₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie: Um . . . you might want to first GET with the other posters who have given THEIR VERSION of the CULTURE cause it contradicts yours.

According to them(and this is what I know and this is information that is available on the culture of the land,and in so many literatures), inheritance typically goes to the male child or male in the family. The woman without a male child usually gets nothing. This information has been verified so far by people like @Dede1, more than once here. Also, according to him, daughters don't really have a right to inheritance unless they choose to remain single for life . . . .

So like I said, you may want to get with him to make sure you have the right story yourself. IGNORANCE IS NOT BLISS . . . I say that often because it seems here again that people choose to IGNORE reality because it is too inconvenient.

when they say inheritance in igboand they are talking about land in the village and nothing else so yes it goes to the male child , in the olden days when igbo women where real women and not blackberry babes we have these days , igbo womenn without male child or children understands the importance of continuity so they go and marry a girl for their husband who will bear children , she still enjoys her position as first wife and at the same time saves her husbands bloodline, these days with christianity theres so much confusion everywhere, some people still do it while others rather wait till the man dies to start arguing and fighting with the family. infact it totally depends on each family and how they plan to handle such situation where theres no child or male child especially if the husband is only son or only child. however properties in cities and other places that excludes village land can go to whoever the man decides even strnger, churches etc after all some married men buy large house and cars for their girlfriends and concubines or even some random girl they just slept with.

Kobojunkie: Um . . . you might want to first GET with the other posters who have given THEIR VERSION of the CULTURE cause it contradicts yours.

my friend go and sit down a woman inherits her husbands property unless her husbands excluded her from his will which in that case is a personal issue.and which other posters are you talking about , your the only one yapping rubbish here since and the other girl is talking about a married daughter inheriting her fahers land in the village and we already replied her.
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Ileke-IdI:
Now you're just getting ridiculous with your lies. lmfao wtf?

KoboJ never claimed any tribe on NL until during the election when she came out as an Igbo lady. This is getting ridiculous, bye!



You have to admit, Lagos wedding is ideal because most of Lagosians are more open minded to other cultural practices and other ethnicities.
I agree with Kobo, culture like this should be done away with. Like I often say, monarchy in any Nigerian society should be scrapped.

hahahahahhaha i had to laugh at this. lagos marriages that cannot even run for 5 years. God forbid. if you think traditional marriages should be replaced with babymama lifestyle then your just confirmed something is wrong with you. these are not just marriages they are cultural training by the time you go through the process you will understand what marriage truely is and it gives you room to decide if you really want to continue or back out before it is sealed.good luck with your lagos baby mama lifestyle.

Aigbofa: Why would they do that when the bridegroom is required to bring a Maybach before he can get married?

my fathers driver did not buy a bicycle before he married his wife neither did all the poor and low income married igbo men. go and rest and stop being mischievous.

Ileke-IdI:
My two favorite, powerful NLers. . . . I forgot that you have the power to disown and exile a member of your community from your community.

Igwesssss!!!

Shouldn't you two be skipping ropes and playing hopscotch outside?

somebody that supports boycotting igbo traditional marriages for lagos or abuja wedding is either not igbo or not in touch with his igboness therefore cannot speak for igbos.

Kobojunkie: You have said nothing different from what has been said so far.

[size=13pt] And In all cultures, not all men give their wives cars, houses, or any gift during the marriage either. And not all men shower their girls with those either. [/size]

There is absolutely no justification in pretending that a woman deserves nothing at the end of the day, after years of laboring with her husband to help get him where he was at the time of his death, simply because she had no sons for him.

and where did this happen , are blind or do you enjoy arguing? that is a personal issue , a man decides whether to will his property to his wife and children, to churches or charity organisations, to the public or govt or to his sibblings, it has nothing to do with any culture. there is something called will dont know if you have ever heard about it. people usually write it before they die or during their lifetime. if your husband excluded you from his will then he does not trust you or you gave him hell while he was alive he is man enough to know what happens to the properties in his name and you as woman should write your own will to.

Abagworo: 1) Inheritance of properties in the village is different from properties acquired in the city.

2) Bride price is generally low or negligible

3) The issue is "the list" given by the extended family of the bride. The parents of the bride usually try their best to convince their kins to be considerate with regards to "the list". Sometimes it causes strain in relationship between the bride's father and his extended family.

4) In Igbo culture, men do not give their sons cars, house or any gift during marriage but the girls are showered with these.

no matter how much you shout it they will never listen , they are just trolls hired by seun to get him more traffic.

Kobojunkie: I agree. It is father's like that, who love their daughters as well, that can help turn the tide.

so in your moronic mind boycoting marriage ceremonies in igboland means the man loves his daughter. he can do whatever he wants but as far as the vilage is concerned no marriage took place and when shit hits the fan the elders will wash their hands cus they didn not participate in the marriage.neither did any marriage take place. incase you dont know traditional marriage is more important than church marriage in igboland, infact church marriage is optional while traditional marriage is the main marriage.

Ileke-IdI:
You again. Always bebe-scouting around issues.

Most of the female poster on this thread are your ppl, btw. Are you saying their posts are meaningless?

Agama lizard.

anybdy that counts kobojunkie as our people is as ignorant as you. we are done arguing on this you can believe whatever you want but igbo women will remain the most empowered women in nigeria and it does not come without support from their men and their culture.

Kobojunkie: And all this in a bid to continue IGNORING the injustice that culture allows to continue, really?

notice how your on your own on this with little help from the few known tribalist yorubas like ilekidi and aigbofa and you still think anybody will take you seriously

Ileke-IdI:
ahaha, wtf?!! When my grandfather died, his land went to his wife and children. And it still belongs to them up-to-date. Even his family no fit contest that.
Making up stories hmm? Like Aigbofa said, it's not the norm.

do you read at all , of course his land will go to his wife and children

Aigbofa: In the real world, some sons are worthy of being disinherited, while some daughters are very deserving.

in rare casses yes , if you have a criman and serial killer as a son then he has no buisness inheriting or even answering your name , we see some casses at times. but in ideal casses a man inherites his father village property and continues the bloodline while a woman becomes part of the family where she marries but still enjoys being an ada in her father house and village, that is she can still participate in traditional rites in her fathers village even infulence laws and decisions. umuada are very powerful even more powerful that the wives married into the family (they can decide if you will be happy or not in their fathers/brothers home) only a non igbo will not know that.

Kobojunkie: ^^^ It gets worse. If a woman where to have only female children, but work together with her husband to acquire property. If the husband were to die, chances are that woman, and her daughters, also gets nothing of all that property.

This is how people who are supposedly described as humans are still being treated by some of those who lord culture over those they can.

There is a woman who is over 50 here(almost to her 60's) with only female children. desperately seeking a male child, so that all the hard work, all her sweat, does not at the end of the day, end up in the hands of women the man cheated on her with, and bore sons with --women who did not have to lift a finger to help in creating all that man has in his name today. Yet, she is considered the GREEDY ONE according to this culture as you can see.

your a mischievous demon, the constitution of nigeria is clear, if you buy a property you register it with your name(or names if its a joint venture) and you can sell or dash it to anyone your please so long as you do change of ownership,unless your trying to tell us the constitution of south east is different from that of other regions.it does not matter if a man have male or female children he shares his properties as he likes. as for the man having another woman who bore him a male child well its sad after all in other cultures the man does not need anybody permission to mary or impregnant another woman its only in igbo culture that women have the right to stop him ,what else do you want. the mans blood line must continue , however the woman and her daughters have the right to all the mans property but the man will want to put an excepion to his village line since the boy will carry on his blood line.

Aigbofa: Does the father have any say in this? What if he wrote a will that his daughter should inherit everything?

yes the father can do that but why would a father give his daughter all his inheritance especially village land and leave his sons, he is indirectly casting out his sons from his vilage, when the daughter dies who will inherit it, her husband who might be from another country ? or will it return to her brothers? i dont think its hard to figure out. and like i said it does not apply to properties in cities or cash and share properties just the land properties in the village.