 Family › Re: Unforgiveness: Please I Need Help. by Beey(f): 9:21pm On May 25*. Modified: 12:42am On May 27 |
Anuoluwa12345:
Good evening, pls I need help on something
I don't even know how to put it well, but I will try my best to explain a little..and I seek sincere advice from matured and experienced ppl on the forum.
I am a type that when I love ppl, I love them wholeheartedly..to the extent that I will give in all my best to them.. be it family members or non. When I tell you I gat your back, then I truly mean it. But the problem now is, when these ppl hurt me. I don't know how to handle it, I don't even know if I will call it unforgiving spirit or maybe cause I remember things alot, I will surely not forget.
It's not as if I won't forgive them o, I will but, to make that relationship between me and that person smooth back.. it's not possible.. the distance will always be there.. tho before I get angry or pick offence it takes long, but once it happens like this! I know I have lost relationship with that soul.
Some of my relatives (extended fam) offended me, and since about 3 yrs now, these ppl have been sending different ppl just to beg me and talk to me etc.. in order to make things back, but it's just not working!. Cuz I know myself.
And I am a type that, once I vex, I don't look back..even if the person has done a lot of things etc.. I have tried my best but it's just not working. And I understand the fact that there is no how there won't be argument among humans, it's not possible.
My greatest fear now is, what if I marry, is this how It will be towards my husband, someone I claim I love? Pls how do I tackle this problem before I reach that stage, pls I need sincere word of wisdom from elders, else why I come to a faceless forum to pour out my mind. Marriage is all about forgiveness. If you aren’t willing to forgive, then you have no business getting married. Two imperfect people will offend each other a lot. A story is told of a grumpy lady who boarded a bus. She had heavy bags and as she went to sit, she hit an elderly lady with bags in her hands. She looked for a reaction from the old lady and got none. The grumpy young lady asked the elderly woman, why she didn’t get upset. The old lady replied “ there’s no need to get upset over minor issues. Our time together on this bus is so short. I’ll be getting off at the next stop and I don’t want to waste it on something unimportant.” Stop focusing on hurt feelings, little annoyance and misunderstandings. Stop putting your energy on negativity according to the story. Change your attitude because you are not perfect either. |
| Celebrities › Re: Alexx Ekubo's Burial Arrangements Announced By Family by Beey(f): 8:36pm On May 25 |
I am just curious? What’s the cultural significance of keeping the dead for that long before burial? Do you still view them before burial? In my culture, we bury within a week so I can’t relate.
How do you pay mortuary fees for that long duration? |
| Health › Re: Anambra Launches Long-Acting Injectable For HIV Prevention by Beey(f): 4:56am On May 25 |
Freshtruth:
HIV na child play when it comes to cancer
Bro up till now the white can not find a cure for HIV and cancer
Since I was born been hearing of both sickness but no cure
So what is the encessnce of been a scientist what is the use of drugs and operations?
Some body discovered electricity, somebody discover cars and so on
Why is it taking 100 of years to look for a drugs that can cure cancer and hiv
Elon musk's is the only human fighting to make a difference t’s easy to criticize the goalkeeper when you are not in the pitch. It’s easy to sit and criticize a journey you haven’t walked & see how others are not doing enough, because you are on the other side. Things will only make sense when i you actually get in the pitch so to speak. If you become a research scientist, you probably could find a cure for HIV & Cancer instead of asking about others. Elon is not the beginning and end of everything. He’s gifted yes, but medicine is not his area of expertise. |
| Family › Re: My pregnant wife by Beey(f): 11:06pm On May 21*. Modified: 7:08pm On May 22 |
westside365:
My problem is that you children of nowadays dont have privacy neither moral. Social media has become your adviser no more brain. I sorry for you gan. The stupid things displayed on net were things men in 80s or 90s dont do, but little children of nowadays are just funny, no more decency or privacy neither maturity. There are people who always see the glass as half empty and not half full. They are always negative. What’s wrong with using the Internet to ask for advice? There are people who have gone through pregnancy and can give advice. Did he say his name or do you know him or what do you mean by lack of privacy? If you know it all, good for you. The world is dynamic, and our lifestyles differ from how our grandparents lived. Eg we have microwave, GPS ,Digital camera etc. There are tools out there to teach people. One can learn so much from the internet. It’s not in your place to criticize how others choose to do things. Do you & let others live their way. |
| Family › Re: My pregnant wife by Beey(f): 11:01pm On May 21 |
Goodman024:
Good evening, everyone. Hope y'all had a great day.
I have a question please. I just want to know if am the one not seeing this as I should or something.
So the thing is that my pregnant wife, currently in her 2nd trimester is making it look like I don't assist her enough even though I do help very often, even before she got pregnant. I don't see any big deal in it at all, I cook sometimes, do the whole house cleaning every now and then, and even help her wash her clothes sometimes. But I would say these days I haven't been helping out alot due to work schedule, not that I don't help at all, I still help whenever I can.
But in her own words, it's as if she wants me to do 80% of everything because of her condition. I didn't overreact or anything when she said it, but I was like what sort of talk is that.
I just want to know if she's right and I'm the one not seeing things as I should.
Kindly share your opinion pls.
Google Image used for illustration If you both can afford to hire a domestic manager to help with cooking, laundry & cleaning, that would ease the tension. You both come home tired. Pregnant people are usually tired and want may need extra sleep. Instead of coming to start cooking & cleaning, you can have someone do it. They can either leave with you or be coming everyday or few days a week. |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: Xi Shows Putin Portrait Pictures Of Them Together (Photos, Video) by Beey(f): 10:56pm On May 21 |
Two dictators together. China keeps sending spies in the US. They come as students, professionals and some are born in the US. They keep stealing US secret intelligence. |
| Politics › Re: Yahaya Bello Wins APC Senatorial Primary For Kogi Central by Beey(f): 5:49am On May 20 |
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| Foreign Affairs › Re: Fury As Donald Trump Sues US Government, Settles Case For $1.8 Billion by Beey(f): 5:14am On May 20 |
TruthU87:
Donald Trump is also manipulating the stock market. Donald Trump is engaging in insider trading in broad daylight. Since January alone, Trump has made 3,699 trades worth up to $687 million.
How do they keep letting him get away with it?
He kidnapped Maduro without congressional approval.
He bombed Iran without Congress authorizing it.
He settled himself with a $1.8 billion government fund,
And now he is manipulating the market to make millions. Yet nobody seems willing to challenge him.
Democracy is Rubbish. Don’t forget that he’s on his final term. In a few years, there’ll be a new sheriff in town. Mark my words, he will pay back that money. He can use his executive power as president, but power is transient. Nothing lasts forever. |
| Family › Re: What My Wife Did, Is This Wrong Or Its Nothing. by Beey(f): 5:08am On May 20*. Modified: 4:44am On Jun 05 |
menaxe:
Something happened in my house this evening that’s been bothering me, and I’d like your honest advice.
My wife went out for a girls hangout. When she came back, she didn’t notice I was in the parking lot watching.
She called the gateman over, brought out her leg, and told him to remove her shoe. He took off the first canvas shoe, then the second. She didn’t notice I was there.
After he removed the shoes, she told him to take them to the cobbler for repair.
I just watched and didn’t say anything at the time. It looked to me like she was overusing the gateman, and it didn’t sit right with me.
Later, I called her aside and told her what she did was wrong but she said she didn’t know it was wrong and didn’t see the issue. I asked her what she meant by “it’s not wrong,” and she just repeated that she didn’t know.
Now I’m confused. I don’t know if I’m overreacting, overstepping, or making too much of it.
Nairalanders, please tell me honestly — is this wrong, or am I out of line here?
Thank you. Some people when they get to a position of advantage over other people, they treat them like children of a lesser god. I’d not be surprised, if I heard that she grew up in a very humble home. She claims to not have known what she did was wrong. She should be asked to take the watchman’s shoes off his feet & clean/polish them. Thereafter, she can give a report. I hate cruelty. How much more would she put a domestic staff through? You should install hidden cameras to monitor her behavior in your absence. Her behavior is a telltale sign of her poor character. Disrespect closes doors that even an apology may never open. That person could be her helper tomorrow. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: God Opened My Eyes And I Saw Huge Cobwebs All Over My apartment by Beey(f): 12:41pm On May 16 |
Beautifulday:
Fire is very significant in the prayer of an African man Really? Teach me these things. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: God Opened My Eyes And I Saw Huge Cobwebs All Over My apartment by Beey(f): 5:43am On May 16 |
; Beautifulday:
Lol! You wan scatter this thread abi   Can a person not ask a question without being suspected of wanting to start trouble? 😂🤣 Am very curious though, cause Africans be doing the most ,when it comes to spiritual matters. Today they are burning candle, tomorrow we’ll hear that they are burning sage. 😂. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: God Opened My Eyes And I Saw Huge Cobwebs All Over My apartment by Beey(f): 6:40pm On May 14 |
GodCovenant:
God opened my eyes this morning, and I saw huge cobwebs all over my house.
I had a dream where my long-time enemy came to my house, and he said if I were aware that he was attacking me. I said, "Of course," or he thinks I don't know all this while.
Somehow I woke up and started praying. I then light my prayer candle. I have a lot of Christian songs, but in that moment I was looking for a mixed foreign Christian song that is soothing like blues.
I find one. Which lasted for 2 hours 30 minutes. After praying I use it to sleep as it was playing from my phone while my prayer candle was on.
I woke up this morning as I closed my eyes just lying down; I saw huge cobwebs all over my apartment with big, big spiders. The type you can't move around without them touching you.
But they are not visible to ordinary eyes.
I am just thinking how to remove them since they are not a physical thing. Pardon my ignorance. What’s a prayer candle? |
| Literature › Re: Short Story: The Selfish Neighbor by Beey(f): 2:53am On May 14 |
tonystark007:
Most Nigerians... Infact most humans develop some kind of entitlement habits after a while of getting constant help. It's a normal psychological design problem. Imagine always giving, let's say a young kid, 500 naira every day for school. You would notice soon it becomes a regular for them, and they might even wait for you at some point. The moment you drop down to 200 or 100 or nothing at all... I will stop here 😂 I believe upbringing also matters.There's Somebody that I’ve supported so much & is not family. I realized over time ,I’ve given him free cash totaling around $500. He asked for financial support before employment cause he used to work in cooperate, but resigned for ministry. Being that it’s a mainstream church, he had to undergo vigorous training & testing before ordination. He got ordained & was posted near my grandma’s village. Actually 30 minutes drive and passes close to her home, on his way to the local town. He became friends with my aunt & has also visited grandma’s home in the past for an occasion I was hosting . 3 weeks ago, we lost an uncle. There was a pending hospital bill in addition to funeral costs. I requested for support from my so called friend. He said he’d call my cousin to offer a message of condolence & send some money. Guess what? Two other friends supported & my cousin updated the contributions list. Dude gave nothing and never visited my family, despite being a reverend of the same church denomination. Matter of fact, he’s friends with their local Reverend. He never asked how the funeral went or how we are coping emotionally. I was so upset, but decided to say nothing and acted normal. Am wiser now. Everyone gets their turn to face some difficulties. If he has a brain, he’ll never ask me for support. A mutual friend told me that the same guy called her to borrow some money from her. Since that time, he pretended to have forgotten and has never refunded the loan. People are super selfish. They don’t care when it’s not them in trouble. 1 Like |
| Education › Re: Is it Possible Running first degree And M.sc In Same School? by Beey(f): 1:25am On May 13 |
bigsam75:
Please is it possible to do M.Sc with your previous B.Sc while running another first degree in same school as full time Nigeria? Do you mean a double major? |
| Literature › Re: Short Story: The Selfish Neighbor by Beey(f): 1:08am On May 13 |
tonystark007:
We had a small get-together in our compound one evening. That was actually the first time I properly spoke to one of my neighbors. Funny enough, after a few drinks, we discovered his office is just a few buildings away from mine.
Meanwhile, I had been living in that compound for over a year and we had never vibed like that. Lagos can be like that, everybody just minding their business.
Later that night, after everything had ended and people had gone back inside, I heard a knock on my door. I opened it and saw him standing there with a friendly smile. He said he’d like to follow me to work the next day since we were heading the same direction.
I said sure, no problem
The next morning, I came out and saw four people standing there. Him… and three others. Two guys and one lady.
He quickly explained that they were his colleagues and begged me to help carry them too
The lady alone looked like two people combined. Well, I just nodded and smiled. What else could I do? I told them to enter.
That evening, when I closed from work and drove out of the office gate, I saw the same four of them standing there, waving at me and smiling like we were friends
I just stopped and picked them again.
The next morning, I came out of my house and saw the four of them again
Ahh!
Do you people sleep here?
They laughed and said they came early so they won’t miss me.
I looked at my neighbor. He avoided my eyes at first, then gave me one small sheepish smile
I carried them again
For one month I carried this people every morning and evening
Then one day, my car shock absorber got bad. The car started giving me issues, so I parked it and took it to the mechanic.
That evening, my neighbor saw me outside and asked about the car. I told him what happened. He just shook his head and said, “Ah, car wahala.”
I said, “Yes o,” and went inside.
The next morning, I came out and stood by the road waiting for a bike to take me to the bus stop. As I was there, I saw my neighbor enter a car. It was an Uber.
He saw me. He waved.
I waved back.
And that was it.
He didn’t ask me if I wanted to join him or let’s go together, he just sat down at the back like a big man and they drove off
For the entire week my car was at the mechanic, I didn’t see those his colleagues. Not once.
The day my car finally came back, he saw me driving in and came to greet me like nothing happened. “Ah, it’s fixed now? Thank God o!” He even congratulated me.
The next morning, I came out… and there they were. The four of them, standing beside my car… Complete squad!
They greeted me, “Good morning, boss!”
Boss ke?
I smiled calmly, opened my car door, entered, and locked it.
They came and pulled the handle.
Nothing.
My neighbor knocked on the window. I wound it down small, just enough to hear him
He said, “We’re ready.”
I said, “SET”
He laughed, thinking I was joking.
I shouted, “GO!!!”
Then I started the engine and drove off.
The confusion on his face… beautiful.
In my side mirror, I saw all four of them standing there, looking like village witches and wizard WhatsApp group
Was I wrong? Do you think they deserved it?
The End
Ajebo Writer
©️Kingdavid Chinaeke Ofunne People are interesting. So within the one month period when you carried them, they never offered to fuel your car? I know that kind too well, have had my fair share with them. That guy has no shame. You ask for a ride and then bring a whole clan. Smh. 1 Like |
| Culture › Re: Eating At Funerals Is Wrong by Beey(f): 12:59am On May 13 |
dermmy:
All these celebration of life whatever na nonsense. A funeral should be a place of solemnity a place where people should think about the vanity of life and the essence of living life with purpose and doing good deeds. It doesn't matter how old the deceased is even if he is 500 years it does not call for merriment. This is why I love the Muslims they don't have time for all these nonsense. We should celebrate people when they are alive. After death, they don’t see all the show & glamour all done in the name of celebration. |
| Culture › Re: Eating At Funerals Is Wrong by Beey(f): 12:57am On May 13 |
DanOkonkwo:
This is my opinion regarding this matter,going to eat at funerals is not appropriate. A place of funeral is not a place of celebration or feasting but a place of solemnity but unfortunately some persons or most cultures has made it a must that food of assorted kinds must be prepared and people MUST eat.
I think that this part of our culture must be looked into, because I cannot imagine a family that is struggling to make ends meet still mandated to go through hell to provide a big burial where food must be cooked and served, just to bury a loved one.
There are even some that even go about in the community looking for funerals ceremony just to find where to eat and even go with extra.
Well if a man has the money to spend lavishly or call the community to feast in a burial, it's up to him but this should not be a rule.
What do you think? Am a Kenyan from the central region of the country. Other tribes in Kenya have their own cultural practices which include eating and overnight home stay for the deceased. When people from my tribe attend funerals in that region, they are usually hit by culture shock. In my tribe, those coming to mourn with you actually bring food and drinks to ease the family’s burden. We usually pick the body of the deceased from the morgue on the day of burial. We don’t do overnight stay. We do cook on the day of the funeral, but it’s a communal affair. People raise funds to offset the funeral expenses, with meals included in that budget. It’s not usually anything extravagant except the family is wealthy and capable of adding extras. Imagine young children & mother left behind by their breadwinner. Instead of supporting them financially, people will be going to eat the little that’s left. Very inconsiderate. |
| Health › Re: Why Are We Getting New Viruses Every 6 Years? by Beey(f): 12:44am On May 11 |
richmond500:
2014 was Ebola virus
2020 was covid19
2026 is hantavirus
What are we to expect in 2032? Hantavirus is not new. It’s been around and is associated with rodents. It killed the wife of the late actor Gene Hackman. |
| Business › Re: 80 Companies Linked To Herbert Wigwe Across 20 Countries by Beey(f): 12:42pm On May 09 |
His greedy father and siblings want to divide this wealth among themselves. Richie is old enough and has younger siblings. Who would better teach her business than her late dad’s friend who co-founded the company with him?
That family is upset with Aig because he didn’t let them manipulate Tochi. Despite the dad being provided for, he wants his son’s wealth. |
| Celebrities › Re: Sisi Alagbo Mistakenly Leaked Our Sex Tape - Husband, Akeem Adesola by Beey(f): 6:39pm On May 03 |
WatchYourSix:
Maybe they have amnesia….
If they dont video themselves, they won’t have any record to help them remember they fvcked….
Awon werey!!
..P0nography-corrupted minds People like to gamble with their lives. They forget that in this day, digital footprint is never erased. Incase of things not working out between the two parties, that’s when they start leaking videos to embarrass each other. Human beings can never be too trusted. People change. We are living in very interesting times. What used to be private is now public. Moral decadence. |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: The US Criticizes Zambia For Refusing Their $1Bn Deal by Beey(f): 6:34pm On May 03 |
They 1st offered that money to Kenya in the name of medical insurance, but our leaders turned down the offer citing data privacy issues. Uganda was next, but they too turned it down. What’s the catch behind this wooing of African countries with dollars in exchange for patient data? Something is not right. |
| Celebrities › Re: Sisi Alagbo Mistakenly Leaked Our Sex Tape - Husband, Akeem Adesola by Beey(f): 6:09pm On May 03 |
I’ve never understood the intention behind people recording videos of their intimate moments. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: RCCG Won’t Remove Oluremi Tinubu As Ordained Minister — Pastor Adeboye by Beey(f): 2:41am On May 03 |
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| Celebrities › Re: Ayo Kuti: I Lost My Virginity At 16 To Beat My Dad’s Record Of Losing His At 17 by Beey(f): 4:59pm On Apr 29 |
nlfpmod:
https://www.instagram.com/p/DXr5QxijGx1/?igsh=dW5zbWdobG95c2Rh
What kind of conversations do some of these parents have with their kids? They no longer have boundaries. I cringe at the thought of sitting down to discuss some issues with my child. It’s sad that this kids thinks that his escapades are something worth sharing with the world. Smh |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: Benjamin Netanyahu Diagnosed With Prostate Cancer by Beey(f): 5:33am On Apr 28 |
Ayatullah:
Whether announced last year or 10 years ago, (and common sense should tell you the timeline is recently since he told you he delayed announcement due to the ongoind Iran war).
Every celebrants of evil ones like you will not wish Netanyahu any ill. I proudly and justifiably wish him a long suffering before transforming to eternal blaze.
I know what I heard last year. It might not have come from him, but they did let people know about his diagnosis. Woe unto you that call evil good. Netanyahu been giving terrorist & their sympathizers sleepless nights. Matter of fact, he sent so many to Jehanam back to back, that I actually think they couldn’t each get 7 virgins. The number each was to get must have gone down, due to high demand and low supply. A religion that revolves around s3x is unbelievable. It encourages child mariages & then promises men 7 virgins🤦🏽♀️. Women are objects of pleasure there & nothing more. |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: Benjamin Netanyahu Diagnosed With Prostate Cancer by Beey(f): 12:05am On Apr 25 |
Ayatullah:
Benjamin Netanyahu deserves what he's diagnosed of.......DIE NETANYAHU DIE! Why are you acting like it’s breaking news? This was announced some time last year. Besides, you too will die. No one is leaving this world alive. |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: Benjamin Netanyahu Diagnosed With Prostate Cancer by Beey(f): 12:03am On Apr 25 |
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| Crime › Re: Nigerian Arrested In Kenya With Heroin Worth Over ₦300 Million In Mombasa Raid by Beey(f): 11:26pm On Apr 16 |
BATified2023:
funny enough if Kenya ban us now, na Dem go first blame tinubu n insult am whereas they are the ones doing the damage They’ll also claim that we Kenyans are xenophobic. There are many Nigerians especially in Nairobi & some are into some shady dealings, not all of them. |
| Food › Re: How I Conquered And 'Pepper-Souped' A Big Cat In Our Compound (Pics) by Beey(f): 7:46am On Apr 14 |
omikel:
Good day Nairalander,
I will be brief with my story of how I conquered one of the cats that have been terrorizing us for years in our compound. If you like, call it ANIMAL CRUELTY, but if you read to the end, you will know what I have endured for long.
On this beautiful but hot evening, I wanted to go have my shower at the tap outside with the hope to cool my body temperature.
I felt something moved fast towards one edge of the boys quarter, my instinct doesn't deceive me, IT IS ONE OF THOSE UNCULTURED CAT that used to make irritating noise while mating behind our fence. I wouldn't know if they usually come from different places to have their usual DO THE DO at our backyard. I took no offence for them doing that because nature can not be cheated. But the problem is the noise at the wee hour of the night when one is supposed to be deep in sleep.
They will make different kind of Moaning like human and at times cry like a toddler whose biscuit was snatched by his elderly one, I don't know if anyone has had the kind of experience I am trying to narrate here.
But one of them ran into the hands of an angry man who the current situation on ground has made more angrier, like the yoruba will say "Ajá tó yó, kìí bá aiyo seré"
Na so I retreived back to my room to pick up my self defense tool any day (a matchet).
I tip-toed back and lay still in the dark with my touch light on the left hand and my thumb on its switch.
Cats are very sensitive and can see in the dark like tomorrow no dey, but na luck help me kill am this day "Oluwa lo funmi pa* 😁😁😁
Immediately I felt some movement again, my thumb was the first action taker on the switch of my Torchlight, gboa! Light everywhere, the cat's eye self is another version of Torchlight on me. But I summoned courage, it is either you die today or you escape and never come back to this vicinity.
We entered battle, I pursued the 'were' to one end where where it believe is an hiding place but there is no escape route except through where I was standing with my Torchlight beaming at it and it was gazing at me also. Who will make the first move?
I tricked it into believing I am tired, within a twinkle of an eye, I blinked the light by tapping the switch pim pim the mad cat want to run out of its enclave na so I matchetted it like a criminal who is about to steal phone through the window.
But to be sincere, the thing get power, with that one hit, I thought it will be dead, rather it make one hunch back style of defense, and began to make some buzz sound with its mouth and all its claws were sharply released out, na so I woos am the second time before it succumb to weakness and finally third hit made it surrender to alumuntu. WTF! You ate a 🐈? Bro you no well. How? It’s beyond me. That’s why I’d turn vegetarian if I stepped foot into Nigeria, not unless the animal is slaughtered in my presence. 😂.I love Naija people, you rock and are fun to hang around and also you Nigerians make good friends. However, I’ve seen too much on this site, to just eat any meat offered to me. What do you mean you ate a cat? Good grief!! Indeed old age is not a prerequisite for one to see wonders. 😳 |
| Business › Re: Dangote Sugar Warns Staff On Chewing Of Company Sugarcane by Beey(f): 10:34pm On Apr 09 |
saintopus:
Imagine the yeye memo! How much sugar cane can a staff chew? If they are avoiding the dirtiness of the environment from chewing the sugar cane that will be OK. It’s yeye to you because you are not a business owner. When you finally have a business, let the consumers be taking the products free of charge, after all you’ll buy more. SMH. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a bottle of water. If the owner didn’t give it, the taker is a thief. Period! |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: How US Fooled Iran To Rescue Missing Airman Stranded In Mountain Crevice by Beey(f): 2:23am On Apr 06 |
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| Foreign Affairs › Re: Meet Hamideh Soleimani Afsha Who Will Be Deported By The US by Beey(f): 2:20am On Apr 06 |
madridguy:
The family of late general Soleimani have said this lady is not their family and they have no connection except for sharing the same nationality.
Meanwhile, I see nothing bad from the US decision but trying to link her with the late army general sound immature. It’s not just about linking her, it’s the hatred towards the US that she was posting online. She should go home to her beloved Iran & leave the country she hates so much. |
