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bimbod:
Thanks, tho i dnt have one yet... I like d fact that your idea of marriage is different, I like people with contradicting ideas. Just dat I prefer my own idea of marriage.

I also appreciate who are also open to hearing other people's ideas. It's very refreshing.

bimbod:
lol,... you can't just do ur own thing when in marriage. I prefer the conventional wife

Okay that's nice. I hope you find a wonderful wife and have a happy married life or if you have one, good luck to you!

bimbod:
nah, I don't wish so

Why don't you wish so?

free2ryhme:
What is your indices in determining marriage is not for everybody?

You speak for yourself alone. Your position is just to find out if your kind exist on nairaland. Guess what? OYO

The fact that multiple people on this thread said that marriage isn't for them proves that marriage isn't for everybody. The fact that I, by myself, say that marriage isn't for me shows that marriage is not for everybody. I learned from Miggs that there is an identical thread like mine. And I have just found out that there is a word for it . It's called gamophobia.

free2ryhme:
I spell it the way it is. No insult

You don't need to be possessed. Even the mother of jesus will not open a thread of this nature.

If I had told you what you wanna hear then I would be singing your praise. That is not how I roll.

But as righteous as you are, you opened the thread. Did I ask you to sing my praises or just answer my question? Me too, I won't tell you what you want to hear. I will tell you how I feel. I think you're a hypocrite to call yourself a christian and then insult people under the guise of "I spell it as it is".

free2ryhme:
Does he knows his left from right?. I am not insulting him he reasons vaguely

I'm pretty sure he knows his left from right. must you insult people because they don't follow your way of life. Marriage is not for everybody

free2ryhme:
Since you started your thesis with "since the idea of marriage does not excite you at all" then you don't need advise.

Do what your demons circulates in your head!

For a christian you really like insulting people . You too will stand before God on the day of judgement so relax small. I'm not possessed

free2ryhme:
This is the most senseless reasoning from a 23 year old.

Go face your studies and get a life before commenting on what you have no idea about. That's if you have any idea of what it means

Why are you insulting him now? it works very well for some people. As long as there is agreement, there's no issue.

IamLEGEND1:
ladies first

But it's a man's world. Take the lead

SUPERPACK:
Thats the best option.

I think that's what I'll do

IamLEGEND1:

At this point,It's way too late & I'm way too tired to turn my attention towards cheap bawds.

So just go and sleep abeg.

Go and die abeg.

Miggs:
You must be in your early or mid-twenties
You will surely change this your mindset
about marriage when you get older because no woman on earth wants to live alone in a three roomed apartment at the age of forty.
As for Miggs,he would rather die a thousand deaths before ever getting married.
I never have and never could stand women talk more of sharing thesame enclosed space with one for years.
The link below tackles thesame issue:

www.nairaland.com/2899637/gamophobic

Thank you for the link! I can relate very well to her situation.

Miggs:
You must be in your early or mid-twenties
You will surely change this your mindset
about marriage when you get older because no woman on earth wants to live alone in a three roomed apartment at the age of forty.
As for Miggs,he would rather die a thousand deaths before ever getting married.
I never have and never could stand women talk more of sharing thesame enclosed space with one for years

of course no woman wants to spend the rest of her life by herself in a three bedroom house. That's just a waste of money! She will buy herself a Condo or one bedroom apartment that's easy to manage and forces her to go out. I bet there's a woman out there who feels the exact same way as you. I personally don't understand the importance of marriage but I could change my mind later. (Or not)

SUPERPACK:
even if u dont want to marry pls do it for ur children u crave for, dont allow the society to brand them "BASTARDS" in future, because when they do they will have no option than to come after you.

That's my fear actually. I was even thinking I will marry just so my children aren't born out of wedlock and then divorce later.

IamLEGEND1:
No even try vex me now.

No just think am. u dey craze? we can't sit back and watch u pollute the web with stupid threads like this. In case u haven't heard:here on NL,we suffer fools gladly.

Pay attention oh ye dümb harlöt. I am legend,and I only make relevant sense.

Will you shut up. Escaped mental patient who you be sef? I shouldn't think of insulting you? Why? Can you not take an insult? Ode Buruku. Pack your useless self and get out of this thread if you don't have work. Sense is just lacking in your life. If this thread doesn't concern you then find your way out. Fool

obiorathesubtle:
Lol. My bad.. We haven't drawn the circle of trust yet..


Btw.. I'm obiora.

Nice. My name is Ejiro

IamLEGEND1:
because ur attention seeking thread showed up on my phone screen.

Are you mentally okay or do you not know how Nairaland works? You can ignore a post and move on

ivyy:
I'm pretty sure your mum will be against your decision

Big time! she'll drag me to church and beg Pastor to pray for me. I won't leave church for one week

ThreeGEEKS:
Then don't go into it, it just ain't for you. Steve Jobs said "don't start a business unless there is a wrong that you want to make right". In my translation I believe that he meant don't do anything you know you can't be passionate about. Good luck, good night.

Okay I get you now

aiir2303:
different strokes for different folks. if you feel this way its all good cause the last time i checked as adults you can have a stance (which include not wanting to get married) and make sure no one is goon prevail on you to get married. what i know is for every action(s) there are consequences. Being married has consequences and remaining to stay unmarried has its own.so the question is can you take stand the consequences and be ok with it? if yes you are good to go

Yeah you're right. Every action has its consequences. I'm just imagining the reaction of my family members. girls are supposed to want to get married or we're called ashawo

rose54321:
Your name "beast of no nation", that movie was wow.

Now to the topic:
As humans we need , at some point in life, companionship. Studies have proven that only those with strong companionship and relationships are truly happy in their old age.

At this point in your life, all this marriage talk might sound like hullabaloo, but trust me that time will come when you yourself will crave to be loved by someone, crave to wake up beside someone, carve for that closeness, not one you can get from friends, an adopted child, or even your biological child, one you can only get from a companion.

Y'all don't have to be married, marriage is over rated, but at least in a strong and committed relationship.

I like that perspective. I particular like the point of my life in old age. I've never really looked that far. I guess, in a way, I do want companionship but I just haven't met anyone yet Marriage is not really my cup of tea though so I guess that's where the problem lies

ThreeGEEKS:
Even life gives you problem but have you considered committing suicide? I think not, my point is that there's problems everywhere, so marriage should not be seen as a safe haven. Even if you decide not to marry, it would not make life easier because life will still give you problems till the last.

I was very suicidal at one point in time but I got help from my church leaders and now I'm doing quite well. I understand that life is not easy. Nothing is easy. But I don't see why I will willingly seek out problems. like you said, marriage is not a safe haven, so what is the use?

obiorathesubtle:
Lol, I wonder how many names you've written down..

That's my secret

maoweidong:
Talking about insecurities in an insecure world that's why we turn to God for help. If you've never had any reason to be sad since you were born then marriage isn't for you k (just saying)

I don't understand what you mean

Ayomide93:
whao, this is awesome. The idea of cohabiting or just having a baby is all I ever wished for not some senseless marriage and some fantasies of love.

Exactly! I think it's just a natural thing. I think this marriage thing is just a way to tie people down and make them spend money on an unnecessary wedding. Which other species in this world gets married sef? In nature, the female usually raises the child by herself with no problem. There are some single mothers that raise their children alright. I wish I could just do that and have no issue.

obiorathesubtle:
aahh.. I won't derail your thread..

Somewhere else then.. Although, if you don't want to get married, that's fine.. If you change your mind, I'm single and straight

Lol I will write down your name and get back to you

ThreeGEEKS:
1. The Bible never said every woman must marry.
2. You said you didn't want problem, then clearly marriage is not for you. Marriage is for those who can see a problem and rough it out together. People get into the university hopefull never to have any "problem", but that is not always the case. And that never stopped others for going into the university because "they don't want problem"
3. In Marriage, you have to learn to compromise. If you see someone who meets 75% of your expectations, that's a gold find. Take it or leave it. You can never get all you are looking for from one person. Even God is still" Three persons in one"

You said Marriage is for those who see a problem and rough it out together. Why would I readily give myself a problem? What is the reward for solving the problem? Please I hope I don't sound harsh. I'm just curious

IamLEGEND1:
I honestly couldn't care less.
Next möron pls.

Then why did you comment

obiorathesubtle:
Itchy fingers my Dear..


I see you've seen the movie beast of no nation.. Interesting movie.. Wanna talk about it??

I would be happy to talk about it in another thread

ivyy:
Marriage is not for everyone.
I would suggest you do whatever suits you.
If you thinks it wouldn't work for you then so be it.

Who knows, someday you might also find a man who sweeps you off your feet.

Maybe o! If SOMEHOW that happens, I'll come back and tell you people that I've changed my mind.

Yeah you're right, I'm just doing my thing until it becomes a problem with my mother

rose54321:
You name "beast of no nation", that movie was wow.

The movie was seriously on point! but I actually named it after Fela Kuti's song.

lrguru:
if u know u can't get married, please stay away from d1cks 4ever