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Kingsley1000:
so you think this ur cheap &flimsy pranks can avert it,there are many ways to kill a rat baby

Please tell me one of the many ways

esosa993:
What Is A Misogynist?
Misogyny ( noun) – hatred, dislike, or mistrust of
women
I’ve been doing some research on misogyny lately;
mainly its symptoms and characteristics. Firstly, I
should explain that misogyny is a deep hatred or
contempt for women. It is a mental/psychological
disorder which affects more men than I realized,
and it can manifest itself in a variety of ways
ranging from chauvinism or sexism to physical
abuse and rape.
What Causes A Man To Become A
Misogynist?
It seems that the root cause of misogyny has not
been pinpointed, though theories point to
upbringing, religious views or our patriarchal
society in general. Perhaps these men grew up in
dysfunctional families where they had a poor
relationship with their mothers. As a mother
myself, I cannot imagine the mother who is terrible
enough to turn her son against more than half the
planet. I still don’t get it.
Maybe they grew up with fathers who believed that
a woman’s place is in the home. Then, as more
and more women moved out of this “norm”, the
general feeling became that these women are bad
people; thus women are bad people. These men
often adopt the view that only mothers
(homemakers) are good and wholesome. Women
who want to work outside the home, educate
themselves and not conform to the traditional roles
of women are morally corrupt. This line of thinking
is referred to as the mother/LovePeddler or virgin/LovePeddler
dichotomy. That is to say, these men ascribe to
the belief that only mothers and virgins are
wholesome and good. Any woman who does not
conform to tradition roles or maintain her virginity
until marriage must be, in the misogynistic mind, a
LovePeddler.
Many religions, including Christianity , teach that
the man is the head of the woman. I’ve always
believed that to mean that the man should take the
lead in providing for, planning the future for, and
setting the standards for his household.
Unfortunately, the misogynist will misinterpret
(often purposely) this to mean that man should
dominate the woman, that he is superior to the
woman and that she should be under his complete
control. And let’s not forget about EVE – she
messed the whole thing up for everyone, right?
How To Recognize The Symptoms
Whatever the cause, the more I learn about
misogyny, the more I recognize how prevalent it is
in today’s society. It’s disturbing in that there are
so many subtle traits that are easy to ignore until
you see them lumped together in a list. So… I am
providing you with a list. Some of these behaviors
are obvious; others I would have never thought of.
I think you’ll be surprised as well.
• Thinks his masculinity depends on dominating
women.
• Controls women by destroying their self-
confidence
• Needs to insure that women are always less
powerful than he
• Intimidates women by constantly finding fault
with them
• Humiliates women in public and devalues their
opinions
• Must ALWAYS win in a discussion with or about
women – all encounters with or about women are
seen as a battle to be won
• Blames women for failings that are in no way
related to them
• Blame women for his own failings and
shortcomings (or the failings and shortcomings of
other men)
• Denies women’s feelings and makes them wrong
for feeling them
• Makes jokes or derogatory comments about
women and then ridicules any woman who gets
offended or upset
• Belittles or ignores women’s accomplishments
• Wants to punish any woman who displeases him
• Has no remorse or guilt for the pain he causes
women
• Tries to keep women from doing things they are
qualified to do
• Selectively quotes authorities to substantiate his
views and positions on women
• Will confuse issues by changing the subject,
denial, word jugglery, lying, twisting the facts or
acting as if nothing happened (when you both
know that it did)
• A knight in shining armor – zeroes in on a
woman to “save”
• Extremely possessive, wants all of your time and
undivided attention
• Obsessively jealous, even of your women friend.
Wants you to account for any time spent away
from him
• Is preoccupied with sex and is sexually
controlling
• Has grandiose behavior; cocky and self centered
• Has first class spending habits; always wanting
more.
• Can’t stand criticism; always on the defense
• He has problems with authority figures in general
and women in authority in particular.
• Is nasty behind the wheel and feels that other
drivers’ mistakes are directed toward him
personally
• Has a Jekyll and Hyde personality - Nice to you
in public, but cuts you down in private
• Always the victim; takes no responsibility;
blames others/things/circumstances for his
behavior
• Overly sensitive and sulking when he does not
get his way
• Steals, uses people, always borrowing but never
pays back
• Give gifts then demands favors
• Professes religious beliefs then attacks your
religious beliefs

I completely agree with you op

SkinnyDude:
madam, don't tell me you took that guy seriously....he has gone 'nut'

Please oooo I only started commenting recently I don't know who's mad and who's not yet

KingRaoul:
Ever met a guy with so much charm, little baby eyes, beautiful face, very good stature but the only problem is his ego. He knows everyone admires him and he's so self conscious and loves himself so much. At first girls u all would be attracted to his goodlooks what if u realise hes a narcissist, would u still date him?

The personality will throw me off completely. I won't lie about liking good looking guys but if I was looking for a RELATIONSHIP then that won't happen. Even if it did happen, it would end quickly when I'm now old and looking at his wrinkly face, will I not start to regret my life? So I would rather admire him from afar than suffer being his girlfriend.

espionagesavvy:
When I was doing my NYSC, any girl wey dey come my house dey sit for bed, I carry my sit to my one female friends' house dash am. Dat was den, now.. Am a big boy.. No need for childish poo..I Am classy, baby, I am the most romantic man the world has ever known.... Come let's fall madly in love...

How do you know I don't have a history of madness in my family That's how some of you boys will be putting yourself in hot water by declaring love to every female you meet. I pray you don't encounter any female that will steal your destiny IJN amen! You seem like a nice guy but be careful. Some girls are baaaad

Kingsley1000:
I see..... have you encountered that b4?

No but at least God blessed me with sense to know when I'm faced with such a situation. ;DThat's when I will kindly excuse myself and say I have one aunty from Warri that I have to address at home (I know it's a lie but God will forgive me in this case)

Kingsley1000:
I've but seen not to comprehend..... can you pls clarify and be explicit.... what's reason behind hiding the chair?

If a girl enters a guy's room and he has no chairs, she'll have to sit on his bed. Once she sits on his bed and konji sets in, there's almost no way of escaping the repercussions.

teekay213:
hi,av been fighting this for a long time but i think if i share it here,u are going to give me advise that will help me one way or the other. i have lost so many girls because of the way i have sex with them,whenever we get in the mood kissing or foreplaying, in the heat of it i always caught myself tearing my partner undies(pant and bra) it kind of turn me on. even sometimes i seizes their panties after sex,because am obsessed with female undies,it turn me on more than anything.has these made me loose so many ladies i want to have meaningful relationship with.pls help,how can i stop?

Tell them not to wear underwear around you. Whenever you're feeling hot, tell them to run to the bathroom and get undressed. No more tearing of pant when the pant is not there shikena. As for the animalistic sex, I pray you find somebody that can handle it.

espionagesavvy:
Why are girls of today this rude, very simple observation and u are running a diatribe on me already, pls answer the question or shud we move it over to romance zone
Runs girls too cost so if I fit get one girl on NL wey go keep me warm and busy this night I wouldnt mind.. talk to me honey, don't be shy..

Why are guys of today so crude? You are probably one of the people that will be hiding chair when a girl is coming over.

espionagesavvy:
I mispronounced ur moniker as breast of no nation.. hehe. Do u have a double D humongous bosoms?

No I don't! You wan sell? Don't go and find work

Kingsley1000:
why will a boy hide his chair?

Are you not following this entire thread?

khassy:
so ypu sef D fear ban

Before nko? but please. By the grace of god you will not ban me.

youcanmakeit:
Shout out to all d guys that knows what am talking about

OP what about those guys that have chairs but will hide them once they know a girl is coming Enemies of Progress.

khassy:
ehusisoup and beastofnonation

stop derailing before I dash una 12yrs ban ooo

Please I'm sorry oooo

EgusiSoup:
So?

I Wii be your friend now

EgusiSoup:
I think I am begin to like you. You seem to has a sensing of humor. Can we be Friend?

Looll no problem man

all4naija:
Okay! That makes a lot of sense. You are a very smart lady and I don't know why you have to choose feminism over gender equality. Perhaps you would have to read more on it to have a better understanding of the ideology.

You know what? I don't want to fight with you. We believe in the same thing so why are we even fighting?

all4naija:
Okay! That makes a lot of sense. You are a very smart lady and I don't know why you have to choose feminism over gender equality. Perhaps you would have to read more on it to have a better understanding of the ideology.

I'm part of a progressive feminist group that fights for GENDER EQUALITY. Where dominance entered the definition of feminist, I don't know.

all4naija:
Yes, they exist! I am one of them. I also think princeprinz is one of them by heart. Why are you biased a little bit? What has nationality got to do with that? Huh!

I'm talking based on experience and the fact that majority of the guys on this thread are misogynistic or support such views. I clearly stated that I'm only attracted to nigerian guys and I generally like everything about them. My ish with them is that they can be so biased and prejudiced towards females. It's annoying being told that if I marry a Nigerian guy, I'll become a servant to him for the rest of my life and any dreams I had come second to his.

EgusiSoup:
Stop shining the teeth

Sorry I brushed them this morning so they are extra bright. It's not my fault. Blame Colgate

all4naija:
How can I be those when I support gender equality? You see, my posts are there to prove me right.

I was talking about @pinceprinz post that you said I didn't reply to well

all4naija:
That is so wonderful. A perfect man in a real world indeed! No, it is not! That wish is not impossible at all. One thing I am skeptical of is that it looks more of a fantasy than reality of the world we live in.

It is not going to be easy to come by but it is very possible!

Thank you. I plan on finding him someday. I know these guys exist only issue is that the guys I know of are not Nigerian

pinceprinz:
Its unusual ! Folks find it hard to admit 'I don't know what I was saying'

At least we know what she stands for now , so maybe she is forgiven

I didn't ask for your forgiveness because I'm not wrong.

all4naija:
Is that all you have to say? I think there is more to the post than the steps to modify the title of the thread.

What else will I say that I haven't said before? "Don't be misogynistic" "Don't view women as lesser beings". I've said it before.

pinceprinz:



Ok ok now let me take it one step at a time

To change the topic, Go back to your profile, click on this very thread, brings you back to page zero , scroll down your supporting write up and click on modify. On clicking modify, brings you to that write-up page where you'll be able to change your topic to suit warever


Is this discussion not constructive enough? I mean you dot expect éveryone to share your thoughts on a thread this controversial. That we actually sounded metaphorical don't amount to insult sweet! We were only trying to make our point sink into your big head suffering from high degree af entropy


You know what? We're MEN ! The dominant specie, the alpha positive, the rugged and we RuLE the world cos I ts our birth right. Now, that doesn't mean you don't have the right to be warever u wanna be as a woman, but warever you are or u become will / should be to support / complement warever the man has already visualized /created

Thank you for telling me how to change the topic name

all4naija:
@ BeastOfNoNation

What kind of man would you like to get married to? Let me put it properly. What kind of man are you going to marry?

An independent man whose manhood is not easily threatened by a working and goal driven woman. A man who also has goals to achieve and a name to make for himself. A husband who respects me the way I respect him. Understands that YES I'm a woman but that doesn't mean my brain is working at half capacity. A man who is my best friend and loves me the way I love him. Gbam. Is anything I wished for impossible?

all4naija:
Why didn't you say so when I repeatedly ask the same thing in my posts? Nobody is trying to threaten you here. Oh, please...! You are becoming emotional now. A feminist is supposed to man-up for feminism sake!

I'm becoming emotional? I'm being humble as I'm hearing your immature comments. I'm pointing out the kind of abuses you've been throwing my way. I'm not going to sink to your level and start insulting people and cursing people I've never met. How can you tell someone she will divorce while she is still pregnant? Have I become your enemy that you will be wishing for these kind of things on me? Did I say you should be rendered impotent and live in a constant state of poverty for the rest of your life because I disagree with your point of view? I'm holding myself now because God knows I won't be banned from Nairaland on my first thread.

all4naija:
Lol... You admit the error of the title yet refuse to change it. You are very hypocritical while looking at your dismissal of generalizing men in this post.

Has it ever occurred to you that since this is my first thread, I don't know how to change it? I've been trying to for some time now. I don't see the need for insult. And when I created this thread, I asked for constructive discussion. Aand what I've gotten from you and @pinceprinz is prayer that I will fail in life, be divorced, move to Jupiter, sleep my way to the top, not find anybody to marry me, be a slave if I want to marry, be objectified, and I've been told that I can't differentiate between a snake and an eel. All of this because I'm a woman who wants to achieve and have a name in the future the same way any man would want to achieve. God punish the both of you

all4naija:
That is submissiveness though! When nature calls! Bwahaha... You aren't a feminist!

What are you saying? Is it only men that enjoy in sex?

all4naija:
The most interesting about her is that she is very quick to generalize about men. That is what feminists do. Men are always their nightmares yet some of them want to get married to them!

Who told you a man is my nightmare You say I'm quick to generalize men but I haven't. This thread is about misogynistic men. If you are not misogynistic then clap for yourself. You are a decent human being. If you believe that a woman is a slave to you then this thread is for you.

pinceprinz:
Oh Swiri, how'd I know your stand if I don't ask? I mean, 'independent women' (feminist) I'd met (basically online) have that notion I'm actually a misogynist sort of whereas I am not... I'm just highly opinionated and quite anti-feminist
That you'd love to have the family and the name is nice but getting over ambitious while chasing success is my worry. Its quite impossible raising a family effectively and making the name a real big one hon, it requires meticulous planning I suppose if at all it gona work

I have the capability of doing both so don't underestimate me. My mother always told me that I can have everything I want in life. A family and A legacy. Obviously I won't compromise either one and I will take things one step at a time. But to tell me that I can only do one for the rest of my life will be a disservice to the people I'm planning on helping in the future. I'm a born humanitarian this much is true. I will have a name that will last all of history but I will also have that family that will love me for even longer. #LevelsDonChange