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arsenefc:
Obviously you've lived in obodo- America for a really long time and you've lost your Africanness. You've come to accept loneliness as a way of life. Glad you adjusted to it quite well, for now,  but the rest of us still love that connection.

We miss what makes us human; the touch, the sound, the interdependence, the emotional connection, the smiles, the cries, the daily grind of love, hate, friendship, the constant interruption by families and relatives, the tease, the unsolicited words of encouragement etc

That is what being human is all about. That is why we remain in touch with our humanity and the feelings of others. It is the reason we dont engage in endless loops of argument on an anonymous forum. The reason we dont take ourselves too seriously. It is the reason we express our emotions appropriately when people die, get married or say things we disagree with or agree with. It is the reason we dont hold malice against people that may have offended us in the past.

Kobo, its time you get back to your root, go spend sometime in your village, with people that love you and can remind you of what you really are and not what you wish you were.

Its  great to be in constant connection with your family, friends and most importantly your root. We arent made for isolation. It is actually beneficial to your psyche to experience a close knit, hot, dysfunctional, loving, family-like type situation as not only meaningful, but sacred, on fire with the same force that made the stars: love, fellowship, the mystical oneness of all things deep down.

Kobo, it is up to you.

thanks dear,
i dnt know wat all the wahala is about, i was only expressing my feeling on the day, doesnt mean am suicidal all hate everything on the planet. and wat did i get a single person saying, ride a bike, (where do i put my crew while am on the bike ) join a cooking class, shebi na d cooking tire me wey i dey complain.
it all in good humour.

arsenefc:
LOL

Why are we all against Kobo.

Kobo is the most hated NL'er, it seems

Kobo, I can make all these hate go away, if you agree to do 'janglover epomoto' on my ding dong.

son of god is the most hated NLer, have u seen his previous post? SHOCKING!!

frosbel:
Shocking !!!!!!!!!

And this is supposed to be an arena for enlightened debate and knowledge share.

Disgrace, just look at all the abuse flying around.

I want to apologise for my part, i was very upset becos i didnt know why someone wud attack me in such a way. i didnt think there was anything in my post to provoke such hatred. well, am done.

Kobojunkie:
I took to biking because I could no longer jog or walk. I used to walk about 16 miles round the path back in columbus, but in 2009, I found that I had torn cartilage and it became painful to run or walk. But Biking came to the rescue. The distance from my place to the Library I go to each day is about 4.3 miles, so I hop on my Schwinn Surburban (I love that machine) each day to ride there and back. Takes about 20 minutes.

I think anyone who lives in the city, and has to commute can easily do 40 miles of more a week if he/she chooses to bike it. I live about 4.3 miles from where I go everyday to work and hangout, and those 20 minutes each way on my bike is time for me to free my mind, relax and enjoy the breeze, right before I hit the books/work, and then the 20 minutes back is my time to de-stress, stretch the muscles and enjoy the breeze/wind. Also time to work out all the eba of the day before. lol

I know people who bike twice that each week actually. Biking from a place like Irving Park to downtown is easily 7 miles each way, and that is about 14 miles a day. Add to that errands and what nots on the weekend.

I don't see how being raised in close knit family and what not has anything to do with what you are implying here. I was raised in a close knit family myself and I am not falling apart in the way the @Poster described. I enjoyed my family, and I still do that, but I don't have any attachment issues to deal with since I am well adjusted and confident that the distance between us DOES NOT IMPLY less love or hugs for me at the end of the day. CONFESSION: my mum is in the next room and we are like best of friends, but when she is not here, I am OK.  I mean that one was raised in a close knit ground should not be reason for one to break to pieces when one has to move to a far away land. One needs to be able to take what one learnt in the family situation, and use it to one's advantage when one is away. Create a close-knit group with those around you and continue enjoying your life.

Biking is not abut drawing close to others  . . .  it is actually my way of getting more confident with myself, no matter how many people are around or not around. Those minutes everyday, each way on my bike, I get to listen to the silence, accept and LOVE IT. It is good. Ofcourse when I get to my destination, I go back to my yapping  . ,  lol

Happiness should not be based on where you are, or the number of people(family members, friends) around you at any time. If you find that you cannot sit alone, all by yourself and still be happy, then you probably need to go talk to someone about that. One should learn to be happy wherever one is. And being comfortable never hurts.

it depends on your personality, emotion etc. i will not apologise for being me. i grew up in a very large and happy environment, my sister was married in nearby city we wud just be sitting on a saturday evening and she and her hubby would walkin saying they are traveling to maybe lagos for a friend's wedding and would drop their kid's no questions asked. i miss all that.

my best friend is getting married in warri and all my friends are there, they called me eeryone excited and talking at the same time. when they dropped the phone it all fell silent, and i felt bad so i thot i will just air my views.

arsenefc:
E no go better for the first person to stop.

You guys are on a roll, keep it up.

That is incredibly hilarious.


I have to admit you did score a point on this one. The problem is that you arent any better. Same same!

E GO BETTER FOR ALL OF US IJN.

Sun of god:
LOL. . . .LOL . . .

To summarise - stay in the west.

And start reading your childrens english books.

God forbid they return to Lagos - and turn out like you -

And how could anybody miss lagos? See your 'Shrink' tomorrow.

Your too backward to be bored - you have a lot to learn -

Educate yourself - LagosBush girl -

Take care,

oh dear, MR FIRE BLANK
d madness is back.
well, i give up.
there is no cure for him o
I give up,


so sad.

Sun of god:
LOL, LOL, LOL -

Bush girl - u don kill me 2day. . . . .

Chai, . . . .

hahahahahahaha
MR FIRE BLANK u too funny oo

i be bush girl? dats all u have to say?
ok, oya pple make una start to happy o
finally dis man head don dey correct, chei dat was long, no wonder the last psychiatrist get to remove u from his list.
u r a bit slow. never min it comes with all these illness wey u get.


have a bit of sleep ok? awww, poor thing.

Sun of god:
LOL, LOL, LOL -

Because I called you an illiterate, you revert to 'pigeon english' - LagosBush girl

Continue speculating about my life - But belive me when I say I'm very OK.

I couldn't have wished for more - including the freedom I enjoy life a little.

Please, go and attend to your household.

As the saying goes - You made your bed, so go lay in it.

No need to bit.ch about your sorry life on naraland (and in the politics section for that matter)

As previously stated, I pity you - so you hae succesed with your post - Your truly pitiful -

MR FIRE BLANK

NOW dis is a proper LOL,

wat too u so long, u go look for madam for river and house boy room LOL,

How many don ban u from their post?
soon there will be a petition to remove totally from this forum.
as u call me bush lagos girl, i for start to insult ibo pple but u r not worth it.
i cannot degrade myself to that level.

that doesnt make u anyless of a fool though.
Since wen ibo pple star to go school, shey cosmetics market don close? or money ritual no dey pay again?

Sun of god:
LOL,

I have 2 kids if you must know. 1 boy, 1 girl.

And the quality of life they enjoy is second to none!! (and their made for life)

But if your desperate to drink my Fluid let me know. I will fill up your mouth in a single expulsion -

See frustration, They say the truth hurts!!!

Please, either go and tidy up your house - or go and book your flight back to naija.

LOL,

MR FIRE BLANK
who dey laugh wit u?

ok, srry the the kai laugh to cover shame be dat, ok

i no ask if u get kids, i say hug am. abi na the one wey dem carry give u out of sympathy u dey talk of,
try do DNA make we see.
abeg, re-evaluate ur life, have u seen the number of hours u ve spent on NL at that rate how u go take know who give ur wife belle.

ok were is she now?
i mean now, be honest to add lying to already sour life.

open ur eyes, ignorance no be excuse.

see am e dey rush around fo fone to call her, no need my bro, there is only somuch a woman can take
not to talk of the premature e-jaculation.
na waooo
srry eh.
oh b4 i foget, LOL!

Sun of god:
Wow . . . See frustration.

Your trapped and have come here to explain your predicament.

You have stated that both yourself and your mother are inept parents - hence the need for western doctors to arrive on your doorstep within 2 minutes of you almost killing one of your children.

And then the household chores your having difficulties with.

But I'm the frustarted one!!!

If you had an insight into the life I enjoy you would be immediately struck with jealousy.

I've stated my own and have been honest - for your kids sake stay in the West until your adequately equiped to raise a child in Naija.

And hopefully they will grow up and enjoy greater freedoms than you.

I pity you - i really do.

I sugget you exit NL and go and tidy up your house!!!

awwwww, i was angry wit u now am not.
i have 3 lovely boys and a beautiful girl,
yes hard work for now. give it two years and i will be living it.
but you, wat r u going to do about your low s_perm count it can be very difficult to accept.
if i believe you u have employeeeeeeeeees but no wife no pikin ur employeeeeeeees
dey use your money look after their family b4 u know it dem go resign leave u there all alone.

instead of u to be researching ways for a cure u spending hours insulting pple.
wait, that my son hugging me, wat did u say son? awww i love u to sweetie.
son of devil ur turn hug the nearest person to you make u see irty slap for ur face.
MR FIRE BLANK

Sun of god:
You have 4 kids - and are on maternity?

Another one on the way? And probably picking up maternity pay, child benefit etc

I'm glad your not one of my employee's - you'd have cost me a fortune!!!

Anyway, put your kids first above your selfish needs.

If you miss your family - go on holiday to visit them - now would actually be a good time since you dont need to go to work everyday.

Your kids depending on the ghetto area you find your self in will get a better quality of education overseas.

Maybe consider exiting after the last born reaches university level - thats even if you can afford to send your kids to university in this day and age!!!

@ son of devil,
i can see u r fustrated, i was curious about you just checked your other post never a human being could be
so bitter.
its obvious you dnt have kids, low s_perm count is treatable.
kid's are hard work but the joy out weighs all the work.

u seem to have a negative view on everything, if u dis angry wit the world maybe u should try a leap off the river niger bridge.

Kobojunkie:
The first is we are not all in the same boat as you are @Poster. If you are questioning the worth of your citizenship, it is unwise to assume everyone else is in your shoe.
Some people have actually made a home where they are and are content, to the point that they barely take calls from people from back in Nigeria or whatever company they migrated from. I know Nigerians who are so comfortable where they live that they rarely try to find out what is happening in Nigeria, let alone anywhere else planet earth but where they live and all.

You probably need to go talk to someone about your feelings of loneliness, or you probably should maybe link up with other women in your community/area who may be in need of a friend or two, like you seem to. If you must have Nigerians in your life, then maybe find a Nigerian Church or something. I would advice you work at making a home where you are, rather than having these ideas that the grass is greener on the other side where you ran from to begin with.

As for me, I do not ask myself such questions, and I do not have any intentions to giving up what I have.

thank you, i totally see sense in wat u saying.
we are not moving back, i do communicate with my family alot, the cold is not helping and my nieces and nephew's are all getting married and i wish i was there.
i do go to church (RCCG) normally am at work and very busy but being at home now, am very bored. am too much of a busy body to be bored.

i just thot it would be a nice way to weigh up advantages and disadvantages of living far from home.
maybe am more attached to my family becos am a woman.

Sun of god:
You have 4 kids - and are on maternity?

Another one on the way? And probably picking up maternity pay, child benefit etc

I'm glad your not one of my employee's - you'd have cost me a fortune!!!

Anyway, put your kids first above your selfish needs.

If you miss your family - go on holiday to visit them - now would actually be a good time since you dont need to go to work everyday.

Your kids depending on the ghetto area you find your self in will get a better quality of education overseas.

Maybe consider exiting after the last born reaches university level - thats even if you can afford to send your kids to university in this day and age!!!

thanks for ur time.

Parisgoodman:
i think your main reason of going back 2 nigeria is because of your kids, i.e if i'm right. permit me 2 ask, is your pocket not fat enough to hire a nanny?(no offence). or mayb u wanna taste d  hardship ryt? u are highly welcome!

i am not moving back, i came in 2009 and nothing has changed.

am on maternity so am maily with them after school.

i have three boys 7-3 so its a bit of a handful.

my baby wud go to nursery.

Sun of god:
To jump on a plane and fly back to naija does not equate to giving up your citizenship.

If it doesn't work out, you can fly back to the west anytime.

Unless your living there illegally.

Where are the childrens father? Does he not work?

Your obviously on benefits - and are worried about giving them up to move back to naija.

If you have skills and a decent education you will be ok - otherwise your jumping from the frying pan into the fire.

Few people will be prepared to carry you in naija - unlike the 'West' where taxpayers are forced to carry you.

I know things are getting hard for people on the dole in the west - inflation is taking effect.

But beggars cant be choosers - you people need to learn how to adjust and embrace poverty.

Poverty in the 'West' is better for your children - at least the state will take care of the school fee's - up to secondary school level.

In naija, 4 lots of school fee's every term is not easy.

i didnt say travel home. i meant give it up totally.
am sure u did comprehension at school.

i just read ur post again, do i sense a bit of jealousy?


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@ son of god, please spare me. it,s just a debate am putting out.
dont insult me or my family. my kid's is here, we have been together for 16 years.
did i say i was hungry?
am just saying i miss home, i miss my family.
please u seem to have a sour tongue.

i do work am on maternity and so does my hubby.
i dnt have to explain myself to you.

Hi guys,
the question is how much is your foreign citizenship worth?
what would your current country of residence give you for you to move back home?
or, wat level of s_hit would you take from a govt or people to stay in their country?
wat's the breaking point before you decide to go home?
how much would u ask for if u were asked to go back to nigeria?
phew!!
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i thot i should modify the post, my aim was to get people to reminiscence about past life and
see if u miss it. e.g wen watching daddy showkey on youtube i cant help laughing.

are there things in naija that u would like to have at your current location?

e.g like the eyo festival of lagos, would want it were u live.

hi guys,
can i get canned tomatoes like chopped or plum in nigeria?

it depends, i live in the uk, all african foods are here.
we mainly eat african food.
e.g this afternoon i had garri and moi moi.
but wen in naija i cant run into pizza hut for a quick slice and i miss that.
if u live in some european countries then i can understand not getting alot of african food.

and the taste of cheap lambrini wine, i can never get over that.

asda cherry scones, warm for 10secs, butter or cream in the middle. hmmmm life is sweet.

OH, i forget kebab and chinese buffet

ok, na which kai shakara be all this, shey dis na rocket science? una no buy pure water today?
wat about gala wey u buy on your way from work? dis been no hard o, or is it a case of show me urs and i will show u mine?
alright, let me start-
plantain 3 for £1
sliced bread 99p
3 litre of s.s milk £1.49
30 egg £2.49
(manchester)
dat na today, oya make una continue.

NO LOOK WITHOUT CONTRIBUTING UNLESS U BE GHOST WEY NO DEY EAT OR DRINK

the road side food is sweet o, but wen belle go purge eh, na shovel dem go take care u out of toilet.

i miss apple pie, dat one wey asda dey sell £1 hmmmm, i dey first eat the crust before the inside yum yum.

Hi peeps,
when visiting nigeria, what foods or drinks do you see abroad that is not in nigeria.
e.g gravy granules, i looked for it when i was in nigeria but cudnt find any.
also, lambrini wine, i love it but cant find it in nigeria.
any more u can think of?

Hi, we hear how food and drinks are expensive in nigeria. here is your opportunity to lay it bare.
doesnt matter how much u send home, they always say things too deer for market.

next time u go shopping pls put the prices of things you bought.

e.g bag of rice 40kg #4,000

5 litre g.nut oil #1,000 etc
you could also tell us wat state you live, a year later we re going to review it and see if prices
has been stable or if your house girl dey cheat you, it should be interesting.

hi,
i live in the uk, and would like to know the price of snails please.
i want about 2000 piece of matured ready to eat snails.
thanks

hi,
is this still available at the same price?

@ojbboy,
thanks for the assurance.
how far is it from the main tarred road? how populated is the area? if we build could we live there by dec? what are the land marks you could use to describe the area if am coming? and how is omonile in the area?
thanks for ur time.

@wealth123
pls keep us updated on this land.
am also thinking about it. i have the cash but too scared of being cheated.
i need to know how far it is from the main road and from lagos.

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hi pple,
please i need ur help.
i need estimate on decking a house in benin city, the decking area is 88ft x 36.
we re not in nigeria, but will be going this year to deck it.
we need to know all the materials that will be needed, guantity and prices.
as many suggestion as possible please.
thank you.

thanks bro,
i heard dis is mostly done in yoruba lands. but still abit sceptical.
i just want it to be a game room, something to get my boys excited wen we talk about nigeria.
i cant afford a concrete decking and it wont fit in with a bungalow.

hi guys,
i really want ur opinion on this.
i want to start building my house in benin city, its a 5 bedroom bungalow. i am seriously thinking of making it a dormer bungalow so the kids can use it as their living room or games room. this is very common in the uk and america butno one innigeria seem to agree with the idea becos the decking is going to be made of wood. do you have any idea of this in nigeria? its getting very fustrating to get my point across to my architect and others. its there a negative or positive to this idea? pls help.

hi guys
am trying to research the use of wood instead of concrete for decking.
if you hany experience with this please kindly share.
this is widely used in the western and seem to work well.
am hoping it might be cheaper than concrete.
pls help.