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Family / Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by baldman: 1:01pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Great 'advice', what if she did not see the abandonment in that light and she decides to move on making good use of the certificate that the man sponsored her to obtain? I hope you have a perfect woman that has no family arranged for the poster to marry. How can abandonment make people fall in love or reinforce love? Please make separation your very last option, the rate at which women are moving on when a man decides to move out these days will surprise you. Do not leave your marriage if you do not intend to leave for good. You will not find her where you left and if you do, you will not be meeting the woman you left, she will either be broken or hardened. hope4nigeria: |
Family / Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by baldman: 12:53pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
I had to sign in because of this comment, particularly as I noticed you said you are new in marriage. I hope you can just read what I have to say. Your In-Laws should not be referred to in this manner. If this is who you really are, your wife, I am afraid, is married to the wrong man, she just does not know it yet. I refer to one of your 'manly' comments: 'If tomorrow you decided to change I won't hesitate to give you a divorce' really? '...my responsibility is to you and my kids alone' are you for real?. The truth is you may have come from a 'liberal' family ( which seems more like a family where your parents raised all of you to be independent and not feel the need to either give back to your parents or provide help when any member is in need) this may not be the case with your wife. Your wife may come from a more normal family where they do not live on allowances from their children but appreciate the occasional help and interventions. But you have made it clear to your wife that you will never be a part of such. Well, you will get as much love from your wife as you are willing to give.... you are not giving much when you are quick to threaten divorce and tell her those who brought her up to become the girl that you married will never matter in the scheme of things in your welfare provisions. I am glad you plan to take care of your kids. I pray you have a daughter as well, can you imagine your future Son-In-Law maintaining this stance. You do not even have your Father-In-Law's number and you are proud to say that ? Besides, can I safely assume that you have only ever given him 5k because that is what is within your financial capacity or is that still a way of being an Alpha Male? You also said "You should be happy I am marrying your daughter Naa and taking bills off ur neck.." really Bro? You really should be shaking the hands of your Son-In-Law when he comes to marry your daughter and take bills of your neck. Oga, what goes around comes around. Your marriage is very young and you are coming in with the wrong mentality. You cannot show love to a woman while hating her family, she will not be fooled and you will not have her complete loyalty. Take charge of your home and take leadership with respect to all relationships, including your relationship with your In-Laws, agree with your wife on what should be done given the resources available and show care in other areas that may not require footing bills. Encourage your wife to work and earn a living ( if she does not have one) so that she can also be a good place to help out without losing sight of who comes first, your family first. If you keep threatening divorce, becareful as she will over time prepare for it, and when you have done your worse, it will surprise you how well she will move on.... you will see divorce and fear.. its never easy on anyone. happney65: 4 Likes 1 Share |
Health / Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by baldman: 3:27pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
Congrats Maggiespecial, I suspected that you must be busy pushing. So happy to hear this good news. I am sending my email address so that I can get that crucial information ( hunterfit@yahoo.com), my wife is in New York as well. Maggiespecial: |
Health / Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by baldman: 1:41pm On Feb 28, 2018 |
Dear Maggiespecial please resend to hunterfit@yahoo.com.Thank you very much Maggiespecial: |
Health / Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by baldman: 1:04pm On Feb 27, 2018 |
Hi MaggieSpecial, How are you and the Baby doing today? I urgently need you to reach me via email at your earliest convenience. I have enquiries regarding hospitals in New York. I have sent a PM to you. Regards Maggiespecial: 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: Man Pays Tribute To His Late Wife Who Died During Childbirth by baldman: 1:23pm On Feb 24, 2018 |
I deeply condole with the man, it is a huge loss, may the Lord grant him and the entire families with the fortitude to bear the loss. |
Family / Re: BECOMING A DAD FOR THE FIRST TIME? - First Time Daddies: Come In Here!! by baldman: 10:54pm On Feb 16, 2018 |
Amazing birthstory, I will share mine pretty soon. |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 6 by baldman: 10:36am On Jan 30, 2018 |
Hello everyone, I have come to testify to the goodness of God, the visa application is a purely secular endeavour but before God nothing is secular, God rules in the affairs ( secular activities of men). My wife applied for visa to enable her birth our baby in the US sometimes in Nov 2017 and was refused. The VO had only few questions for her: Where else have you been besides the UAE? ( her answer: No where else) How much do you earn ( she said: less than 150k). Then the blue paper came out, they did not bother to inquire about me, being the sponsor nor look at the various documents she took with her. We decided to try again, this time, I also applied. And the conversation went this way: VO: What are you going to the in the US Me: We are going for vacation, family visit and to birth our first child VO: Where are you going in the US Wife: South Austin Me: Interjected: Austin ( my wife was talking about the hospital) VO: What do you do Me: I am a lawyer VO: What year were you called Me: (mentioned the year) VO: Which of the law schools did you attend ( this is tricky, a fake lawyer can say Zaria) Me: ( mentioned the law school) VO: What you do where you work, is it all legal related Me: Not entirely, I do other things VO: Madam what do you Wife: Interior decorator .. we do bla bla bla bla bla VO: Have you contacted any Doctor Me: yes, and I showed him the doctor's correspondence and a proof of the down payment of the hospital bill ( he asked how we got to know about the doctor and I mentioned the relative living in the city that referred him) VO: Have you two travelled out of the country before Me: Yes, we had our honey moon in Dubai last year and I was also in UK last year ( he also asked about when we got married and about my uk trip. he checked my UK visa which is still valid till February) VO: Can I have the budget sheet Me: (Passed it to him and some other VO came to request for his help so he left is desk and later came back) VO: Let me see your statement of account Me: ( I handed him my bank statement printed out of my online account and explained that the bank's network was bad yesterday) VO: How did you pay your initial deposit Me: I paid through my Sister VO : where does your sister live Me: I answered VO: What does your sister do Me: I answered VO: ( Typed for few minutes) Your visas have been approved, ( handed us the white paper) I earn about 700k but no question came up on that. It may all look good but there is so much that could have gone wrong if God who rules in the affairs of men was not set to help us. The reference to my sister could have led to further discussion about my parents, also American citizens and our ties could have been called to question... and what if I didn't remember the number of dinners or missed it up with the cocktail parties ( we had two of that too). We plan to pay all of our bills as we want to be able to have more babies in the US and visit our family members at will. I wanted that so bad. Glory to God and good luck to others. Saying the truth helped, having sufficient funds to show helped, paying ahead helped, but the mercy of God makes all the difference!!! Having given back to this community. Please I need advise on the best airline for a pregnant woman and the one that has a convenient arrangement and cheaper cost for adding the baby. Also, we plan for her to travel at 35 weeks is this ok? 18 Likes 1 Share |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 6 by baldman: 2:41pm On Jan 26, 2018 |
Dear House, I have been an ardent follower of the thread. Thanks for the good work you are doing here. My wife and I intend for her to have our first child in the US. I have read extensively and I have these questions: It seems most of the hospitals/Drs in the US are inclined towards performing a CS. my wife and I are more inclined towards vaginal birth, all things being equal and we are looking at Oakbend medical centre or Dr. Xydas. Could you please advise, from experience, which of the Houston hospitals/Dr. is favourably disposed to vaginal birth. I know they raise quotes for vaginal birth but I want to ask from people who have actual experience of vaginal birth in the US. Also, a friend recently delivered in the general hospital, even though all the fees are being paid ( it is relatively cheaper), could this prejudice her while applying for visa in the future? |
Family / Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by baldman: 5:49pm On Jan 10, 2018 |
Oga, please carefully retrace your steps and make peace with your wife by all means. If your answer to all of the following question is a yes. Did your wife's period end on 16th May 2017? Does the 16th May 2017 date tally with your wife's menstrual cycle? I know that may be difficult to answer but check if she has the period app) Did her period start sometimes around 12th May 2017? Did 19th May 2017 amount to about 10days into your wife's cycle? Check the internet, does this fall remotely within the fertile window? I am sure ( as do I) that you still have some doubts. Do not make noise about the DNA test or anything. Just keep playing along until she delivers and you can ascertain the DNA. If you keep threatening, you life could be in danger. In my experience, baby's that has doubtful paternity usually give the identity of the father away by their appearance. Another theory. Also ask your wife how many days did her period which ended on 16th May 2017 last and if that was the regular number of days. If she mentioned that it was a bit shorter than usual, it could be an implantation bleeding which meant that she had sex and conceived about two weeks earlier so the bleeding she saw was not a period flow. Your wife may need to own up on the inappropriate discussion with her friend but the reference to 'our baby' is a typical usage of Doctors when they are speaking with pregnant women. I pray that the Lord will uphold you Bro. MemphisRaynes: |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 5 by baldman: 11:01am On Nov 20, 2017 |
I heard some people talking about getting an earlier date. I just booked an appointment for my wife and we got 29th November, 27 and 28 was also available. Go give it a shot. 2 Likes |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 5 by baldman: 4:05pm On Aug 15, 2017 |
shrekandfiona: Thanks for your response. |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 5 by baldman: 1:22pm On Aug 15, 2017 |
Thanks so much Babatwi, We have both been to dubai and I should be going to London in few weeks. I understand it will cost on the average about $10-12k for the trip. I am quite concerned about having immediate family in the US, how much of a disadvantage is this? As you said, nothing ventured, nothing gained, but I really have to be sure I stand a chance at all before putting in my N120k ( Visa for 2). Babatwi: |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 5 by baldman: 3:03pm On Aug 14, 2017 |
My Sis Visa got in through Visa Lottery, and later filed for my parents. They are all naturalized now. Thanks for your interest 1 Like |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 5 by baldman: 1:50pm On Aug 14, 2017 |
Dear All, I need someone to help with some wise guidance on this post . baldman: |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 5 by baldman: 11:47am On Aug 14, 2017 |
I earn a little over half a million per month ( working with an indigenous company) My wife earns about 120k. My parents live in the US ( aged) as well as my elder sister ( different homes). What are our chances from the finances point of view? Thanks in anticipation of your wise guidance |
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 3 by baldman: 5:50pm On Aug 09, 2017 |
baldman: Halleluyah! I got the visa!! God did it!!! 7 Likes |
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 3 by baldman: 11:37am On Aug 09, 2017 |
Yes I am and thanks for congratulating me in advance. Thanks and yours is coming too in Jesus name ( Amen). Halleluyah mokikeoj: |
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 3 by baldman: 10:53am On Aug 09, 2017 |
I applied June 15 and the status indicated that it was decided on 4th August, 2017. I got a mail from TLS notifying me that a decision has been made yesterday and a subsequent mail asking me to come for collection later in the day. I have not had the time to go pick up my passport but this took too long and I just want to thank everyone for contributing to this threade. I was able to track the progress through comments on this thread. I have also found that visas are being given regardless of whether or not your travel date has passed. I will be back to give you the good news!!1 |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 5 by baldman: 2:39pm On Jul 25, 2017 |
What balances should I work towards? And what is the timeline I could adopt |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 5 by baldman: 2:26pm On Jul 25, 2017 |
Hello Everyone, I am delighted to be here. I have never had to post on this thread...but I am happy to be doing so now.. I recently got married and now we are having a baby!!!. My Older Sister lives in the US and so do my parents ( dad is aged and mum in her 60s). I applied for a US visa in 2015 when I was still single ( with no travel history) and in practice as a legal practitioner ( earning 220k gross) and I was refused. Fastforward to now, I am married ( went to dubai on honeymoon) and would like to visit the US with my wife later in the year and subsequently for her to have her baby in the US so that my Mum can take care of her and the baby. I earn about 600k (gross) and ( 460k net) with some annual allowances. I work as a Personal Assistant to the Chairman of an oil company. My wife works as a customer service exec in an interior decor company earning 120k per month. I can have a balance of about N2million in my account by the end of the year and may be 3.5m by February. we are expecting our baby in March 2018. My questions When is the best time to apply for visa? From the financial point of view, what is our chance? From the family ties point of view? Do we stand a chance? Thank you |
Family / Re: Help Me Interpret This Dream Please by baldman: 12:21pm On Feb 13, 2017 |
OP. You need to pray to God for the power and grace to succeed against all odds. This dream is usual for those who are expecting results or preparing for exams. It is also a depiction of your current situation.The devil will not succeed in wasting your efforts. May you not become the victim of someone else's mistakes. Go on a three days fasting declaring that the plans of the devil to waste your efforts will not stand in the name of Jesus (Amen) 4 Likes |
Family / Re: Tired Bachelor Looking For Purposeful Friendship by baldman: 7:49am On Sep 05, 2016 |
Thanks everyone for expressing your thoughts on my search. And can someone please advise Mr. TV01 and Free Cocoa to stop the hot exchange of words. @ Mr. TV01, I appreciate the efforts to keep this threat going but please take it easy with the young woman. @Ms Free Cocoa, please snapp off it. @ Yetseyi. Thanks for your thoughtfulness |
Family / Re: Tired Bachelor Looking For Purposeful Friendship by baldman: 1:23pm On Sep 02, 2016 |
I see your point. I can't discuss details here but it has been really enlightening. Besides, I can't seems to get through to the PMs |
Family / Re: Tired Bachelor Looking For Purposeful Friendship by baldman: 12:01pm On Sep 02, 2016 |
You people have almost succeeded in derailing this thread. I think there should be a special thread for people who want to fight and or throw banters. |
Family / Re: Tired Bachelor Looking For Purposeful Friendship by baldman: 7:15pm On Sep 01, 2016 |
jbcul4ril:You have spoken very well Bro. You obviously know what you are talking about. And you have managed to stay true to who you are. Amen to your prayer. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Tired Bachelor Looking For Purposeful Friendship by baldman: 10:58am On Sep 01, 2016 |
ardeypearlz: I find the fascination with my nicely receding hairlines to be quite intriguing. Well the reason bald men get to choose their girls too is because the loss of hair does not extend into the brain. In my experience, having a good bald head gives you an exotic allure and takes your coolness to a whole new level. Plus, it keeps the shallow ladies away. (The lucky woman will get to playfully rob this shining head without the hairs getting in the way) 5 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Tired Bachelor Looking For Purposeful Friendship by baldman: 5:10pm On Aug 31, 2016 |
CoCoLav:I am glad you could have such a refreshing laugh on my account and I really appreciate the humour in your offer. |
Family / Re: Tired Bachelor Looking For Purposeful Friendship by baldman: 12:13pm On Aug 31, 2016 |
TV01: @TV01: Thanks for sharing those insights. I always appreciate your guidance. |
Family / Re: Tired Bachelor Looking For Purposeful Friendship by baldman: 11:49am On Aug 31, 2016 |
yetseyi: Thanks for your advice. Yetseyi. I will check the link. As per Genotype. I just did not want to start out with all of that, but really, I will prefer an AA. I will make the correction. And thanks for mentioning the fact that virginity is not such a rarity, even among the 'not so religious'. It is also not a golden award, but like I said, it is my preference. I am also praying about it, its just that it is only 'He who seeks that finds'. |
Family / Re: Tired Bachelor Looking For Purposeful Friendship by baldman: 7:38pm On Aug 30, 2016 |
zed7: The criteria stated above are just the frames. there will definitely be a lot of moulding on both sides, but pulling apart frames is what creates crisis in marriage. Thanks for your words of wisdom. |
Family / Re: Tired Bachelor Looking For Purposeful Friendship by baldman: 7:35pm On Aug 30, 2016 |
tearoses: You have made good observation Sir, I do not intend to figure everything out here and I am definitely not making such a huge decision without due considerations. I am here just looking for someone who has these qualities and wants to check things out. Plus, God will be absolutely involved. |
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