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As much as i like your write ups and believe it will work, The zombie northerners some not all won't make it work, Boko haram have been bombing them for over 5yrs and immediately Boko haram leave the scene they return back to their base and that make it difficult for the Military to operate freely.... Assuming the people in those affected area left there for period of time without returning back till everything is settled, Nigeria Army would have taken Boko Haram long time ago but if you ask them why they keep returning to there base they will say they can't leave there and can't abandon their homes and business and Boko Haram keep killing them everyday.

Mogidi:
The lopsided appointment continues, 6 officials today, 2 Southerners and 4 Northerners, nuff said.

The propaganda and hatred for the Gobernment will make people like you type nonsense to deceive your likes..

1..Air Vice Marshal Morgan Monday Riku....... (Benue) is from North?

2..Major General Abayomi Olonisakin..........(Ekiti) is from the North?

3..Real Admiral Ibok Ete Ekwe Ibas...........(C.rivers) is from North?

Now tell us out of the 4 Services chiefs One from South West, One from South South, One from Middle Belt and one from North..


Bros i swear you dey craze

osaslord500:
Hope say no be all his Pple he go pack put there Ooo.

Did you read the post at all?

Good move, PMB should please keep Arase that man is working so hard.

My president my President, You are highly gbasky

ChaleeBendel:
Fayemi is the stupid one for spending 50million on buying just a bed, what else did he do, efcc must reveal the man's extravagance.

Sorry did he take the bed to his house?

PMB all the way, My President is so so on point..

No wonder divorce going rampage lately, You mean a lady with a tribal mark will deceive me with make up and i won't break up with her when i finally get to know the truth? Now they will be shouting He use and dump me, he jilted me, He break my heart etc.. Why won't i when you deceive me?

anonimi:
Do you really think it is about luck for different treatment in the SAME system or a change to the PAST





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Please what are yu insinuating here with this image, Remember Chime from the East is walking free while Sule Lamido from the North is in jail. so what will you say about that?

olatunji21:
He and his sons should be granted bail..#350million each... dats #1.05Billion..Atleast that's Ok for now b4 proper judgement would be delivered..

No bro they should granted bail of #500million each and that will be #1.5b

refreshrate:
Now youre getting it twisted.
Prior to my previous post someone had suggested they go their separate ways to see who would lose more. I advised otherwise that seperation isnt always the solution to a problem between a couple.

Secondly about having an upper hand (especially with money as leverage) Thats rather primitive. Im certain you dont like feminism and its strapping, but thats precisely the male version youre exhibiting when you speak this way.

Marriage is not a destination but a journey, and like any journey anything can happen. If your 'upper hand' drops someday-heaven forbid, and she now becomes your source of support, what do you think is likely going to be your fate?

Life happens.

Amakas friend saying yes without a proposal...lust wears out over time, love grows over time. My advice? Fall in love, it makes the ride worth it, trust me.

Well guess you don't understand point, You dragging this to the financial aspect again, Well i am a man and a very strong man and i never and never wish to ever depend on a lady to survive so by the Grace of God it won't happen..

About my point about them to go their separate way, What i really mean is that as a man i cannot be control by a lady on what to do, My wife can't control all she can is give a suggestion and i have every right to to turn down her advice or make use of it....

The issue of having upper, Yes the man will always have an upper, Even if they eventually go for the registry that does not mean the man won't cheat.. I always tell some woman around me that God Know what He is doing to have first created a man... I once told my wife then that if her father/mother happen to see me with another coming out of hotel, If they happen to be the good parent they won't even tell her. All they will do is call me and give me a very good advice against what am doing that is bad cos calling and telling their daughter won't help any issue expect they want her out of the house and no same parent will want that...

So forget about registry or no registry, Any spouse that will cheat will always do and i have seen alot of even happen to my close friend..

refreshrate:
Life isn't always about that oga. it's a union of two. no winner no loser. You keep looking at it from this perspective of yours and in sorry you'll remain single. If they split eventually they'll both get other people to marry don't doubt that for one moment. might be better, might be worse.
parting ways however should never I repeat never be seen as a means to solutions in a marriage.

Like i said as a man i have the say over anything that happen in marriage and my pocket will suffer the pain not her's, About loosing at the end you mean for Amaka to go and start another 5years courtship afresh? I guess she will end up in redeem praying for hubby at the end of the day..

Any day any time the guy will always have an upper hand exept if he is broke, Don't be surprise the best friend of Amaka might say yes to prince even without him proposing to her... No be this world wey we dey?

EverestdeBliu:
sending many to prison and doing nothing in return doesn't depict a good leader.

Not sending many to prison but sending looter who have crumble our country and economy to prison and it's a good development.. In china those cases warrant death

refreshrate:
Dem never marry.
So which house?
At this stage if she leaves they will say she jilted.
After marriage (whichever one) dem go say they are divorced
if the man is the head in this case how come it's the girls place they do the conclusion of process?

Till they are married in some way, the man is head of himself.

Think am

They should part way and let see who the biggest looser will be..

jomoh:
Bro check the definition of "hypocrisy" then you will understand why the guy won't see Nyako as APC. Its why they call them hypocrite.

I guess you right bro..Exactly what they are..

EUROBOMBER:
Is this the type of government that Buhari intends to run? He wants to use the EFCC to harass the opposition politicians and leave the thieves in his party to walk free?

Why is Sule Lamido being harassed by the EFCC while Rotimi Amaechi is left to walk around freely?

I smh at Buhari.

Op relax it's turn by turn and will be Ameachi turn soon, remember Murtala Nyako was also an APC man and facing trial.

freecocoa:
After 5 years of what? I didn't realize dating and marriage mean the same thing.

Of course he won't be jailed, but he has to abide by the contract of their marriage.

They dated for 5 long years and she dint still trust the guy? Come off it girl. I hate that word court marriage, In my family we don't believe in that.. Why sign a bondage for myself where i cannot have a say and she will threaten me with certificate.. Make Prince let her lots of girl are on the street, By the time she spend another 5yrs dating another guy her head go straight.

refreshrate:
Prince is not ok. Wetin be him own sef? Is it not the woman that owns wedding day? Abi where you hear say dem talk say its the grooms happiest day? Na bride dem dey talk.

If the girl had been keeping honeypot from him prior to this discussion ehn i swear even if na shrine she talk prince no go complain. The guy wan jump ship come dey form quarrel.
Be careful of prince.

Prince of where sef?

The last time i check the man is the head of the house, So if prince say he did not believe in court marriage will he be forced to do it? Amaka Should becareful or else she is about to loose 5yrs of her life.

angelz:
court wedding is important. Amaka should not settle for less. It has nothing to do with money but a lot to do with polygamy. if there's no court wedding, prince can marry another wife since the marriage is not legal. except they sign the marriage certificate in the church.

All this ranting will not stop prince from impregnating another woman and heaven will not fall, The worst that will happen is divorce. No be Nigeria we dey? Bleep court weeding.

freecocoa:
She's only protecting herself, given how the culture here treat women.

I don't understand how that can be a bad thing, how can she possibly harm the man with a court wedding? Na wa o.

Protect herself after 5yrs? What will the court do to Prince is he decide he is not interested in her anymore? Will they jail him?

freecocoa:
Why does Prince not want a court wedding? He's up to something, if I were Amaka, I'll stick to my guns.

Why is Amaka insisting on Court marriage, she's upto something and if i were to be Prince i will maintain my ground is she now want make she go to hell..

coleon:
I agree totally with you,marriage is for suckers.
I am 35 and i am not even thinking it,despite the fact that i am comfortable and family and colleagues keep pressuring to get married but i just cannot see any reason for a woman in my life.

Bro seriously, I still blame myself everyday for marrying, Give girl belle and tell and be a father that's Well happy noe we are separated and all will be well.

Ucheosefoh:
Most we marry ? Get one or two kids from baby mamas we are good to go

Wow see my partner in crime.. I swear i no believe in Marriage anymore...

berbs112:
lubbish!

Sorry go and wash her pants..

benjaminiyke:
Am in receipt of your comment with regards to my post,and honestly speaking I agree with your assessment. I think we will make a great home if am financially stable because aside from her materialistic attitude...she's a great girl. In response to the other part of your opinion; all I posted is the truth and nothing but the truth. Thanks anyway for your candid advice. My most profound gratitude.

Bro, Like i said earlier don't get married to a girl out of pity, Being materialistic is such a bad side of every relationship Because she will keep demanding more and more and you will get tire and mad someday.. My advice is call her and sit her down, If she loves you and want to marry you she have to learn to be a simple girl, If she want to make a good wife she should stop her being too demanding, being materialistic etc.

I am a strong supporter of PMB and i know most of those promises cannot be fulfil but i know PMB will be a great leader and will change this country for good.... ALso about those promises, Well from all the campaign i watch on TV i dint see anywhere PMB mention this things they are just on Campaign posters could be the handwork of the campaign management, All i hear PMB saying then was to fight corruption to the minimum level which baba is doing that already and also to fight and chase Boko Haram out of Nigeria and he is also tacking that already.. Also to stable the economy etc..

Evathyst:
Dude! Don't waste your time the answers are right in front of you.


She's materialistic, but she loves you since you did say she has spoken to you about marriage(although, conditionally) & that she respects you. Truth is that every woman has their dark side, hers is just materialism. Another person's own maybe s*x.


Just pray to be rich, or at least be comfortable and there wouldn't be any problem btw u two. But that illusion u'r having of meeting a perfect lady na film-trick o. When jungle mature, e go clear for your eye.

#My 2 cent advice#



Even though I know sey this your story get K-leg, as in lie full am no be small. That still wouldn't stop me from giving my most sincere opinion, cos one man's lie-lie story maybe another person's true-true story.



Shalom!

The bold up there is what make me mad sometimes, So he should pray to be rich or confortable cos of her? and if God forbid things did not work as planned she will break his heart at the end abi....

benjaminiyke:
Very nice Observations...I love my girlfriend so much but she's too materialistic;I send her 10k to 5k every month for reasons I can't fathom,am unemployed and the only thing I have now are my savings but she won't understand,she wants to wear nice clothes,shoes and expensive hairs. As long as I meet her demands she's happy but as soon as I tell her I don't have money to send,she begins to feel I don't love her. Recently I told her about my plan to travel abroad for my PHD program and she was very excited, she even promised to marry me immediately i come back to Nigeria,but unfortunately things didn't go according to plan and I had to delay my plans for the foreseeable future,when I told her about my decision She felt bad and told me she doesn't know if we will still marry based on my decision not to travel abroad because i promise her an Iphone 6 as soon as I get there. She treats me well and respects me but how can I deal with these are materialistic attitude? Your advice is most appreciated. Thanks

Bro my advice don't get married to a lady out pity or because you love her but she get some kind attitude/Behavior that can ruin you in future cos no matter what if you are Rich you will still have problem with been materialistic if you lie make you be Dangote her demand will be too high and that will piss you off someday... If you are broke she will make life a living hell for you..

bakynes:
Where are the many fishes, all girls are the same. My advice to guys is to either forget marriage or put up with the rubbish these ladies of nowadays are doing. Marriage is going extinct, women are trouble if you want to live long keep away from them except when you need them for sex coz if you are asking for fidelity, commitment they can never give it. My own gf have complained and complained abt the rubbish things she does all she is concerned abt is buying the latest clothes, shoes, make hair abt 6 times a month and loading her IG with pictures not concerned abt our future together. I just tire for una everything bring money! Bring money ha!

Bro i swear your reasoning tally with mine, Just forget that bondage call marriage if it's about sex you will always get it that i can bet my life... 100% even your Ex friend won't mind..

6ty6ix:
if you are broke and boring she's not going to think abt geting married to you unless she is over 35

Exactly one of the point i always wanna hear about ladies, They always want ready made rich/Wealthy guy without knowing how hard he worked to to get to where he is before she met him... So tomorrow after getting married to her, She will now want to start controlling him over his hard earn wealth abi? She will want to know How much he is worth in his bank account, she will want to know all about his properties and and also wanna monitor his daily life and activities. She will also want to be the next of kin with that nonsense word i am your better half, I am your wife bla bla bla.... Ladies let me tell you this, You can never control sane man with better street OT who you did not suffer with or who know you only got married to him cos you know he is already made guy will never take you serious cos he will always remember when tings go sour you might left as usual..

cococandy:
I'm not talking about you in particular

That was me generally speaking so to say

Alright, We are different woman with different thinking and reasoning... So i always stated my opinion based what have seen, Heard and go through on that bondage called marriage. All iz well

bukatyne:
If she cannot confide in you her lover and husband, you who she shares a bed with then she is better off married to her parents/father.

Maybe you both should just get a divorce and marry your family

OR

Go Back to the drawing board, divorce your parents/family and start cleaving to each other.

If your parents did not leave their own parents and cleaved to themselves, you might not have them as a support system today.

My husband comes first before kids or family.
I come first before our kids or his family.

Well there's no need going to the drawing board it's late already,

Mind you I always tell my wife even my mother that my kids come first, If you like come with another story that without her will i have kids that story for the god's... My kids come first....

cococandy:
I hear you.

So what about when the man is being rude or nasty to the wife or her family? Is there a portion of 'your culture' that addresses that?

No let me guess. It doesn't matter.
Your culture is not interested in respect for a wife.

If she mentions it, it is western
Respect for a spouse is only African when it is directed to the husband and his family.

Yeye things.

Well i have never rude to her parent and will never even be rude... I am a very calm guy and if you ask people around i swear out of 100, 99 will never say bad about me in term behavior and kindness... I base in cotonou and always comes around every 2 weeks, Sometime i come around weekends... Upon setting her up with business, I make sure provide everything they needed at home She stay with my kids and her 2 brothers and a sister.. None of my brother or sister with with them... When am building my house, I always send her money to buy everything isn't that enough trust? Now she went behind me with her parents ( Father, Mother, Sister and brother's) but land and started building... no one hear my story and ever blame even her pastor and his wife... All they tell me is to just make sure am taking care of my kids. And when ever i come around nobody ask me about her, all people ask is about my Kids if am hearing from them.