u ar just one of those people ( too know) who never take time to think or at least understand a piece of information before acting on them. Because I asked few questions, the purport of which u failed to fully appreciate, u jumped to the conclusion that 93% of Nigerians who have nothing to do with this post are mentally unstable, I wonder how many of your family members come within that percentage. You would have made more sense if you had just posted this " If all these "prophets" really see the future, why is there so much backwardness in the land? ", even that is some how lame.

I am actually surprised at everybody's comments, I use to think most people do it before getting married and that it is often the basis for parental refusal sometimes. The muslims go to the shehus or whali, christians to their Pastors/Prophetess while some seek counsel from their Babalawo.

Can u ladies just address the questions? I am sure you have helpful opinions

Please I would appreciate mature responses to these questions:

1. Did you or your Parents seek spiritual counsel from either a Prophet, Whali ( muslim prophets) or Babalawo before choosing your spouse?

2. Has any of the prophecies concerning your spouse or the marriage come true?

3. What would your advise be, in this regard, for singles who are about making the ultimate decision? 

Your sincere answers could be a life safer.

I am writing further to my earlier post on the SEC-YPP test, I couldn't attend the test because I had to attend a retreat at work and I have not been able to find any body who attended the test. Sur
prisingly, I got another mail this afternoon, requesting that I resubmit my data in certain format. Does any one have an idea of whats going on please.

Fellow Nairalanders, I just got an invitation for the SEC-YPP test to be conducted by Phillips Consulting, please kindly share your experience with Philips consulting test or suggestions as to possible areas we might be examined on. Am sure a lot of other readers will greatly benefit from your responses.

, lol this is really funny, a man's feets must be planted in his country but he must grow and his branches must extend to see other nations of the world. These are interesting stories, pls let's keep 'em coming

I dont get all of these, why ar u ppl so concerned abt d guy's sexual orientation, , and to think there ar guys participating in dis discussion (gossip), ,. why don't y'all mind ur businesses and deal with ur  issues, I mean d ones u ar concealing with ur manliness